My boyfriend's 7 year old daughter still sleeps in his bed
Q. I am 30 years old, living with my 38 year old boyfriend and his 7 year old daughter. She still sleeps in his bed sometimes, and for this reason I have to sleep in my own bed, in my own room, while living with my boyfriend. I feel like he is not ...
A. 22 June 2009: Well my brother still wants to sleep in my mums bed now and hes ten! If you let the child do it from a young age they latch on and decide they want to do it right up until its embarrassing and theyre growing up. I think the important thing is to sit ... (read in full...)
If a guy calls a girl "babe", is it meant in a derogotary way?
Q. If a guy calls a girl "babe", is it meant in a derogatory way? I ask this becuase the following quote is found from the following website: http://organizations.rockbridge.net/projecthorizon/signsofabuser.htm "18. Disrespect for Women in G...
A. 22 June 2009: Doubtful. Babe is derogatory to many women, including me, and it disgusts alot of people. But most people use babe or chick simply as a pet name, just to be nice. ... (read in full...)
What does it feel like to love a man?
Q. im a closet lesbian, nobody knows im gay... im just wondering, how does it feel like to love a MAN? it's kinda sad that i can't appreciate them. even though i have had a few guys who went crazy over me and did a lot of really sweet stuff.. but im ...
A. 22 June 2009: Ive had one girlfriend and a few experiences with girls and many boyfriends and i have to honestly say i agree with the other two, it is exactly the same. Its serious on the same level, the only thing that is different is the sex and you stil get ... (read in full...)
Intimidated by g/f's ex
Q. i am having a realtionship with my gf for over a year ..the problem is i often feel outweigh by her-ex becoz he was like the popular,gudlooking,rich,... jerk type and im just a 'normal' guy..she is a nice girl and loves me but i cant get over the...
A. 21 June 2009: Dont compare yourself to him. Shes with you now and not him for simple reasons, shes in love with you and wants to be with you and doesnt feel that way about you. Easy. So stop fretting it and be happy you got her. She obviously was with him because ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend, friends, drugs..I can't beat them but I won't join them either!
Q. A few years ago I used to be really into my drugs, well about as much as any other young person in the uk, my friends were too. However, as we finished uni it got more and more excessive, generally with ecstasy pills, cocaine, weed and binge ...
A. 21 June 2009: Drugs are a no win situation. Unless the people themselves want to stop it, noone can help them and generally it takes an addict to hit rock bottom to realise their ways. So what i'd do if i was you is get outta there. Why do you want a boyfriend ... (read in full...)
Should I get my husband's permission to apologize to my ex?
Q. I have a condition called delayed PTSD. I started showing symptoms of it with one of my ex's when we were dating.( I think that's when it started, not sure, maybe earlier before we were dating.) Now that I am married and have been for 11 months, I ...
A. 21 June 2009: I definitely think you should apologise to your ex! Talk to your husband about the situation but you dont need his permission to do it! It will clear your head alot and also allow your ex to understand what went wrong!... (read in full...)
She's 12 and I have feelings for her
Q. ok so, i went to my friends birthday party yesterday and his sister had a couple of friends round ... there was this girl who just seemed to make something click in my brain and she was pretty funny for her age ... but the only problem (or is it a ...
A. 21 June 2009: The age difference isnt terrible but its the fact youre legal and she isn't, plus the fact shes still a baby and your maturing into an adult. It is wrong on so many levels, id advice that you wait until shes older and able to make decisions alone ... (read in full...)
Why is it yellow?
Q. hai,how r u ? my sperm colour is looking a little yellow shad!(not looking pure white) y its like that and, is it problem for my marriage life?i am bothering about it, please answer me?...
A. 21 June 2009: This can be a sign of chlymidia and many other infections. Id advice you to go see your GP or go to your local family planning clinic and get tested for STD's.... (read in full...)
I feel like she doesn't love me and I can't trust her!
Q. I have a jelousy problem with my GF, she apparently lost her virginity with some asshole in another town, but she isnt sure, she said she was drunk and she didnt feel like she did when she woke up. Now i feel protective of her, when ever she talks ...
A. 21 June 2009: If you cant trust her where the hell do you think this relationship is gonna go? A relationship is based on trust. You either need to get the hell over yourself and realise that she was drunk, didnt know where she was at and isnt even sure if it ... (read in full...)
How can I make a player change?
Q. I met a guy off the enternet,i know he is a player! i have really fallen for this guy. Everone tells me you cant change a player, i want to know how and if he could everchange? What can i do to not be a player anymore andonly want me? Thanks...
A. 21 June 2009: The truth is you cant change a player, because as the saying goes- a leopard never changes its spots. Its a losing game and one that i tried for too long with one guy and in the end it just made me bitter, depressed and heartbroken. If its in a mans ... (read in full...)
Could I really still be pregnant?
Q. Okay Im desparate Ive searched all over the net and I can not find the reason to having the dreams that I Have I keep dreaming about breastfeeding a baby girl and the thing is I missed 2 periods and thought I was pregnant until I started to bleed a ...
A. 19 June 2009: Yes there is still a chance but if it was like a normal period then it may just be that worry made it be late, or like i said there could be another medical reason for it. Get a blood test done.... (read in full...)
One night of sex, now I'm pregnant and he doesn't respond
Q. My bestfriend and I have been friends for years, since we were babies. Our families know each other really well. On the night my bestfriend was leaving to move to the other side of the country I told him I loved him and had done for many years. ...
A. 19 June 2009: Had you been drinking before this all happened by any chance?
Maybe he was just weirded out by what happened and woke up really confused and didnt know how to handle the situation and so he ran outta there being a coward as alot of men are. If ... (read in full...)
New boyfriend still in touch with his ex
Q. Hi, I met this lovely guy about 2 months ago...things were going really well, he was very attentive, always wanting to see me, call me etc. I noticed a few weeks ago that things quietened down a little and he didnt call so much but we have both been ...
A. 19 June 2009: I dont care how long they were together, he should be taking you to meet his parents not taking along his ex! I'd be so pissed off if i was you. Yeah ask him what the hells going on and why hes still seeing her all the time. You have a right to ... (read in full...)
We have constantly had unprotected sex, could I be pregnant?
Q. me and my boyfriend we been dating for awhile and we hardly use protection. we been having unprotected sex for 3 months but he neva cum inside me and we both know that we clear of STDs. i had my last period 28th may and its been atleast 3weeks and ...
A. 19 June 2009: Obviously you could be pregnant. You need to test.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend mentions other girls he finds sexy, should I be concerned?
Q. Hey guys, me and my boyfriend have what i believe to be a good relationship of over a year and a half. Exept for one thing.... Well, we were talking, and i cant really remember how it came about but he told me he thinks Gemma Atkinson is 'fit as ...
A. 19 June 2009: Dont worry, my boyfriend is exactly the same. Its disgusting and horrible, and made me feel down too. But the thing is, hes with you for a reason. He probably could have this K if he wanted or any other busty blonde but he doesnt, because he wants ... (read in full...)
I don't know what is going on with my body
Q. please reply asap, i dont no whats going on with my body im on the pill and i messed it up big time last month anyway i had my period like normal not to heavy not to light and normal 5 day length, i started my next packet of pills like normal, my ...
A. 19 June 2009: You need to discuss this with your GP, only he/she can help you. ... (read in full...)
Could I really still be pregnant?
Q. Okay Im desparate Ive searched all over the net and I can not find the reason to having the dreams that I Have I keep dreaming about breastfeeding a baby girl and the thing is I missed 2 periods and thought I was pregnant until I started to bleed a ...
A. 19 June 2009: You wanna know the way to find out? Its pretty simple really- take a test. If you cant afford one, go to your doctors or family planning clinic where they'll do a free one, you'll never know unless you test. If your not there could be some other ... (read in full...)
Ever since we moved in with a friend, he doesn't seem to want to be around me
Q. Dear Cupid I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now. When we lived together by ourselves it was amazing. He made me feel like i was the most important thing in the world to him. He told me goodbye everymorning and kissed me on my forehead, ...
A. 19 June 2009: Guys are jerks like that, they seem to change around friends. I dont know what it is, its just their way of acting "cool". Thats a generalisation, im not saying all guys are like that. You need to talk to him about how your feeling, tell him you ... (read in full...)
I told him to take some time to reflect and mend. Was it the right thing to do?
Q. Ive been seeing a man for 4 months after he asked me out and we truly get on amazing. He has lots of issues with his ex (they split a year ago) and he has had a rough time since it ended as they have young children together. He admits his head is ...
A. 19 June 2009: Of course you have done the right thing, its much better he sorts his head out and adjusts to whats gone on than just jumping into another relationship with someone else while still messed up. It isnt fair on you! And yes, youre right not to contact ... (read in full...)
Is this a light period? Or could it be pregnancy?
Q. Hi all, i'm new on here and would be grateful if you could give me advice or anyone who have experienced similar problems. I'm 21 in a relationship and have been ttc for nearly 1 year now! My last period was 15.05.09 with a cycle of 28 days...
A. 19 June 2009: That does sond like pregnancy but the only way of really knowing is getting a test!... (read in full...)
Ex wants back in, but I have feelings for my girlfriend I can't ignore
Q. I had a relationship with my Ex for a total of four years, two of which we lived together after having a baby. We broke up rather angrily/violently and she even filed for child support which I now pay monthly. I tried to get us back together earlier ...
A. 19 June 2009: Your ex is an ex for a reason, because the relationship didnt work out and its never worth going back later and trying to rekindle a romance like that, it just doesnt work. People grow out of each other, and you two did too. You have a girlfriend ... (read in full...)
Do I choose the one I love or my friends?
Q. Ok sooo I am now 17 and im with a boy who's 18. I really do Belive I'm really seriously in love with this guy we've known each other for two years and we just got together. Lately he's been bringing up marriage and sex. He told me that he's going to ...
A. 19 June 2009: What sort of friends try to force you into making a decision like that? Are they single virgins by any chance? Cos chances are if so, theyre just jealous that theyre not getting in on the action and theyre trying to manipulate you into dumping him ... (read in full...)
Should I do another test?
Q. soooo Ive missed my period and is prob about 5 weeks pregnant,and took a pregnacy test but its was a cheap one around about £3. It came out negative,but to make it postivie,there had to be a line in the cirle and a line the the square,but I got a li...
A. 19 June 2009: Yeah i'd wait another week and take one. Clearblue are the best ones and the most accurate but they dont come too cheap. You could even go to your GP or family planning clinic and get tested for free if your worrying about the money! I hope you get ... (read in full...)
Obsessed with 14 year old girl
Q. Dear Cupid, how would you describe this? 20 year old literally thinks about girl 24/7 heart starts to pound very fast when girl signs in online/offline looks at picture of girl (that she sent) for minutes on end constantly goes back to me...
A. 19 June 2009: Sounds like infatuation to me. Love generally is something that blooms from spending a lot of time with someone, intimately and just generally, and falling for them day by day...
Infatuation and obsession are when theres no real chance of bein... (read in full...)
Why don't men get it?
Q. Why dont men understand? If men were the ones who had the babies and their bodies stretched and scarred how would they feel if their women were masturbating over buffed men 20 years younger than them...? I still don't get how men seem to think ...
A. 19 June 2009: Well personally speaking i see nothing wrong with porn and actually would join in watching it if my boyfriend wanted to, which he doesnt really. The only thing that annoys me is the fact that taken men always feel the right to eye up other women and ... (read in full...)
What does my lover mean by these words?
Q. I would like some help please, I am having an affair with a married man and have been for many years. So please no "you shouldn't be doing this" comments thanks. We have a strange relationship and neither of us can say goodbye to it but it has me w...
A. 19 June 2009: ilovebowsandcherries is completely right! This guy wants you all for himself. He believes its perfectly alright for him as a man to have two women but you as a woman shouldnt have anyone else, basically he is a sexist pig.
I'm not judging ... (read in full...)
The guy I have a crush on...
Q. I don't know whether the guy is noticing me or he is just turning a blind eye. Here is my story: we attend the same classes by the way we are third year students at the noth west university Mafikeng cumpas, whenever I see this guy I can't ...
A. 19 June 2009: Well its perfectly normal to have crushes, we all have them at some point or another. The important thing to remember is that time generally takes them away. I know that personally the minute i got a real relationship with someone i forgot all about ... (read in full...)
Acne on back & shoulders? Is there something I can take?
Q. I have alot of small red spots and bumps on my upper back and shoulders, i dont know what it is but they wont go away. they have been there for atleast a few years and i take showers regularly but they still stay, is it back acne? are there any ov...
A. 18 June 2009: I suffered from this when i was younger. The doctors gave me a lotion that didnt help it at all. I know its not healthy for your skin with the risk of skin cancer and ageing early etc. But if you only use one twice a week, sunbeds really help. It ... (read in full...)
My wife's dad died she's so upset..I want to help her but I'm not sure how to!
Q. Hey everyone! Ok i'd like a little advice because i feel so bad not knowing what to do or say. 2 Weeks ago my wifes dad died. The funerals was last week etc and after that she seemed to be alright. Well not alright but she was coping.. I think i ...
A. 18 June 2009: My best friends Dad died when i was thirteen and i didn't know how to handle it either. The important thing is to just let her know youre there for her and listen to her, she wont want talking at right now. Just give her a shoulder to cry on and ... (read in full...)
He wants a break but he won't say for how long...Should I stay?
Q. well to start off me and my boyfriend of 1 year split up recently. It was his choice really and he got really mad at me. this week he's been acting very strange telling me he still loves me and he only wants a break. But i still love him and i dont ...
A. 17 June 2009: No no no. Sometimes a break is needed to get your heads together and rebuild the chemistry inside you so that when you see each other again you rekindle the romance and the love. Its important to take breaks from each other every now and then, even ... (read in full...)
He said choose me or your best friend! I can't bare losing either of them
Q. hi. ive just turned 16 last week and ive been giong out with my boyfriend for over 6 months now i love him so much. he means so much to me but now hes been arguing with my best friend and he says he wants nothing more to do with her and he said ...
A. 17 June 2009: No man should ever put you in that sort of situation. Your best friend is someone whose always been there for you and always will be there for you, your boyfriend can dump you or hurt you at any time. So which do you prefer? You shouldnt have to ... (read in full...)
I feel like I have to put on a fake smile. I just don't fit in!
Q. I feel like i'm drowning. I wake up in the morning and don't want to get out of bed, i don't want to face everything. The minute i leave the privacy of my room i put a smile on my face and act happy all day, and it's a lie. I don't know what to do. ...
A. 17 June 2009: I know it sounds like an obvious thing to say but you shouldnt ever try to be something your not, or try to fit in. I tried to fit in for three years of my school life and it got me nowhere and i was just absolutely miserable so i decided to just ... (read in full...)
Is staying together for the kids going to hurt them in the long run?
Q. I have an issue with my husband, we don't really get along too well and it seems like we fight constantly. We got together very young. At 16 we are now both 24 and have two kids together. The fighting never stops we cant even have a conversation ...
A. 17 June 2009: Well as i said, if there is love still there then work at it. Maybe go see a counciller or try getting a babysitter in at least once every other week and spend quality time with each other. ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of him repeating the same mistake again?
Q. What are the chances of him repeating the same mistake again? If a guy ever cheated on his girlfriend. Then he broke up. Then has another new girlfriend. What are the chances of him repeating the same mistake again? People always says, sec...
A. 17 June 2009: Well they say a leopard never changes its spots and once a cheater always a cheater. I dont know where i stand on that. I guess it depends on the circumstances. Sometimes people mess up and get too drunk and totally lose themselves then really ... (read in full...)
Problems with orgasms!
Q. Me and my partner have been together for some time now, and as far as the relationship as a whole goes we are great, he is an amazing man, and after all this time i still stand by that, however, we do have little problems in the bed room..... there ...
A. 17 June 2009: I wish i could be of specific help but theres a chinese lotion my boyfriend uses sometimes (which i persoanlly detest) and it prevents him from ejaculating for quite a while. I know it has gallbladder in the ingrediants and its sold in high street ... (read in full...)
We've tried everything we can think of, but I just can't get pregnant!
Q. hi guys , i have been married for 2 years and trying to concieve for 1 year and half but no luck . we have tried different positions . but i want to know whats the best position for getting pregnant ? and can i still get pregnant if i'm on top or...
A. 17 June 2009: You can get pregnant in any position but you being on top makes it more difficult because the sperm has to swim up instead of across if that makes sense. They say the boring missionary is the easiest way to do it. And by doggie do you mean anal? Cos ... (read in full...)
My boy refuses to talk to me
Q. So in December, my baby and i stopped talking because he refused to see me the first week i came back home from school and it had been 3 months since the last time i had seen him. He was busy with his brother who also came from London to spend ...
A. 17 June 2009: He obviously doesnt want to talk to you because he no longer has any feelings for you and so he's tried to cut you out of his life, hes done it the coward way. If you really must know then confront him about it. ... (read in full...)
Help!!! Torn between two...
Q. So...here's the thing. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. The first 2 years were amazing, but after that, things started to dwindle. I feel as if I am falling out of love with him. I mean, I love him, and that will never change, but ther...
A. 17 June 2009: You obviously dont love your boyfriend anymore to be attracted to other people, not be attracted to him and feel no spark. So i say leave him. Leave him before his heart gets even more broken, or worse he proposes to you and you accept knowing full ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to fall for your step cousin?
Q. Is it wrong to fall for a step-cousin? There is absolutley no blood relation. Feelings are intensely growing on both sides. He doesn't see me as family at all. We grew up being taught that we were family, but he doesn't honor the concept. As for ...
A. 17 June 2009: Theres nothing legally wrong with it no but how will your family react to such news? You two may not regard yourself as family, and biologically your not but that doesnt mean the rest of your family dont/ If you really love each other then i say ... (read in full...)
What should I do about all of this? Wise opinions needed!
Q. Hi I have quite a hard question to ask. I have fallen in love for the first time and it is the greatest feeling i've ever felt in my life. I'm sure a lot of you have been there before when you don't even notice anyone else it's quite funny ...
A. 17 June 2009: Look, shes clearly very confused too. Liking two guys is definitely not easy, and loving two guys is even harder. She must love her boyfriend more to have chosen to remain with him but still has some feeling there for you hence why she gets jealous ... (read in full...)
How can I get that cheerful girl back?
Q. please bear with me and read this people.. i need as many opinions as possible.... i dumped my gf cuz i didnt love her... i deeply care for her though... she has become devastated... lost faith in relationships and has become extremely low esteemed ...
A. 17 June 2009: I know that its not gonna be what you wanna do but the only way you can help her is by leaving her life for good. Its no good leaving her clinging on to a bit of hope that you could one day get back together when you really dont want her. It wont ... (read in full...)
Is staying together for the kids going to hurt them in the long run?
Q. I have an issue with my husband, we don't really get along too well and it seems like we fight constantly. We got together very young. At 16 we are now both 24 and have two kids together. The fighting never stops we cant even have a conversation ...
A. 17 June 2009: Dont do it. My mum did it with my stepdad for too long, their love died out after a few years and she just stayed with him for the money, they were constantly arguing and his anger was always taken out on me. Not nice. You dont want your kids to ... (read in full...)
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