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writes:hi. ive just turned 16 last week and ive been giong out with my boyfriend for over 6 months now i love him so much. he means so much to me but now hes been arguing with my best friend and he says he wants nothing more to do with her and he said that i have to choose between him or my best friend. the thing is i cant bear the thought of losing either one of them . i need help. please
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2009): I think it depends as some friends are bad ina relationship....myself and my girlfriend had to make a disicion weither or not we should stay together cause all this freind was doin was making us argue and making lies up about our relationship....my gf decided to ditch tha friend and not bother with him anymore and i must say our relationship is lookin very good now.....so i think there are 2 sides to each person.....you have to make a dicision weither its better for your relationship not just you!
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reader, betty_black +, writes (17 June 2009):
 No man should ever put you in that sort of situation. Your best friend is someone whose always been there for you and always will be there for you, your boyfriend can dump you or hurt you at any time. So which do you prefer? You shouldnt have to choose anyway, and noone should make you do that. Just tell him your not doing anything like that, tell him to put himself in your position.
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reader, laura585  +, writes (17 June 2009):
If he loved you the way a real man is supposed to love you, he wouldnt make you make that kind of choice. Choose the best friend. Let him go, it will be hard, but you will find someone one day who loves you enough to care about your feelings. This guy obviously doesnt care about how you feel at all. If he did he would want you to keep your friends and he would just do his best to ignore her or not let her bother him when she's around.
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reader, laur2000 +, writes (17 June 2009):
You need to explain to your bf that even if he doesnt like your friend he's putting you in a horrible position, he's got to see it from your perspective; its not fair to make you choose. Tell him that you care deeply about both of them and dont want to lose either of them. Ask him to please make an effort with your friend and in turn ask your friend to make an effort with your bf. If they both care about you then they should be willing to make the effort.Good luck i hope this helps xxx
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