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writes:ok so, i went to my friends birthday party yesterday and his sister had a couple of friends round ... there was this girl who just seemed to make something click in my brain and she was pretty funny for her age ... but the only problem (or is it a problem) is that she is 12 (year 8) and im 16 (year 12) (she doesnt go to my school though) ........ i need some opinions on this because i can safely say i am confused .... help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunty Ashlee +, writes (22 June 2009):
16 and 12.
if anyone has said oh ur too old shes too young
these days a 12 year old can be 'mature' and u said it
you like her
but dont confuse her
if you honestly think she likes you then just like hang around with her
your 16 so dont try anything with her,
dont frighten her off
but if you dont see her as a little girl then why not become friends
and if you get negative feedback from her
it will probably mean shes not into boys; or not into you.
just be extra sensitive
but dont feel down if you like her,
hope it helps. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok, guys, thanks for the opinions, im gonna steer clear. once again thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009): O.k man, just think, have you ever thought about how this might effect your friend?, I mean for gods sake she's 12! and your 16, why dont you go out, meet with some people your own age, see if you like them, and if that dosent work out,then just tell your mate that you like his sister, but if he's protective of her then DONT! but rerly i think youshould try and forget about her sorry
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reader, callie.bubz +, writes (21 June 2009):
 Well lots of people are going to say its wrong and others are going to say its alright you need to be asking yourself that question would you be okay being with her?. And if so then it does't matter what other people think aslong as you dont push her into something she dosen't want to i think you know what i mean.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (21 June 2009):
 I would say dont go there on this one! she's still a child legally and u would have to wait years before you could even ask her how she feels... nope walk away.
Im sure there's plenty of girls your own age who'd date you.
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reader, betty_black +, writes (21 June 2009):
 The age difference isnt terrible but its the fact youre legal and she isn't, plus the fact shes still a baby and your maturing into an adult. It is wrong on so many levels, id advice that you wait until shes older and able to make decisions alone before you act. Shes young and easily impressionable, she would probably say yes if you asked her out, but because she knows no better and thinks it would make her cool and grown up. Please dont do it!
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reader, missleprechaun84  +, writes (21 June 2009):
Ok I think you'll get a lot of answers saying the same thing. Leave the 12 year old alone. Think about her again in another 6 years when she's 18. Until then anything you do could end you up behind bars for statutory. Ok she made your brain click, try finding someone your own age that does the same thing.
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reader, iSmil3y  +, writes (21 June 2009):
Well, to be honest, the age difference isn't really that bad, in my opinion. If you do like her, then find out if she likes you and if you really do like her and want to date her then all you really have to do, is get permission from hers and your parents to date her. That's pretty much the same age difference with my boyfriend and I, we're 2 years apart, almost 3 but he's almost 16 and my parents are cool with it. I just got their permission before I did anything. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009): She's a kid. Your in college. Leave her alone.
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reader, Your friend +, writes (21 June 2009):
 At your age hormones are popping all over the place and sometimes they focus on someone who should not be in the picture. Recognise this, move on and allow your antenna to find someone closer to your age group.
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reader, Emjo +, writes (21 June 2009):
 I wouldnt even think about going there, shes only young, she could easily get hurt... and unless you can swear you'll never hurt her then is it really wise?
Also in terms of commitment, she is obviously going to have much more time on her hands than you, i mean you have your A levels and whatever to do...
Also she will have much different intrests to you.. i mean think back to when you were 12 and think now, how have you changed?
It sounds like a crush and im sure you can get over it, maybe steer clear of her a bit if your scared of something developing, i mean your nearly an adult now and she is clearly still a child...
Also just to note the sexual connotations that follow a relationship, not only would it be illegal, shes only young and therefor will not have developed properly, it could be dangerous!
Take care,
Love Em x
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