Is staying together for the kids going to hurt them in the long run?
Q. I have an issue with my husband, we don't really get along too well and it seems like we fight constantly. We got together very young. At 16 we are now both 24 and have two kids together. The fighting never stops we cant even have a conversation ...
A. 17 June 2009: Well as i said, if there is love still there then work at it. Maybe go see a counciller or try getting a babysitter in at least once every other week and spend quality time with each other. ... (read in full...)
How can I get that cheerful girl back?
Q. please bear with me and read this people.. i need as many opinions as possible.... i dumped my gf cuz i didnt love her... i deeply care for her though... she has become devastated... lost faith in relationships and has become extremely low esteemed ...
A. 17 June 2009: I know that its not gonna be what you wanna do but the only way you can help her is by leaving her life for good. Its no good leaving her clinging on to a bit of hope that you could one day get back together when you really dont want her. It wont ... (read in full...)
Should I terminate this pregnancy?
Q. right so im pregnant and I want to keep it as i belive that we have been stupid enough to get ourselves into this mess no will we have to live with the consiquences, however my boyfriend says that were are too young (were 20)) that hes in army and ...
A. 17 June 2009: LazyGuy is right in some ways. Abortion is definitely not the easy way out. But having said that, you and your boyfriend already know that your relationship hasnt matured enough to take on the responsibility of a child yet and so you really need to ... (read in full...)
10 years on and after so many time of saying she will give me oral it just doesn't happen!
Q. I know this has been asked many times. I've been with my wife a little over 10 years, she has never even tryed to give me oral, never touches me. She says she will and wants to but still won't. She knows I like oral etc. I always do for her. What ...
A. 17 June 2009: no you are not over reacting. Sex is about give and take, she cant expect to recieve pleasure off you all the time and not give anything back, its not fair. If shes not listening to your needs you have to take action. Go on a sex strike or ... (read in full...)
Cure for panic attacks!
Q. I had an anxiety attack last week and didnt know what it was and so rang the emergency services. I was fine. It had been building up over a few days, my mouth had been getting tingly after sex and my heart kept speeding. I also kept feeling as ...
A. 17 June 2009: thanks so much for your help!! im a vegetaruan but i do eat pretty well, my boyfriend makes sure of it! I dont excercise as much as i should do, but have been lately, i find that when im excercising it puts off the feeling of breathlessness and ... (read in full...)
10 years on and after so many time of saying she will give me oral it just doesn't happen!
Q. I know this has been asked many times. I've been with my wife a little over 10 years, she has never even tryed to give me oral, never touches me. She says she will and wants to but still won't. She knows I like oral etc. I always do for her. What ...
A. 17 June 2009: Give her a taste of her own medicine, dont touch her clit or lick her out. Just shove it in and do missionary everytime, lets see how excited she gets then! Sex is about give and take, she cant just lay there like a dead fish and expect you to give ... (read in full...)
Is staying together for the kids going to hurt them in the long run?
Q. I have an issue with my husband, we don't really get along too well and it seems like we fight constantly. We got together very young. At 16 we are now both 24 and have two kids together. The fighting never stops we cant even have a conversation ...
A. 17 June 2009: Dont do it. My mum did it with my stepdad for too long, their love died out after a few years and she just stayed with him for the money, they were constantly arguing and his anger was always taken out on me. Not nice. You dont want your kids to ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do anymore! She broke up with my and together with someone else!
Q. What should i do..this is a long winded story cut short. Met this girl when i was 15, we had interests in eachother through out the years and always confessed it to eachother yet nothing happend..we went out with other people but they ended becuase ...
A. 17 June 2009: Maybe its an attraction thing and she finds this other guy more attractive than you AND he has the same personality that she looks for? ... (read in full...)
I broke up with him, he got with another person. What is he thinking?
Q. So, I dated a guy for four months last Spring/Summer. I ended up breaking up with him because I was afraid. I felt a lot of electricity at first and then it didn't seem like he was willing to budge on some things and I was being stuborn as well. ...
A. 17 June 2009: He clearly wanted you from the start and he wanted to be with you even when you finished him and started messing him around (not meeting him when you said you would etc) He wouldnt have carried on calling if he didnt still want you. He probably ... (read in full...)
4 years. Should I stay or call it quits?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 years now, all through highschool. we just recently graduated 2 nights ago and he still has yet to spend and ounce of time with me. all he wants to do is hang out with his friends, and go out and party. now ...
A. 17 June 2009: Loook love noone makes you insecure, the insecurities are there in everyone, people just worsen them. It doesnt sound like hes been a great help to yours over time. It sounds to me like your just staying with him for comfort and safety and like you ... (read in full...)
Should I try sex with a boy to see if I like it? Where to go from here?
Q. Hi i am in a predicament at the moment. I have only ever been with girls and had gf's ext. but for a few years now all I ever watch is gay porn and have fantasised myself with guys alot, I've even done some things to simulate a guy if you know what ...
A. 17 June 2009: Does been with a woman make you feel as horny as been with a man? Is it an equal attraction you have or are you lying about it to make yourself feel better? Because maybe you are gay but in denial, find it disgusting and cover it up by going with ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my new man about my problems with my ex?
Q. Hi: I have been talking to a very nice gentleman online for approx. one month. We will be meeting this weekend. He seems very nice. He is totally the opposite from my ex boyfriend. This person is intune to my feelings, he calls, he texts, he sends ...
A. 17 June 2009: Dont tell him. I'm friends with only men and they all tell me about their issues with girls. The main one being girls with issues, especially the ones who talk about their exes and how badly they were treated when they havent even been together ... (read in full...)
I keep cheating on him when I'm drunk, what should I do?
Q. I'm in a relationship with the best boyfriend ever. He would do anything for me and we love each other dearly. He's three years older than me, and works full time, whereas i am a student at university. Truthfully he's my first love, i have nev...
A. 17 June 2009: It depends. If its going to make you feel clearer and better by telling him then do it, but you are seriously risking your relationship. But if you can put it behind you and move on without the need for telling him then dont. Ignorance is afterall, ... (read in full...)
Too many girls! Too complicated!
Q. hey so i have anotherrrr problem. my gf treats me like shit and we are in the middle of a fight yet again because she lied and somehow its my fault. ok so if she doesnt come to me for once to fix it all (she never has) ill dump her. shes become...
A. 17 June 2009: There is no point in random hook ups, but theres also no point in hooking up with some just for the sake of having a partner. Its a very immature way to be. The thing is, you dont NEED a girlfriend, nobody does. Its pretty easy to cope without one, ... (read in full...)
Should I terminate this pregnancy?
Q. right so im pregnant and I want to keep it as i belive that we have been stupid enough to get ourselves into this mess no will we have to live with the consiquences, however my boyfriend says that were are too young (were 20)) that hes in army and ...
A. 17 June 2009: If your mind is completely made up and you know that its the right decision for you to keep the baby then tell him thats what your doing and theres nothing he can do to change your mind. If he leaves you then he's an absolute coward and a failure of ... (read in full...)
How can I turn snuggling into something more?
Q. I have a friend with benefits and i am wondering how could i turn good snuggling session with her into something more? like while snuggling, try and lead on to other stuff, like sex or something.... we have only hooked up, but we 'kinda joke' around ...
A. 17 June 2009: Dont lie to her and tell her you have feelings you dont because then she'll get alot more attatched and it will break her heart. Is she aware shes a FWB? or does she think shes something more? As long as she knows where she stands, just do what ... (read in full...)
Does he have me wrapped around his little finger?
Q. okay well im 15 years old and just left school after my gcse's which is why im slightly worried about things that could happen over the summer :/ a boy in my year whos 16 has like me for longer than a year now and we were always texting and chat...
A. 17 June 2009: Basically you've been used for sex. I know this because the exact same thing happened to me at your age. A popular guy that everyone fancied starting paying attention to me and i was just a normal girl. Makes you feel special and wanted doesnt it? ... (read in full...)
Do I need to be worried about my husband visiting our neighbour?
Q. i've been crying all day. i really don't know what to do. let me explain. my hubbie and i went to a neighbor's party this weekend. there were about a dozen people there including my good friend vicky and her husband carl. it was good at first ...
A. 17 June 2009: To start with i have to judge Barbara and say WHAT A SLUT!! Your husband was the only man that stood by his wife, saw it was wrong and got out of there. Being a man you would expect him to join in with all the others, but he escaped it befor... (read in full...)
Why cant I get over him?
Q. i broke up with him around december and to this day i still think of him all the time. i can't get over him. i cry all the time thinking about what we used to be and what i am now. why cant i get over him. he has a new girlfriend and he's happy. so ...
A. 17 June 2009: As horrible as breaking up is, its been half a year since it happened, you really must move on. I know its difficult but we all go through it at some point and trust me the minute you start to let go you will realise all the bad pointers of your ... (read in full...)
Too many girls! Too complicated!
Q. hey so i have anotherrrr problem. my gf treats me like shit and we are in the middle of a fight yet again because she lied and somehow its my fault. ok so if she doesnt come to me for once to fix it all (she never has) ill dump her. shes become...
A. 17 June 2009: Firstly, why do you keep "fallback" girls? To get into a relationship with someone who gives you their trust and love and yet you have someone sidelined incase it doesnt work out? Thats disgusting. Secondly. If your over with your girlfriend you c... (read in full...)
What do I say to her?
Q. There is a girl who I think I am in love with that has a boyfriend. She is the nicest person in the world and she is really caring, so much that myself and others call her mom as a joke. she is so nice to me and everyone else that I cannot tell if ...
A. 17 June 2009: I dont wanna sound too cynical but maybe she just doesnt wana always hang out with her bf and wants friend time?? I know me and my boyfriend dont ALWAYS wanna be with each other, you end up driving each other insane! Its important to have something ... (read in full...)
I keep getting the urge to cheat on him.
Q. I keep getting the urge to cheat. I was his first, but I've had 7 other people over the space of 3 years. I know he loves me and it would kill me to break his heart, but sometimes we just argue and argue and I feel like we're going nowhere. I get ...
A. 17 June 2009: Catch 22 situation. You dont wanna be with him but dont want him to be with anyone else. So in a way you do want to be with him just to keep him from anyone else, probably because your his first and you want to remain his only for your own peace of ... (read in full...)
Should I terminate this pregnancy?
Q. right so im pregnant and I want to keep it as i belive that we have been stupid enough to get ourselves into this mess no will we have to live with the consiquences, however my boyfriend says that were are too young (were 20)) that hes in army and ...
A. 17 June 2009: I was in the same situation last month sweety. I thought i was pregnant (turns out i wasnt) my boyfriend said all the same things your boyfriend did. We hadnt been together long enough, didnt have the money and time to bring up a baby and that my ... (read in full...)
Can a marriage survive without sexual intimacy?
Q. Can a marriage survive without sexual intimacy? My husband does not want me in bed. What is wrong? He says, he has no idea what happened. Should I divorce him? He does not want to go to therapy. What else can I try,before divorce?...
A. 17 June 2009: Sex is important to any relationship, and especially marriage. You need to keep that spark alive and have that intimacy else what else connects you? I understand that once you get to a certain age you lose your sexual desire, maybe hes reached that ... (read in full...)
He is immature and I feel he is not worth my energy
Q. I met a what appeared to be nice guy on line. He lived in a different city about 300 miles away. We connected very well and talked every night and sometimes during the day. He had been to visit me on a weekend and a holiday. We shared so much. Very ...
A. 17 June 2009: Dont sweat it. You've come to a realisation that he's an immature idiot and isnt worth your time. So get over it and move on. You'll find that as soon as he knows youre not thinking of him he'll come flooding back. Thats men. ... (read in full...)
I found a ladys deodarant in his draw!
Q. so.... this weekend i went to sleepover at ma bfs place. anyway i foynd a ladies deodarant in his drawer and i really dont know wat to make of it.he said he didnt know who it belonged. anyway i thru it out but now am reall wondering is he having ...
A. 17 June 2009: it could even be his and hes too scared to tell you cos its womens or whatever, some men are weird like that.... (read in full...)
How can I get her to fall in love with me?
Q. im in love with my cousin. im dont care what people think. she doesnt know about it. i wish to tell her. she is beutiful. i dont know if she has feelings for me and that is something i want to know. how can i get her to fall in love with me because ...
A. 17 June 2009: You dont get someone to love you. People choose who they love and if she doesnt love you in that way (which she probably doesnt) theres absolutely nothing you can do about it. ... (read in full...)
How do I break it to my mum that I'm dating a 19 year old guy from a different race?
Q. I've been unofficially dating this guy for around 2 months.. I'm 16 and he is 19, the distance between us is not short either.. I live in North West London and he lives in South East London, so it takes one hour by train to get to each others ...
A. 17 June 2009: Well lets put this into perspective. My boyfriend is closer to my mums age than he is mine and my mums fine with it. Its only three years! Dont worry about it, your mum and brother should be happy as long as your happy. I think your mum will only ... (read in full...)
I have a girlfriend but like another girl too
Q. I'm young only 16, but I feel that I'm more mature with relationships than people my age. I'm not looking for someone to get married to like all the other dumbasses my age act like. But it seems like whenever I'm in a relationship girls start ...
A. 17 June 2009: Oh it happens to me all the time. When im single noones interested and whem im taken everyone decides to come flooding in, all my exes start grovelling and stuff. Its important that you think through why the girls didnt talk to you when you were ... (read in full...)
Is ignoring someone a good way to break up with them?
Q. I am breaking up with my girlfriend. I plan on doing the whole ignoring treatment. I stopped talking to her, I stopped calling and I am ignoring her txt msgs. She has a feeling that I will be doing this. Is this a good method and what would...
A. 17 June 2009: Its a horrible way of doing it. I know, its happened to me a few times, men chickening out from finishing it or telling me they dont wanna go any further so they just ignore me. It drove me insane and left me alot of unanswered questions.
Its a... (read in full...)
I found a ladys deodarant in his draw!
Q. so.... this weekend i went to sleepover at ma bfs place. anyway i foynd a ladies deodarant in his drawer and i really dont know wat to make of it.he said he didnt know who it belonged. anyway i thru it out but now am reall wondering is he having ...
A. 17 June 2009: maybe it was a friends that stayed over and left it a while ago and hes completely forgotton, or an ex girlfriend and he didnt even know it was there. Its not like youve found some other girls underwear in his bedroom or anything, just chill out.... (read in full...)
What should I write in my crushes year book?
Q. okay, so my crush gave me her yearbook to sign, and i'm thinking now could be the chance to let her know how i feel, but what should i write? any ideas? ...
A. 16 June 2009: Ive always thought you were beautiful. Fancy hanging out sometime? number. ... (read in full...)
Why are the majority of men bad in bed?
Q. If all men supposedly view porn (which seems to be the consensus on this site) and it is supposed to give you hints and tips to spice up your sex life (isn't this what all guys say), then why is it the majority of men are crap in bed. This was a ...
A. 16 June 2009: You have to get involved with the act as well and tell him what you want. He cant be expected to just tell. ... (read in full...)
How many couples have sex when the woman in on her period?
Q. Hi everybody, I am wondering how many women or couples out there have sex when the woman is on her period? I have to do it with my boyfriend everyday no matter what and I am not about to skip the sex because of my period. I don't see the problem ...
A. 15 June 2009: I never have sex on my period. I tried it once and it was so messy! Its horrible and embarrassing!... (read in full...)
Who is the father of my baby?
Q. my 1stday of my last period is february 3,2009.i had sex wd a guy on the 15th of february.then i had sex again with my bf at 17th of february now im pregnant.and im confused who is the father of my baby.can you help me figure it out?...
A. 15 June 2009: The dates are too close together to tell. You'll need to wait til the babies born and get a DNA test.... (read in full...)
I keep cheating on him when I'm drunk, what should I do?
Q. I'm in a relationship with the best boyfriend ever. He would do anything for me and we love each other dearly. He's three years older than me, and works full time, whereas i am a student at university. Truthfully he's my first love, i have nev...
A. 7 June 2009: Stay away from clubs. If your gonna drink do it at home or go to a pub where your gonna be surrounded by older men who arent gonna be as attractive to you. Or even better, quit drinking all together. If you dont like what happens to you when you get ... (read in full...)
I think I might be pregnant but how do I tell him?
Q. Well okay, here it is... For the last week i have been tears and Jtpt cant stop crying, my male friend had received text message from some strange girl.... Just yesterday i noticed that my period had not net started and it been a week late now.... ...
A. 29 May 2009: You need to tell him. He would much prefer you tell him that you think you are than tell him "í'm pregnant and i'm keeping it!" ... (read in full...)
Do I have to forget her?
Q. Hello to all... I have a problem, i.e. I love a girls too much. but now she get marriage with someone. she was also loves me. we don't have any physical relationship. As i told you she is married now, and don't have any contact with me. but so...
A. 29 May 2009: Its important you cut her out of your life and move on yes. You can't be bogged down with this. She's married and you dont even have contact anymore, so how is it you know she still loves you? She's moved on and its about time you do the same too. ... (read in full...)
For the past weeks he has been rather distant, I think I don't love him any longer but I am afraid to tell him?
Q. Hey :) So I have been with my current boyfriend for about five months now. At first things were AMAZING, we had so much in common and he seemed perfect for me. We would talk for hours on end. He would always tell me how much I loved him, and I loved ...
A. 29 May 2009: People come and go. You will find in life that certain people are good at a time in your life but you grow out of them, and want to move on. Its just a part of life, people drift into our lives when were least expecting it and drift back out in the ... (read in full...)
Accidently hit ny girlfriend in the face, what can I do to make up for that?
Q. Hey. My alarm didn't go off, and i missed my girlfriend. She waited for me for a long time... not something that was fun for her. after that, I accidentally hit her in the face... ouch... oops... I want to make up for it somehow, but I'm kind of ...
A. 25 May 2009: How did you 'äccidently' hit your girlfriend??
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A friend complains too much...so I gave it to her straight..was that ok?
Q. "I just don't understand, we use to talk all the time, see each other 3 or 4 times a week. Now he just calls once a week, I know it's because he is just busy because when we talk he is sweet to me and tells me he I'm his princess. When we have sex ...
A. 25 May 2009: Yeah i agree with rhythmandblues2, you can't solely blame women. A lot of men are convincing creatures, they make you feel on top of the world and you dont realise what they're truly like until one day they just decide to stop talking to you or ... (read in full...)
I took the morning after pill 2 weeks after having sex. Could I be pregnant?
Q. Hi, I'm 16 and think I may be pregnant. I had unprotected sex 2 weeks on Saturday and on Monday I took the morning after pill. The lady who supplied it told me I was at a very high risk of already being pregnant as I had just finished my period. She ...
A. 25 May 2009: The morning after pill is most effective 24 hours after unprotected sex has taken place but can be used up to 72 hours after. If your having symptoms go see your GP, make sure to get a urine and blood test as for alot of women (including myself) ... (read in full...)
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