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writes:Im in love with a guy who is 4 years younger then me. Im 25 and his 21. Its just 5 months since we met. His in another state schooling and im staying home. Its four months now we haven't met. He hardly calls me. Its me who always calls and reminds him to call me. He always says that he loves me alot. But m bit confuse....if he loves me alot then why is he not calling me or txting me. Sometimes when i call he doesn't answer his call and later says that he was busy. Does he really love me or is he cheating with me....? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): Check http://www.waiit.com/article-details.php/How+to+build+trust+in+a+long+distance+relationship%3F that should help you dealing with this trust issue
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (17 March 2009):
 because he doesnt call doesnt mean he is cheating but it doesnt look good either - saying that, i was long distance with my husband for 2 years and he never called regularly because the time difference sucked, our working hours crossed and he htes phones...i did consider tht he'd lost interest in me a little but everytime i saw him i realised that its not that he doesnt care, its that he does care but is just phone shy - which doesnt help in long distance. since ive lived with him ive had to get myself a phone because he still doesnt answer the pone to nyone or call anyone, he hates it so they call me - but i've had to live with him to see its not just me!!
As you have only met this guy once and spoken briefly you might want to consider calling him on his actions before making a decision....but until you speak to him, you just dont know whats going on in his head or why he's acting the way he is...
good luck xx
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reader, ladyinlondon  +, writes (15 March 2009):
Hey, I was in a similar situation with a younger guy although we had already broken up and were trying to patch things up. Cutting a long story short he stopped calling me and I was the one calling him, I knew deep down it was a lost cause...we havent spoke in a couple of days now. So im moving on, I suggest you do the same, if he's that into you he will call, but dont spend your energy worrying about him besides it hasnt been that long of a relationship so it should be pretty easy to get over...good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): I have to agree with Armymedic. Distance is not a barrier when you are truly in love.
I am in a Long Distance Relationship and have been for a year now. Neither one of us can go more than a day without calling. We have even tried to agree to call every other day, but after one night of not speaking to one another, we always go back to every night calls! You said he is only 200 miles away? That's only a 4 hour drive...tops. Man, if my guy was that close, we would be seeing eachother at least once or twice a month! So, yes I believe he has put you on the back burner for future use. I am sorry, but that is how I see it!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (15 March 2009):
 So you are in a LDR where you have met once in 5 months and he doesn't call you, and you haven't seen him in 4 of those months?
Yes I think he has a girlfriend and you are his plan B, for when he is next in your state!
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