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13 July 2008: After reading all these articles I decided to throw this in there too! I was given this test by a "relationship theropist" LOL yes that title does exist! However it was interesting to see just which one you pick....... Read the question, don't ...
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I revealed to my closest friend that I am bisexual and she said I should tell this to other people soon...
Q. Okay so here it goes... I have been thinking for a long time about this and i'm still not entirely sure but i think i migth be bisexual... and i know there is nothing wrong with it... Just yesterday i had a chat with my closest friend and told ...
A. 22 June 2008: I can relate to your current situation. My brother is gay, he went for so long not saying a word to anyone. Even though you could just tell he was, he would lie & say that he wasn't. Looking back now, I realize why he lied, he was protecting our ... (read in full...)
I've gotten involved with a co-worker, but she is married. I've fallen for her but this is getting nowhere!
Q. I've got into a really difficult situation. I've got involved with a woman I work with, but she's married. She says that she feels she's found someone she can spend the rest of her life with and I feel the same about her. But she's said she w...
A. 22 June 2008: Dear Chris_123: I am going to say this with the best regards to your situation.. You need to leave that woman alone! and let her be "MARRIED"... She won't leave her husband, but she will cheat on him, lie about being totally faithful to him ... (read in full...)
How can I get out of this situation??
Q. It started months back really were some one in my school gave me a msn addy to this girl on the other side of the country. It started like just hey and stuff but even though I wasnt willingly at first trying to make it more because I had problems ...
A. 22 June 2008: I am not for sure that I totally understand why you just can't block this girl? Is she calling your house, stalking you in the drive way? If all your doing is talking to this girl or sending emails, then just block her! To be honest with you, ... (read in full...)
How do I make our relationship last?
Q. right now thing b/w me and my bf is going down the drain slowly... i dont know how (both of us) how to fix it, we promise each other we'll change, but for me im not. im going through what i use to do 3 years ago when i was 14: mentally cut mys...
A. 14 February 2008: Well you have to stop CUTTING YOURSELF, mentally and physcally.. You can't have a relationship if YOUR NOT HERE! Seriously, you need to stop with the none sense of hurting yourself no matter how you do it. How can someone else love you, if you ... (read in full...)
Should I pursue him or leave him alone?
Q. Should I call him? We've known each other for years. Hadnt seen him in years. He's been through a lot in life. Drug addictions, crazy women, absent father. He has had over 3 kids only two are alive, the rest died almost immediately afte...
A. 11 February 2008: Hey I went thru this same situation a long time ago, and trust me this is a hard one!
If he was in the middle of a lake and didn't know how to swim and you did. Then maybe you could save him..
You can't save someone from anything, He has... (read in full...)
Can't tell my bloke I love him because of past hearbreak, help?
Q. i am in love with a guy. but i dont know how i am going to tell him because of my past relationships because they where really pain full especially my last relationships. it was very heart breaking...
A. 11 February 2008: How long ago was your last relationship? If you really know that you love this guy, then you need to tell him... Sometimes it takes a lot of heart break to find the one that was meant for you. Best of luck Accused... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a curse or bad karma?
Q. I wonder if there is any chance , that there is such a thing as curse or karma? I try to live this life ,with the best intentions, yet everything falls apart on me. I thought, you make your own luck. It really does not happen in my life. I was nev...
A. 11 February 2008: Hi sorry to see that you having such bad luck.. I would like to know what kind of things are happening? Money, love, ? .......... Accused... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of his ex permanently from our lives??
Q. I joined this site last year complaining about my partners ex, she's still being a bitch, slagging me off at regular intervals and now she's taken to sending mail to my address for my partner. We've been together for 13 months now and still she gets...
A. 11 February 2008: Hi I agree they have kids together, there isn't a whole lot you can do about that. COMMUCATION is going to be there! But I am curious by what you said, you stated that she is now sending mail to "YOUR" address? Do you and your partner not live ... (read in full...)
He is abusive, I want him to leave, he won't
Q. I'm in a verbal and sometimes physical abusive relationship and I want out. I don't know what to do we are not married but we have a little girl together and he says if I make him leave he will take her and I won't see her. I don't have the money to ...
A. 11 February 2008: I agree update your state and I will help you from there. Accused... (read in full...)
He doesn't want the drama queen?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years and i am completely in love with him.He tells me that he loves me too, but i dont believe it. He has always been in control of us. Before we got into a relationship he told me that he doesnt ...
A. 11 February 2008: Drama Queen, Huh? well it sounds to me that he isn't really open for much of anything thats not electronic!(winking).. Seriously, If this man doesn't notice or give the attention you deserve then where will you be in 5yrs? You will probally ... (read in full...)
Am I being messed about or does he like me?
Q. theres a boy who i really like, and i think i love him. well, we've been friends for a few years now, and i know him from school. i still see him quite a bit, but whenever i do see him, we end up doing sexual things. he knows i really like him,...
A. 17 August 2007: First thing is STOP doing SEXUAL things with him! If this man just wants to be around you or have anything to do with you at all, is only during sexual time, then do you really need a chance with him? If he respected you at all he would address the ... (read in full...)
Which girl do I choose?
Q. My girlfriend, Megan and I broke up two months ago, we made up a month later. We've known one another and dated for almost three years. Two of those three years we lived together. How would I know if I do really love Megan and if she is the one I ...
A. 14 August 2007: The last thing you would want to do is hurt "Megan". I am assuming that she is a wonderful woman? The other woman "Nadine" she is going thru a divorce, right? So how do you know that she is ready for another relationship? I mean I've went thru a ... (read in full...)
What are the causes of a low sex drive in a male, and what are some solutions? I'm willing to try anything.
Q. Hi, I have had a little bit of a problem with my boyfriend lately... We've been together for 2 years now, and he's never had a very strong sex drive. I, on the other hand, want sex more often. He is in his early 30s, so I can't imagine his sex driv...
A. 14 August 2007: Does your boyfriend have any problems with erections? Can he get aroused if he watches something or does something else that involves himself? ... (read in full...)
I can't trust him and every time we go out he always looks at other women and he says he doesn't.
Q. I love my boyfriend we been together 4 years and got a daughter. He got caught a lot of times talking to other women on the phone, that's even after the baby was born. I still feel he does it, he claims he don't but I can't trust him and every ...
A. 5 August 2007: I can understand where you are coming from on this one, I've got a friend who's BF does her the same way and they too have a daughter.... I've been around when he's done it and I know what I felt like and I was just a visitor.... My advice is ... (read in full...)
He more or less told me he doesn't want to sleep with me because I'm the heaviest I've ever been!
Q. Hi Friends! Thanks in advance to any advice you can give me. My best friend/lover have been together for like 20 years. We recently have had some problems with the sexual aspect of our relationship because I was under the impression he wa...
A. 5 August 2007: Hey I have to agree with "Danielepew"... Its almost like double standards, after reading your problem 2-3 times I have to say I am confused. So I took a different approach to giving you advice for your proble... I've listed all the key points you ... (read in full...)
He already said he loves me after like 3 days of talking. But that's so overused nowadays I don't know if it's really real.
Q. I've always wanted a summer fling, and I think it's become more than that to the guy I started seeing. I met a guy on a 2 day trip last month and he is great. He's funny, intelligent, able to hold a conversation. And we are both going to be seni...
A. 5 August 2007: Hey I feel that you've already answered your own question... If you know what you want, which most ladies don;t these days then you should stand up for what YOU WANT! Never back down from your WANTS.. If you want to be free then you be free! thats ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend always shaves down there when she goes on a night out with friends. Should I be worried?
Q. Ok this is quite a personal thing really but I need some advice/opinions. My better half and the mother of my child goes out on the town fairly regularly once a week to every other week. She always shaves herself down there before going on the town ...
A. 5 August 2007: Confidence for what? who's going to see it? Does she know a super hero with x-ray vison? I can't say for sure if she is cheating, maybe its what she says it is... Just a little far fetched. My advice is to just keep close tabs on what she tells ... (read in full...)
He blurts out things that upset me! How do I get him to stop and think before he speaks?
Q. Repeat Offender: Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over 2 1/2 yrs. We have a really good relationship. But when we do fight it is mostly about the same few things. Every time we fight we don't yell we sit and talk things out. The problem...
A. 5 August 2007: What kind of things does your BF say blurt out? I mean does he call you out of your name?, bring up past mistakes? I could give better advice if I knew what it was he was saying to you.... Hope to hear from you soon... Accused... (read in full...)
My friend scares me, and I want to rid her from me!
Q. I have a friend who flirts outrageously with my partner and is always telling me how much men fancy her. Everyone from the estate agent (not surprising as she has nude pictures of herself in her bedroom!)to her surgeon. She likes telling me how my ...
A. 25 April 2007: KICK THIS WOMAN TO THE CURB! With friends like this who needs enemies? To be honest with you, I feel that you are a HELL of a good woman, cause I would have caught a charge the first time she ever asked my man anything about sex or any other ... (read in full...)
My husband is on dating sites looking for casual sex! What should I do?
Q. Dear cupid i have just found out that my husband has asked for casual sex on the internet dating sites, i am shocked to discover this as i know our sex life was not very active at the moment but i didnt think it warranted this kind of behaviour!I am ...
A. 25 April 2007: I can totally understand the "scratching her eyes out" part! If I didn't live in Tennessee I'd take you over to her house MYSELF!!!!! Seriously you don't need this kind of drama in you & your childrens lives.... If your husband wants to waste his ... (read in full...)
Is it worth the effort to try to get on the good side of this girl?
Q. I like a girl, but I'm not sure if she likes me back. We used to hang out a lot a couple of years ago, and I know she liked me then, but nothing really happened. She convinced my girlfriend at the time to break up with me, so then we got into an ...
A. 25 April 2007: Be like NIKE and "JUST DO IT".... Did you ever find out why she got your ex gal to break up with you? If you like this girl and she used to like you then just talk to her... Maybe if you get a chance one day in one of your classes ask her out of the ... (read in full...)
Will these stretch marks go away?
Q. I had a baby 11 days ago. I got bad stretch marks and my stomach sags now. Will these stretch marks go away? Does the loose skin ever go back to normal? If you're going to tell me to work out...suggest ways in which I should work out. Thanks....
A. 25 April 2007: Hmmmm.... Welcome to MotherHood! I can tell you to keep coco butter lotion on your strech marks at all times but I can't say that they will ever go away.... They do lighten over time... and besides that its only been 11days.... give yourself ... (read in full...)
I love my wife, but I feel that number 2 woman is right for me.
Q. About a year ago I married a beautiful sexy lady. Let's call her #1. She is smart and fun and all that. Neither of us have any children. Sex is great. A little while before we got married I met someone else (#2). It started out innocent, as ...
A. 25 April 2007: Ok I am going to spare you the whole "marriage" speech... ALthough I do feel that you need it (winking).. Here's my thoughts on your problem....
I feel that even if you let Lady #1 go and got with Lady #2 you are still going to be CONFUSED... (read in full...)
He is blaming me for everything and not seeing what he did wrong! . How can I make him ses that he is at fault too and not only me?
Q. My ex and I were suppose to be working things out. He told me to seek for anger management help. So I actually went out to buy health insurance on my on cause I have none through my employer. So last weekend we spend together and had a great one ...
A. 24 April 2007: If your childs father doesn't think that you and his son are worth fighting for then you are doing the best thing for the both of you... We can't keep something that doesn't want to be kept... which to try and make a 5yr old understand this is ... (read in full...)
My husband and I have concerns about his daughter's developemnt...how do we approach her Mother about this?
Q. I am the sort of part time stepmother of a nine year old, whose mother lives very close by and we avoid due to her nature, but we have the daughter here overnight up to three times a week. The mother, (will call her Sue) works in an OAP home and is ...
A. 24 April 2007: Hi I sorry to hear that a child has to grow up with such a mother.... but if her mother is letting DRUNKEN friends pick her up then that is putting your step daughters life at risk.... So yes you and your husband needs to do something...... "If only ... (read in full...)
Lymph nodes in my neck are swollen! Thought it was mono but was wondering...could this be an std or anything ?
Q. my lymph nodes in my neck are swollen i'm having bad headaches and feeling like i'm going to throw up and really tierd the doctors thought it was mono but that came back negative i'm scared b.c i have to go back to the doctor in two hours so t...
A. 24 April 2007: Normally when you get swollen lymph nodes it's caused by an infection of some kind.... Also I had a friend who actually had swollen nodes due to some problems with her teeth... I would get it checked back out and explore all your options with your ... (read in full...)
He is blaming me for everything and not seeing what he did wrong! . How can I make him ses that he is at fault too and not only me?
Q. My ex and I were suppose to be working things out. He told me to seek for anger management help. So I actually went out to buy health insurance on my on cause I have none through my employer. So last weekend we spend together and had a great one ...
A. 24 April 2007: Its truly sad how men can take child support and hold it at the top of their list! Trust me I've been where you are, and I had to take child support out on my daughters father who actually threatened to have me beat up! (smiling)....So I know it ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure but is this guy using me as a 'f**k buddy"?
Q. hiya a guy who ive known for a year and a bit , who i slept with a few times then broke it off when i began to fall for him ooh and also said how he has a girlfriend contacted me a few days ago . when i asked him if he was still with his girlfri...
A. 24 April 2007: and am i being used till he finds another girlfriend again
YES you are! the only way your a f**k buddy is if you let yourself be one.... So do I think he's using you (yes) do I think you need to drop him? Only if you don't like being his F*... (read in full...)
I thought we'd be a couple and then he met Natalie! If he didnt want to go out with me then why would he tell me, he loved me?
Q. ok i need help the guy i really like was dating my friend tiffany and friday me her my other friend sarah and dylan and 2 of his friends went to the movies i sat by dylan because he wanted to talk to me i knew it was going to be bad and i was happy ...
A. 24 April 2007: Sound to me like you are confused! I've taken the liberty of helping you understand the meaning of a FRIEND!
A friend is a person that someone likes or knows. People who are friends talk to each other and spend time together. They also help eac... (read in full...)
I think he may be seeing someone else, I just don't know if I trust him...
Q. well here goes me and my fiance are going thru a hard time and i really dont know what to think! he says he loves me more than ill ever know but we were broken up for a month then got back together he was the one who contacted me and i was the one ...
A. 24 April 2007: Girl take your good foot and KICK him to the nearest CURB! This man has made you an emotional basket case ( so it seems). You should not have to justify yourself to this man considering he loves you so much! You mentioned that a "little girl" ... (read in full...)
I love her but she accuses me of cheating! What should I do?
Q. i have a girlfriend i love so much. The thing is we don't get to spend sometime the two of us. every time i ask 2 see her she comes with a friend or relative of hers. she accuses me of cheating on her when i dont. how do i get 2 let her know that i ...
A. 24 April 2007: How old is your GF? sounds to me that she has trust issues with herself.... I know you've heard the old saying "if someone accusses you of cheating, their cheating themselves".... Take heed to that statement..... Trust me I know ........ Look at ... (read in full...)
My ex's married best friend tried to kiss me but I said NO! Now I can't get him out of my head...what can I do?
Q. hi everyone. I'm in a very difficult situation. ok here goes. i have just split up with my bf of 4 years a few weeks ago but was still in love with him. every since i met him his best friend became my sort of best friend because we have a very ...
A. 24 April 2007: Leave this man alone! First off if this so called dual friend was being a "friend" or even a good husband he would have never been trying to kiss you... Let alone drinking with you all night..... You truly need to give yourself time to heal over ... (read in full...)
We are both going to different uni's next year-and he wants to be single! What should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, and we have been good friends for 7 years - we met in secondary school and have never been in a relationship with anybody else. I love him to bits. We have been really happy and are in love, but now th...
A. 24 April 2007: My best advice for you is to let him go.... If he is being honest enough with you to let you know that he wants to see if you are the one, then let him do that.... Because if you try and stop him then he will always have it in the back of his head ... (read in full...)
I have a bf who doesn't act like my bf! Shoud I let him go?
Q. I have a boyfriend, and lately for the past few weeks he's been treating me more like his friend than he's girlfriend. He plays the piano at my church, and at first in the beginning he wanted to slowly allow everyone to know that we are dating. ...
A. 24 April 2007: I think you should talk to him and express to him how you feel.. Explain to him that the way he treats you is that more of a friend instead of his girlfriend. If you are honest with him about how you feel then there is no room for ... (read in full...)
My 29 year old husband has been seeing a woman of 64!
Q. hello i was wondering if you can help me with this sensitive problem. i'm 23, my husband is 29 and we've been married for a year and together since we were 17. a good friend told me she'd seen my husband with a 64-year-old woman. she...
A. 22 April 2007: Let me start off with how close would this friend have to be sitting to over hear the conversations with your husband and this other woman? and if you confronted your husband with the conversation that your friend came back and told you about and he ... (read in full...)
I love him but he got another woman pregnant!
Q. i met a man 5 years younger than me 4 years ago we had a great relationship it was long distance but it worked out fine until one night he went behind my back, we had an argument but sorted it out, from then we had our ups and downs but coz i ...
A. 22 April 2007: I have to say that "love is blind"... I agree, you should walk away from this!!!! This man is a total loser! and yes he probally has had this "other woman" all along, and for him to change the number??? Please mark this one up as a better to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have just broken up because of his parents.
Q. Me n my bf hav just broken up cos of his parents. he is the first guy i've had sex with n the only guy i hav ever loved should i keep fighting for our relationship or just give up. we were together a year. sum1 help!...
A. 22 April 2007: Why does his parents not want you two together? ... (read in full...)
How can I better manage my credit and pay off my debt?
Q. i am having trouble keeping my checking account from going into the negative and i keep running out of money. How can i fix my problem? i also have really bad credit where i can't get a loan or anything because 3 yrs ago i filed for bankruptcy. how ...
A. 21 April 2007: Hi first tell me are you going into the negative because of the NSF fee's? or are you writting checks to pay for things knowing that the bank will cover it but in return you are charged NSF'S? ... (read in full...)
I'm prepared to give up the porn to keep her, but she acts so different now and I'm worried its too late and I've already lost her!
Q. Please help. My wife and I have been married for 8 years (Im 38 she is 37) and have a wonderful family. We have always shared a very special sacred relationship but sadly I have been using porn (nothing illegal) on and off even though I know she ...
A. 21 April 2007: i am sorry to see that "Porn" has once again came and wrecked a once beautiful relationship.... Let me be as honest with you as I can. I've been where your wife is.. and I know the feeling that it gives to a "wife" when her husband chooses to look ... (read in full...)
I am a little scared by what her responce may be
Q. Dating or Not? I have been seeing this girl for several months now on and off. Lately we talk alot more on the phone get together almost every possible chance. Sometimes it feels like we are dating, sometimes like friends hanging out. I like her...
A. 8 December 2006: Sounds to me like you and this person have a lot in common. If your gut tells you that you think there's a chance for romance, then go for it. The worse part about anything is WONDERING. and if she says "just friends" then at least you will know ... (read in full...)
I know I want to be with her
Q. Hi. I know a lot of people ask these types of questions here, but every one of us has an experience that is just a tad different. For starters, I am a 24 year old male, married with a 5 year old little boy and a little girl on the way. I have been ...
A. 8 December 2006: Grass maybe greener on the other side, but it's still got to be mowed... If your heart is not in this marriage, then nothing will ever work out. I AM NOT TELLING YOU TO LEAVE YOUR WIFE... so don't take it thtat way, please. I just know that when ... (read in full...)
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