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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years and i am completely in love with him.He tells me that he loves me too, but i dont believe it. He has always been in control of us. Before we got into a relationship he told me that he doesnt beleive in them, but over the months that we spent time together, we fell in love and becoming boyfriend and girlfriend became obvious, he asked me before i asked him. but over the past couple of weeks he has been very aloof. i feel like i no longer have a boyfriend but a penpal that i get text messages a few times a day from and 2 minute phone calls every two hours. When we are together, he hardly even notices me. he is so involved in his new iphone that i just become someone to bounce questions off of. In the past 3 weeks we have hardly been phyiscally involved, in the past three days, i have seen him for maybe 6-7 hours and all i got was 3 pecks. I dont think that he is cheating on me becuase i know his scheule well, and i know that he doesnt really have time, besides like i said he talks to me almost every hour if not every two. I cant talk to him about it because whenever i bring up emotional issues, i get shut down and called a drama queen and how he doesnt want a dramatic girlfriend. What should i do? I know i should move on to someone who appreciates me, but i love him more than i have ever loved anyone. To guys especailly, how do you approach your boyfriend about concerns in your relationship without them feeling trapped or frustrated? Please help me!
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reader, rcn +, writes (11 February 2008):
 There is a difference between being drama queen and wishing to discuss issues. It seems as if he's avoiding issues that may cause emotion or be difficult to discuss. This happens at times, but generally with people who are lacking something within themselves. It's like they know there are issues, but confronting them means admitting that there's something wrong, which means admitting that we, as humans, may not be perfect.
I recommend be straight with him. Tell him "There's a problem,and without being dramatic, we need to discuss this issue."
If he doesn't, he is a real disrespectful person.
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reader, accused +, writes (11 February 2008):
 Drama Queen, Huh? well it sounds to me that he isn't really open for much of anything thats not electronic!(winking).. Seriously, If this man doesn't notice or give the attention you deserve then where will you be in 5yrs? You will probally still be begging for attention, and being called a drama queen because your upset about it! One thing I've learned first hand is "A MANS INTENTIONS, ARE BEST JUDGED BY HIS ACTIONS"... My advice is to at least try and talk to him about what you are feeling, and if he still insists on you being a "drama queen" then let him go and let him be happy with his phone or whatever else he finds noticable! If he can't respect your feelings and what you need from your man in a relationship, then its not fair for you to lower your wants and needs to satisfy him... If you do this then you will never be happy or satisfied.. If he really loves you then he will respect what you saying and try to work out a solution! and if he can't do this, then you could always "HANG A IPHONE AROUND YOUR NECK"...(smiling) Best of luck, I'm here if you need to talk. Accused
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