I still think my ex is the one for me
Q. I still love my ex-girlfriend and I feel like she's the one for me! But I don't know if she love's me back. She made me feel like I belonged in this world and no other girl hasmade me feel like that ever. What should I do???...
A. 21 April 2013: It's the same thing, whether 12 or 13. A two year age difference is nothing....after both of you are 18. However, at the junior high level, it's an impassible gulf. Any parent worth their parenting chops would be exceedingly protective of their ... (read in full...)
Advice on the pullout method
Q. I have been with a guy for over a year now and we have been having sex the entire time we came together on the pretext of just sex on both parts it obviously escalated more due to our time together, well we have been using the pullout method and one ...
A. 19 April 2013: Pulling out takes so much technique and so much self-control, and many guys when they ejaculate actually lock up for that split second too long. 40% of the ejaculate comes out that first squirt alone. If the guy is young, he lacks experience and ... (read in full...)
I still think my ex is the one for me
Q. I still love my ex-girlfriend and I feel like she's the one for me! But I don't know if she love's me back. She made me feel like I belonged in this world and no other girl hasmade me feel like that ever. What should I do???...
A. 19 April 2013: You're 15 and she's 12 years old? Yeah, that makes sense why your mom would tell you that she's too young.
If what you have is real, then you can wait and be patient. She's 12, and that is too young to be in any kind of a serious relation... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being judged about my lifestyle
Q. hey all i just need some opinions so here we go im a 23 year old girl who was in a relationship with a guy a year younger than i. we had a baby together and he did not step up to the plate to be a good dad. just a typical dead beat, yes he love his ...
A. 19 April 2013: Yeah, I think the majority of judging is actually done by you. You said this:
"i just could not see myself being with someone my age, they are so immature, they dont have jobs, they live with mommy,"
23 year old guys mostly are either in gr... (read in full...)
He still thinks I'm a virgin, but I had a horrible experience losing it?
Q. So this guy and I were dating and then he just fell off the face of the earth for a month. He was just so busy etc. So I moved on and met someone new. I met this great guy in the beginning of the month. Things were perfect. So one night this guy and ...
A. 19 April 2013: Wait a second here. You went out with another guy because the first one "dropped off the face of the earth" for a month? Did you actually break it off with him? Sounds like he had a busy time of it, but did you see this other guy without having a ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend now claims he wants to be friends but I don't
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me a week ago but at school he always stares at me and i'm trying to get over him but it's impossible bcoz he told me that he lied to me so many times and i dont rlly know how to handle it. what should i do? he said we ...
A. 19 April 2013: You're right. If he broke up with you, then things are over. He lied to you? Why would you even permit yourself to be even friends with a liar? The answer is you wouldn't.
Pick your friends with integrity who would be honest and loyal. ... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and my parents wont allow me to date my boyfriend who is 8 years older than me.
Q. I just need to vent a little and am hoping to hear some others' inputs on the situation. I am 19 years old and am in college, but I am staying at home with my parents. I work part time and help pitch in with bills (not much but as much as I can do ...
A. 18 April 2013: John F Kennedy and Jackie O -- 12 years!... (read in full...)
I still think my ex is the one for me
Q. I still love my ex-girlfriend and I feel like she's the one for me! But I don't know if she love's me back. She made me feel like I belonged in this world and no other girl hasmade me feel like that ever. What should I do???...
A. 18 April 2013: Well, does she have another boyfriend? Why is she your ex? Who did the breaking up, and why? Do you have a girlfriend now? How long ago did you two break up?
Can you give more information, because it's tough to advise you without knowing ... (read in full...)
I feel threatened that my g/f has a new best friend
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost two years now, and it's been a roller coaster at times. We're at the point where we're arguing a lot... way too much actually due to my sensitivity, her oversensitivity and my insecurities. She ...
A. 18 April 2013: Is the new best friend a girl or a guy?? You didn't mention!
If it's a girl, you should be happy, because a girl with good friends to confide in is a very happy person indeed. You can't be her everything, and there are things that girls can talk... (read in full...)
I use plenty of lube but still bleed after anal
Q. I am male and I am straight but like to do anal with a dildo when I'm jerking off but every time after I bleed a little and I use plenty of lube is this ok?...
A. 18 April 2013: The anus has very fragile skin, and tears and bleeding is extremely common, even with lube or even fingers or a penis or anything. That's why it's a very risky activity.
You may want to get a different kind of dildo, maybe a different size or ... (read in full...)
Her husband is trying to make up with her -- should I let her go?
Q. I met a girl online locally, she been married for 3 years. Husband cheated on her and hit on her, lied to her, and made her feel less of a woman. We met up, and talked, and found a connection. Eventually we kinda hooked up telling each other we love ...
A. 18 April 2013: Is she still married to him legally? Don't break up with her unless SHE wants to get back with her husband. However, she needs to file for divorce as quickly as possible. You can't have a true relationship with her as long as she is currently ... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and my parents wont allow me to date my boyfriend who is 8 years older than me.
Q. I just need to vent a little and am hoping to hear some others' inputs on the situation. I am 19 years old and am in college, but I am staying at home with my parents. I work part time and help pitch in with bills (not much but as much as I can do ...
A. 18 April 2013: Oh! One more thing, they mentioned "They said it was disgusting that any man at 27 could love a 19 year old."
Explain to them Celine Dion/Rene Angelil. (26 year age difference, they met when she was 14 and he dated her starting at age 20).
... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and my parents wont allow me to date my boyfriend who is 8 years older than me.
Q. I just need to vent a little and am hoping to hear some others' inputs on the situation. I am 19 years old and am in college, but I am staying at home with my parents. I work part time and help pitch in with bills (not much but as much as I can do ...
A. 18 April 2013: I think I have your answer. The answer is found in the money you pitch in for bills. Am I right to understand that you pay your parents to help with groceries, electricity, and rent?
The key is to have your parents see you as the adult you are,... (read in full...)
I`m bisexual and married and am deceiving a good hearted lesbian.
Q. I`m a bisexual married woman and have fallen in love with a woman who`s a lesbian. She doesn`t know I`m bisexual or married. She`s fallen in love with me as well because she tells me all the time. The thing is I`ve never told her I`m in love with ...
A. 18 April 2013: What should you do?
Well, does your husband know you're having an emotional affair on him?
We'll get back to that one. What you should do if you truly love this lesbian you're mistreating, you should tell her the naked truth, because you're p... (read in full...)
Do I tell my girlfriend I got 2 drunken pecks on the cheek? Or let it go?
Q. Hello All, Quick overview on the situation: I have been dating this woman, whom I love deeply, for about 6 months now. We live about a short distance apart and I shortly plan to propose to her. She is definitely the one for me. I couldn't imagine...
A. 16 April 2013: At three months into your relationship, were you officially exclusive? Also, were you sexually active with your girlfriend before dancing and being kissed by another girl?
Why did you buy another girl a drink if you have a girlfriend? Doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a relationship without having sex?
Q. I'm a 24 year old guy. I met this girl, who's a couple of years younger than me, about a year ago. She's verbally impaired (mute, I don't like to call her by this name). We have been very good friends. I don't mind her disability at all. She's ve...
A. 16 April 2013: Many people who wait until marriage to have sex have great relationships. Other people have impairments that keep them from being able to have sex, and they still find enduring love. Sex and love are not one and the same. In fact, many people ... (read in full...)
When he asks me questions, I feel put on the spot. How do I communicate?
Q. ive been dating this man for about a month, give or take. and it takes me awhile to get use to, open up to someone, but on the other hand he is very talkative, intelligent, comprehensive, sesquipedalian. i love that but, when he asks me questions i ...
A. 15 April 2013: Ahh, he may be pulling out the vocabulary words to impress you. In your case, if you think that you're compatible with him, then don't be afraid to ask him what he means, or what some $50 word means. It's not a lack of intelligence for you to say ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend absolutely cannot keep erection during sex!
Q. Okay, me and my boyfriend are having a big problem. Things have started to heat up in the relationship and we've begun trying to have sex. Being the responsible girl-scout I can prepared with some Durex. I am a virgin and just really didn't want to ...
A. 15 April 2013: How long have you two dated? Are we talking about less than a month, or are we talking about months into the relationship?
There are two ways to approach this, and it's best if both ways are used simultaneously.
First, the physical:
Try... (read in full...)
Why do girls like guys with attitude? Why can't they admit they don't like swet guys?
Q. I’m in a relationship with my current girlfriend for the last 14 months. Before that, I was in relationship twice : for two years and one year respectively and I was dumped because I was too sweet and loveable boyfriend. Before entered into...
A. 15 April 2013: Here's the thing - if this was a mere act, and you were simply trying a "jerk" personality change because you think that all girls go for jerks and hate nice guys, then you'd have a code deep down inside. One that says "I'd sooner be castrated than ... (read in full...)
I don't see myself marrying him, but he's good for now, what do you think?
Q. Hey guys! So me and my bf has been together for almost 2 years now and we have an amazing relationship. He's only a year younger than me but i feel like he has so much growing up to do and it literally drives me crazy! My biggest mistake was taking ...
A. 15 April 2013: I will answer your direct question first, but your post made me observe something that I would do a disservice to you by not pointing it out.
First, I know what you mean. I've dated some guys who I knew there was no future with. There's no shame... (read in full...)
Why do girls like guys with attitude? Why can't they admit they don't like swet guys?
Q. I’m in a relationship with my current girlfriend for the last 14 months. Before that, I was in relationship twice : for two years and one year respectively and I was dumped because I was too sweet and loveable boyfriend. Before entered into...
A. 14 April 2013: I wish I could talk to your girlfriend and tell her to dump you out on your ear. What business do you have treating her like that?? Are you insane?
Let's see what you have to offer to this relationship:
1. You don't tell her you love her.
2... (read in full...)
Were her remarks a harmless joke? Or a hint that she likes me? Because I really like her.
Q. A harmless joke or a hint that she likes me? Was a bit shocked when I bought my new friends [two girls] at uni, a cute little dessert back from the canteen, for one of them to say 'aw, you're so sweet' and then 'I think I love you, I'm not even jok...
A. 14 April 2013: Hmmm....I think you're waiting to hear what you want to hear, and in this case, it may be banter on her side. Whether she likes you or not isn't clear from that exchange.
If you like her, then ask her out! Love is a risk, and sometimes, you just... (read in full...)
Are there any options to deal with a mean boss who seems to enjoy humiliating people and being unreasonable?
Q. My manager isn't the nicest of people - well actually he is, if your face fits! He's been with the company for 3 years and has always had an attitude on him. What really bothers me is how he treats people. For example he's only nice to people w...
A. 14 April 2013: He's not treating you badly? You're just sick of him talking to others in a mean way, right?
The anonymous female reader has good advice, and you should pass it along to your friends that the boss mistreats. As for you, since he's not directly... (read in full...)
He proposed, I turned him down. I want to be honest to him and I don't want to lose him. What is the best way to approach this?
Q. Boyfriend for 4 years, thinking of getting married, is it a good idea? My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years now. I say almost because almost every year we break up for a a month or 2. We have had to go through a lot together a...
A. 14 April 2013: I think you need to grow up. You're not capable of an actual relationship, much less marriage. You're right, you need to be single. At the very least, you need to end things for good with this guy you keep yo-yoing back and forth with.
You'r... (read in full...)
He's still with his girlfriend, so why is he still seeing me? Does he like me?
Q. I was seeing a guy about 3 years ago and we never broke it off In bad terms we just fell apart .. So he ended up with someone and i was really happy for him so last year i messaged him and we spoke about the past and he asked if he could come ove...
A. 14 April 2013: You're not asking the right question here.
The real question is - What kind of man is he to cheat on his girlfriend with an ex?
The next question is - Why did you go to bed with a guy who has a girlfriend?
Both questions should have ma... (read in full...)
Depressed. Have even lost the urge to sleep with hookers. And I like this girl's who's unavailable. What can I do?
Q. I've been sleeping with hookers on a weekly basis since I was 21. However, things have changed recently. However, recently, , I've just lost the urge to do it anymore. To make matters worse, I'm afraid that it might have something do with the fact...
A. 14 April 2013: I'm confused as to what advice you want. Are you looking to see how to get into a relationship with the unavailable woman? Are you looking to get back your desire to sleep with hookers on a weekly basis? Are you interested in getting into a ... (read in full...)
Orgasm question
Q. Do you think there is such a thing as an orgasm that *requires* BOTH gspot and clitoris stimulation?? I ask because I've heard of females having either a clitoris orgasm or a vaginal orgasm. I've tried having just a vaginal orgasm or just a...
A. 13 April 2013: Clit orgasm? Vaginal orgasm? Both are myths! Both originate in the clitoris which is the equivalent to the penis for a guy. Questions like this make me wish I lived in Freud's time (the one who started the stupid myth in the first place) so I ... (read in full...)
I think my g/f is getting bored with me
Q. Hey guys, so my gf of a month has just passed her driving test and now she's seems very off with me. I mean we can spend the day together and not have a real kiss at all, we have gone all the way so it's just really weird. She tries to get rid of me ...
A. 13 April 2013: Hmm...very interesting. You have only used sexuality in gauging whether or not she's bored with you.
Maybe, she's not wanting to base her relationship with you solely upon sex. A month is pretty soon to have sex, and it's possible she's either r... (read in full...)
Is it true that you don't lose weight during your period?
Q. Maybe I'm being stupid believing this, but I've been eating very, very healthy and exercising a lot over the past week. And I was losing weight, but since I started my period 2 days ago i've noticed I have come to a stop and haven't changed in ...
A. 12 April 2013: It's not true that you don't lose weight during your period. If you're on an exercise and diet regime, stick to it. However, many women take on extra water weight during a period along with the bloating.
Depending on what your starting... (read in full...)
My unemployed boyfriend has HIV, but I still love him
Q. Hi 3 years ago my boyfriend told me he had HIV. I respected him and we went to the clinic and used condoms. His HIV was well under control. We've had some wonderful sex, however he kept it secret, and fell out with me for no apparent reason ...
A. 12 April 2013: Is this a joke? He treats you like a sex toy FWB, and you play Russian Roulette with HIV??!?
Get away from this guy. There are millions of good guys out there for you to risk your life for someone who threatens your life with every sex act.
... (read in full...)
Are there different kinds of feelings when having an orgasm?
Q. I'm a 29 year old woman and I've always wondered, are there different types of feelings when having an orgasm? I only use my fingers to masturbate and stimulate my clit area. When I have reached an orgasm i get a great feeling, but if i keep going I ...
A. 12 April 2013: You have multiples! That's awesome! I'm right with you..my second orgasm is the best one...deeper and sweeter.
Seriously! I'm saying this from me to you...don't worry about labels! Just be happy for the feelings! Labels limit! Feelings... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated with a girl who is now making my life miserable
Q. Dear cupid I feel so devastated and I don't even know how I got into this situation. I was in a serious relationship with my boyfriend who I really loved. I found out he basically cheated on me with a girl who has had an on again off again re...
A. 12 April 2013: Actually, it's not this girl who is ruining your life. Everything starts and stops with your boyfriend. Blame the right person, and that's him. He cheated. He lied. He deserves to be kicked out on his ear.
Once you drop the guy, your tru... (read in full...)
I know my self esteem is low. But his list of "RULES" is so long. What should I do about his verbal abuse?
Q. Dear Cupid I know the post is long, please read it through and help me. I have been with this person for 3 years, I cook, clean after him, work and pay 3/4 of expenses at home, get him nice gifts for his birthdays and Christmas, never ask...
A. 11 April 2013: How much longer are you going to suck your life and the time you will *never* get back to his worthless cheating ass? You're his maid and his sex slave.
Nothing will change unless you change it. If he's relieved if you break up with him, the... (read in full...)
I want my Manager...
Q. I just started working at a new job and one of my managers is so attractive. I can't help finding myself fantasizing about being with him whenever I'm at work. I think he is attracted to me.. I'm 19 and he's in his late twenties but even despite ...
A. 11 April 2013: Heh, from reading the title, it sounded like you wanted to birth the Baby Jesus! LOL!
Seriously though. Lay off the work relationships! There's love and then there's your livelihood, and everything you do as far as your work is concerne... (read in full...)
After getting back with the Ex-GF you always had feelings for...
Q. I am getting back with my ex-girlfriend after 2 years of her dating some jerk. It really bothers me, that she broke up with me..and then went out with him. She didn't break up with me because of him, I"m sure of this. Should I bring it up...
A. 11 April 2013: Truly think about the reason why you are asking. Then ask yourself whether or not you would risk the renewal of your relationship in order to satisfy your ego?
If she's with you, that means you are the better guy. If he was the better guy, the... (read in full...)
How can I make the best out of a bad situation? I'm worried I'm going to be depressed in my new house next year...
Q. I need advice on how to make the best of a bad situation, I've not dealt with something like this before so please don't judge me on what i'm about to say... I've lived in halls this year at university and now we're moving into a house for our se...
A. 10 April 2013: You are in for a wake-up call. You lived in your parents' house. They worked for 20+ years to get to that level where you got nice sized rooms. Now you have to study, then work, then earn your way to affording that kind of life. You are college ... (read in full...)
Why does my bf want me to use a vibrator when I have never enjoyed having sex?
Q. Hello I haven't had sex with my bf yet and he told me I should get a vibrator. I have never enjoyed having sex in the past as its too uncomfortable and hurts (I have had sex about 10 times in the past and I felt no pleasure). My bf could only use ...
A. 10 April 2013: Actually, he's right. Many women who have orgasmic issues find their way using things like vibrators to explore. Once you've had an orgasm, you totally know it. There are some women who can't orgasm without a vibrator. There are more women who ... (read in full...)
B/f says if I leave the country he'll break up with me
Q. my boyfriend of 5 years wants us to get married within a few months. I will be leaving the country in the next few months also but he told me that if i leave he will break up with me. I have been waiting for this opporunity to go overseas for a ...
A. 10 April 2013: This guy just did you a favor by revealing that he does not love you and good thing you found out about that before you married. If he truly loved you, to threaten breakup would be horrifying to him. He would have not liked it, but he would have ... (read in full...)
Confession of my casual fling with an older woman to my new girlfriend?
Q. hi im 21 male. i recently had moved to another city for 3 months for exam coaching purpose. the thing is i was in a casual relationship with a neighbour women. she is 25. it was just sex oriented. then i moved back to my hometown, now I am in a ...
A. 10 April 2013: The big thing was whether or not you were having the casual fling at the same time you and your current girlfriend were together. If this casual fling was your history, and you hadn't met your current girlfriend yet, it's no big deal! Your past is ... (read in full...)
I can't tell if he is shy around women or just isn't interested?
Q. There's a guy I like, we are in the same class at University and do everything together (long story). He seems very quiet and private. However he is open when we chat. He always says how hot other women are, then when I react just smirks and if I ...
A. 10 April 2013: Actually, given what you've said, I think he sees you in the Friend Zone, but he might not always be there. He hasn't made the decision that he *doesn't* like you, but he just hasn't thought about it I don't think.
If you like him and want him... (read in full...)
Other than counseling, which I know needs to happen, what steps does she need to take to prove she deserves back in my life?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 12 years, 3 awesome kids. Very “stable” family with two educated and employed parents, no abuse, drugs, issue or anything like that. We are both good parents. Wanted to make that clear. We have had a "good" ...
A. 9 April 2013: No doubt about it -- your wife was the one who left you and cheated. Now she's crawling back to you. I know that part of you wants to test her, and even wants to emotionally punish her for what she did to you. These are normal feelings.
If yo... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he won't date me because of the age difference
Q. Dear Cupid, this 24 year old and I have been talking for over a year. He's an amazing guy and he is a gentlemen. We are very alike personality wise and we are always happy together. We both went on a group trip recently and we saw each other but ...
A. 8 April 2013: A 7-8 year age difference is nothing if both people are over 21. You didn't mention which country you're from, but I know that in the US, a 24 year old having sex with someone under the age of 18 is called statutory rape and can destroy his life if ... (read in full...)
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