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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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Been having an affair. If I don't tell his wife she may be ruining her own life with a cheater!
Q. I've been having an affair with a man who's wife doesn't currently live with him because of their jobs. I am also not sure he's even married to her yet. They live in two different states. She has decided to keep her job because of seniority and ...
A. 28 December 2012: OP, your original questions were:
“My question is do you think he is in as much pain as I am about the affair ending or is he more consumed with guilt and isn't even thinking about me?
And
“Do you think she should know what he's done befo... (read in full...)
Do I try anal sex or not?
Q. My boyfriend wants to try anal sex with me but I just don't know about trying it. Do I let him have his way or what? and anyone that has tried it can you please explain it like what do you have to do and how does it feel? I only really care about th...
A. 27 December 2012: N91 asked: "Why did you even bother to ask us for advice if you ignored what we all said anyway?"
Because some times women like to VENT to hear what others have to say... we don't always come to folks with problems we want solved.... s... (read in full...)
What can I do? I love my wife. I miss her. It's no no no too often. It hurts.There is no romance or passion in our marriage
Q. To start with I know woman like to say stuff like "your wife just needs you to be more affectionate" on these types of forums when men say they have this problem. This isn’t one of those situations at all...let me explain. Me and my wife have been ...
A. 27 December 2012: Sadly it sounds like you are doing what you need to do...
and it sounds like you married her knowing her drive was lower.
so now you have to decide what you want to do....
here are some options for you. granted not all of them work... (read in full...)
Been having an affair. If I don't tell his wife she may be ruining her own life with a cheater!
Q. I've been having an affair with a man who's wife doesn't currently live with him because of their jobs. I am also not sure he's even married to her yet. They live in two different states. She has decided to keep her job because of seniority and ...
A. 26 December 2012: OP how about you write the email and share it with your therapist and not the ex-affair partner..... that way you have closure by saying what you have to say (even in AA making amends is not always about you doing it WITH the person since making ... (read in full...)
What can I do? I love my wife. I miss her. It's no no no too often. It hurts.There is no romance or passion in our marriage
Q. To start with I know woman like to say stuff like "your wife just needs you to be more affectionate" on these types of forums when men say they have this problem. This isn’t one of those situations at all...let me explain. Me and my wife have been ...
A. 26 December 2012: IMO, sexual favors for chores is prostitution on some level. Don’t care if you are married to the woman or not. So my question is: why don't you do chores just because they need to get done? And the answer is… because I would if I knew I was ... (read in full...)
FWB offends me. Is FWB just a cheap way to get easy sex instead of paying a sex worker? Does FWB stand for anything else other than sex?
Q. FWB I don't really like this game because what if the other person start to have feelings? To me it seems to be basically about money. Where does one draw the line and say this is not what I want? I really think FWB is a trade off for free sex. I c...
A. 26 December 2012: FWB is not a game if it’s done the right way. The problem is it’s rarely done the right way. I don’t see how it can be basically about money… Since in my entire life I have known ONE man who used escorts… and I’ve known lots of men, none but this ... (read in full...)
Do I try anal sex or not?
Q. My boyfriend wants to try anal sex with me but I just don't know about trying it. Do I let him have his way or what? and anyone that has tried it can you please explain it like what do you have to do and how does it feel? I only really care about th...
A. 26 December 2012: If you don’t want to try it, then DON’T try it. NO MATTER how much he begs or pleads or bullies and if he does any of those… consider leaving him.
Anal sex if you are not receptive is painful… and even if you are receptive is not always the most... (read in full...)
Do I let him go? I am now drug free. Trying to get my baby back. But my Bf talks the talk but still does drugs.Will he ever wake up and get drug free?
Q. Here's my issue .I met a man a few months ago and things were great. Shortly there after he became a drug addict, shooting drugs all the time. Selling everything. Stealing. I cared about him so much, but being a former drug addict (I quit 5 months...
A. 26 December 2012: congrats on being clean for 5 months.
If you are working your recovery properly you know as well as i do NO RELATIONSHIPS TILL YOU ARE CLEAN FOR A YEAR.
that alone tells you what to do.
Being co-dependent however, (as many addicts are bo... (read in full...)
Early days dating her. But I think I've revealed too much about me too soon. How do I stop a slide into the 'friend zone?'
Q. I've been dating this woman for just over a month and I'm really into her for so many reasons. The problem is I have almost turned mushy or wussy by being too open about my emotions, my past, and what I like about her. I feel embarrassed ...
A. 26 December 2012: My hubby is the girl in the relationship. We were two hours apart the first year and it was hard. An hour is not that much around here...some of us drive that much for a daily work commute....
You like her
she likes you
the relationship is ... (read in full...)
Shall I trust him or not? My friends say he only sees girls for a short time and then dumps them. I don't want to be hurt.
Q. Just recently, one of my friends invited this guy to a movie with me and a couple of friends. He seemed really nice, and we'd been texting each other quite a bit. He then randomly told me he liked me, just completly out of the blue. I have to sa...
A. 26 December 2012: the most important rule for you: NO SEX OR SEXUAL ACTIVITY.
DO NOT let him feel you up... do not give him a hand job or blow jobs.
Dating takes time.
IF you date a boy on friday or staturday night (once a week at your age is about right)... (read in full...)
Been having an affair. If I don't tell his wife she may be ruining her own life with a cheater!
Q. I've been having an affair with a man who's wife doesn't currently live with him because of their jobs. I am also not sure he's even married to her yet. They live in two different states. She has decided to keep her job because of seniority and ...
A. 26 December 2012: If you are only unhappy for such a short period of time and do not want to end the marriage and then the problems started when your child got ill... it's clear to see what the problem is.
STRESS. You and hubby need to seek counseling either t... (read in full...)
Why does he need to look at pictures of naked and semi-naked women? Is it because I've lost fullness in my breasts since breast feeding?
Q. Why would my partner look at naked/ semi naked pictures of women? Porn I can understand, but I guess he's looking at the naked women cos I lost the fullness of my breasts due to breast feeding. I was never big anyway. I don't feel the need to look ...
A. 26 December 2012: Can he look at the Mona Lisa to enjoy it?
Can he look at a Picasso to enjoy it?
I like to look at Leonard Nimoy's Body Project pictures (they are nudes of overweight women) because I find them esthetically pleasing to my eye. He has said... (read in full...)
Why is my Bf so protective about his phone, hardly talks about his family, and is very guarded about his life? Yet does seem to care about me,
Q. Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 months now but only really official I guess for a month. I'm just trying to decide if things are going anywhere with this relationship. He is very weird about his phone and refuses to leave...
A. 26 December 2012: I see a couple of red flags here… the phone being the least of your problems.
1. It’s only three months… not a long period of time, you still should be courting each other and it appears he is not making that effort.
2. Phones are a big issue no... (read in full...)
Been having an affair. If I don't tell his wife she may be ruining her own life with a cheater!
Q. I've been having an affair with a man who's wife doesn't currently live with him because of their jobs. I am also not sure he's even married to her yet. They live in two different states. She has decided to keep her job because of seniority and ...
A. 26 December 2012: OP, do NOT think that kids (no matter how young) do NOT pick up on a parent’s underlying unhappiness.
NEVER stay in a marriage that leaves you unhappy for the sake of the children. THAT is a lousy reason to stay married and as adults y... (read in full...)
Three months of dating. And still have not met his family and friends? Is this normal? Or weird?
Q. My guy and I have been together for 3 months now and I haven't met any of his friends or family nor him mine... Am I jumping the gun to soon or does that seem weird to anyone else, I don't even think his friends know about me but he will talk to m...
A. 26 December 2012: While after 3 months I think it's a bit odd to have not met the friends, I agree as adults meeting the parents (not siblings) signifies a big step in the relationship.
If there are coupled friends you could ask to double date and meet them...... (read in full...)
My fiance said her ex was a better lover.
Q. Hello everyone, sorry for the long post,this is the first time asking a question, although I have been reading many posts here trying to come to terms with something that happened to me recently. I have just recently come back from Europe where I a...
A. 26 December 2012: Jealousy is not about anger or love. Jealousy is an emotion totally rooted in insecurity.
You are the best and you give her the best... trust me. A woman looks at all aspects of her life and for me at least if I have to rate what's impor... (read in full...)
Am I being a complete fool?
Q. I've been in a relationship with a man I'm very much in love with for the past 2-1/2 years. We are both going through a separation however he's a very kind hearted person one of the reasons I love him so much but he also enables his wife quite a ...
A. 25 December 2012: they are married living apart. some couples make it work that way. This way he can have a lady on the side and not bother her for sex....
If you are ready to move on then do so. Without him sadly.
What you tell him is just this:
"Yo... (read in full...)
Been having an affair. If I don't tell his wife she may be ruining her own life with a cheater!
Q. I've been having an affair with a man who's wife doesn't currently live with him because of their jobs. I am also not sure he's even married to her yet. They live in two different states. She has decided to keep her job because of seniority and ...
A. 25 December 2012: OP, I don't think your intentions are pure at all. I think, sadly you are lying to yourself.
First you said: " He has ended the affair because of his own guilt with the affair. I have no issues with him ending the relationship and I understo... (read in full...)
Child Support issues. Am I asking for too much? He thinks so.
Q. After separating from my husband if many years, I started to claim for child support When he got to know this from the agency he sent me a text saying, "can't believe you're doing this to me, taking my kids and family away and now also causing ...
A. 25 December 2012: I'm sorry it does not matter if you can afford to support these kids yourself or not. HE is their FATHER and he has a responsibility to them whether you need his help or not.
I think putting the money away for them that you don't need for day ... (read in full...)
Why is this guy ignoring me? We had a great 3 days together. I know he has a Gf.
Q. I had a great time with a guy for 3 continous days. It wasn't supposed to be a date but we met for a lunch at 1pm....and the date ended up 3am! It was not supposed to be a date as he was leaving the country and he already has a girlfriend. How...
A. 25 December 2012: Yes he's avoiding you.
3 days... it was a flash in the pan.... he is not leaving his gf for you and how convenient that he's leaving the country.
He's one and done honey... move on.
and the important point: IF he did leave his gf f... (read in full...)
Women's perspective on a guy's height please.
Q. Ladies, I'd like to hear from you how you feel about height as it relates to attraction. Is it a non-negotiable for you that your man be taller than you are? What about when he's taller than you, but not taller than you in heels? I'm 5'8" and l...
A. 24 December 2012: I have to be honest... I like tall guys. My dad was 6"2 he's now about 6 feet... my son 6"3" his dad however was 5'7" and my current husband is about the same.
I was nearly 5'5" when I was younger and now I'm a mere 5'2" so even in heels I'... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be addicted to masturbation? It's becoming distracting.
Q. Is it possible to be addicted to masturbation? Can't stop fantasising and it's stressing me out. It's not like I want a boyfriend or want a sexual partner. I rather not be sexually active and get tangled in at all that at the moment.It's real...
A. 24 December 2012: Masturbation at your age is normal.
I think maybe the problem is that you are not doing it enough. The reason it's always on your mind is because you are holding out....
when I was your age it was pretty much a daily event. Usually at b... (read in full...)
Was he over the top to break up over this after 2 years together? Was he looking for an excuse?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up in April of this year. He had found out I was on dating sites again. I did not want to meet anyone, because I was in love with him. I used to go on dating sites to tease the guys on them and had no intention of meet...
A. 24 December 2012: I agree with everything CindyCares said.
BTW you aren't going NO CONTACT... YOU keep trying to contact him... that's not NO CONTACT...
delete his number... block him on socail media...
accept that what you did was horrible. IT was ... (read in full...)
Ended affair last night.What can I do? Is there any point in hoping she could leave him? Or was I just played by her?
Q. I have no one else to talk to. For past year I have been in affair with coworker. Last summer we agreed that we will leave our partners and be together. I did it, she did not so I went NC for next two months. This autumn she started chasi...
A. 24 December 2012: If she was going to leave her husband for you, she would have done it already.
it hurts but you need to tell her that until she can prove to you that she has left him and is on her own you cannot have any contact with her.
she will probably... (read in full...)
Does he really not have any feelings for me anymore?
Q. Hi my name is angel and im 18. Well i just moved to my home state an my mom hand picked a guy out that i should date. Well to get to the point i fell head over heels for him. Well we moved in with his dad becase we both don't have the finances to ...
A. 24 December 2012: I think the first thing you should do is move home to your mom.
then realize that dating someone your mom picks out for you is not always the best idea.
and remember a woman needs a reason to have sex a man just needs a place. A MAN havin... (read in full...)
Why is he talking to be so disrespectfully and accusing me of infidelity? What should I do?
Q. hey guys this guy and I are having sex. Recently he just startd behaving very weird. he has been accusing me of having sex with multiple men while this is something i have never even thought of doing he is the only man am having sex with. ye...
A. 24 December 2012: Even though he has no claim on you and is just a FWB, men in general tend to be possessive.
He's being vulgar and cruel and I would recommend you stop having sex with him.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to do this? And even if it's not, is it wrong not to tell my new Gf that I do watch this type of porn?
Q. Ok I just got into watching cartoon porn nothing like animals or tenticle types mainly just like girls from tv shows like avatar or american dad any way I have a friend who broke up because his girlfriend didn't like him looking at henti I'm st...
A. 24 December 2012: You do not have to volunteer that you watch porn but if she asks you should not lie.
... (read in full...)
Child Support issues. Am I asking for too much? He thinks so.
Q. After separating from my husband if many years, I started to claim for child support When he got to know this from the agency he sent me a text saying, "can't believe you're doing this to me, taking my kids and family away and now also causing ...
A. 24 December 2012: There are amounts that NCP (non-custodial parents) pay based on the number of kids, the amount they earn and the amount the CP earns.
If you WANT to be kind and take less you can but I wouldn't.
Even if he does not see his kids he is requi... (read in full...)
He said his son was conceived in a toilet stall, I can't stop thinking about it.
Q. I am 28 and my boyfriend is 49. He told me something yesterday that has really upset me. I don't even know why he told me ( maybe it was because he was drunk when he told me ). He said that he and his ex wife conceived their son in a toilet cubicle ...
A. 24 December 2012: I too think you are over reacting.
He was with his long term gf, who later became his wife...
Personally I don't see a big issue with it... some folks in their youth would have sex anywhere.
He's close to my age... we were very adve... (read in full...)
Could he change his mind and stay if he falls for me?
Q. I was looking for some advice please. I meet his great guy been on a couple of dates already. He really likes me I think he wants to keep seeing me. The only problem is that he is studying here where I live for a year. After then he plans to move I ...
A. 23 December 2012: Jumping the gun a wee bit I think...
Listen honey, we don't have magic balls. We have no way to know what the future will hold. If we live our lives being scared and not taking risks because we are scared, we are merely surviving and not livi... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't know if we can be more than FWB!
Q. For about a few weeks now, ive had sexual relations with a guy i work with. He is the most attractive guy ive ever been with, and has a beautiful personality. Im completely taken by him, i love his smile, his eyes, his hugs, etc...i wake up excited ...
A. 23 December 2012: If you want MORE than FWB you need to stop FWB NOW.
He's not interested in more. IF he was you would already know it.
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's parents won't let me see her, HELP!!!
Q. My girlfriend's parents have something against me, and I have no clue what to do. The whole thing started when she was over at my house, and my dad was responsible for driving her home, and long story short, he wasn't available at the arranged time. ...
A. 22 December 2012: Her father's house means her father's rules. Until she moves out she has to live by his rules.
Probably best to just be friends till she moves out.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want me to wear makeup or nice clothes
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for these past five months. I love him dearly but he's very possesive. He constantly tells me not to wear make-up and not to wear the latest trends, insisting on letting me wear only shabby clothes. When I tell him why, ...
A. 22 December 2012: Honey his jealousy controlling attempts and possessiveness is NOT a sign that he loves you. DO NOT mistake this behavior for love.
He does not love you. His behavior shows a lack of maturity and self-esteem on his part.
What you need... (read in full...)
Upsetting breakup. then the silent treatment. Is she putting up emotional barriers just to push me away?
Q. So my ex broke up with me 3 months ago after I broke her heart by writing a goodbye message to her and ignoring her for two weeks, then showing up like nothing happened. (I was angry at her for a number of reasons, which I should have talked to her ...
A. 22 December 2012: What you suspect is what you want to believe.
you have apologized.
you have left her alone
she may not have blocked you on phone and facebook because she does not need to block you for her healing... I have not blocked my ex husband but fo... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend let me touch him?
Q. I don't understand, but my boyfriend will touch me anywhere,(lying on my bed with clothes on!) but when I try to touch him, he moves my hand. I've mentioned it a couple of times: why don't you let me touch you and he says that he will "but not yet " ...
A. 21 December 2012: Oh please I lost my virginity at 14 do you think I don't know how you feel?
since you clarified that you want to know if it's NORMAL for him to touch you as you want him to but not let you touch him the way you want or he wants?
I'm ... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself from falling in love with someone I can't be with?
Q. Hi. About a week ago, I posted a question about how I still had lingering feelings for the ex-girlfriend of a friend of mine. I was having trouble dealing with the fact that she was in a loving relationship with another guy and had simply chosen to ...
A. 21 December 2012: you are not going to like my answer but you can stop being friends with her.
that is the only way to protect your heart.... (read in full...)
My inability to orgasm is causing me to not enjoy sex with the man I love.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together just over a year. We love each other very much, he's my best friend, he's so caring and we are very affectionate. However, whenever we have sex.....I just don't enjoy it! I find him incredibly attractive, but ...
A. 21 December 2012: deep sigh...
first of all less than 30% of all women orgasm from penetration alone. it will require manual or probably oral stimulation in order to orgasm. It does not mean anything is wrong with you... that's just the way it is for many wom... (read in full...)
I'm really into this guy and want to move things along, but don't know how.
Q. I'm really into this guy in the year called Jack. We go to the same school and we both row so we see each other quite alot. Whenever we see each other, we start subtly flirting but it normally ends with us just locking eyes and mentally undressing ...
A. 21 December 2012: honey you may be mentally undressing him but he may be thinking "why is this psycho bitch staring at me like she's taking my clothes off"
do NOT project YOUR feelings onto someone else. It's a sure recipe for heartbreak.
If you've mad... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend let me touch him?
Q. I don't understand, but my boyfriend will touch me anywhere,(lying on my bed with clothes on!) but when I try to touch him, he moves my hand. I've mentioned it a couple of times: why don't you let me touch you and he says that he will "but not yet " ...
A. 21 December 2012: are you LETTING him do things to you or do you WANT him to do things to you?
big difference.
don't let him do things you don't want.... (read in full...)
I thought the second date went well but she never responded to my text afterwards. Is she not interested? Should I ask her out again?
Q. I met a woman online and we had a fantastic first date. She is very pretty, funny, kind and we had a lot in common. She asked me out on a 2nd date and texted me afterwards saying she had a great time and she couldn't wait to get together again. ...
A. 21 December 2012: Excellent news OP! thanks for the follow up!
... (read in full...)
I reached out to the friend with whom my husband cheated and I'm afraid it might backfire
Q. I will start at the very beginning, my husband and I have been together since I was 13 and he was 15. We were each others one and only for a very long time. When I was 20 I cheated on him, knew it was wrong came clean within a month and it was...
A. 21 December 2012: have you talked to HIM about it and how he feels?
sounds like they turned to each other as friends when in pain
if you trust him and her now then I can't see any reason not to try as long as you feel you can deal with it... I"m not sure I... (read in full...)
Why Being Pretty Sucks
Q. Little MISLABELED. Pretty girls are often described as bitches, whore, have a bad personality, always want to be in the spotlight. Pretty girls are not always bitches or whore, or attention-seeker. Most of them just want to be treated fairly, ...
A. 21 December 2012: I get what you are saying and it's true.
TRULY beautiful women who don't realize how beautiful they are are often wondering why they are alone... and it's because they may be shy, they don't see themselves as beautiful (and this is a KEY POINT) a... (read in full...)
This relationship feels more like a burden than something good in my life
Q. So, my ex that i was with about 2 years ago recently started talking to me again. We were together for about 11 months until i found out that he suddenly began to have "commitment issues" and was cheating on me. Well once i found out i immediat...
A. 21 December 2012: Your age is 16-17 is that correct?
You have an ex from two years ago so you were 14-16 when you dated? That’s very young…
Of course at this age he had “commitment issues” I’m sorry he cheated on you but you leaving was the right thing ... (read in full...)
I reached out to the friend with whom my husband cheated and I'm afraid it might backfire
Q. I will start at the very beginning, my husband and I have been together since I was 13 and he was 15. We were each others one and only for a very long time. When I was 20 I cheated on him, knew it was wrong came clean within a month and it was...
A. 21 December 2012: OP an you clarify what it is you want to work?... (read in full...)
Seven months since a guy dumped me. Any strategies to get me over this tough time, please?
Q. I was in a relationship with another guy for 7 years. It appeared to be perfect, however obviously not for him. He told me he wanted to be alone and 'find himself'. Within two months he started a relationship with another guy and seems to have mov...
A. 21 December 2012: Well mourning a loss of 7 years commitment in 7 months may not be enough time and it's certainly not if you are still in contact.
You must sever all contact with the ex. Block phone numbers, block email, block social media.
snail mail is... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend let me touch him?
Q. I don't understand, but my boyfriend will touch me anywhere,(lying on my bed with clothes on!) but when I try to touch him, he moves my hand. I've mentioned it a couple of times: why don't you let me touch you and he says that he will "but not yet " ...
A. 21 December 2012: He's said NO and that's not a reflection on YOU, but you must respect his boundaries.
he's not ready.
and to be honest honey for a boy it's NOT harmless petting... he will get aroused and he may want to do things that neither of you ... (read in full...)
I thought the second date went well but she never responded to my text afterwards. Is she not interested? Should I ask her out again?
Q. I met a woman online and we had a fantastic first date. She is very pretty, funny, kind and we had a lot in common. She asked me out on a 2nd date and texted me afterwards saying she had a great time and she couldn't wait to get together again. ...
A. 19 December 2012: call her and ask her out and see what happens.... (read in full...)
My fiance said her ex was a better lover.
Q. Hello everyone, sorry for the long post,this is the first time asking a question, although I have been reading many posts here trying to come to terms with something that happened to me recently. I have just recently come back from Europe where I a...
A. 31 October 2012: FWIW... I left a man who was an awesome lover but had no self-esteem for a lousy lover with great self esteem who loves me like no tomorrow.
It's not about a penis... gawd... we marry MEN we love...
I'd marry him even if he was impotent.
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