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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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Why am I so emotional when I have a good relationship?
Q. dear cupid. my boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. He means the world to me and I can tell that he loves me too. Obviously, if I had any problems with our relationship, I'd go to him but this is something I don't think he'll be a...
A. 31 December 2012: the birth control pills mess with your hormones and that could be what's making you so weepy.... (read in full...)
What are general tips on the types of places suitable for 1st and 2nd dates?
Q. I met somebody from an online dating site. We went to a starbucks near where she lived. There was background music playing and I couldn't hear her properly because she was speaking very softly ( I didn't like her that much, so won't be seeing her ...
A. 28 December 2012: I have to say when I was a younger woman a date to go to the mall and get coffee and walk around would not have impressed me at all....... (read in full...)
Been having an affair. If I don't tell his wife she may be ruining her own life with a cheater!
Q. I've been having an affair with a man who's wife doesn't currently live with him because of their jobs. I am also not sure he's even married to her yet. They live in two different states. She has decided to keep her job because of seniority and ...
A. 28 December 2012: OP, your original questions were:
“My question is do you think he is in as much pain as I am about the affair ending or is he more consumed with guilt and isn't even thinking about me?
And
“Do you think she should know what he's done befo... (read in full...)
I want somebody to love.
Q. I feel like I will never be able to be successful with women. The only girls I have ever been good at flirting with are ones I am not actually attracted to deeply. I'm a virgin at 19 and am going through medicine. I had an ex who I was with for 2 ...
A. 28 December 2012: Ya know OP, I feel safer with my angry 5'7" skinny hubby than I did with my 6'4" 350 pound former ex wrestler hubby who was too much of an emotional wuss to do anything to protect anyone.
At least with my current husband I know I'm so importan... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he found another girl that gives him happiness. Can I get him back?
Q. Have been dating my bf for 3yrs. Recently he started complaining about my attitude, saying am too insecure, demanding, and that he has found another girl that gives him happiness and there is nothing I can do. Truthfully, have been kind of rud...
A. 28 December 2012: Honey he sounds like a real JERK....
I am not sure why you are confused.
He wants you to turn a blind eye while he has sex with another woman to "put her in her place" and you are supposed to be ok with that?... (read in full...)
Torn between my ex and the new guy. What should I do for the best?
Q. I have been torn between to men now for a few months, but I think I have decided to give my ex another chance since we have has such a long history together and we have children together. But I don't know how to let the other man go, because I feel ...
A. 27 December 2012: ah yes you still have the same problem only reversed.
You married a man who is no longer the same man.
if it's JUST communication that's missing, well then counseling will fix that.
we go to counseling about twice a month... mostly to h... (read in full...)
We are both 18. He's a virgin. But his technique needs work. How do I teach him without offending him?
Q. I'm a 18 y/o female, not a virgin. I've only had one sexual partner but he was a lot older and more experienced guy, so the sex was great! He taught me a lot... However I'm now going out with an 18 year old virgin, who hasn't done Anything sexual.....
A. 27 December 2012: of course you tell him... and even show him... what fun to have together and explore this new uncharted area!
... (read in full...)
He "remembers me how good the sex was"? Was that all I ever was to him? I'm so hurt by this.
Q. So it’s been 1 1/2 months since my ex and I broke up and I've slowly started to rebuild up my strength until he decided text me last night out of the blue . He was just asking what I was up to and if I like any boys. He mentioned how word got out...
A. 27 December 2012: you may not have been just about the sex but with him contacting you out of the blue like that and bringing it up he's looking for a booty call honey... Ex partners make the best FWBs...
don't be friends with ex partners... it's never a good ide... (read in full...)
Ruined meal! I am disappointed with my friends and I don't know how to tell them how much. What can I do?
Q. I know there are people on here with real problems but if you could please take a minute to read my post I'd appreciate it. I feel really let down and annoyed by my so called friends. The 4 of us were trying to arrange a meal out before Chr...
A. 27 December 2012: Why can't you say to them "I really don't want to do it again since you guys didn't pull your weight last time"
and why when you got ready to clean up didn't you ask for help?
"bob can you carry in the lasagna pan?"
"sally bring the wine... (read in full...)
I want a relationship with trust and honesty!
Q. I have caught my boyfriend on dating sites 5 times this year. He has promised to stop doing it from now on. He said that all the other times too. I find all i do lately is look for evidence of him doing it again. Just like i have done in the past ...
A. 27 December 2012: There is an old saying “fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me” this man has lied to you and cheated on you FIVE TIMES. Why are you accepting this mistreatment?
YOU do not trust him. YOU WILL NEVER trust him again. And you ... (read in full...)
I am struggling to move on without closure
Q. How do you move on from a relationship without closure? I was with a wonderful man who treated me well for just over 2 years. It was long distance for the majority due to his work but we always ensured we'd see eachother twice a week. He treated me ...
A. 27 December 2012: You have your closure. I have never found folks that could truly be FRIENDS with an ex. friendly yes. civil yes... but FRIENDS.. nope just does not happen.
You deleted him from facebook.... now delete his email address and his phone number... (read in full...)
Why did he change his story? He said he met her twice and now he says he never met her! Bad memory from smoking weed?
Q. Hello, My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years. We met online on a forum. I was aware that he also talked to another woman. I didn't have a problem with it at the time. We got to know each other better and he said he would like...
A. 27 December 2012: It's not the weed. He's lying about it for some reason
It should bother you.
are you sure HE deleted her and not the other way around?
you forget casual things like tv commercials and such when smoking regularly but meeting folks ... (read in full...)
Is this a date with a crush? Or just business?
Q. I work at a coffee shop. I have a huge crush on one of my regular costumers. He's very attractive - very fit with a smile that would make any woman melt. I've liked him for months and last week, he'd given me his number. But not for the reason you ...
A. 27 December 2012: I would not worry about the age gap as you are both over 21...
I know you would like it to be a romantic date but since you are not sure, wait and see how it goes...... (read in full...)
My Bf is totally reluctant to have sex. At all. How do I approach a conversation with him about this so we can work it out?
Q. So my boyfriend is not interested in sex. I know it has nothing to do with me. This is just who he is. His previous relationships have had the same problem. One relationship ended because of it. I have no interest in breaking up with him as ...
A. 27 December 2012: He's either asexual or he's gay and not dealing with it....
and it's NOT a reflection on you but I doubt this is going to be a long term relationship. SEX really is important in any adult relationship and settling for a man who is not sexually... (read in full...)
Has my Gf broken up with me? Due to my phone re-set I can't call her. No a word since last friday? What am I supposed to make of this?
Q. So i been on christmas Break for a couple days now, and i havent heard from my Gf Once. :/ The last time we talked was on Friday because i went over her house so we could spend some time Together. I been waiting for her to text me, call me and it's...
A. 27 December 2012: is she on facebook? are you? can you contact her that way?
does her family have a landline you can look the number up?
and I agree having a backup of your phone is a good idea.
if you have no other way to contact her go see her.
... (read in full...)
Why is my wife's family and my wife keeping big secrets from me? Why is my wife saying she loves me when clearly saying otherwise to others? what are my options?
Q. Hello, My wife and I live across a ocean! She is doing her post grad studies back home and I am working in Europe. Two months after I left for work and medical reasons (operation) my wife started seeing some guy. She had told her friends th...
A. 27 December 2012: she wants the security of a husband and father for her child but the excitement of dating. My ex husband was like that.
she lies to you about her affairs
she lies to her affairs about you. my ex used to tell women that he was unhappy and ... (read in full...)
Enough is enough! His alcoholism has resulted in him threatening me and make me feel insecure. What can I do and where can I seek help?
Q. I have been married for 13 yrs, my husband had been drinking since I met him it didn't use to bother me at first. This is because he will act nice and become nicer later. But lately he had become aggressive. Everytime he drinks he will start acti...
A. 27 December 2012: Are the children citizens? Are you a legal resident? do you work legally?
IF you don't want to leave the country, contact immigration and find out what you can do to stay in the country legally if the kids are citizens.
Once you ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my alcoholic father?
Q. I'm having a crisis of loyalty. I'm 20 years old and for the past 10 years i've been aware that my dad has had a drinking problem - my parents separated soon before this realisation. Throughout the years there have been many instances where ...
A. 27 December 2012: I strongly suggest you contact Al-Anon to help you learn to cope with being the ADULT CHILD OF AN ALCOHOLIC... they have special support groups for people in your situation.
... (read in full...)
My partner was told I was cheating so he decided to look for guys and cheat on me!
Q. I have been in a relationship with a guy for 7.5 years, and everything was going fine until about April of this year,(December now) until I found out that he was registered on several gay dating sites and has a profile complete with risque ...
A. 27 December 2012: he's lying and cheating on you right under you nose.... and you are allowing it.
Its' time to part ways. Hard to do after 7 years but it's probably the only way...... (read in full...)
Torn between my ex and the new guy. What should I do for the best?
Q. I have been torn between to men now for a few months, but I think I have decided to give my ex another chance since we have has such a long history together and we have children together. But I don't know how to let the other man go, because I feel ...
A. 27 December 2012: IT's so hard when we are in love with the man we want HIM TO BE.
Your ex can't and has not provided for your needs in the past, what makes you think he will now?
You are in love with a dream. So many women marry or date the POTENTIAL of the... (read in full...)
Suspicious of my wife. I keep a voice recorder in the house and heard her and my younger brother being over familiar. I am confused.
Q. Hi all, Seeing other posts, I think I can get opinion here. Please suggest for below a thing that occurs in my home. Me and wife, 28 and 24 yrs and are married for 3 years. We have good relationship. But due to some suspicion, I kept voice rec...
A. 27 December 2012: I can just see this "btw honey, I don't' trust you or my brother so I've wired the house and I'm spying on you. I overhead you and my brother the other day when you asked him to check on something on your back...."
I doubt you will be able... (read in full...)
My g/f is always accusing me of cheating and now I find her on dating sites. She tells me to go back to my exs! What do I do?
Q. My girlfriend has been aggressively telling me that i cheat on her. She has been accusing me for months and brings up my sexual history with my ex. I have now found out that she has been on date match sites trying to meet men and saying she is ...
A. 27 December 2012: she is accusing you because she is doing it herself.
her reaction "go back to your sluts" should be met with
"thank you I will"
then leave
block her phone
block her email
block her on social media
WHEN you leave she will proba... (read in full...)
I want somebody to love.
Q. I feel like I will never be able to be successful with women. The only girls I have ever been good at flirting with are ones I am not actually attracted to deeply. I'm a virgin at 19 and am going through medicine. I had an ex who I was with for 2 ...
A. 27 December 2012: Dear OP, you are your own worst enemy. Because YOU feel (personal feelings on YOUR part) that you will never be successful you don’t’ allow it to happen. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy.
If you can flirt with girls that you don’t have a stak... (read in full...)
Is pursuing a masters degree with a baby realistic?
Q. Hi Everyone! I'm looking to hear from people (especially women) that have raised a family while pursuing their post-secondary education. I'm currently 25 years old and a full-time university student working toward two degrees (simultaneously)...
A. 27 December 2012: I could never do school and a baby.... but that's me.
and I don't think in this day and age 30 is too old to have a child.
if you are concerned about early menopause talk to your doctor... I'm thinking there are tests they can run to see ... (read in full...)
I packed my bags and left after he hid me from his mother.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2years going into our 3rd. We have been living together for 2years straight. Last year he cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend and i forgave him. Earlier this year we went for an HIV test and discovered he was HIV+...
A. 27 December 2012: He cheated on you
he put you at risk for HIV
he lies to his family about you
he hides you (after a nearly 3 year relationship) from his mom
you packed your bags and left... GOOD FOR YOU.
do i think you were harsh? NO WAY.... (read in full...)
I want to get back with my wife. I know deep inside she wants to give me another chance!
Q. Hello, I am looking for advice to help me get back together with my wife. We were married for 8 years, knew each other for 15 probably, we have two boys 8 and 11. As people know that have kids, the intimacy in a relationship goes out the the door...
A. 27 December 2012: I totally agree with the last poster...
YOU hugging her and touching her and BITING HER ON HER NECK... if my ex did that to me when he wanted to get back together I would have filed assault charges. I think she lets you do it since you do... (read in full...)
My girlfriend slept at her ex boyfriend's house on Christmas and didn't tell me. What am I supposed to think?
Q. I don't know why my girlfriend would sleep at her ex boyfriend place on Christmas and didn't tell me. She says that him and her are now friends and she's not text me that much either, probably either she's busy or having a wonderful time with him, ...
A. 27 December 2012: a girlfriend that sleeps at her ex boyfriends house on Christmas and can't bother to be in touch with you is an EX girlfriend.
she's done with you and just too chicken to tell you.
she's counting on you continuing to be a wuss and let her do w... (read in full...)
My bf likes to sleep with other people and doesn´t mind if I do either
Q. I recently met this guy online who has since told me that he thinks we were made for each other. I was totally into him from the second we first met. We have mind blowing sex and he says he has never loved anyone or anything until he met me. He a...
A. 27 December 2012: Since I am a former swinger and I made the choice to swing and then when circumstances changed I made the choice NOT to swing... I think I can speak to the fact, that folks CHOOSE to be in the lifestyle and can CHOOSE NOT TO BE as well.
... (read in full...)
What can I do? I love my wife. I miss her. It's no no no too often. It hurts.There is no romance or passion in our marriage
Q. To start with I know woman like to say stuff like "your wife just needs you to be more affectionate" on these types of forums when men say they have this problem. This isn’t one of those situations at all...let me explain. Me and my wife have been ...
A. 27 December 2012: Sadly it sounds like you are doing what you need to do...
and it sounds like you married her knowing her drive was lower.
so now you have to decide what you want to do....
here are some options for you. granted not all of them work... (read in full...)
Why am I so emotional when I have a good relationship?
Q. dear cupid. my boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. He means the world to me and I can tell that he loves me too. Obviously, if I had any problems with our relationship, I'd go to him but this is something I don't think he'll be a...
A. 27 December 2012: how long have you been this tearful? the whole time or is it recent?
have you gone on birth control pills in the last few months?... (read in full...)
He's married but keeps looking at me. I can't stop thinking about him!
Q. i really like this local guy who i see sometimes on my commute. theres been lots of eye contact between us and theres definate chemistry there. but he is married he stared at me one evening for about ten seconds i was in shock and didnt say ...
A. 27 December 2012: You need to let it go.
He manned up and told you he was married because he does not have any intentions of doing something to jeopardize his marriage. You have to respect that.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he found another girl that gives him happiness. Can I get him back?
Q. Have been dating my bf for 3yrs. Recently he started complaining about my attitude, saying am too insecure, demanding, and that he has found another girl that gives him happiness and there is nothing I can do. Truthfully, have been kind of rud...
A. 27 December 2012: If you truly love him you will let him go.
He is right, you can't make him love you and there is nothing you can do.
The only thing you can do is let him go.... (read in full...)
I've been having an affair for 9 years. I know it's wrong, but how can I break away?
Q. Hi all. I love this guy totally but he's married, so am I. Been trying to stop seeing each other for years. We been together 9yrs now. Each time we fail and whenever we do, we desire each other more and get closer. We have great fun, time ...
A. 27 December 2012: why not divorce your spouses and marry each other?... (read in full...)
My bf likes to sleep with other people and doesn´t mind if I do either
Q. I recently met this guy online who has since told me that he thinks we were made for each other. I was totally into him from the second we first met. We have mind blowing sex and he says he has never loved anyone or anything until he met me. He a...
A. 27 December 2012: I was a swinger in my last marriage. I had multiple partners and my spouse did too. We had many friends who were long term marriages (over 2 years each) who were swingers some who happily raised children.
So I disagree that being a family m... (read in full...)
Been having an affair. If I don't tell his wife she may be ruining her own life with a cheater!
Q. I've been having an affair with a man who's wife doesn't currently live with him because of their jobs. I am also not sure he's even married to her yet. They live in two different states. She has decided to keep her job because of seniority and ...
A. 26 December 2012: OP how about you write the email and share it with your therapist and not the ex-affair partner..... that way you have closure by saying what you have to say (even in AA making amends is not always about you doing it WITH the person since making ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is getting paranoid and insecure since our relationship became long distance. What can I do?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for six years since high school. We went to the same uni, however I'm a med student so I'm doing my placement near my uni (Cambridge), my boyfriend has graduated already and he's back in London, we're finding it difficult ...
A. 26 December 2012: He's probably picking up on the fact that the relationship has run it's course and you are ready to move on.
You just haven't made that move yet.
I'll be honest if you are 21 and have been with him 6 years that's a long time at your age an... (read in full...)
I'm too insecure about my body to get physically intimate with my boyfriend. Any suggestions?
Q. So, I'm really insecure about my body to the point where I mostly wear dark colours, slouchy materials in clothing etc. I have my moments when I wear form fitting pieces and I get a lot of compliments but I never take it seriously. Anyway, back on ...
A. 26 December 2012: relax. I met my current husband after I had lost a ton of weight and had such horrible sagging skin I had to have major reconstructive surgery....
I hated letting him see my body and to make myself feel better I bought underwire nighties... (read in full...)
In a FWB relationship should I be angry that he stood me up?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for quite a short time. It started out as a one night stand but we have been seeing each others again after that. It is clear it is nothing else than for sex, which is fine with me since I am recently single and not really ...
A. 26 December 2012: why in the world did you let him move in?
if it's just two weeks and then he moves abroad, tough it out and then make your goodbyes and let him go. he's using you sweetie.... (read in full...)
What do you call a man who breaks up with you, then pretends it didn't happen and expects you to miss him?
Q. Thank you for helping people even in the busiest time of the year. Well I guess for some it's the most leisurely time of the year, and some the loneliest time. I had been dating my ex for three months. It's fair to call him an ex because he broke up...
A. 26 December 2012: It's so not your fault. YOU are not that powerful in anyone's life but your own.
You can make suggestions but you can't force anyone to make a choice they don't want to make.... (read in full...)
Was it wrong to send a message, instead of seeing him or calling?
Q. I feel terrible... I've known this guy for about four months, two of which we've been dating. He was really sweet to me, I'm still a virgin (and almost 21 y/o) and he was so nice and patient. We did some stuf, but he would never push me and made ...
A. 26 December 2012: Nope I think you did fine. It was never a real relationship.
he visits his parents every weekend? I doubt it. I'm betting there are other women out there he sees on weekends.
you never talked on the phone you only texted and facebooked.
... (read in full...)
How do I go to see him?
Q. Hello everybody :) First of all im really happy to have found this website because i realized i am not fully in control of my relationship problems.Here is my little story and my questions. I've been with this amazing guy in a long distance r...
A. 26 December 2012: You are 16/17
you say the only way you can go see him NEXT SUMMER is if you win a contest. THIS is NOT a PLAN. This is a hope and a dream.
I can tell you that probably by next summer you will be done with this LDR boy.
He's not a co... (read in full...)
Long distance relationship revolving around sex good or bad?
Q. Hi, I have a man I met on this blogging website. Naturally people tend to meet kindrid spirits there. I met a man and we both wanted to meet so bad. So we did and hit it off hard. Now we are in a long distance relationship, from florida to idaho...
A. 26 December 2012: if you have nothing to talk about other than sex what keeps you tied to each other?
Other than sex what do you talk about?
how often do you two see each other IRL?
... (read in full...)
What do you call a man who breaks up with you, then pretends it didn't happen and expects you to miss him?
Q. Thank you for helping people even in the busiest time of the year. Well I guess for some it's the most leisurely time of the year, and some the loneliest time. I had been dating my ex for three months. It's fair to call him an ex because he broke up...
A. 26 December 2012: You call them mentally unstable.
YOU are not wrong... this guy has serious issues....
what you need to do is call him one last time and say
"look I really can't make this work on any level and I would rather us not have any contact any mor... (read in full...)
I'm lesbian and I don't now how to tell My family
Q. Help !!! I have Been lesbian since i remember but the problem is that nobody knows just a friend but i dont now how to tell My parents im afraid they are going to judge me and the thing is that i have to fake that i like guys ...
A. 26 December 2012: would you have to tell them if you were straight?
I can't wait for the day that everyone accepts everyone else no matter what.
I hate that whole "coming out" kind of thing... like it's magical because you are gay.
Are your parents very ver... (read in full...)
I am having panic attacks after having oral sex. Is this normal?
Q. A night or so ago, my husband and I were getting ready for bed and started fooling around. This is normal, except we decided to try something new this time. Neither of us had participated in oral before so we figured it might be fun. Since then ...
A. 26 December 2012: NOPE NOT normal. and if it continues I strongly suggest therapy to NIP IT IN THE BUD.
did you have a bad experience? IF so that could explain the panic attack.
for me to perform oral I have to have control... I prefer my husband on his... (read in full...)
What are general tips on the types of places suitable for 1st and 2nd dates?
Q. I met somebody from an online dating site. We went to a starbucks near where she lived. There was background music playing and I couldn't hear her properly because she was speaking very softly ( I didn't like her that much, so won't be seeing her ...
A. 26 December 2012: Coffee is always good... you could have asked them to turn the music down a bit... we've done that at places when they have zones they don't realize that some zones get too loud with settings that work for other zones.
You could go to a quieter... (read in full...)
What can I do? I love my wife. I miss her. It's no no no too often. It hurts.There is no romance or passion in our marriage
Q. To start with I know woman like to say stuff like "your wife just needs you to be more affectionate" on these types of forums when men say they have this problem. This isn’t one of those situations at all...let me explain. Me and my wife have been ...
A. 26 December 2012: IMO, sexual favors for chores is prostitution on some level. Don’t care if you are married to the woman or not. So my question is: why don't you do chores just because they need to get done? And the answer is… because I would if I knew I was ... (read in full...)
Been having an affair. If I don't tell his wife she may be ruining her own life with a cheater!
Q. I've been having an affair with a man who's wife doesn't currently live with him because of their jobs. I am also not sure he's even married to her yet. They live in two different states. She has decided to keep her job because of seniority and ...
A. 26 December 2012: If you are only unhappy for such a short period of time and do not want to end the marriage and then the problems started when your child got ill... it's clear to see what the problem is.
STRESS. You and hubby need to seek counseling either t... (read in full...)
Been having an affair. If I don't tell his wife she may be ruining her own life with a cheater!
Q. I've been having an affair with a man who's wife doesn't currently live with him because of their jobs. I am also not sure he's even married to her yet. They live in two different states. She has decided to keep her job because of seniority and ...
A. 26 December 2012: OP, do NOT think that kids (no matter how young) do NOT pick up on a parent’s underlying unhappiness.
NEVER stay in a marriage that leaves you unhappy for the sake of the children. THAT is a lousy reason to stay married and as adults y... (read in full...)
Been having an affair. If I don't tell his wife she may be ruining her own life with a cheater!
Q. I've been having an affair with a man who's wife doesn't currently live with him because of their jobs. I am also not sure he's even married to her yet. They live in two different states. She has decided to keep her job because of seniority and ...
A. 25 December 2012: OP, I don't think your intentions are pure at all. I think, sadly you are lying to yourself.
First you said: " He has ended the affair because of his own guilt with the affair. I have no issues with him ending the relationship and I understo... (read in full...)
In a FWB relationship should I be angry that he stood me up?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for quite a short time. It started out as a one night stand but we have been seeing each others again after that. It is clear it is nothing else than for sex, which is fine with me since I am recently single and not really ...
A. 30 September 2012: I happen to agree that since consideration is good enough for strangers it's even more important for friends. INCLUDING FWB.... (read in full...)
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