Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 9 January 2013: OP: GET OVER IT!!!! You've absolutely GOT to have something better to fret over.
If you can't think of any such thing.... let me remind you that about 30% of the people in this world will go to bed hungry tonight. ... and all you can worry ab... (read in full...)
He is special to me. What can I do to make my husband feel like he is really special to me?
Q. im a stay at home mom with three children aged 2 to 7 years. Last night my husband said i don't do half of what he does. i feel bad. i take care of house hold and kids no break. i keep a clean house. He takes care of us to the max. always buyi...
A. 5 January 2013: While my first reaction is to suggest that you take him aside and tell him how much of an A$S he is being.... I'd like to put that aside and suggest this:
He's saying things to you, which things are hurtful and divisive..... They're really k... (read in full...)
Please help a young marriage before it becomes another divorce statistic
Q. I'm only 19 and my husband and I just got married when we got married I was 8 months pregnant with our twins. Our twins are now 6 weeks old and he does even seem like he loves me. I don't want us to get a divorce my parents were and so is his. I ...
A. 5 January 2013: I suggest that you be a good Mom to the twins..... be a good wife to your hubby.... and patiently wait to see what happens over time......
Consider that, now that you have two kids to tend to, you and hubby don't have carte blanche for all the ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my beautiful sister would steal my boyfriend away from me
Q. I'm embarrassed to speak of this, but my older sister is beautiful. We look a lot alike, but she definitely looks more mature and gets more male attention. I worry that when I bring a boyfriend to a family gathering, he will see her and find her ...
A. 5 January 2013: My advice is to agree with you... that it IS "pathetic".
Here's why:
1. IF your Sister is such a b**ch that she WOULD steal a B/F from you... THEN you surely are stuck with one heck of a Sister.... (Let's call her "the Sister from Hell"),... (read in full...)
I can't forget my crush!
Q. Hello I was wondering if you can help me because I really like this guy from my school but the thing is I don't actually know even know his name or had a course with him(both of us go to the same university) I know it sounds crazy but I started to ...
A. 5 January 2013: I felt the same way about Shirley MacLain, after I first saw her in "The Apartment" (circa 1959).....
By 1990.... I figured out that she wasn't going to reply to ANY of my letters.... so I dropped her like a hot potato...... You can do the same... (read in full...)
Why will my girlfriend not stop going on dating sites?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend just short of two years. She has been going on dating sites like it`s a habit for at least the past year. She has lied and lied about it, but she surely knows that I know different. We have been broke up over Christmas ...
A. 5 January 2013: You write, "Does this mean nothing will ever change?"
Yep. Ball's in your court....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend addicted to sex? Will he cheat on me?
Q. It will be our two year anniversary on march 25th. On our year anniversary i lost my virginity to him. Other than me, he's only had sex with one other girl (or claims so).. and i believe him since he was basically horrible and quick in bed, haha. ...
A. 5 January 2013: IF you choose to continue putting out for a guy because "...i'm really scared that if i don't give him sex, he'll find someone else that will..." .... then you have established a "relationship" based on HIS preferences.... AND (more importantly) ... (read in full...)
How can I break this cycle of him distancing himself?
Q. Hi All, I've been with by boyfriend for a year now and just spend a lovely week together over Christmas with his family after spending 5 weeks apart. Were semi long distance but text daily. Everything was great and we have 2 holidays lined u...
A. 5 January 2013: What he's "telling" you is that he likes to see you on HIS terms.... and that YOUR terms are of no importance......
AND, YOU now have an opportunity to VALIDATE his position (that it doesn't really matter what you think or want).... OR, to stand... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me he doesn't know if I'm the one. Should I end things?
Q. Hi, Well I am having great relationship problems. I feel very lost and don't know what to do. My boyfriend told me he loved me and things were great between us. Then i noticed he was acting off with me and on questioning him he said he didn't k...
A. 5 January 2013: Once "he said he didn't know if I was the one and he didn't love me...." then all bets were off... And when "He said He wants to take things slowly with me to see if he would develop such feelings..." ... that was YOUR cue to say, "Fine.... once you ... (read in full...)
To protect financial assets is it possible to live with man I broke up with in the home we purchased?
Q. Is it possible to live with your ex even though you have broken up? We've just bought a house together that is a joint bond. I've experience a lot from my boyfriend which I can no longer bear, but my problem is the house because I cannot let him ...
A. 4 January 2013: If you and he own the house as tenants-in-common, then you each own "half" of it....
Your choices are clear:
1. You and he can continue to live at that address, or,
2. One of you can move to another address....
In the case of 2., if you... (read in full...)
He's asked me to sign a Pre-nup! It made me Soooo Mad. Should I just sign the thing?
Q. So my boyfriend of 3 years is in the US Army and on Skype one night he told me to go to my front door. He had someone go write on my front porch step "will you marry me?" And the ring box sitting there with a vase of flowers. When I went ba...
A. 4 January 2013: Please remember; a pre-nuptial agreement is for the benefit/protection of BOTH parties (it must be, or it can easily be voided)....
So.... instead of being "sooooo mad," calm down, review the agreement... get qualifed advice.... and get on with ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with his constant baseless accusations?
Q. My boyfriend constantly accuses me of the smallest stupidest things. For an example, today we were supposed to get out of the house, and go out to eat. He decides to bring along his friend. We're in the restaurant have out food and I looked at ...
A. 4 January 2013: You write: "I don't know what you're supposed to do with a person who acts this way...."
One good answer is that you get away from them (him) and never look back. Despite the complications that you noted (your moving, and all...), over time, ov... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my current boyfriend or return to my playboy ex?
Q. I met this guy over the Internet. We started talking and we ended up falling head over hills for eachother. As we started to become more serious we started to be open about our relationship. I told my friends and then my family. My family disappro...
A. 4 January 2013: You've described a repulsive man-whore (your own words), and a second guy with whom you have an intimacy mismatch...
The only question that I can detect is: Why would you want to spend even a minute with either one of them?
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend arranged for his 4 year old daughter to live with us without talking to me first
Q. I am a 24 year old dating a wonderful 32 year old man. I've known from the beginning that he has a 4 year old daughter from an ex- girlfriend. We live in Colorado, and the daughter lives with her mother in Florida. My borfriend visits his daughter ...
A. 4 January 2013: No, you are not being selfish or unreasonable....
What you are doing is adding a new chapter, with a new twist, to the story of why single women should NOT "move in with" a "boyfriend..."
You'll be wise if you re-consider your "relationship" w... (read in full...)
He's using emotional blackmail to resist the breakup
Q. I am in a very confused state of mind right now. I have a boyfriend from 4 months. I recently discovered that he was a great flirt before we came in contact.He claims that he is "changed" now and won't leave me or betray me. He also spoke to his ...
A. 4 January 2013: Whatever he might do after you dump his sorry keister is NOTE OF YOUR BUSINESS... I suggest that you NOT fall for this B/S.... which you so accurately described as "blackmail".....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I'm having a difficult time letting go of my cheating/lying girlfriend.
Q. I feel so broken and hopeless. Im having a difficult time letting go of my cheating/lying girlfriend. We've broken up several times only to get back together. My heart still yearn for her, she was the first woman I fell for and had sex with. This ...
A. 4 January 2013: The first girl who put out for a guy is ALWAYS the most difficult girl to break from......
HOWEVER..... IF she is a lying, cheating b**ch, then that makes it a little easier to pull the trigger and dump her lying, cheating a$$.
So, get about... (read in full...)
He wants to break up --- is my old engagement ring just an excuse?
Q. I have a boyfriend of 6 months where things have been progressing quite quickly. This morning he called to call off the relationship because he realized 2 days ago that I was wearing an engagement ring from a previous man. Please note that as we ...
A. 4 January 2013: From the information in your submittal, I'd conclude that he has gone and found another girl for himself, and is using that "ring thing" as an excuse to dump you.....
Don't worry about him... and get on with you life. There IS another guy out ... (read in full...)
Got mad when I found him clubbing with other girls, then he drops me?!
Q. Hello everyone i really need some advice!! I caught my boyfriend with girls on a night out and dancing with one of them and was really drunk and lashed out! we were fine afterwards and the next day he dropped me home and i phone him within an hour ...
A. 4 January 2013: There is a "breakup" going on here. You are one of those in that breakup (your boyfriend is dumping you!)....
Figure out how to handle THAT.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I need tips on moving on and letting go!
Q. Hi there, (a long story short) So two years ago I was involved with this lovely man, he was everything I wanted I fell in love with him but unfortunately the romance came to an end when he moved away for work. However now, two years on I am ...
A. 4 January 2013: Yes.... take up a hobby that dominates your time and mental energy......
If, ever in the future, this guy becomes available to you... then address this matter, then....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How can I ask him for another hookup without sounding slutty or needy?
Q. After coming out of a very serious relationship and getting my heart broken i've decided to swear off realtionships for a while and just have fun. So basically at a party I hooked up with one of my male friends and we had pretty awesome sex. The ...
A. 4 January 2013: It seems pretty inconsistent that you are content to be a "booty call" for this guy.... but you're worried about its appearance......
Make a decision.... if you ARE a booty call.... then all or most of the delicacies of courtship are out the door... (read in full...)
Am I more than just a booty call?
Q. I've known this guy for 10 years now, starting back in elementary school. We went separate ways in middle school, but reunited in high school. We hung out a lot and then one day we kissed. I started to like him from then on, but he kept sending me ...
A. 4 January 2013: He is quite pleased that/if you put out for him.... and, beyond that, he doesn't really give a darn about you. Is that the kind of guy that you want to share intimacies with????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He treats me like just another friend! I question how deep his feelings are for me!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been having problems. We've been fighting all day and night because of it. I feel like I'm putting my all into our relationship (quit talking to ex's for him, tell him everyday how much he means to me, ect.) I have got ...
A. 4 January 2013: Sooo, what's the "question"?????? He's pretty "ho, hum" about YOU..... whilest you, meanwhile, are doing all you can to have a "relationship" with him......
I wouldn't waste my time with this guy....
Good luck..... (read in full...)
How do you define "cheating"?
Q. Hello everyone? My question is very simple, and i'm just interested in knowing what your opinions are on this. What do YOU class as cheating? I'm going through a situation right now where i'm wondering whether the lad i'm close to is 'cheeting' o...
A. 4 January 2013: Considering the tone of the question that you're asking... I feel pretty confident telling you that this DOG that you are fooling around with is CHEATING......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I'm interested in hearing from aunts with counseling, psychology, social work studies or careers.
Q. Howdy aunts and uncles, love your work by the way :) So basically I've lost my job a couple of weeks ago, wasn't an enjoyable job, just something to pay the bills and now I'm ready to pursue a career in something I'm interested in. Which has l...
A. 4 January 2013: Here's how I "helped" people during my career:
I was an Engineer... and worked for companies which made pumps and turbines.... I was a Service Engineer. That meant that people who had problems (of MANY sorts) contacted me and sought my advice..... (read in full...)
PNOK? What does that mean? He's in the army and wants me to be his PNOK? Is he being genuine?
Q. I met an army man in the dating site and now he's and Afghanistan and now we're talking for more then 2-1/2 months I like him so much and love him, and this's my first time a date someone from the Army, and also he told me that will be returned...
A. 3 January 2013: Because of the size of my potantial estate, I have siblings and nieces and nephews and grands all clamoring over who will be my PNOK.....
One thing is for sure... I will NOT name that cute waitress where I take breakfast each day.... as she has ... (read in full...)
How do I maintain the balance in this relationship? Being a gentleman but not a doormat, sensitive guy but not a wimp?
Q. I am in a relationship with a 28yr old woman and the chemistry seems amazing.)dating nearly 2 months, yes we are exlclusive) This past weekend we discussed who pays for what on dates and she told me it is important for her that the guy pays, th...
A. 3 January 2013: It atarts with coffee at Starbucks.... and escalates to two weeks in the Virgin Islands..... then, a new BMW every year.....
When a woman insists on a man paying for any-/everything they do.... that should set off an alarm that she is REALLY j... (read in full...)
Why does my wife insist on lying about my penis size?
Q. As I have said on previous posts, my wife has had about of 25 sexual partners before me (we met each other when she was 40). She is a very well educated and very kind person. At the begining we were very open during our conversations and at that ...
A. 3 January 2013: When I read your submittal I couldn't help but imagine two people - a man and a woman - in bed.... and him with an enormous "manhood"... and her saying to him: "My, what a cute little peeny you have there....."
C'mon, wake up!!!! Fixating... (read in full...)
What do you think this message means?
Q. What do you think this message means ?. It's from a guy that i know. He said "i want us to be close but you never reply much and yes we got on great and i ruined it as i didnt want a relationship and now your with your boyfriend i am just wanting ...
A. 3 January 2013: When a guy writes: "...."i want us to be close but you never reply much and yes we got on great and i ruined it as i didnt want a relationship and now your with your boyfriend i am just wanting to be friends but without him i would still want to be ... (read in full...)
It's legal in my country to marry a cousin. I seek your thoughts on my ideas about marrying please?
Q. I think the West may frown on this but I don’t care . I don’t live there anymore. In my country not being married by age 30 is weird n nor normal generally. I’ve been in relationships and they have failed in part because of immaturity and ...
A. 3 January 2013: If your first cousin is blisterin' hot....who could blame you for wanting to marry her??????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why did my husband not include me on the pregnancy email?
Q. I recently entered my second trimester in my pregnancy. My husband and I are both very excited about having a baby. He recently sent a mass email to his co-workers and our friends announcing our pregnancy, but he didn't include me on the email. I ...
A. 3 January 2013: MAYBE he didn't "e-mail" you because he goes to bed at night.... and his pillow is right next to your's..... and so all he has to do is WHISPER to you the contents of that email message.....
Geeeesh, get OVER it!!!!
Good luck......... (read in full...)
I can't get these images of his getting lap dances (before we were married) out of my mind!
Q. I am upset abt the fact that my husband (then boyfriend) got fully nude lap dances at gentlemans clubs/strip bars at least 6-8 times before we were married. Although we were living in different places at the time n it was an on off thing, but we ...
A. 2 January 2013: Here's one incentive for you to "forgive and forget":
IF you DON'T ("forgive and forget") then your lingering disdain - and the drama and angst that it triggers for you (and him) - will probably scuttle your marriage.
Which is your preferen... (read in full...)
Do we go on with our family life as is and very rare sex? How do I fix this?
Q. Hi everyone. I am sure this is a common question on here but I will ask anyway because I am really depressed about the situation. Here goes…I’m 37 and wife is 38. We have been married for 12 years and have three awesome kids, 10, 6 and 4. My ...
A. 2 January 2013: You write this: "To my disappointment, we had a talk about this last night and she cried and said that we are best friends, she loves me, but are more like and roommates and that she has a hard time thinking of me as anything else and she hates ... (read in full...)
I have a very bitchy mother-in-law who refuses to let go of her son's umbilical cord
Q. I have a very bitchy mother in law who refuses to let go of her son's umbilical cord !!!! She came to live with us last to last summer and made my life a living hell. To this day those memories keep haunting me! I have talked to my husband abt it, ...
A. 2 January 2013: I note this sentence in your submittal: "It's almost like she is trying to compete with me in many ways."
In fact.... she IS competing with you.... and WINNING!!!! It's incumbent on your hubby to develop a spine and tell Mommy that he is no lo... (read in full...)
My friend's boyfriend tried to kiss me but now claims it was my fault, and my friend believes him over me!
Q. Hello. I have a really close group of female friends and have been.since school age really. I moved over here when i was 13 as my mum and dad divorced and she remarried my stepfather, and he moved to ireland for work reason. Anyway i was really ...
A. 2 January 2013:
The nice thing about "friendships" (as opposed to "marriages") is that, when a "friend" behaves inappropriately, or naively, or in any other way that is not in your mutual-best-interest, you can simply dump him/her from your roster of frie... (read in full...)
I believe it's just lunch. But why not tell his partner that he goes to lunch with women sometimes? Is it cheating?
Q. Ok, this is my question. If a man that you are in a serious relationship with does not tell you that he is having lunch dates with different women (strickly as friends) is that cheating? He always mentions his lunch dates with men, but for some ...
A. 2 January 2013: I think there are lots of other details that apply to your question. For example:
- Is this a one-on-one lunch? ... or part of a group who takes lunch together?
- Is it the same woman? ... often?
- What are the alternative lunch/eating... (read in full...)
Cheating and guilty men?
Q. I understand that both men and women can have the possibility to cheat and some act on that. My question is directed towards men. Do men who cheat, specifically married men, actually feel guilty for what they are doing? And if they do, wher...
A. 2 January 2013: In order for a person to feel guilty about cheating (or anything else) they must have a conscience - or some moral/ethical standards - that are breached by the cheating....
There is a large spectrum of "conscience"..... from those who are terribly... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend care that his brother is trying to get with me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 16 months now... we've overcome a lot of stuff, and we are doing better. But through out the relationship, his brother has flirted with me on several occasions, even tried to gett me in his bed at one ...
A. 2 January 2013: I'm assuming that these brothers are of age about 10 and 12 years old, no? ...'Cuz, from your description, they are working on sharing a toy (you!)...
You'll probably be happier when you are away from both of them....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Her 19yr old daughter is meddling in our relationship!
Q. Ok, so here's my situation. I dated this girl for about a year and half. We had alot of great days together and also a lot of problems as well. Last January we bacame engaged. Soon after that our problems got worse. Our problems were mainly focused ...
A. 2 January 2013: This is a problem ONLY between the Mother and the daughter.
IF your G/F feels that she must kowtow to her kids (as the evidence suggests), then you have to reconcile yourself to being "second fiddle" in her life.... Incidentally, even if daughter... (read in full...)
My online love interest said we weren't just going to be bed buddies!
Q. Hello everyone, I started internet dating and first person I spoke to was really nice, we spoke for a long time and he said wasn't looking for just bed buddy but a relationship. Ended up sleeping together, thing is he seems to be treating me l...
A. 2 January 2013: Just about any and every guy will say whatever is necessary to get a woman to believe how wonderful he is... so that he can cajole her in to putting out for him...
Tennisstar told you the truth.......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I am genuinely not physically happy, but my partner gives me everything else I need. What do I do?
Q. I am genuinely not physically happy, but she gives me every thing else I need. Security, love, and compassion are what she encompasses, but she lacks the intimacy and sexual fulfillment that I long for. I honestly don't know what happened, I mean I ...
A. 2 January 2013: Does she know what you've described in this submittal? If not, why not start by sharing this (submittal) with her?
IF you have (spoken with her)... then two other thoughts come to mind: 1. your having a physical exam, to confirm that all syst... (read in full...)
Can a relationship work when age, tastes and especially nationality are so different and the language between you both is limited?
Q. I have a thing for my work mate and things have happened between us in the past, a kiss here and there, flirting ect. But we have a lot of differences between us, he is almost 28 and I'm just 22, things like our music taste is completely differen...
A. 2 January 2013: That tired old saw - "Love conquers all" - comes to mind.
How about looking over your submittal again...and imagine that, instead of focusing on those differences as impediments to your budding relationship, you try, instead, to view them as some ... (read in full...)
I do not like the fact that my B/f was previously engaged and shared so many great memories with his ex
Q. I have a boyfriend who was with a woman for 7 years they were engaged (I do not know for how long). Anyways, their relationship was mainly long distance with her in Europe and him in the U.S. He would basically fly to Europe to be with her multiple ...
A. 2 January 2013: No... it's not "wrong" for you to feel as you've described, OR any other way....
What's out-of-sync - as you describe it - is that you would like to be with a man who is not too worldly.... and you'd like to share your exploration of this world wi... (read in full...)
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