He hasn't made a move in 6 months, why?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months and I'm very much in love with him, I've had many boyfriends before but none that I felt so much love for like I do for him. I was in an emotionally and sexually abusive relationship a couple years ...
A. 21 October 2013: Your guy is carrying the "four date" rule to its most extreme. I suggest that you proceed with EXTREME caution!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I'm at a breaking point because of his rejections!
Q. I know this question gets asked alot but I'm still confused about my situation. I'm head over heels in love with my boyfriend of over a year so was delighted when he asked me to move in with him recently. He's so caring and sweet to me he's the o...
A. 21 October 2013: There is SOMETHING that happens when a girl moves in with a guy.....
I consulted with one of my guy books, entitled, "Congratulations for getting her to move in with you... now YOU hold all the cards"..... which books subtitle is "Congrat... (read in full...)
Would a guy ever leave a woman if he really loved her?
Q. My ex boyfriend broke up with me and said.. "I'll always love you..You were an amazing girlfriend" What does this mean?? Would a guy ever leave a woman if he really loved her?...
A. 21 October 2013: The most - perhaps the ONLY - important word in your whole submittal is "were" ("... you WERE an amazing girlfriend")
What that REALLY means is: "I really liked the sex with you... but have been looking about... and think that I can have sex... (read in full...)
Would a guy ever leave a woman if he really loved her?
Q. My ex boyfriend broke up with me and said.. "I'll always love you..You were an amazing girlfriend" What does this mean?? Would a guy ever leave a woman if he really loved her?...
A. 21 October 2013: The most - perhaps the ONLY - important word in your whole submittal is "were" ("... you WERE an amazing girlfriend")
What that REALLY means is: "I really liked the sex with you... but have been looking about... and think that I can have sex... (read in full...)
I have some doubts about him as a longterm partner!
Q. My boyfriend asked me to marry him, and now I am torn. Idontknowif anyone else went through the same analyzing stage before getting married, but this is what I am doing right now, and question myself if this is real love and if few qualities that ...
A. 21 October 2013: From the submittal I read... there's plenty-enough information and details for you to say, "No, thank you."... to his marriage proposal......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I got out of an abusive relationship. But now with my new guy my mother and brother hate him. How do I handle this?
Q. I got out of a toxic relationship not too long ago - we had been together for 5 years with two kids and he used to bash me up and threaten to kill me. Everyone knew the extent of how severe the abuse was. I have recently started seeing a guy who...
A. 19 October 2013: Stick with this detail... which is, really, all that "counts" in your submittal: "....I am old enough to make my own decisions...."
Any time you commence to struggle with your Mother or Brother... repeat that phrase until you are content.... (read in full...)
My mother, my bully.
Q. How do i gently approach my mother about her hypocrisy and the damage it has done and continues to do to our relationship? How do I explain that I cannot, allow either myself or my son (8yo), to endure her presence if she continues discount...
A. 19 October 2013: If you and your Son were goldfish.... and lived in the same pond as your Mother... and your Mother turned out to be a Pirahna.... you'd probably move to another pond, wouldn't you????? Well... move to another pond, now... and forget about your ... (read in full...)
What should I do? My boyfriend is not pleased I am not a virgin.
Q. my boyfriend asked me if i'm a virgin or not.i told him the truth,am not a virgin and he's not pleased at all because he's a virgin.what should i do?...
A. 19 October 2013: You tell him that your hymen cannot be relaced.... so you are who you are... and HE has to make a choice of either living with that.... or leaving you alone.....
Are you happy to be with a guy who's view of "who you are" is so shallow?... (read in full...)
My husband just left me for a younger woman
Q. i am feeling like a total fool. i was informed last night that my husband of 23 years wants a divorce, he has a baby by a girl that is 24 years old and she is expecting another one by him again... yes you read this right the baby she just had is 4 ...
A. 19 October 2013: Unfortunately, you have learned that your husband of so many years is a terrible cad..... Now, focus on THIS bit of your submittal: "...i am so stupid, guess money can buy happiness, he told me that he has been taking care of her for almost two ... (read in full...)
Got the MM and it hasn't exactly been "happily ever after"
Q. this is very long winded so anybody who has the patience to read and answer...thankyou in advance! 5 years ago i started an affair with a married man. at first it was just fun then it got deeper and everybody started getting hurt. eventually...
A. 19 October 2013: WHAT THE HECK.... ARE YOU doing... spending even another MINUTE with this cretin who you KNOW is an unfaithful man-whore????????
It's obvious, from the tone of your submittal, that you know - full well - how to correct this situation. NOW........ (read in full...)
Why should I do if my mum doesn't approve?
Q. I'm a 39 ear old guy in Dublin, and fancy 2 women. First woman is 46 years old and lives in London and we have known each other for just over a month now. I have sent her flowers and 2 gifts. The second woman is 39 and lives in Cork, and Ive known ...
A. 19 October 2013: I suggest that you spend all the time between now and the moment that you meet either of these women trying to figure out WHY you are letting your "Mam" have such influence in your life.....
WHO is living your life?????
Good luck...
P.S. ... (read in full...)
Do cheaters ever change?
Q. I've just met a Man and during a conversation we were having he explained that he had been in 2 marriages and 1 8 year defacto relationship. He continued to say he had been unfaithful with 2 women, 1, his first wife and 2 a short term ...
A. 18 October 2013: OP: Your second (follow-on) submittal doesn't really add anything that changes the situation. It "sounds" to me like you are desperately trying to justify/validate your feelings for this guy.... AND that you want to try a "relationship" with ... (read in full...)
LDR isn't working for me. Is it wrong that I want my b/f to come back to where I am?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and I studied In the same university for 5 years but we dint know each other until the last month and when we got to know each other there was no stopping to us,but it was the end of semester and my boyfriend had to go back to his c...
A. 17 October 2013: You're not "wrong".... but it IS unrealistic to believe that he should make such an extreme step only for your preferences..... Be patient... OR, decide that you and he need to "cool it" until that fateful day, next April, when you and he can make ... (read in full...)
FWB guys says that I'm not intellectually compatible with him. What do I do?
Q. I am currently in FWB with my best friend for a year. We know each other for long and i love him a lot, he does too. But he is not making our relationship official as he says he is not into relationship stuff. He is not seeing anyone i.e. not ...
A. 17 October 2013: In my reference book, titled "Things that guys must do to be sure that they will "get a little each night" .... this guy could have WRITTEN the chapter titled, "Sometimes, you have to put a girl in her place so that she will avoid any mention of ... (read in full...)
Do cheaters ever change?
Q. I've just met a Man and during a conversation we were having he explained that he had been in 2 marriages and 1 8 year defacto relationship. He continued to say he had been unfaithful with 2 women, 1, his first wife and 2 a short term ...
A. 17 October 2013: I vote for, "sure, (guys) he can change".... HOWEVER, I also think that the longer the "track record" of infidelities, the longer that odds of that change...
This guy? ... I'd expect you're more-likely to find John Boehner and Barak Obama sl... (read in full...)
My mind is on overload and I am going crazy!
Q. Hello aunts and uncle's I really need some advice here and fast before I go nuts. I have been with my BF for 7 months now and I am so in love with him, and he tells me he feels the same. we moved in together and everything is going great excep...
A. 17 October 2013: I "hear" all the alarms that you do... .as well..
However, in fairness to him (and - in a peculiar way - to you) you have to let this play out. After all, you wouldn't want to terminate a potentially-good relationship based on just what you've p... (read in full...)
She ditched me to hang out with her ex!
Q. Dear Cupid, Its been a long time since I wrote to you (I apologize), and now I am here again asking for help for more of my girl problems. In advance, I apologize for any grammar errors or fallacies since my english writing is not that great. ...
A. 17 October 2013: Let's go through your last paragraph: You write:
"I don't know where I stand in this situation. and What if she text me back to apologize? Should I forgive her? I wont even know what to say to her. Any suggestions?"
1. She likes her ex- mo... (read in full...)
He choses making music over making out with me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have had this talk previously; basically it comes down to his obsession with music. He has an obsessive hobby with making beats and music and it used to be much worse. He actually dropped out of school because he was so mentally ...
A. 17 October 2013: It sez in the header that your age is "18 - 21". What's his (age)? I'm guessing.... about 12 Y.O. He's too young for you!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I keep my late partner's Facebook page active -- is this wrong?
Q. I had created a Facebook profile for my partner and lover of two years and he recently passed away. I definitely do not want to memorialize his profile because I just dont want to believe hes gone yet. So I am still logging in to his profile and ...
A. 15 October 2013: Sorry to hear of your loss....
One of the phases of enduring a loss of a loved one is called "denial".... in which you (a person) chooses to not believe that the person who they loved has - in fact - died....
After a while, the evidence will pi... (read in full...)
Do men really think about sex every 7 seconds?
Q. Hey ladies, just have a question... I have heard so many times that men think about sex every 7 seconds. Is this an exaggeration? Also, a second question I have is, I think about sex all the time even though I don't get much pleasure out of ...
A. 15 October 2013: Men who require 7 seconds between s*x thoughts are, generally, considered "slow"..... The perkiest amongst us require just a second or two between sordid thoughts....
AS for thinking dirty thoughts, yourself, all the time.... you need to consult ... (read in full...)
Will we get stared at or ridiculed? We are a biracial couple
Q. Hello. My name is Jeff, and I have a question that may come off as odd. I've met this beautiful white woman, and she told me she would like to go out on a date with me. As I am black, I have always wondered how it would be like to date a white wom...
A. 15 October 2013: Jeff: I've dated white women all of my adult life. I find them to be - for the most part - interesting and loveable creatures.... I expect that you will find the same (about them).....
As for how people will look at you (and her).... Who gives a ... (read in full...)
He says his sub character came out and started chatting to his son's girlfriend! Does he have mental issues?
Q. ive come accross something that i dont understand, maybe someone who is good and understands phsycology might be able to put some undertsanding to this type of beahviour. Will try and be as brief as i can, im left completley confused so here it ...
A. 15 October 2013: Damn!!! Your "boyfriend" could WRITE some of the reference books that I occasionally cite on this website....
Especially, I think he would be a good author for the one titled "The guys' boor of How to make vague, sensible-sounding statemen... (read in full...)
He says he has "proof" even when he doesn't. Need help, fast!!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We're in our early-mid 30's. Every once in awhile he will accuse me of cheating and claiming he has "proof" when I know he doesn't. This morning at 7am he text me and asked me who the hell I was texting. I ...
A. 15 October 2013: This sounds like "schoolyard" stuff...... and you'd be well-advised to drop this character.... and get away from him... and STAY away from him from now until the day that you are laid to rest.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
If you tell your lover what you need and they don't even make an effort to hear you is it time to leave?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years is not demonstrative about his feelings for me. I like getting the occasional text or phone call, especially when I am ill or he knows I am having a tough time. I have tried calmly telling him how I feel. That intimacy to...
A. 15 October 2013: IF you buy in to: "....couples to treat each other with less concern as the years go on." AND that "...He still wants sex everyday...." THEN he will have successfully gotten you to morph from his "girlfriend" to a TART!!!!!
Which do you pref... (read in full...)
Signs that your boyfriend isn't over his ex?
Q. This may be a stupid question but what are some signs or how do you know if your boyfriend is not over his ex girlfriend? I really don't want to jump to conclusions or anything but I just have this feeling that my boyfriend still misses and has f...
A. 14 October 2013: When he tells you that he is "... just going out for a pack of cigarettes...".... and he is gone overnight.... and returns smelling like her genitals and her perfume.. and, HE DOESN'T SMOKE!!!!..... Then you may conclude that he is not "over ... (read in full...)
Was my ex emotionally abusive to me?
Q. Was I in an emotionally abusive relationship? At first my ex was very loving and the perfect gentleman. After a little while he stopped having sex with me, stopped giving me physical affection and began completely ignoring me, even when I was in t...
A. 14 October 2013: I only had to skim through your submittal to see that you really weren't in a "relationship" AT ALL!!!!! You were some kind of "emotional punching bag" for this creep.... AND, you were persistent enough to last for as long as you did!!!!....
... (read in full...)
Can you sue someone for giving you an STD?
Q. Can you sue someone for giving you an STD? My ex boyfriend has contacted me, to say that he recently ejaculated blood and that if he has an STD he will be suing me. I haven't had a check-up for a few months, but last time I went to the doctors ...
A. 13 October 2013: You can stay FAR AWAY from this creature....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I feel like there's competition and I'll never be good enough for my boyfriend.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have a mutual friend who is really slim, pretty and fun. I've known her all my life and my boyfriend met her through high school. Last week I was in an awful mood and all I wanted was for him to come and see me so I text him...
A. 13 October 2013: So.... you get to feel like "crap".... and HE gets to spend time with this hottie, who is a mutual acquaintance...
WHY would you put up with this for more than a few minutes??????
Dump "boyfriend" ..... and find one who really likes you...
... (read in full...)
My partner is reluctant to start a family, what should I do?
Q. I recently posted about moving countries. I've moved countries and been with my partner for over a year and a half. He seems reluctant to start a family but i really want too! we've been arguing and mostly he's been silent. What should I do? I've ...
A. 13 October 2013: Well.... looks to me like the two of you aren't "in sync" in this matter.... so the only real "answer" id for YOU to find a partner who WANTS to spawn with you... and let this OTHER GUY (the one you're with)..... go!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Why do men like to check out porn and naked celebrities?
Q. Hi everyone, Recently for some reason I have become a little insecure :( I am an attractive young woman...slim so little reason to you could say but like alot of women seem to be uncomfortable with my fiance looking at stuff on the internet. It...
A. 13 October 2013: Are you kidding????? Have you ever seen Sandra Bullock without her clothes on????? .... and you STILL think this question makes sense??????... (read in full...)
I think I might have caught him in a lie ...
Q. This will probably sound ridiculous but I need opinions! My partner and I have been happy together for 3 years. Last night he gave me a lift to a friends house for some drinks and as we were in the car I noticed his car ticked over to 10,000 miles ...
A. 13 October 2013: You write: ".... Now we have a happy and trusting relationship...".... but, you really DON'T, do you????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
She says we don't have enough "quality time" together, even though we're living together
Q. Ok this is my first time writing on something like this, but I know my girlfriend has asked for online help before and said its really helpful so here I am. We have been together for around 5 years I think and we've just moved in together but eve...
A. 12 October 2013: I think THIS is the key phrase in your "question":
"....I need time with my friends...."
WHA????? This girl MOVED IN WITH YOU!!!! She thought that would mean that SHE would MEAN a little something to you..... Instead, you - selfishly - say ... (read in full...)
The idea of living with my boyfriend makes me feel panicky and trapped!
Q. Hi I'm looking for some impartial advice because I'm really confused and not sure if there is something wrong with me or my relationship. Basically, I'm 28, have been with my boyfriend for over 3.5 years and I love him a lot. However I don't ...
A. 10 October 2013: If you changed the phrase "live with" to "go scuba diving with" ... or "drive really fast on a rain-slicked, twisty country road"... would your submittal be of about the same intensity for you? If "yes," then you have grounds to say, simply, "I ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I'm loved by my boyfriend and he always puts his mom first!
Q. My boyfriend and I have more issues than I can count. We are in our late 20s, been together 3+ yrs, and live together. Issue #1, he is a mamas boy. Whatever mom wants, he does. He goes above and beyond son duties. He gives her just as much, if not ...
A. 10 October 2013: You wrote three complete and cogent paragraphs, in which you outlined three very good reasons for splitting away from this guy..
"so what should I (you) do?".... split up with him, and get on with your life....
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I'm an unhappily married man with two small children and I'm wondering if anyone has any experience staying with someone they don't love for their kids sake?
Q. hi everyone. im an unhappily married man with two small children.im wondering if anyone has any experience staying with someone they don't love for their kids sake? my wife has a short temper and can stay angry for weeks about things without e...
A. 10 October 2013: Staying with someone... remaining married or in a partnership.... "for the kids' sake"... has proven to be a weak reason. Kids are notoriously resilient.... and will usually do OK, regardless of how goofy their parents act...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
He's too busy! Should I be patient or let him go?
Q. I feel stuck. I've been dating a man for the past 5 months. He's divorced and has four kids that hes a primary caregiver for. He also has a demanding job. My issue is because he is so busy I barely hear from him much less see him. We have texted a ...
A. 10 October 2013: There is a whole spectrum of the attention that people can pay to one-another..... From the smothering, "always there, whenever I turn around"..... to the "..cool, stoic, sorta-distant, almost-standoffish."
For a woman who seeks a relation... (read in full...)
Is he after a relationship or is he alright being friendzoned with benefits
Q. I met a guy online with the promise of sex without a relationship. That's great, because I'm a college student that really doesn't need a boyfriend but wants a good time now and then. He lives alone. His girlfriend moved out and he seems pretty ...
A. 9 October 2013: The most important part of your submittal is this:
"I think he needs to heal from his last girlfriend, and he needs to get over his social anxiety, but I don't know what he wants me to say. I don't want to ruin this friends with benefits relation... (read in full...)
Why am I the one making all the effort? Why do I do it?
Q. I've been split up with my ex for 5months but I have been speaking and seeing him for the past 2months. I was with him for 2years. Since I have been seeing him all my feelings have come back and I feel like I am in the same situation of what I was ...
A. 9 October 2013: If you and he are being intimate (having sex!)... then he has everything a guy ever dreams of.... That is:
He can behave distantly... disinterested.... and he has you "sympathizing" or "empathizing" with that behaviour... whilest HE has everythi... (read in full...)
I can just switch off my feelings. Does that mean I'm incapable of loving someone?
Q. I just want to know if it's normal to be able to emotionally detach myself from feelings and people like its nothing? I could care about you today, love you or even be IN love with you but tomorrow it could be as if you're a complete stranger. The ...
A. 9 October 2013: I can't help but imagine that this site made a mistake in the header of your submittal...... SINCE the behaviour that you described - and attributed to yourself - is CLEARLY "guy" behaviour.....
Have you been drinking beer and watching a lot of f... (read in full...)
What is the right age do you think, to settle down and have a family?
Q. When do you think people ussualy start thinking about settling down? My daughter is 27, her boyfriend will be 30 in a couple months. They both have good jobs, but live with 4 other roomates. its a big house in a very expensive city. I just vis...
A. 9 October 2013: It would be naive to say - or believe - that there is some "right" age... and some "best" or "correct" schedule for our children to do such-and-such as they go through their adult lives.....
I think that, once people become adults, and "fledge"... (read in full...)
How to give a married man the brush off without causing offence?
Q. To keep it brief, a married man who works in the same field as me has been flirting and inappropriate since an event a few months ago. I have no intention of doing anything untoward and keep steering things back to a professorial level in our ...
A. 8 October 2013: You ask: "how do I give him a polite brush off that isn't going to make either of us embarrassed?"
You don't have to worry a whit about embarrassing him. HE'S MARRIED!!! Any "advance" or inappropriate measure that he takes toward you... E... (read in full...)
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