My ex says he's scared to get back with me because he doesn't want me to hurt him again
Q. Hi i was wondering if anyone can please give me some advice or insight to my confusion. Basically me and my ex broke up two months ago, i had not been paying him enough attention and got really lazy about making an effort with him due to m...
A. 1 January 2012: There's an old expression.... "once bitten, twice shy"
It applies to dogs.... but can be extended to women if they behave like dogs.... (and, believe me, they're NOT immune to such behaviour!!!!!)
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Why do guys grab a girl's waist?
Q. What does it mean when a guy keeps grabbing your waist? Like they will sit there and squeeze your waist? I know it sounds weird, but this guy kept doing it and I couldn't understand why or what he was doing it for, this isn't the first, time quite a ...
A. 1 January 2012: I like to grab my girl's wrists so that I can pin her down to the bed (or, whatever horizontal surface!!!!) and have my way with her.....
Does your guy do it when you are standing upright???? Maybe I should explain a few things to him... You may ... (read in full...)
A horrible work performance review ruined my holidays!
Q. I'm 26, recently out of grad school and I've got my first job. I perform every work task I get quickly and efficiently and I though I was doing great. I actually thought I was exceeding my boss' expectations! So when he said he was very unhappy with ...
A. 31 December 2011: Two quotations from your submittal should help clarify the picture for you:
1. "I think it is unreasonable to expect a person with no work experience who works for a ridiculously small salary to improve a company.", and,
2. "How can I feel ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my ex, who is the father of my children, to not date my friends?
Q. My ex of 15years, father to my 2 kids is going to a new years eve party tonight where lots of my friends will be. Is it unreasonable of me to ask him not to get it together with one of my mates, there is one girl in particular, he doesnt really know ...
A. 31 December 2011: So, if I were to re-state your submittal I might start by writing: "I think I am still entitled to control whatever my ex- does....."
That's my answer....
Happy New Year........ (read in full...)
Should I let my b/f know I've never had an orgasm through regular sex?
Q. I've never had an orgasm through intercourse and I was wondering if anybody else has had this problem and how they fixed it. I've never told my fiance about it before and I don't know if I should. I think he might get upset. The sex we have is ...
A. 31 December 2011: Addressing intimate/sexual matters by yourself is much like trying to clap with just one hand!!!! Therefore...
Sometime, when the two of you are NOT making out or being intimate, sit him down and show him this note and tell HIM just what happens ... (read in full...)
Why do my mates' girlfriends keep trying it on with me?
Q. This sounds like I'm being paranoid but about a year ago my mates 5yr GF told me she likes me to much! But I shook it of and blamed it on the drink then 6 months later we all got drunk at a party and I tried my hardest but we shared a proper intense ...
A. 31 December 2011: Sounds to me like you are a magnet for girls who are about to dump their B/Fs....
Most of us guys would cheerfully sell our souls to be in your position.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is it normal to love one child more than your other?
Q. This might be a very "rough" question.. But, let's say you have 2 children. Would it be normal to love one more then the other? Or, let's say you were put in a situation where only one of your children would live, and you had to choose which one ...
A. 31 December 2011: Both my Mother and Father loved me more than any of my (4) brothers and sister. I'd guess it happens all the time....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Should I go out with what I feel is a pity date?
Q. An acquaintance of mine from high school has asked to take me on a date. Thing is, through the 5 years I've known him, I'm really not attracted to him. It also seems as though he's trying too hard to impress me about himself by saying how he st...
A. 29 December 2011: You say you have not seen him in two years....
Imagine what could happen if you DO go on this "pity date" and learn that, in those two years, this guy has morphed in to a young gentleman who you can't or don't want to keep your eyes and hands of... (read in full...)
Am I ever going to fit into his busy schedule?
Q. I've been dating my bf for about a little more than a year. I'm still in college but he's just graduated and now has a full time job, along with other extracurricular activities he's been doing for a long time. He claims we won't be able to see each ...
A. 29 December 2011: Let's cut right to the guts of your submittal....
"...am I'm ever going to fit in his busy schedule? NO!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I want to know how to get my wife to change her mind
Q. My wife used to hesitantly perform fellatio. A few years ago she quit. There is no discussion. Just to bring it up pisses her off. I feel like I am worthless because she will not do this for me. I am not a kid, I am over fifty. How do I cha...
A. 29 December 2011: I'd drop the "...How do I change her mind.." and focus on the "... make myself get over this..."
Good luck....
P.S. Do YOU do cunnilingus for HER???????... (read in full...)
Toys for a lesbian couple?
Q. what toy is best for a lesbian couple?...
A. 29 December 2011: Don't ask us. Get yourself and your partner down to an Adult shop and look around for yourself. Determine which toy(s) you fancy... buy 'em and bring them home for play...
Disclaimer: Be sure that you're quite certain that you'll enjoy the toys... (read in full...)
The Other Woman .. are they JUST friends.
Q. I am in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I met through a chat forum online and hit it off. We now spend most of our day (even with the time zone problem) talking with each other in one for or another. but I have a problem. Jealous...
A. 29 December 2011: Get in line with all the other women whose B/Fs "...would never hurt me knowingly."
You see, you've given him his "out" It works like this: He hurts you, you let him know, and he sez "Gee, I NEVER KNEW that it would hurt you if I fooled around w... (read in full...)
He prefers to spend NYE with his mates rather than with me
Q. My question is quite a short one, and I’d love to hear lots of opinions on this – since I have been with my bf I have always felt that he likes to be with his friends and not me NYE. We tend to spend Xmas together and although last year we were ...
A. 29 December 2011: If'n I were you, and my "B/F" treated me as you describe, then I would decide - then and there - that he prefers his mates to me..... Important? YOU BET!!!
'Cuz I also read in your submittal that you are willing to justify his behaviou... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do I just can't seem to make the break.
Q. I have been having relationship problems for the past 15 months. It all started with me going away on a hen weekend. Upon my return i told my partner who i live with that i would like to take our relationship to the next level. His response was ...
A. 29 December 2011: I hope that, someday, somewhere, someone will post a list of the "levels" of relationships.....
Thanx in advance to whoever will help enlighten me...... (read in full...)
Should I follow my religion or just enjoy being young?
Q. I go to a Roman Catholic school and In Religious Education we were discussing sex before marriage. everyone in my class was saying that they can't wait to have sex and are not waiting for marriage, but for some reason, I want to wait. I am not a ...
A. 28 December 2011: Many of us have been influenced by the Catholic Church and its teachings when we were young...... With a little help... and lots of luck... you will be able to get over that as you get older..... ... (read in full...)
Should a FWB be persistent?
Q. Is it normal for a guy who wants fwb to be persistent ?. He says he thinks i am really good looking, but i don't think i am that attractive, to be honest. I'm also a shy person, so i don't understand why he doesn't want an fwb who is more outgoing. ...
A. 28 December 2011: I think he's a persistent fellow.... AND that when you succumb to his advances (and put out for him) that he will be very happy, indeed. How long to you intend to hold out????? Good luck....... (read in full...)
All communication stopped after I said "when can I see you again?"
Q. So I hooked up with a girl after a night out, she came back to my house, self explanatory what happened next, she took my number and she left the following morning. We had texted a little the next day and I think I made a big mistake by slipp...
A. 28 December 2011: WOW!!! Sounds to me like she reversed the field on you. It's supposed to be the GUY who gets the GIRL to put out... then never contacts her again.....
Cripes!! I'd be concerned (as you are) the same.... Looks like you've been used... ... (read in full...)
Sex before a relationship? Yes or No?
Q. whats everyones thoughts on having sex before relationship? yes or ney? is it lust or love? does a girl who wants sex before relationship love that person? inputs?...
A. 27 December 2011: If a girl puts out for you too soon after meeting you, then YOU have met the most-Divine type of woman.... Congratulations!!!!!
IF you want things to become a "relationship"... then you have all the necessary components (i.e.: a woman who show... (read in full...)
Girlfriend can't explain why her phone was on and off. Suspicious?
Q. My girlfriend and I were engaged just before Christmas. Then she went to Florida for a a trip to see her friend, Alexandra, a woman. Last night she calls around 7 and says she'll be going out but will call later. I tell her I may go to sleep earl...
A. 27 December 2011: Do you have other trust issues?????
I wouldn't waste single neuron of my mental energy being suspicious of this....
IF you want/need a reason to dump her... or pick a fight with her..... then use this incident....
IF you and she have a good ... (read in full...)
I made out with an older man and don't know what to think
Q. I am 17 and there is this older guy who i sometimes talk to as a friend, he must be in his late 30s/early 40s. I do admit that i have had a crush on him in the past and he knows that. Yesterday I was talking to him and as I was about to go he kissed ...
A. 27 December 2011: What's "gross" about French kissing such a guy?????... (read in full...)
Do guys hate skinny girls?
Q. i am 22 years old and am very skinny i really wanna have a big ass and am losing my confidence and stoped getting out with guys tried eating alot but have no apetite please tell me u'r opinion do guys really hate skiny girls. Thanx in advance...
A. 27 December 2011: Some of us LOVE skinny girls. Why do you ask?... (read in full...)
What lessons can I learn from this? My Boyfriend left without any warning after almost 1.5 years
Q. I’ve read a lot of wisdom on this site so I thought I’d seek some guidance and advice from you wonderful people. My BF of 1.5 years left me without any warning a month ago. I came home and all of his stuff was gone and only a note left saying...
A. 26 December 2011: It's over... don't give it a second thought.. and GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE!!!! We men are prone to behave peculiarly,.... and this is just one such case.... You will be OK.... Good luck...... (read in full...)
After 9 years he still doesn't know if he wants to start a family with me
Q. Should I break up with my boyfriend of 9 years? I have been dating this man for 9 years, we have had our ups an downs, but i have never felt so lost. There are a lot traits about him I love and Hate. But my biggest issue is he won't talk about ma...
A. 26 December 2011: AFTER 9 YEARS????? .... he won't talk about marriage with me,"...????? What the heck are you doing, continuing to hang around with this indecisive loser????? I suggest you dump his sorry bottom and get a REAL boyfriend.... P.S. I used to date ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my parents that I really want to marry him?
Q. It has now been three years that I've been dating my boyfriend (the same one that my previous question was about; I'm very glad I didn't break up with him), and now I'm pretty sure I've found my future husband! :D Excitement! One problem. I have ...
A. 22 December 2011: I think the key phrase in your submittal is this one:
"...I want my parents to approve 100%...."
IF your parents were to withhold approval, would you be content and wait until you found some guy who DOES meet their approval? WHO is living yo... (read in full...)
Why do some men have relationships when they are younger, but only feel like being single or having flings as they age?
Q. Does anyone know why some men have relationships when they are younger, but only feel like being single or having flings, etc, when they are older ?. Is it because they have been on their own for a long time, and they get set in their ways ?. I've...
A. 22 December 2011: It happens, primarily, because we finally figure out what you girls are all about..... and figure out that we DON'T have to give away 1/2 our "stuff" just to get a little s*x.
... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever spent New Year's Eve alone?
Q. Hey aunts! So, I'm going through a pretty rocky phase in my life (my mom passed away last spring, I recently broke up with my 5year bf and I'm very heartbroken). Looks like I'm gonna be spending New Years Eve alone. I know it's a super loser thing ...
A. 22 December 2011: If I had a nickel for every New Year's Eve that I spent alone, I'd be a very well-to-do man. What difference does it make????????
P.S. I DID get a date for this NYE!!!!!... (read in full...)
Is she being completely honest with me or lying about something?
Q. My girlfriend and I recently got back together after being broken up for about a year. We've been back together since September of this year. Everything was great, emotionally and physically, for the first month. Then, all of a sudden, she's not ...
A. 22 December 2011: Sounds like it's time to break up again... and, this time, make sure that it STICKS......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
No matter how much I spend my gift isn't likely to please his mother
Q. My boyfriend's mom is ridiculously materialistic. She's like a walking talking brand name. She makes fun of poor people and judges them. Well this year she's holding a huge party and giving away extravagant gifts for Christmas (perfumes, Luis ...
A. 22 December 2011: It sounds like she's sucked you in to her scheme of trying to "match" gifts and gift valuations.
You can get past that by offering a nice gift, that you can afford, and wrapping it neatly, and presenting it with a smile... then not giving i... (read in full...)
Have you ever gotten to the end of your teenaged years and realized you didn't do anything?
Q. I'm actually quite annoyed at myself, i'm 19 and i don't feel like i've lived my teenage life to the fullest! I haven't slept with anyone.. STILL. I haven't experimented or at least tried one drug, something even small such as weed. I haven't had a ...
A. 22 December 2011: I realized that at the end of my teen years... then again at the ends of my 20s, 30s, 40s and 50s. It's not an uncommon realization. Some people are able to fend it off by DOING something each decade.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How do I help my FWB forget about his ex and make him see that I am not like her and will not hurt him?
Q. Hi everyone a bit of a complicated situation here I have been in a fwb for nine months now I have told him how I feel about him (I would like to be with him properly) he says he likes me to he was very badly hurt by his ex with who he was with for ...
A. 22 December 2011: Your's is another of those "FWB mismatch" questions....
That is: HE has just what he wants (a FWB)... whilest YOU are seeking a "real" relationship. As long as he has FWB he has no incentive to change (the relationship) in any way. YOU cannot f... (read in full...)
When is the right time to tell someone about how sexually experienced you are?
Q. This might seem like a funny question, but when do you think is the right time to tell someone about how sexually experienced you are ?. Should you wait until you actually become sexually active with them, or should you tell them before that ?. I ...
A. 22 December 2011: "Never" is one good answer....... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't care anymore!
Q. I feel like my husband just doesnt care anymore. He never discusses any problems we are having but will always complian about my son. We havent had sex in over two months and the last time it took alot of convincing on my part. He sleeps all the ...
A. 21 December 2011: Just one suggestion: Dump his sorry a*s and get a REAL husband.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I want my husband to dress as a woman permanently, are there any pro's or con's to my plans? Has anyone else pulled this off before?
Q. A few months ago I talked my 25 year old husband into dressing up in my clothes during sex play. He is a small framed somewhat effeminate, 5'8" 145 pound guy. I was very much amazed and turned on by how much he looked like a real female. Here is ...
A. 21 December 2011: Feminization.... and/or crossdressing are fairly common fantasies/fetishes..... Live them as you wish and enjoy them....
I suggest that you find amd read the book titled "My Husband Wears my Clothes" for a good look and explanation of crossdre... (read in full...)
Is sex nessassary for a happy life?
Q. How important is sex in life? Apart from the whole producing life bit. Is sex necessary for a happy life. Sex causes a lot of problems in peoples lives from unwanted children to emotional and physical complications. If sex was not a factor in life ...
A. 21 December 2011: Sex - AND intimacy - CAN BE an important part of life.... Not necessarily for everybody, but for some. The "key" is for two people who wish to make a life together.... that their desires for sex and sensuality (intimacy) are similar....
Take ... (read in full...)
Our sex life has stopped being fun, she says its because she is not comfortable 100%, any advice please?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years, the relationship is going alright, however certain things are making me feel a little unappreciated, and I know this sounds selfish, but it's all to do with sex. For the first year, the sex was adventur...
A. 19 December 2011: Sounds to me like she's justifying that first year by describing it as something akin to an entrapment... and, now that she has you hooked, she's showing you the REAL her... who is non-sexual and non-sensual.
I just got out of a seven year arr... (read in full...)
My husband accused me of being insecure after he was flirting at his christmas party! Am I insecure?
Q. Recently my husband and I went to his company's annual party. I have met a few people he works with but I do not know anyone well. It is awkward for me because once we get to the party he acts like I do not exist and gets mad if I stay wit...
A. 19 December 2011: Great hubby you've got there. No, you're not being unreasonable by asking him to be a gentleman.. HE is being a disrespectful idjit.... and, you certainly have reason to believe that he is fooling around during his "alone" time.
My question... (read in full...)
Can I ruin his porn videos without visible proof?
Q. Okay so, my boyfriend has recently stopped watching porn out of respect for me. I just recently found his old porn stash of dvds and he doesn't know that I know about them. I know I'm going to get a lot of responses about how I should talk to him ...
A. 17 December 2011: Sure.... just get a strong magnet and pass it over/near them.....
Good luck....
P.S. Don't expect me to invite you to MY house to "watch movies" any time soon!!!!........ (read in full...)
How high are the chances that he likes me and we might meet again? Please help me
Q. I have fancied this guy in university for a year now and although we haven't talked much through the year, we went on a dinner date a couple of days ago. We got a bit drunk after dinner and I went back to his and we kissed and cuddled all nigh...
A. 17 December 2011: Based upon what you've submitted here, I give it an 83 to 86% chance.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I cant handle rude customers where I work! Any Advice?
Q. I just got my first retail position at a clothing store. I work in the kids dept. I know this isn't a r'ship question, but I was hoping for some help from people who have been in my shoes. I'm a very hard worker but the one thing I can't handle is ...
A. 17 December 2011: In retail, you've to to be icky-nice ALL THE TIME!!!! .... and, you have to be accomodating EVEN WHEN A CUSTOMER IS "WRONG" (It's NOT really true that "the Customer is ALWAYS right...").... That said, learn to steel yourself to some Customers w... (read in full...)
Does my husband need viagra?
Q. So every time me and my husband have sex it only last like 4 or 5 min. And after that he can't seem to get it hard again, it sucks he can't go another round.. he's 31 so he's young , n I'm 23 and I never get pleased by him..what can I do to make it ...
A. 16 December 2011: For two people to try to have a romance/relationship whilest they have widely differing libidos can be anquishing.... Ask this question of your B/F, NOT with a concern that he might take advantage of Erectile Dysfunction medication, but with an eye ... (read in full...)
Why does he keep bringing up our past
Q. Him and i had a bit of a casual "relationship" for a while and it was fun at the time. That ended just over a year ago. He's got a girlfriend now and i've recently started dating somebody new too. Since i told my "ex" that i'm dating someone he's ...
A. 16 December 2011: That sounds like one of the "conversations" that you can put behind you and never think of again........ (read in full...)
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