Is this an appropriate message for a cheating ex?
Q. Can I send this to my ex who cheated on me? " Remember when you said to me that I'm a strong person, I thought I was but do you think I'd be here with you right now if I was? I'm weak callum, weak for coming back to you while knowing there's ...
A. 10 November 2011: If he's your ex-... then I suggest that you print out a "hard" copy of this note.... Keep it in your bedside stand drawer for 6 months. In six months, remove it from the drawer, read it, and - if it THEN seems to make any sense to do so - send it ... (read in full...)
I've become the jealous snooping boyfriend! How can we work through this?
Q. I had been with my girlfriend for 15 years. She had gone to college for 6 years in order to, "get the job of her dreams."During the last 3 years of our relationship she became addicted to world of Warcraft and there was no sign of her seriously ...
A. 10 November 2011: The odds are "stacked" against YOU... because you're behaving like a desperate guy..... THAT leaves you vulnerable to all sort of advantage being taken of you... Are you prepared for that? Will you recognize it when it happens?
Note: Statisti... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend is still Married but getting a Divorce?
Q. I just found out that my boyfriend has been hiding the truth from me that he is married to someone else for the past 2 years that we have been together. I had to beat the truth out of him because I had always been suspicious that he was hiding ...
A. 10 November 2011: These are the answers to your three questions:
1. He is using you,
2. A lot less time than you discuss herein,
3. Yes.
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Married 10 years and I've never gotten a blow job!
Q. Im married for 10 years now , ans never gave me a bj how can I change that she said she never will because she's not an animal she only likes one poaittion. She hates doge style as we'll how can I change that because im locking around now and don't ...
A. 8 November 2011: I've deciphered your submittal to say that you and your wife of 10 years experience sex only in the "missionary" position... and that you would like to have experience "doggie" style and would also like fellatio.
Any chance that that (interpr... (read in full...)
How will I ever get over this affair...please help?
Q. Last year I had an affair with a married woman,(she is married to a male)and has children. I am a 27 year old woman myself who thought i was heterosexual but had very strong feelings for this person, and it is something that happened because we were ...
A. 7 November 2011: I read your submittal as a person who is struggling with their sexuality, and can't quite come to grips with it if she (you) may be homo- or bi-sexual...
How about seeking out a counselor/therapist/psychologist and look in to your own life....... (read in full...)
Has anyone else has had an experience or knows anything about Microgynon 30 increasing pain and breast volume?
Q. I'm on my second tray of Microgynon 30 pills and for the last few days my breasts have been incredibly painful and my bras have been feeling tight and restrictive. I was a 34B last time I was measured and have been a 34B since the age of 14 (I'm 16 ...
A. 7 November 2011: There are two good sources for such information: 1. Your Doctor, and, 2. a good Internet search engine....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Love my b/f, hate his parents
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for two years now, we love each other very much and i'm very attached to him! The only thing getting on my nerves at the moment are his parents! They are nice people but they are just so annoying. His mum is a bit old...
A. 7 November 2011: I think the operative phrase in your submittal is this one: "...I try to avoid seeing them because they just end up annoying me!..."
I suggest doing more of that and less of seeing these people. Discuss the matter with your B/F... and if he feels... (read in full...)
I love my fiance and I want to get on with his family! So why am I being made to feel like an outsider?
Q. I get the feeling that a certain member of the family of my fiance, doesnt like me and judges me because Im not religious. The person that I believe does not approve also has a lot of prejudice veiw points that I disagree with to the point of b...
A. 7 November 2011: I think the most important phrase in your submittal is this one: "...They dont call us or include us in their news, even though we make an effort to visit them ..." to which I would ask: "Why bother?" (to want to visit them)..
Not every pe... (read in full...)
Masturbation messing up my sex life?
Q. where to start...Im an addict and i know this. I lie to myself and to those who really know me and tell them/myself that i dont have any morals and i do what my whims make me do. I have done some really messed up things in this regard. Sex. I'm ...
A. 7 November 2011: While it may impede your coital capabilities, I've found that the greater injury from constant masturbation was the degradation of my eyesight, and the wear-and-tear that has resulted in my shoulder rotator-cuff, over the years.....
P.S. My Mothe... (read in full...)
Pasionless relationship after having a child
Q. I've been fairly happily married for the last 8 years and my wife and I were together for 5 years before that, so we've been together for a long time. We got along really well when we started out, we both studied the same things at University and ...
A. 7 November 2011: I suggest you print a copy of this submittal... wait until you and your wife are sitting about calmly... and then, show it to her. Ask HER opinion..... and tell her that you either: A. Want to make a marriage and life with her, or, B. Would like ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to get me back so he can use me again?
Q. Dear Cupid I was with a guy for 2 years, but he never acknowledged me as gf, as far as he is concerned i am his sex buddy/bed mate/fwb but i was in love with him totally and the sad part is he knows that. He cheated on me few times with sex w...
A. 7 November 2011: Add my name to that list (probably a lengthy one) of people who WILL TELL YOU that he'd like to get back to you to use your for sex yet again....
C'mon.... buckle down... shoulders square... look in the mirror and say, "Sh*t, I'm 'way too good for... (read in full...)
My mom doesn't like my boyfriend and I need her support!
Q. I love my boyfriend so much. We have been together for almost 2 years now. He has an adorable character which my father likes. My father says he is a man that girls needs. He is mature, kind-hearted, low profile, and behave good to everyone. He ...
A. 7 November 2011: P.S. A Mother's support is nice to have... but isn't something that you "need"....... (read in full...)
My mom doesn't like my boyfriend and I need her support!
Q. I love my boyfriend so much. We have been together for almost 2 years now. He has an adorable character which my father likes. My father says he is a man that girls needs. He is mature, kind-hearted, low profile, and behave good to everyone. He ...
A. 7 November 2011: The operative phrase in your submittal is this one: "I don't know why my mom thinks like this."
My guess is that your Mom actually DOES LIKE your B/F.... but she can't let go and let YOU have the enjoyment of YOUR life, whilest she is choosing... (read in full...)
I'm feeling used up and am thinking would I feel more used up if I went over to see him.
Q. Dear Readers, I am wondering whether my disappointment and hurt is warranted in a siutation that has just occurred. I have been in contact with a guy over the Internet for the last 3 years. I was particularly vulnerable when I first started talking ...
A. 7 November 2011: That "friend" of three years is a fraud... and, once you figure out that you have no future with him, you will be able to get on with your life,.... and may actually meet a NICE GUY someplace.....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
How has your past sexual experiences affected your marriage/Serious Prospective Relationship Experienced persons Opinion preferably
Q. Hi DC members This is a sex related question. I would like your honest comments about having several sex partners before you settle in life(find your soul mate/Mr. or Mrs Right to start a family with). I mean all the people you have been involved...
A. 7 November 2011: I would say that my past sexual experience has had virtually NO IMPACT on my S.P.R.E.P.O........ (read in full...)
I don't know how to make things up to him
Q. My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for almost a year now. I originally broke up with him because I thought it was better for myself, long behold it wasn't. We dated for almost three years, and we had a very strong connection. There have been ...
A. 7 November 2011: The correct phrase is "lo, and behold".....
The operative portion of your submittal is this one: "...he mentioned to me one night that I need to make things up to him...." .... IF you substitute "put out" for "make things up to him"....... (read in full...)
Ex says I should have sex with him because I owe him my virginity since he waited for me
Q. Me and my now ex-boyfriend just broke up because of me not being in love with him anymore. Although we're broken up, he's telling me to have sex with him so we can both loose our virginities and then he'll move on. He says if we do have sex, he'll ...
A. 7 November 2011: If I had a nickel for every woman that I told "owed" me a sexual session (or, their virginity), because I: 1. Took them to dinner, 2. Washed their car, 3. Repaired an appliance, or, 4. mowed their lawn...... I'd be a VERY well-to-do man.
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Boyfriend won't hire me to work with him and I feel sick about it!
Q. My boyfriend has his own business and I hate my job. He also wants to travel a few months of the year so I am trying to find something flexible that will allow for this to happen. Lately i have been helping him with research for his business...
A. 7 November 2011: First and foremost: This is real life. Having a romantic interest (partner) join you in your business is HIGH RISK... for BOTH the business AND the romantic partnership. He may just be displaying a level head about this aspect of the ... (read in full...)
How do I ask her to be fwb?
Q. Hey all,so my question is... How do I ask a girl to be a "fwb" I'm asking cause she said something to me about being fwb,but at the time I said I didn't want to,well now I would like very much to have this situation with her, but I don't ...
A. 6 November 2011: This seems easy.... You say, "hey... didn't you say you wanted to be FWB, and do nik-nik without any sort of committment? Well, I said "no" at the time... but now, I've come to my senses and would like to do that. When should we start..... How ... (read in full...)
How can I help my gay friend? He's returned to his lover under duress and my friend is so sad about ti.
Q. I need some advice on how to help my friend. My best friend X is a gay guy and well he hasn't exactly told his family he is gay. And for the past 3 years he has been in this relationship with this guy(lets call him Y). From where i stand it has...
A. 5 November 2011: YOu can support your friend by being a good friend..... Beyond that, there's not a darn thing you can do. HE has to address the sexual blackmail of Y.... AND, it looks like he is going to have to come out of the closet to his parents..... As that ... (read in full...)
I've done everything to help him but he used me!
Q. how can i pick myself up. ive recently discovered a man i thought was a good friend has used me for personal gain. whenever he needed money-i was the only one he trusted -i feel so stupid. when he started my job he seemed genuine and i did like him ...
A. 5 November 2011: Some guys are users.... and are so graceful at it that even the most discriminating woman gets taken in by him.... Chalk this up to a very unpleasant experience that you will look out for in the future... and get on with your life.... and fin... (read in full...)
Should I just become a womanizer so women will notice me more?
Q. I just don't understand why im single. When I was younger I was always over looked by girls as a potential date. Granted though I was skinny unkempt idiot back then but I was still a nice guy. Fast forward to today and alot has changed. 2 Years ago ...
A. 5 November 2011: If you get womens' attention on the basis of being a "womanizer" you will, ultimately, learn that THAT is not the kind of attention that you WANT from women..... Be yourself, continue with your life.... .and don't try to be someone who you ... (read in full...)
Men - indifferent or very interested in being found attractive by the other sex?
Q. A question really for guys I guess, but I don't mind women answering - my friend and I are debating whether, if you know a guy say, through friends or somewhere like work and you don't see them that often but are friendly and would, for example, ...
A. 5 November 2011: Most of us guys are DESPERATE for a woman - any woman - to find us interesting and/or attractive.... AND we hope that her interest will escalate in to a sexual liason..... It's as simple as that..... ... (read in full...)
My friends partner left him after seventeen years together, how can I help him?
Q. My friends partner left him after seventeen years together. We found out later that she had been cheating on him and left him for this bloke. He treated her well and never cheated on her. She really couldn't have ended the relationship in a worse ...
A. 5 November 2011: You can only "help" him by being a good friend and standing by him while HE deals with this problem.... It's a little concernworthy that, after 5 years, he's still leaning on this breakup as the source for his travails.... Most/many people... (read in full...)
I love him, but parents think he's not compatible for me, can't support my future...
Q. Okay, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we are so in love with each other. I know how he loves me so much and trying to make me happy as he could. He is a mature minded man although we are in same age. He is patience and low profile...
A. 5 November 2011: Who's going to live your life.... You or your Mother? Without disrespecting her, or dismissing her feelings, you have to get her the message that YOU are who loves this man and may well spend the rest of your life with him.... and THAT is YOUR dec... (read in full...)
I want to clear my conscience and tell the boyfriend of the girl I slept with what I did. Should I do this?
Q. Hello all I did something very bad, and I'm quite ashamed of it I had sex with a girl who has a boyfriend. Sure, that happens all the time, but this girl...well...I work with her boyfriend, and I also work with her mum. idiot? yep i kn...
A. 3 November 2011: There are some times in life when it is just a darned good idea to keep quiet. I vote that this is one of them....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Should I settle down with my cross-dressing partner?
Q. I did write a post on here nearly 2 years ago about my partner who had told me that wearing female clothing is something that he has wanted to do from a young age. Anyway i have really been struggling with this finding It so hard to deal with. It ...
A. 3 November 2011: There are some good books which address the subject of crossdressing in a "regular" (heterosexual) relationship; and you and your B/F might benefit from reading them together......
It's certainly possible to make a (married) life with a man who ... (read in full...)
Do guys eventually give up if the girl wont have sex with them?
Q. do players get turned off by girls who don't want to have sex with them straightaway? surely at some point they lose interest and give up on a girl who won't give them what they want?...
A. 3 November 2011: The duration of our interest is determined by whether or not we are using the "4 date" routine......
IF we're using "4 date" then we will feign interest until that fourth date.... at which time, it's a sure bet that we're going to get the girl... (read in full...)
He's been extremely annoying with his continual requests for anal sex!
Q. Hey everyone, I have a fantastic boyfriend who I love very much. BUT (isn't there always a but?) he keeps pressuring me to have anal sex with him. I'm happy to do it once a week or so, but every day is too much and it hurts. Also, he doesn't like ...
A. 3 November 2011: WHY would you call this guy ".... fantastic boyfriend who I love very much...." when he is abusive to you in this manner.... It will only take you a moment to tell him that he's been off-base for some time... and you aren't going to put up with him ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a bruise on that part of your body without it leaving a mark?
Q. I have a question about a mysterious bruise incident. Fact: She told me had a bruise and it hurt like heck and she got it by bumping into the sharp corner of her dresser in the dark, on her chest. Fact: The next day she showed me where the brui...
A. 3 November 2011: I'd like to focus ob n a different detail, altogether....
You Sister should have a mammogram to check for breast cancer.... Sensitivity such as you describe could well come from a tumor in her breast....
Good luck to her. I hope she has a m... (read in full...)
How to play the player ?
Q. how do you play a player at his own game ..?but when u like the guy and trying not to show feelings ..when ur just pure (friends with benifits lol ). guys n women hu have or are players please to answer thanks...
A. 3 November 2011: With your query about "playing a player" I am reminded of the carpenter who made a table and found that one of the legs was shorter than the other three. He sawed a little off that leg... but was careless and sawed a little too much.... so, he went ... (read in full...)
Men are selfish!
Q. Ok, the title says it all and I am sick to death, borderline disgusted by the selfish nature of men. Let's not deny it. It is 100% true. I have no problem attracting men. But here's the thing, The second an attractive woman ignores the man who is c...
A. 3 November 2011: I'm flattered by your lofty opinion of men.....
For some insight in to your question, I suggest that you get hold of the book "Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus" and read it. It will provide terrific insight in to just the areas of relat... (read in full...)
How can I prove to my dad that nothing will change my sexuality?
Q. Hey there, So, I came out of the closet on October 11, 2011 (National Coming Out Day) and my dad didn't/isn't taking it so well. He's trying to blame anything he can think of, such as people telling me I am, himself, the activities I par...
A. 3 November 2011: Fathers can be obstinent sorts... and it sounds like your's is one of the MOST....
That said... I believe you'll find that he will continue to look for "reasons" why you are gay... Consider that ONE of his beliefs is quite likely that HE is "resp... (read in full...)
Technically speaking was it not cheating? since we had had a break up. Am I right in my assumption?
Q. My girlfriend dumped me and after three months she came back . We were together for 2 years before I picked up fight with her over small issue which resulted in a being dumped in the last week of July this year. During those three months, I was ...
A. 1 November 2011: It's impossible to "cheat" whilest your pants are still on!!! Tell your girl friend that this dalliance doesn't count!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Our parents have gone back on their word and decided to stop us from having sex, now I'm worried we will be banned from seeing each other!
Q. Me and my girlfriend were all set to have sex for the first time but our parents ruined our plans at the last minute. It was made all the worse because it was meant to be a special moment at the end of a romantic night. I've just turned 16 and so...
A. 1 November 2011: Too bad you don't own a 1959 Oldsmobile (or other full-sized GM car)... The back seats of those babies is as large as many hotel rooms... and you and your lady-friend can get it on.... with room to spare!!! (I know, I had a 1959 Oldsmobile ... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 1 November 2011: So you're willing to risk that this girl will learn of your dalliance (She WILL.. believe me) ,,,, in exchange for 11 seconds of orgamic narcissism (the average duration of a male orgasm)....
Soooooo, what's holding you back???? Not a darn thi... (read in full...)
Is he more interested in sex than me? now all he seems concerned about is how soon we can become a couple and start having sex
Q. Hey guys would love an outsiders opinion to this... Long story short I've met this amazing guy two weeks ago who is sweet, cute, funny and matched and rivalled my humour and we got on really well. We've been talking non stop over this time and al...
A. 31 October 2011: Perhaps you're able to decipher from this that guys have ONE (and ONLY one) thing on their mind when they approach a girl.... and it ain't sharing a malted with 2 straws in the same glass!!!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Does he seem interested??
Q. So i'm in this Film Club where we watched the movie "The Birds" by Alfred Hitchcock. While my best friend and I were waiting for this movie to start, my friend noticed the guy I like came in. I could not stop blushing! During the intermission, I wa...
A. 30 October 2011: How long ago did you attend and watch that movie? I remember it... and I wasn't "right" for about 3 weeks afterward.... and, to this day, I STILL worry about Tippy Hedron's well-being....
Sooooo, perhaps he's still not over the movie...... (read in full...)
How do I assess his intentions without bringing up the word "commitment"?
Q. I met this chap and he likes me and I'm beginning to lower my guard and like him back. At first, I wasn't too keen only because of the fact that he's almost 7 years my junior. After we spoken and got to know each other I'm considering giving him a ...
A. 30 October 2011: My advice is to make a copy of this submittal and put it in a safe place where you won't forget it..... Then, write on your calendar, next June 30th (June 30, 2012) "Look at submittal"..... IF you're still hanging around with this guy, the ... (read in full...)
How do I ensure I don't mess up this relationship? I've had a track record of having a crush on a new guy every single year.
Q. Dear Everybody who reads this, I am an idiot. For as long as I can remember I've had a track record of having a crush on a guy every single year. If I got over one, I'd get one as soon as the new year came around. When I was younger I was really i...
A. 30 October 2011: If, by chance, either of your parents is a former General Motors, Ford or Chrysler executive, then I'd guess your craving for a "new model" every year is a genetic issue.....
If not (parents)... then maybe you're just young and interested in what'... (read in full...)
My Gf has major self esteem issues. will she ever change or go back to the way she used to be?
Q. my fiance of 4 years has always suffered from self esteem issues, an eating disorder and was raped when she was 16. now because of this she dated men who treated her like crap because she thought she deserved that. she has had no support from her ...
A. 30 October 2011: Well... judging by the complexities of the young woman who you described.... I'd say that whatever advice you get herein (and we - collectively - give darn good advice!) won't be worth a whit if this woman doesn't get professional assessment to ... (read in full...)
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