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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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Should I act upon my feelings that she might be interested? Or wait until I return from a trip?
Q. Hey everyone, I want to thank you all so much in advance for reading and responding. I'm having problems deciding whether to act on my intuition and would like to have some advice on how to proceed, as I have a bit of a 'deadline'. I've been havi...
A. 18 August 2013: There is no harm in expressing your feelings. Either she is interested or not and you can find out right now. While on the trip you can learn about each other in a platonic way. I do think that if you act on them now both of you will take this more ... (read in full...)
He can't hold off masturbating for one day during the week but can go two days without doing anything sexual with me.
Q. I have a question to all the guys who have been in a relationship for at least a year. My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 1/2. He's 33, I am 28. We do not live together yet but are working on it. Every weekend Friday to Monday morning we ...
A. 18 August 2013: You probably feel upset that he's not as interested and turned on by you anymore, after a year. The thing with sex drive is that when your partner wants less you seem to want more. You can compare sex with food. Masturbation to porn is like mac n ... (read in full...)
He almost got married during the time we were broken up and sometimes when I'm feeling really low it bothers me
Q. I got back with my ex for more than half a year after being apart for 1.5 years, and are currently quite stable. The reasons for him breaking up with me then are considered resolved, and we are prepared to make it work this time round. My only i...
A. 18 August 2013: A lot of men get married right after a break up. It could be any girl. They do this on an impulse, for the fear of losing the chance and having to start all over again. His ex probably felt he was insincere and that you were always at the back of ... (read in full...)
She poured her heart out in an email to me then started dating someone else
Q. Hello, Has any girl reading this settled for 2nd best? Shortly after meeting someone and going on a few dates I had to move 120 miles away. She sent me a very lengthy email explaining all the things she liked about me but she finds it so hard and...
A. 18 August 2013: She comes across as someone who can't stand to be alone and would settle for a possible 2nd LDR and a man much older than her. There is no need to stay in touch. Just hope that it would all work out with the older guy, just long enough for you to ... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time with this 'second chance' stuff if he can't even honor the date we arranged that was due to happen on Sunday?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years and I almost split up last week. It was me who initiated the break up conversation as I feel he puts too much emphasis on his friends and going out with them rather than spending time with me. He got really upset and...
A. 17 August 2013: He is passive with dating plans. He wouldn't do anything until you suggest something to do. After 4 years together, summer festivals and day trips to the country probably are not as fun as playing music with his buddies. Being a young musician ... (read in full...)
I want my needs met, even if he can't do it
Q. My boyfriend and I have been ttogether for ten months. Ii love him but we haver never had intercourse yet. He cant maintain an erection. He does other things but its not cutting it anymore! I need the feeling that only a penis can provide. I have ...
A. 17 August 2013: There are enough men who can give you both sex and love so my advice is to leave him. When he told you to do what you need to do I hope that doesn't mean get a lover on the side. Try to find the whole package in a man, or have nothing at all, so you ... (read in full...)
Is there a way you can sucessfully date a player?
Q. Is there a way you can sucessfully date a player? The guy who is super attractive,The kind of guy who is after one thing (sex).This guy is single and has alot of women chasing after him but he doesnt pay them attention, which is what attracted me to ...
A. 17 August 2013: Men don't go both ways. You can't turn a nice boy into a player and vice versa. To keep the attention of the player you have to be the bigger player. Successful here means you get the game playing for as long as you allow it. A sincere relationship ... (read in full...)
Did he forget we agreed to get married in December?
Q. Hi everyone. Please tell me if I am overreacting. My boyfriend asked me to marry him and I said yes, we agreed to marry in December. This was 2 months ago. We do not have a ring yet. He says he is saving. We have not discussed that again, I accepted ...
A. 14 August 2013: Well a lot of people just get married in the city hall with no rings. No church no honeymoon, no family members no nothing. But in this case I do think he is trying to gauge your reaction, and to stop you from talking about marriage again. Either ... (read in full...)
Should I just keep quiet and my love and pain to myself in regards to a co-worker moving away?
Q. This is a stupid question but I'm going to ask it anyway because I feel so bad. I am a married man with children and I'm in love with a significantly younger woman at work. She's recently married and happily so as far as I can tell. We get on really ...
A. 14 August 2013: I suggest you write the letter but then burn it. A woman still single would feel flattered and touched. Very bittersweet that it's a love that would never be. However a woman going to marry soon would feel, "How dare you?"
Love, whether it is forb... (read in full...)
Shouldn't my boyfriend know by now if he wants a future with me?
Q. I'm an emotional roller coaster lately, and I'm not sure if it's because I'm torn, or if I'm going into a "low" period. I have had periods where I feel very negative before, and in these periods everything looks black. So please, it'd be great to ...
A. 14 August 2013: You should listen to your thoughts. They seem to be negative now, but your instinct always points you to a brighter future. I can understand why people can doubt relationships so much, but if you are going to have one, then do it all the way. As a ... (read in full...)
I Think My Girlfriend Walks All Over Me
Q. Hey guys, This is my first post on here so I’ll give it a go. I have been with my girlfriend for about 15 months now and all my friends think she walks all over me and I don’t be the man in the relationship. Whenever I have a problem with anyt...
A. 14 August 2013: There is bro before hoes, and there's also chicks before dicks. She's unable to allow space for the relationship to grow because she has no power saying to her friends that you are important in her life. Her idea of fun is too immature for your ... (read in full...)
Fiance is angry because I don't want him going on vacation with family of my dead husband
Q. Ok so, I've been dating this man for 6 months and we are engaged to be married. Yea, when you know you know. It just felt right. I have 3 kids from a previous marriage (he passed away 5 years ago). I thought everything was ok until this past week ...
A. 14 August 2013: You are not wrong for feeling this way. You are not bringing him along not because you want to hide this relationship, but because your family may never accept him as a replacement of your late husband. There will be tension, the vacation will be ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's brother is getting me down
Q. im 24 and my boyfriend is 28 and we have been together almost 4 years. he lives in a one bedroom apartment and i still live with my parents as its closer for me to get to work. i visit and stay with him from a friday until a monday, sometime...
A. 13 August 2013: His brother has nowhere to move out. You didn't mention his parents but maybe they said no already? If his brother has friends, I am sure they won't tolerate him. Your boyfriend is the only one who will take care of him. Whenever you are at your ... (read in full...)
Why do I miss my ex-bf when I'm better off without him?
Q. We broke up a few months ago and there are times where i can't stop thinking about him. This guy was everything to me, we were together for 4 years but obviously things weren't working out. - I was the bread winner and mostly taking care of...
A. 13 August 2013: You get lonely after a break up now that there is a void in your life. Your ex boyfriend wasn't all bad. There was some sweet moments too. People fight so hard, work on the relationships, for what, for that little bit of sweetness that's hard to ... (read in full...)
Dear Diary, I have poor self confidence
Q. Dear Diary, I have poor self confidence By Highmaintenance101 I honestly can’t count the number of times I enjoyed answering questions about self confidence since I have joined this site. It always excites me to answer a question where in I have...
A. 13 August 2013: Confidence is a highly discussed topic but not everyone is aware of it in daily lives. This article made me think. It can start off with worrying about being late, forgetting a document, and a slight comment from your boss. You go on your day try to ... (read in full...)
Was he right to compare my body to a woman in a porn movie
Q. I've been dieting and lost 12 lbs thus far. I was doing this mainly to lose some tummy fat that settled as I have grown a little older. This seems to be the hardest area for me to lose it. My boyfriend, we are talking about marriage, and ha...
A. 13 August 2013: I think some men purposefully make women feel insecure to bring them down to their level. Insecure women are less likely to leave their men. They spend a lot of time trying to please their men. They get distracted and lose track of what they really ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend didn't contact me all weekend so I ended things. How do I keep from taking him back?
Q. My boyfriend (now ex) has been missing all weekend. I know for a fact he is ok as pics of him at house parties have been popping up on facebook. Yet he cannot be bothered to contact me or pick up his phone. Im so angry. I never stop him going out, ...
A. 12 August 2013: You go back to your original agreement that if he messes up again it's the end, for good.
I don't know how many boxes you packed and how much postage it would be if you mail them to him. For me even if it's a few hundred bucks it would be worth it f... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits or something more?
Q. Hi, wonderful people! I had some sort of friends with benefits situation with a guy who later became my boss. He wanted to be with me sexually after I started working for him, but apart from a couple of relapses, I managed to keep the sex at bay ...
A. 12 August 2013: A man's challenge is always to get a woman to fall in love with him. It ensures regular sex and that she will not look elsewhere. He always feels unease as long as the woman acts cool and can ignore him anytime. Whether he wants a relationship ... (read in full...)
I'm 34 and never have had a "proper relationship". Is there something fundamentally wrong with me?
Q. Hi, I'm writing this questions as my confidence in having any proper relationship is pretty low. I am wondering where I am going wrong. I'm starting to wonder if there's something fundamentally wrong with me. I'm 34 and never have had a "p...
A. 12 August 2013: There is a stereotype that if a man is not married by 35, he will never want marriage because he is too fussy and hard to compromise. Having no relationship experience is considered a red flag. It's not always a mistake to sleep at the first date ... (read in full...)
The boyfriend, his ex and their child are going to the movies!
Q. Hey. This site always gives me great advice and I was wondering if you lovely people could give me your opinion. Dating boyfriend 1.5 years. He has a 6 year old daughter with an ex. Bit if history/ Seen as myself and my other half knew ...
A. 11 August 2013: I think her username is my boyfriend's account. Not every woman is that angry with her boyfriend.
Where do you see yourself in this relationship? Has he ever told you he's not looking for another mother for her daughter? Do you want to be a moth... (read in full...)
My ex and I were talking again but he hasn't responded to my text. Is he ignoring me?
Q. I broke up with him and after not speaking for about 2 weeks we got back in contact. We met up about a week later and it went really well. We spoke a couple of times after that. Then, it was his birthday so I sent him a text wishing him a good day ...
A. 11 August 2013: You are talking again. It could mean that the angry, hurt feelings had been processed and you could act civilized as friends. You could look back at the relationship with no regrets and move on. It doesn't have to mean you want to get back together. ... (read in full...)
Should I have confronted a married man in a restaurant who kept staring at my pretty daughter?
Q. My 19 year old daughter is very pretty. She along with my wife and I went to a popular restaurant for dinner last week. As we were being seated I see this middle aged guy sitting with his wife and kids staring at my daughter, he didn't take his eyes ...
A. 11 August 2013: It would have been a better thing to do to move to another table. I know of beautiful people that I had to try hard not to stare, like a piece of art. You may be thinking that he's visually undressing your daughter but he could simply be studying ... (read in full...)
I slept with my boss who has a girlfriend. Now what?
Q. Ive had a major crush on my boss at work for a while. A few weeks back when he was drunk he started texting me and said he would like to take me out one time. I didnt agree as wasnt sure whether dating my boss would be a good move. Anyway last nig...
A. 11 August 2013: If you don't have a problem with helping a guy cheat not one time but more, then you are that type. You don't have to be a skank, an alcoholic wearing fish nets to be considered that type. Just because you don't feel bad about it doesn't make it ... (read in full...)
The more successful I become, the more friends I lose! Why?
Q. I feel like the more I get older and the more successful I become then the more I lose my female friends. Please someone explain how or why? I'm 35 years old and it hurtful and confusing. ...
A. 11 August 2013: You might have thought that being successful mean your friends would congratulate you and feel happy for you. Your friends are probably jealous because they probably work just as hard and can't understand what you have that they don't. ... (read in full...)
We dated for 4 years, broke up and now 3 months later he's getting married! Why didn't he marry me?
Q. Hurt and angry about that my ex is about to marry his new girlfriend! Ex and I dated for 4 years. We had talked about marriage-it was a bit of a rocky relationship. He broke up with me, and less than two weeks later, he is already with someone new...
A. 11 August 2013: He has been having a relationship with two of you, probably for a while. He timed it so that it didn't look like he was breaking up with you in order to be with her. It's not uncommon at all for people to jump ship then get married. Sometimes the ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me but as soon as I posted that I had a date he contacted me?
Q. A few days ago, my boyfriend broke up with me. He said he was so confused about himself and where his life was going, and he wasn't sure what his future held. He said he felt like something was missing and he couldn't explain what and he felt like ...
A. 11 August 2013: You are free to do whatever you want. If I were you I would tell him that you got him the charger and it's on the way in the mail. No need to post statuses on facebook and no need to check up on him. ... (read in full...)
I'm 34 and never have had a "proper relationship". Is there something fundamentally wrong with me?
Q. Hi, I'm writing this questions as my confidence in having any proper relationship is pretty low. I am wondering where I am going wrong. I'm starting to wonder if there's something fundamentally wrong with me. I'm 34 and never have had a "p...
A. 10 August 2013: A lover and a husband require two separate traits. We have a tendency to put people into boxes, to make life simpler. Your profile may cause insecurity in women. Too often when you are good at sex people automatically assume you may not be loyal and ... (read in full...)
I'm very depressed since my sister moved away!
Q. hey guys , i'm a girl 18 years old,i think i have a real depression problem,four months ago my sister traveled to france, with her husband, it was so hard for me to say goodbye to her , we were best friends we did everything together , i cried so ...
A. 10 August 2013: You need a professional to assess whether you need medication. You can start with a school counselor who can give you a direction. Depression can be serious and should not be ignored.
People can forget things, provided that they are fully grow... (read in full...)
She's practically perfect, but has two kids to two different dads!
Q. Iam really struggling with this situation. I have been seeing a woman for the past couple of months. She is amazing just what I have been looking for funny, supportive, kind, affectionate. She's an amazing cook. She educated and a working ...
A. 10 August 2013: She can be a wife. She can still do household chores, be a mother figure and be an intimate partner to you. Some people define wife as a person to take to social functions, and that your partner should match your reputation. Another thing to concern ... (read in full...)
How can I help my younger sister and get her out of the house more?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. This is long and I apologize but please, please bear with me. I'll be honest, it's hard typing this because this is my younger sister I'm talking about. It breaks my damn heart... My younger sister was dealt a difficult card i...
A. 10 August 2013: It's very hard for a special needs person especially when they do want to socialize but doesn't feel worthy of love therefore very isolated and lonely. Friendships are not working now, so I would suggest getting a pet for her. Dogs and cats have ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is so social and constantly posting about places/things we do. I don't care for it!
Q. Dear All, My boyfriend and I have been together just over two years. I’m a more private person, whereas he’s fond of social networks, which I understand, but I asked him when we’d only been together a few months not to ‘check in’ places when we’r...
A. 10 August 2013: It is hard to think of a request like this as abusive. Even if the request involves a lifestyle change such as a threesome, or to stop smoking, it can hardly be abusive. It is not abusive, he is saying that to make you stop asking it again because ... (read in full...)
I really want to help women gain some body confidence but I'm not sure how I can make a difference
Q. I'm really interested in helping women with body issues, but I don't know where to start. We've all heard of the negative messages that are out there telling women that small breasted women are automatically less attractive than large breasted ...
A. 9 August 2013: The media does influence me. I am one of many who is conditioned to believe a 36-24-36 is the ideal. What I should say is the media is trying to sell a product but it could only hurt those who believe that's the only way to feel good about ... (read in full...)
A female in denial of her feelings. Anyone dealt with that?
Q. Im curious. Has anyone ever dealt with a female who was in denial of her feelings? And if so, what did it take for her to get over it and come around?...
A. 8 August 2013: Maybe she saw your profile here and paid attention to what you wrote in #6. She couldn't deal with it. ... (read in full...)
I really want to help women gain some body confidence but I'm not sure how I can make a difference
Q. I'm really interested in helping women with body issues, but I don't know where to start. We've all heard of the negative messages that are out there telling women that small breasted women are automatically less attractive than large breasted ...
A. 8 August 2013: I believe that-
A monogamous relationship is itself a control of sexuality.
There is a universal standard of physical beauty, only it's different from one era to another.
Therapy is a futile attempt at damage control, the common problem of b... (read in full...)
Hooked up with my best friend, does everything seem fine?
Q. My REALLY good friend and I decided a week in advance that we would fool around at this party. I'm 23, he's 21. We've known each other for 3 years and because he has social anxiety it has taken this long to get him to open up to me. I'm his second ...
A. 6 August 2013: Exchanging I love you's are dangerous. Always remember that he is only saying it so you believe there is more going on and you won't look for other guys. The friendship can be normal if you can accept it but don't kid yourself, you do want more than ... (read in full...)
I want to be excited to see him and have butterflies but I don't really get that with him
Q. hi everyone... really need some input from anyone who is feeling unsure about what it is that they want... about three months ago I reconnected with an old friend who I used to very close with 2 years ago... he has a huge crush on me and I thought ...
A. 6 August 2013: If you never have butterflies for 2 years you will never grow into having them. This is the kind of man a woman close to 40 would settle for. You are young and can afford to be picky. You have time to experience the ups and downs, the passion of a ... (read in full...)
Why can't I cum when having sex with a girl?
Q. Hello. This is about not being able to cum inside a girl. Well I'm a 26 year old male who has had sex with about 4 different girls. None of then have never got me to cum and its frustrating to both of us usually. One girl cried because I couldn't. I ...
A. 6 August 2013: You've become dependent on your hand for a release so you don't know what to do when you are inside a girl. It doesn't sound like you are afraid of getting a girl pregnant. I would suggest stop looking at porn and masturbating. This is not uncommon. ... (read in full...)
I want to cut my family out of my life. They are never there for me!
Q. I want to cut my family out of my life. Ive said it before in the past, but this time I want to do it for good. My dad is an emotionally abusive paranoid hypocrite who does not support me in anything I do. My mother is the same she abused me as ...
A. 6 August 2013: It sounds like your parents never wanted you so you had been kind of out of the family early on. The first step is to accept that your family is rotten but you are not alone. A lot of women leave the family by marrying off the first men they see, ... (read in full...)
Hooked up with my best friend, does everything seem fine?
Q. My REALLY good friend and I decided a week in advance that we would fool around at this party. I'm 23, he's 21. We've known each other for 3 years and because he has social anxiety it has taken this long to get him to open up to me. I'm his second ...
A. 6 August 2013: It looks like you have anxiety too, so you are in a very vulnerable position when you have feelings for him and he doesn't. This difference makes it an unequal relationship. And because he doesn't have feelings for you, he will be fine while you ... (read in full...)
I can't find the spark I had with my ex!
Q. Right if you could please help, about 3 yrs ago now I split up with an ex. We were together for four years.. it ended a lot because I had drawn myself away from her and didn't spend time with her.. basically I always thought it would end as I felt ...
A. 6 August 2013: You had the perfect girlfriend but you didn't want to be the perfect man. No one is perfect but at least be the right person for the right girl. Cheap sex is easy to get but to become a real man whom a girl feels you are husband material is the ... (read in full...)
Since we moved in together, my fiance seems to have lost all interest in sex
Q. Me and my fiancee have been together for 5 years now, and have lived together for a year and a half. Since we've been living together my fiancee seems to have lost all interest in sex. He is always saying he is too tired, or has lost his sex ...
A. 5 August 2013: At the beginning sex is steamy and you are all over each other because future is unpredictable and you want to do as much as you can before something splits you up. You also want to impress one another about your sexual ability. Now when there is no ... (read in full...)
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