My boyfriend never buy me gifts or flowers. Do you think this is petty of me to think this way or is this a problem?
Q. I buy my boyfriend nice gifts, all the time. Golf stuff, beer stuff, nice ties... He really doesn't do anything for me at all. He brought me a book for my birthday and a sex toy and that's about it. Otherwise, our relationship (one year so far...
A. 30 August 2014: Dear FA :)
Amazon's wish list have been my "saving grace" when it comes to being "gifted" for birthday/Christmas. My husband has been of the "let's be practical" attitude for YEARS (heck a decade at least) where I would get a vacuum cleaner ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never buy me gifts or flowers. Do you think this is petty of me to think this way or is this a problem?
Q. I buy my boyfriend nice gifts, all the time. Golf stuff, beer stuff, nice ties... He really doesn't do anything for me at all. He brought me a book for my birthday and a sex toy and that's about it. Otherwise, our relationship (one year so far...
A. 29 August 2014: This is actually a hard topic in some ways. Because if you say I WANT gifts from my partner, some people will think you are either needy or materialistic. BUT the truth is EVERYONE likes to get spoiled even in little ways.
My husband is really t... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to get in contact with an ex?
Q. I was in a long distance relationship with a guy from the age of 16 until I was 19. We made it work by visiting each other regularly. It's been two years since we broke up... It wasn't working. Neither of us wanted to move interstate, I wa...
A. 29 August 2014: I think you should stick to leaving him be. He is with someone else, you are with someone else. You haven't had contact for 2 years, so he is NOT your "buddy" or friend no more.
Focus on your own life, your family, friends and BF.
... (read in full...)
He says he's not in love with me and wouldn't introduce me to his family.. should I walk away?
Q. Hello guys, I'm a 19-year-old girl who has been dating this 31-year-old Irish guy for 3 months. We have our problems, but we get along. He's fun, caring and all and we're in a committed relationship. The trouble is that when we were joking around ...
A. 29 August 2014: I would say first that it's ONLY been 3 months, so maybe he doesn't say "I love you" lightly. He doesn't say it till he means it. Which would sort of make sense after only 3 months. BUT I would think if he really DID care and want to be with you he ... (read in full...)
Arranged marriage -- she tells me her past is too dark to reveal
Q. dear all... my marriage was half arrenged and half love. Thats means we met through our relatives and we fell in love. we dont know much about eachothers past. Whenever i talk about past she just refuses to talk about it. She says she wont be bothe...
A. 29 August 2014: Why do you NEED to know? You seem like you aren't sure you can really handle the truth, so in THIS case WHY seek it out?
HER past is HERS. IT was BEFORE she knew you, before YOU knew her. Before you two fell in love.
She is smart in not tel... (read in full...)
Suspicious behaviour from my wife in the context of a poor marriage
Q. Ok so here is the situation. About 2 yrs. ago my wife tells me that she is not in love with me anymore and that we should separate. The next day she wants to take back what she said and work on our marriage. So I agree. Anyways, My wife is ...
A. 28 August 2014: What do YOU get out of staying married?
You get no sex, no affection, you feel you have to snoop to see what's going on in her life, she lies to you and she is doing all kind of suspect things behind your back and YOU are just supposed to SUCK it ... (read in full...)
I am sick of financially supporting my boyfriend.
Q. Am I a bad person to want marriage and a secure future My bf lost his job 8 months ago and I've been supporting him emotionally and financally since then. We've been through so much. We fought, argued, he's pushed me away several times bu...
A. 28 August 2014: I think ANY relationship can only sustain so much hardship before cracks show up.
8 MONTHS of him living of you? No financial help? No unemployment? Absolutely NO income from him? That is hard. Does he then take care of the house? cook, clean? w... (read in full...)
Is it arrogant to think that you're "too good" for someone?
Q. Is it okay to think that you're too good for someone (or that you want to reject them based on your high standards), provided you don't say it to anyone else? To merely think it as part of making a decision? Just found out a male acquaintance sec...
A. 28 August 2014: No, I don't think there is a problem with thinking YOU can do better. Or that he isn't what you're looking for.
To think you can do better than him? I'm OK with that. I would just keep that to myself. I'd call it, we are not really compatib... (read in full...)
Do you think sex talk is this woman's way of trying to lead me into an affair?
Q. I have a woman friend who is married. I see her every week for dinner with a group of friends. We hit it off quite well having a lot of common interests. Lately she's been telling me how unhappy she is with her husband, that her marriage is ...
A. 28 August 2014: I think she is starved for attention, specially if they (her and her husband) are thinking/talking divorce.
Asking you personal and sexual questions might just be for "fantasy-fodder". And I DO think she wants to be a little "naughty" (not nec... (read in full...)
Asking him for sex is like asking for a kidney! Is it normal for a man to try and avoid sex so much?
Q. I'm with my man a year and 6 months and the sex is becoming non existant. At the begining it was great but now im lucky to get sex once a month. It's always me who has to ask or make a move never him and its upsetting me. When i said it he said he ...
A. 28 August 2014: Is it "normal" for a male in your age-group not rarely want sex? No, it's not. It's definitely NOT average at all.
However, IT might be the norm for him. He might not BE very interested in sex. He was in the start, but the novelty has worn off... (read in full...)
Was this a platonic response or is there more to it?
Q. I am friends with a man through an acquaintance of mine and most of our conversations have been work related (although glances and smiles between us have indicated otherwise and there might be an unspoken attraction). The other day I confirmed my ...
A. 28 August 2014: I think it's a nice friendly PLATONIC response. No need to overthink every word he writes.... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting about him not initiating any text for the last few days ?
Q. I have been dating this guy for 2 months over the summer and he had to move 6 hours away (driving) to finish his masters program for one year. Prior to his moving we had spent a month and half 24/7 together. We had gotten very close and decided ...
A. 28 August 2014: I have to agree with the uncles. You are WAY overreacting, borderline drama queen.
I'm always so surprised when your generation seem to think that constant contact is how you conduct a proper relationship. That if he doesn't reply how YOU want him... (read in full...)
Need help dealing with heavy periods
Q. Hey I'm 13 and I have really heavy periods which are usually accompanied by horrible cramps. My cycle lasts for 3-4 days; in a day I manage to get through 4 pads!? Is this normal? I don't wear tampons because they seem really unfomortable. Like when ...
A. 28 August 2014: Tell your mom. Then your mom can take you to the doctor. IF you have to wear overnight (long and thick) pads then your flow is pretty heavy and I'm sorry that it happens to you.
Birth Control pill CAN help lessen the flow, so can regular exercise... (read in full...)
I think I might be pregnant! Should I tell my boyfriend?
Q. I think I might be pregnant but I don't want to say anything to my boyfriend before I know it's true. My boyfriend is 21 and im 17 and I'm on birth control but I accidentally missed 3 pills in a row. My boyfriends cums inside me but I thought that ...
A. 28 August 2014: Buy a test, wait the two weeks and then tested. And I think BEFORE you tell your BF, you need to tell your mom. If the test shows positive. If he shows negative, talk to your doctor.
The reason you feel crappy CAN also be because you missed t... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't look at other girls...lying?
Q. Basically, my boyfriend lies about looking at other girls. I've always known that men, even in a committed relationship, look at other women. Obviously I know some do it more than others and for some there's just glance. My boyfriend claims he ...
A. 27 August 2014: YOU are looking for things to use as ammo.
If he tells you he DOES look at other girls, you';d freak out and think he will cheat or... find other girls prettier...
If he tells you he DOESN'T really pay attention to other girls, he MUST be lying... (read in full...)
Expecting a baby with Bf. Looking for accomodation. Bf suggested adding a female room-mate. I said no. Was I wrong to say no to his idea?
Q. My boyfriend and I are currently apartment hunting. We are expecting a child in a few months and have been looking for a 2 bedroom apartment with little luck. The other day he messaged me telling me that one of his female coworkers was looking ...
A. 27 August 2014: I think you did the right thing. You went with your gut. To be honest having your first baby is NOT the time to get a room mate you barely know (if ANY room mate).
I would try and NOT overthink it, but still stick to your guns with no stranger... (read in full...)
She said she's not into sex but now seems to want a relationship. What should I do?
Q. I have known this woman for 20 years. We are now both divorced. We've been dating basically just to get out of the house and we enjoy each others company. The first date we went out on, she stated she's not into sex out of no where. I thought gee I ...
A. 26 August 2014: Be honest with her, right back. Tell her you really enjoy her company but you are NOT looking for a sexless relationship, so you rather be JUST friends with her.
I think it's fair enough that she no longer has an interest in sex and it's fair eno... (read in full...)
Struggling to get over my holiday romance. Do I try harder or let it go?
Q. I am just confused and need some help as I have no one else to talk to. I recently went on holiday in Greece with my friends. I met this guy from England aswell whilst over there. We just clicked well so I thought. We spent the majority of the time ...
A. 26 August 2014: I think, for YOUR own sake, that you need to let it go and move on.
There isn't anything MORE you can do. If he doesn't even bother to reply to a text from you, what else can you do? Text some more for him to ignore? Call him so he can ignore y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me ugly, should I be upset?
Q. I've been with my bf for about 3 years now. He's never called me ugly before (and I'm not too attractive) but recently I've made a new guy friend and I was texting him a lot today. My boyfriend was with me and he kept asking who i was texting. I ...
A. 26 August 2014: Yeah your BF is jealous and... rude as frack.... (read in full...)
I go on a weekend away and come home to a boyfriend with what looks like a love bite on his neck
Q. Hi everyone! I'm just wanting your opinion on whether I'm being naive here! Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years, I've never had a reason to not trust him! This weekend I went away with my friends for bank holiday and he went out ...
A. 26 August 2014: You know, I had a nerf gun fight in the back yard with the kids and one hit my throat and 15 minutes later... it looked JUST like a hickey. Hubby teased me for days.
So yea, I believe your BF. Specially if the friend posted another bruise with the... (read in full...)
My boyfriend disappeared for days and I feel sad, confused, and lonely
Q. My boyfriend and I have (or had...) a very happy relationship, at least it was happy on my end, and he seemed happy too, but now I have no idea what is going on. It was very hard for me to trust him at first because of all the things that have ...
A. 26 August 2014: You are being so very very naive and THAT will hurt most YOU in the end.
His whole FAMILY are selling drugs, because of bad finances? Seriously? Do they think they are the "new" Breaking Bad family?
Honey, you might think this is LOVE, but if ... (read in full...)
The more I find out about her past the more ill I feel
Q. sorry for the long post but gotta put from the start...i met my wife in august of 2012,she was 23 i was 28 she was a co-worker and from the moment i meet her i was just consumed by her never got tired of being around her and hated when our shift ...
A. 26 August 2014: First off, a bacterial vaginosis is NOT an STD.
It's an bacterial infection in the vagina. Can be caused by many things, like OVER washing (douching), having MANY partners (the Ph value in the vagina is sensitive and semen can seriously much it ... (read in full...)
If I stay with him, I feel like my soul will die. If I leave, I'll leave with the clothes on my back and my child, with nowhere to turn...
Q. So I need some advice/help... I'm 24 and a mother to a beautiful 7 year old daughter. I have also been in what I have discovered to be a very toxic relationship for 5 years. To sum it up, we have both hurt each other for no reason but too...
A. 26 August 2014: Do you have a job? Can your family help?
Because I fully agree with Auntie Cindy. YOU NEED to leave. Now.... (read in full...)
Would you start a relationship with a good friend who asks, "If we're both not married by 30 then will you marry me?"
Q. I have a very good friend. He was my first love, 10 years ago, and we have kept in touch ever since. He means a lot to me, I love him, we usually get on and he makes me howl with laughter. We also have similar interests and ideals etc. Basically ...
A. 26 August 2014: Yep I had a "I'll marry you by 30" buddy too. I would NEVER have married him.
Never settle. Unless you don't take marriage seriously.
So WHAT if you are not married by 30?
And I agree you are taking it to literal and too serious.
You ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to be a lone traveler!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating about two years now. He has a son with another woman unplanned. I've always known he's wanted to travel the world at some point and I never thought much of it as its something I'd like to do at some point too, not ...
A. 26 August 2014: I agree with WiseOwlE.
Set him free. Move on. Find yourself a man who doesn't live in LA-LA land.
He IS wanting to run from his responsibilities. Now I get it, MEN don't really have a say when a woman gets pregnant. They have no say if she ha... (read in full...)
Ex was on the verge of cheating and blames me for his indiscretion!
Q. Hi Aunties and Uncles, I was in a relationship with a man for almost 2 years. I recently broke it off with him because he was texting another women. Nothing horribly inappropriate, but eventually he admitted he was attracted to her and started ...
A. 26 August 2014: I honestly laughed at your post (NOT AT YOU) but seriously? He told you it was YOUR fault?
Honey, don't tell you me you believe his bullshit?
He is mad that HE got caught being LESS than decent.
Like Cindy explained he is acting like a chil... (read in full...)
I think my B/f might he seeing this other girl but I don't know what to ask him.
Q. My boyfriend and I normally have a great sex life. We would have sex maybe 2-3 times a day when we first met, and although nothing too kinky, it was adventurous. When we moved in together it slowed down, and he almost stopped wanting it as of...
A. 26 August 2014: Well I see a couple of problems here.
You snooped because your gut told you something was up. Which is why most people snoop and I won't go into a long moral tirade about your BF's privacy, because you do seem to know that snooping is NOT a good t... (read in full...)
Help cliquey work colleagues, yes it's not unusual but It hurts!
Q. last night I worked a night shift with 2 younger girls from the uk, they are good friends in and out of work , which isfine but they made no effort to include me in any conversation, I know we are there to work and they are friends, but..no matter ...
A. 25 August 2014: Bring a book or magazine. Working together doesn't mean they HAVE to include you in "social" chatter.
I'd just leave the "kids" to themselves and focus on work.
... (read in full...)
I told him I like him, his answer has me confused.
Q. I finally told him I like him, I couldn't look at him straight in the eye because I was embarrassed to admit it first. And surprisingly, he said I like you too. But then when I asked what he meant in case I misinterpret it, he said I like you not as ...
A. 25 August 2014: I would presume he likes you AS a person. As in, you are a good person. Not JUST a good friend.
Does it mean he WANTS to date you? Not necessarily. Since he hasn't asked you out, knowing that you "like like" him. You can be attracted to someone ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friend is trying to get him to cheat. What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone. Me and my boyfriend have been together for five years, we did have a 11 week separation back last year and got back together in February. This separation was due to a change in circumstances and in this break we both dated other peop...
A. 25 August 2014: Just talk to your BF, tell him you trust him, but you don't like his friend undermining your relationship.
That way your BF knows HE can go to the party (because IF I was the gf I would "let" him) and that you have no doubt he will be faithful... (read in full...)
Does it matter that my boyfriend never confronted his friend's creepy behavior toward me?
Q. When my boyfriend and I first started talking to each other, before we had any titles or anything, he invited me to a party at his friends house. It was going to be the first night we spent together so I was pretty excited. I invited my good friend ...
A. 25 August 2014: Was the creepy gropy friend drunk too?
If so it "might" excuse his behavior a little bit, however, I would not expect your BF to stand up for you and tell this guy it was a disgusting thing to do, I WOULD tell the douche-lord myself. (I would te... (read in full...)
A drunken night of kissing and cuddling meant nothing to my friend! How do I respond back to him?
Q. Hi everyone, i hope you can help!! I'll try and make this as short as i can! Ive been friends with this guy since school (like when we were from about 10) and a year ago we reconnected as friends and even though he was at uni out of london, whene...
A. 25 August 2014: It takes two to kiss. You could have stopped this at any point in time, if you WEREN'T SURE you wanted it or weren't sure HE really wanted it.
You are also old enough to be honest with a friend.
I think alcohol was only part of the reason it ha... (read in full...)
Is she interested , or just flirty ?
Q. So I need I little advice here . I've recently became interested in a friend that I've had over the years but no recently have I become interested in her . She's older than she being 25 and I being 23 . The problem is I don't know if she is ...
A. 25 August 2014: Make a trip to the zoo all 3 of you. Tell her before hand that you WANT her to me someone very special to you.
That way there will be time to get to know each other but enough distractions to make it an easy met.... (read in full...)
I'm reaching the age where I can't have children and I have none of my own. How do I cope?
Q. I am 42 (will be 43 next April) and childless. My marriage failed 3 years ago as my ex husband was abusive - I deliberately did not have children with him because of it but held out way too long for things to change (10 years). Anyway - I met a ...
A. 25 August 2014: I have a good friend who hadn't found "the one" by the time she was 39 and she decided she didn't NEED "the one" to have a child. She went to her doctor and talked it over then she went to a sperm bank and picked out a donor.
She now has a happy ... (read in full...)
How do I know if this girl had sex before me?
Q. hello, I have a girlfriend. last month i had sex with her,this was my first time.after did the sex lot of confusion created. according to my girl friend she was also first time but during sex i seen her membrane had already broken and vagina is lo...
A. 25 August 2014: How do you know? YOU trust her.
Not having a hymen is NO proof. Neither is being "loose". That would be like saying that men with smaller a penis has had a LOT of sex or not enough.. It makes NO sense.
The size of her vagina is a variable as th... (read in full...)
Jealousy is ruining my life!
Q. For as far back as I can remember, I have been a VERY jealous person. I was jealous of friends, girls in my class, and one day in primary school, my friends mum actually said to me that I was a very jealous little girl because I got so pissed off ...
A. 25 August 2014: I agree with Auntie Bim
There is no "instant fix" of jealousy. You need to figure out WHY you feel this way, then get PROPER help in how to deal with it.... (read in full...)
It is wrong if I would kiss my older 3rd cousin and experiment?
Q. I just got in touch with my third cousin over a year ago. We both find each other attractive and flirt a lot. He even offered to pay for my first tattoo for when im legally able to do it without my parents. This means that I would have to go up to ...
A. 25 August 2014: I think it's IS wrong. And I think he is overstepping some SERIOUS lines here. He is 10 years older then you, and SHOULD know better.
What IF he doesn't want to stop at kissing?
This is a MALE family member who SHOULD make you feel safe, inste... (read in full...)
5 year relationship ending because of us being jealous and controlling
Q. MOD NOTE: 2 questions put into one Hello there, Yesterday my bf of 5 years told me on the phone he does not know what to do, he thinks to end the relationship is best for both of us because we will have more arguments. I cried on the phone and he...
A. 25 August 2014: Do YOU think this is good or bad? Only YOU can answer that.
Maybe he texted because of the FB thing you pulled. He knows you are not a happy camper and even if he doesn't want to DATE you he might still CARE about you.
The thing is though ... (read in full...)
My ex will give me money but only after I have sex with him. I need the money but don't want the sex!
Q. I have been trying to start a business since last year, since i am unemployed but lack of capital has been my biggest challenge. Lats month i met my ex, who is financially stable and he promised to sponsor my business. So he wants to give me this...
A. 25 August 2014: You don't need excuses you need to be HONEST. And tell him, I'd take your loan, but I do not want sex.
Tell him you are NOt a prostitute and you do not like being treated as one.
If he doesn't WANT to give you money without the sex, I would... (read in full...)
Do I continue to like my crush or let it die out? He has a girlfriend!
Q. hi everyone who wont judge me, im bestfriends with this guy and i've secretly liked him since the day we met and then i told him i like him and he likes me but the thing is he has a girlfriend and it's just been awkward since so what do i do stay ...
A. 25 August 2014: Like WiseOwlE said, you should NOT put your life on hold for a guy. Specially a guy who might not even date you if he was single.
If a GUY has a GF, you do NOT "confess" your feelings to them. That is not right. And it's DISRESPECTFUL to the frie... (read in full...)
Can I get sick from doggy style anal sex?
Q. hi everyone plz help me n my bf we meet in 3mnths ago we madly in luv but everytym we hv sex (dogstyl) we do it in my ass n it painfull sometimes i cnt even seat for dayz becouse off the pain im feeling when i tell him he said he enjoys the dogstyl ...
A. 25 August 2014: If you do not enjoy it and are in pain for days then WHY do you keep doing it? Because HE likes it?
Have a little self respect, young lady, and tell him I don't enjoy the anal sex at all. If he doesn't accept that then WHY be with him?
Are you... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is still close to his ex girlfriend's family. Should I be worried?
Q. My partner of 3 years still spends a lot of time with his ex-girlfriends mother-in-law, calls her mum and generally spends time with the family. He's kept this from me a few times when he wanted to spend time with them rather than my family. He's ...
A. 25 August 2014: I think it comes down to HOW often he sees them. If it's NOT that often, I would regard them as "his" friends and let it be.
My first BF still occasionally visit my parents (well my Dad now, since my Mom passed away) and we broke up over 20 years... (read in full...)
5 year relationship ending because of us being jealous and controlling
Q. MOD NOTE: 2 questions put into one Hello there, Yesterday my bf of 5 years told me on the phone he does not know what to do, he thinks to end the relationship is best for both of us because we will have more arguments. I cried on the phone and he...
A. 23 August 2014: I get that. 5 years is a long time, but... would you rather he leave you after 6? or after an engagement or marriage?
Take whatever good and/or bad from those 5 years and take them as experience that will help you in the future. Don't look at ... (read in full...)
5 year relationship ending because of us being jealous and controlling
Q. MOD NOTE: 2 questions put into one Hello there, Yesterday my bf of 5 years told me on the phone he does not know what to do, he thinks to end the relationship is best for both of us because we will have more arguments. I cried on the phone and he...
A. 23 August 2014: I think he has come to the end of his rope and you refuse to accept it.
CRYING doesn't fix anything. You USE it to get what you want I suspect.
He WANTS to be single, so why FORCE a relationship that isn't working down his throat?
Do y... (read in full...)
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