I'm in love with my friend and he won't end things with his girlfriend
Q. Hi there,i am ruhi.for some days i hav been living in a dilemma.plz help.as i have a friend who already has a girlfriend and i feel i have fallen for my friend.for one year we have been talking to each other as a friend but now for last 5 months we ...
A. 11 September 2014: He has a GF. He doesn't want to dump her for you.
So here is where you stand. The guy is trying to pull a fast one on you. He is hoping for some uncomplicated sex from you, but he DOESN'T like you enough to end it with his GF to be with you.
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My best friend has suddenly become less helpful and I'm not sure how to handle it
Q. Best friend is suddenly hardly helpful. My best friend and I have been friends for 20 years. She has always been easygoing and happy to help. However, over the past few years she has actually been quick to say "No" about a lot of things that I wo...
A. 11 September 2014: Why not STOP asking her for favors? And stop doing favors for her?
If she has been grossly taken advantage off in the past, maybe it's because she isn't good at figuring out if people ARE taking advantage or just need a hand.
I mean it was YOUR... (read in full...)
Do you think I should've had sex with him?
Q. Please help me!!! I had been going out with this guy for 2 years until he dumped me round 7-8 months ago. The reason for this was because he asked me if I'd have sex with him and I said no because we're waaayyy too young, (we're both 13) He sai...
A. 11 September 2014: No you should NOT have had sex with him.
At 13, it really IS way too young to start having sex. You knew that then and I think you know that now. You mind and you body isn't ready for what CAN happen (such as pregnancy) and it won't be for a fe... (read in full...)
My step-son confessed to something I haven't encountered before
Q. So my step son is 11 going on 12. I have known him since he was 5 years old. He told me the other night that he couldn't sleep cause he did something and it was on his mind. He didn't want to tell me but I got it out of him. He told me it was ...
A. 11 September 2014: I agree with SVC
It's a GOOD thing that he trusts you enough to tell you, and I think it would be a good thing to let him know that from now on, there will be no more panty sniffing.
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My boyfriend's ex wants me out of his life because she wants him back
Q. My boyfriends ex girlfriend wants me out out of mt boyfriends life so that she can get him to back to her .but he doesnt eant get back with her.he broup with. Her 7 years ago .but she still thinks of him as her boyfriend.she has pitures of the two ...
A. 11 September 2014: Why do you guys look at her FB page? Or even talk to her?
Ignore her crap and move on.
If you BF wanted to be with her, he would be with HER, not you.
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Is it safe to trust my boyfriend after we have broken up?
Q. Hi everyone :) I am really like caught right now so I'm gonna ask for some advice here :) A few weeks ago my boyfriend and I broke up but after a few days he texted me to see how I was doing.. And we just started talking as if the thing that b...
A. 11 September 2014: I have to agree with the first anon poster. Being friend with an ex is rarely a good idea, because it hold you BOTH back from moving forward.
Is it "safe" to trust him? Well I think a GUY who will LIE to his GF, will lie to his ex-gf who is now h... (read in full...)
My ex is acting weird but hes the one who broke things off!
Q. He broke up with me after 2 months. through a letter! He said he didn't deserve me. i was too 'pretty', 'beautiful' etc. I didn't mourn or anything. these days he asks me about my love life nothing else. Now i'm with my man (he's my fiancee) and he ...
A. 11 September 2014: Yeah I think staying FAR away from the ex is the right and safe thing to do. Cut the contact. There is NO reason to talk to this guy or be around him.
And I agree... engaged less then 2 months after a break up? That is fast.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend used craigslist for sex hook ups but says it was innocent ?
Q. Hi I recently discovered that my boyfriend of 4 months has used craigslist sex adds in the past , He said he just used them for attention and admitted when we started dating he had a small porn addiction . it dosent bother me that he watches porn ...
A. 11 September 2014: No testing, no sex.
Go get yourself tested though, no need to wait for him. And honestly, it would creep me out too. Mostly because CL is so sleazy, but it's seriously no worse then many of the "hook-up" apps you can otherwise get on your cell pho... (read in full...)
Their house cleaning isn't up to American standards -- would an anonymous letter be a good idea?
Q. We have some good friends who are smart, friendly adults. The only thing is, they seem to never clean their bathroom. For instance the toilet is often disgusting. My theory is that since they both grew up in a different country, perhaps their home ...
A. 11 September 2014: No, that would be pretty RUDE. Besides I have met a LOT of Americans who doesn't clean to my Mom (and my standards) and I certainly do NOT send them notes on how to clean their house or bathrooms.
My BIL for instance has 2 GROWN daughter... (read in full...)
He gets drunk and only talks about his ex
Q. I am at a total loss. I am a 35 year old female and my boyfriend is 45 years old.We've been together 7 months. Right now we are living across the state from each other although.we do get to see each other every 2 weeks. We met on Facebook almost 2 ...
A. 11 September 2014: I agree with Tisha.
I don't see him returning your feelings at all or even having any regards for your feelings. You are a convenient 2 a week roll in the hay and conversations when he is lonely.
Even if you DO CARE for him and think you love h... (read in full...)
Am I too much of an oppressing person? Am I asking too much?
Q. Been married for 14 now first 10 were great, seems like I was living in a dream, but I had to wake up when he started getting aggressive, crazy, spacing out, staying out for long or wanting me to go for a few days with my family; my son 6then comes ...
A. 11 September 2014: What do you get out of staying?
Do you really believe that it's ALL your fault? If so, why? What did you do that was so wrong that him cheating is OK?
Can you take care of yourself (and child) without his money? If so, why not divorce him and ... (read in full...)
Do you think my relationship is affecting me negatively?
Q. Hi all, any advice would be hugely appreciated please. I have always been a shy person. I've gone through phases of being better and worse with this depending on other things that have been going on in my life, but overall I thought I was ge...
A. 11 September 2014: Just tell him you WANT to improve, but it HAS to be on your terms and at YOUR speed.
But you do recognize that crying over having to ride in a taxi with someone "new" is an overreaction. And I think you need to find a way to deal with these th... (read in full...)
Friend of 2 years gone but why???
Q. I have been friends with this guy for nearly 2 years and we were like brother and sister ( best friends) then out of the blue he says he doesn't want to be friends anymore and for me to leave him alone!! He won't give me a reason and some of my ...
A. 11 September 2014: I think I understand that you want an explanation, but he chose not to give you ibe and told you, no contact - so I say respect that and accept that you lost a friend.
You CAN drop it and move on, if you really want to. It's calling respecti... (read in full...)
It's like whenever something better comes along I get ditched
Q. My boyfriend of 1 and a half yrs is very selfish he has been this way the whole time so i knew what i was getting into but i honestly never thought he would choose his friends over my birthday weekend. His friends planned a get together " boys ...
A. 10 September 2014: Seems like you are an after thought, more than a priority.
Choosing to hang out with buddies on a weekend that you two could spend to yourselves (and it was your b-day too) seems pretty cold to me.
Yea, I would say, enough is enough. He isn't... (read in full...)
Do you think my relationship is affecting me negatively?
Q. Hi all, any advice would be hugely appreciated please. I have always been a shy person. I've gone through phases of being better and worse with this depending on other things that have been going on in my life, but overall I thought I was ge...
A. 10 September 2014: I think because of him pointing it out you are now hypersensitive and anxious to "perform" better to PLEASE your BF first and foremost.
Wanting to be better at social interactions is good, but you ALWAYS have to do it at YOUR pace, and when YOU... (read in full...)
Mixed signals, so does he like me?
Q. Hello, I'm 18 and I'm unsure if a guy likes me or not because he sends mixed signals. Sometimes he barely acknowledges me and doesn't bother and looks completely uninterested as he doesn't attempt to make conversation at all. However, other times, ...
A. 10 September 2014: I think he is just being friendly as well.
I don't think if a guy is interested he will totally ignore you from time to time, that is the perfect way to get "friend - zoned".
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My boyfriend asked me could he dance with another girl!
Q. I was on holidays with my boyfriend last week.. We went to Ibiza and went out to the clubs a couple of nights. My boyfriend LOVES to dance and would love to take classes and learn to dance properly. One of the nights, we were both pretty drunk and...
A. 10 September 2014: It was A dance. Unless it was salsa or she/he were grinding on each other I don't see the problem.
You can't watch over him 24/7 and you shouldn't HAVE to monitor him in order for him to "behave".
If you afterwards realized that you don't L... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and alone, an Army wife stressed by my mother-in-law's comments on Facebook!
Q. I dated my husband for 6 years and we just got married before he joined the Army. I'm 35 weeks so far and it's been very stressful and a lonely experience for me, I'm living alone in our old apartment and his parents are not far from me. The only ...
A. 10 September 2014: Hide HER feeds. If you can't see what she is posting at least THAT can't stress you out. She is the proverbial TROLL under the bridge.
If he is still in boot camp then it won't be long before he get stationed at YOUR first duty station HOPEFULL... (read in full...)
She's using me as an excuse while she cheats again!
Q. Just looking for a bit of advice please. It's it a relationship problem as such. I have been friends with a girl for about 6 years now. Quite close. About 2 years ago I distanced myself and didn't speak to her because she was messing about behind ...
A. 10 September 2014: Yikes, cut her out. She isn't a friend she is a USER. She will USE you just like she uses EVERYONE else in her life.
Just tell her you can no longer be friends and then BLOCK HER on phone, social sites and e-mail.
Pretend she flew over the Be... (read in full...)
I'm still haunted by dumb teenage stuff I did
Q. I'm having trouble moving on a dealing with the past. Most people move past stupid high school stuff but I'm still ashamed/embarrassed/feel horrible about things that happened when I was 13! I remember when I was around 13/14. I went through a h...
A. 10 September 2014: If it's something you obsess over (and it does seem that way) look into cognitive behavioral therapy.
It can be very helpful for various OCD issues (not saying you have OCD, I can't diagnose anyone).
Talk to your doctor for a referral. Or i... (read in full...)
We've been chatting but now that I'm coming to her city she seems flaky or scared about it!
Q. Hi guys. I met a girl couple of months ago on her last day in my city. That evenung and thereafter we kept in touch on facebook chat. We havr gotten to know each other eell now after many chats and aldo now i have called her once and talked on the p...
A. 9 September 2014: Just send her a friendly reminder of what day/day you are going to be there and tell her, hey if you have too much on your plate to hang out, that is OK, just let me know.
That way you have given her an OUT, that she can take or leave.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my partner about guys hitting on me?
Q. A guy from one of my college classes walked me to my car the other day (10 mins out of his way). He asked if I was single, I said no, he suggested he was interested. I took it as a compliment. Since then I helped him out with a class he missed, sent ...
A. 9 September 2014: I agree, YOU need to have some clear boundaries.
Would you be OK with a girl macking on your BF and then your BF turns around and helps her out?
My guess is this guy thinks that you are helping him because you are considering his "offer". Not... (read in full...)
I think he's using me -- should I end it?
Q. So I've been seeing this guy for a year now and he has been unemployed for 8months. He has a visa stay in Italy but he can't find a job cause is hard there. I live in the UK and I've been sending him money and visiting him. But now I'...
A. 9 September 2014: I think you already know what's up with this guy. You say you "think he is using you. Honey, YOU KNOW he is using you.
I'm sorry it's NOT a GF's (or BF's) duty to financially take care of their LDR partner. Now it might be different if you two l... (read in full...)
How can I convince my parents that he and I are just friends and I should be allowed to go to Hawaii with him?
Q. This friend invited me to go to Hawaii with him over the summer. I think it will be great, but my parents have always had a sneaking suspicion that we're more than just friends. We're definitely not, but they're very conservative and even the fact ...
A. 9 September 2014: Invite him over for dinner? If you are going with him & his family - invite them too?... (read in full...)
Is me sending my boyfriend pictures of me in my sports bra okay?
Q. Hi :) I'm 15 going to be 16 soon. I am not exactly sure but like I've sent a number of pics of me in my sports bra to my boyfriend.... It sounds kinda stupid of me... But it also got me questioning if it's okay to actually do that? ...
A. 9 September 2014: Is it OK to do? Since you are a MINOR it might NOT be OK. Even if you are NOT nude it might NOT be OK.
What happens when you and your BF break up? Then he HAS pictures of you that you might NOT want others to see, you really think you can trus... (read in full...)
My girlfriend choked me in an argument and I'm extremely disturbed. What do I do?
Q. I got into a silly tussle/fight with my fiancé a few months ago. She had been moody and snappy with me and her parents all day. At the end of the night I got fed up with her horrible attitude and said I was leaving for the night. As I s...
A. 9 September 2014: I'm sorry you went through that with someone you care for. It is domestic violence, no matter who perpetrate the violence (man or woman) and there is no excuse what your (hopefully) ex-fiance did to you. Being MAD doesn't mean you can choke people. ... (read in full...)
I'm still haunted by dumb teenage stuff I did
Q. I'm having trouble moving on a dealing with the past. Most people move past stupid high school stuff but I'm still ashamed/embarrassed/feel horrible about things that happened when I was 13! I remember when I was around 13/14. I went through a h...
A. 9 September 2014: You need to accept that that WAS you, it's NOT you anymore. You have outgrown that persona and that phase.
Instead of looking bad and having regrets, you need to let it go, be able to laugh at it instead.
If you feel like you REALLY hurt your... (read in full...)
I asked him not to see his ex but he did
Q. A few weeks back my boyfriend of over a year told me he was going to see his ex girlfriend because her sister was unwell and she'd asked for support. Theyve been broken up approximately 2 and a half years. My boyfriend and his ex had a bad break up. ...
A. 9 September 2014: This is one of those situations, where you wonder why he stayed in touch with her at all.
He claims he refused to talk to her, but still "allowed" her to text him, that seems just a tad odd, honestly, IF he totally ignored her, they had a bad brea... (read in full...)
We've been chatting but now that I'm coming to her city she seems flaky or scared about it!
Q. Hi guys. I met a girl couple of months ago on her last day in my city. That evenung and thereafter we kept in touch on facebook chat. We havr gotten to know each other eell now after many chats and aldo now i have called her once and talked on the p...
A. 9 September 2014: She does seem to have a lot on her plate, so if I were you I would let her know that you can postpone meeting up with her till a later date and see how she handles that.
She might feel conflicted about meeting you, it is really hard to say. Per... (read in full...)
We were good friends for years, so why is he giving me the cold shoulder now?
Q. Since I was ten, me and this guy were good friends. Him and me always got on great. Although nothing ever happened, there was always something between us. He had feelings for me, and they were reciprocal, even though I never admitted it to him. ...
A. 8 September 2014: Maybe you remind him of the shy and awkward kid he used to be. Or he thinks THAT is how you see him.
I don't think he is out to hurt your feelings, more protect his own. If that makes sense.
Honestly, I'd leave him be. He doesn't seem int... (read in full...)
Will he ever regret it?
Q. So I want to start off telling my story, starting 5 years ago. I met this man, and I instantly knew I was in love with him. crazy, but true. we started spending every day together, with friends, and by ourselves. time went on, and he started using ...
A. 8 September 2014: His main priority is getting high and getting money to get high. I know it hurt, but you were and mean to an end. As in, he could get money of you. (one way or another). Most addicts don't think past that.
You are still seeing him for who he w... (read in full...)
What are the best options to get through these issues with my partner's 28 year old daughter?
Q. My partner's 28 year old daughter has never accepted me into her father's life. She pretends I don't exist. At first I would have done almost anything to get her to talk to me. Now 9 years on I don't care, but now she has decided to pop back int...
A. 8 September 2014: So this has happen before. Your partner is "taking" her side 100%. Which isn't really too odd as she is his daughter and if he had to pick one of you, clearly it would be his "child".
Then there is also the whole embarrassment. After all, did he F... (read in full...)
Do I break up with him or tell him the truth about the affair I had with his father and ruin things for his family?
Q. Ok so before you read this I know what I did was wrong and deeply regret it and it's all a big mess. Four years ago I was in a really bad place. I had fallen out with my parents and moved out of home in to a grotty flat which I had to work 3 jobs...
A. 8 September 2014: I wouldn't say a thing, but I don't think I could continue dating the guy either. I'd feel guilty every time I looked at him or had to interact with his family.
If this relationship turned really serious - as in marriage, what then? Can you marr... (read in full...)
Does she just want me for sex?
Q. Hey guys, I'll give you guys a brief background. I'm an emotionally needy person. I have been since my ex girlfriend of two years cheated on me. I became depressed, and still am really. I feel so emasculated. Anyways, I was on tinder and I...
A. 8 September 2014: I think she likes the IDEA of you two together more than the reality. she likes you, but I don't think she really wants a serious LDR.
3 hours distance is quite a bit, specially if you are (as you describe yourself) a needy person. Then the odd ... (read in full...)
She lies because she knows my insecurity will make me overreact
Q. Hi guys, I am madly insanely in love with my girlfriend, we have been together a year, split up a few times but nothing long term and the longest was for 4 weeks we were apart. Mostly it is to do with her ex partner. I am an incredibly insec...
A. 8 September 2014: This is YOUR issue. YOUR insecurities and you are expecting HER to fix that for you, she can't.
Even if she started to tell the truth 100% of the time, YOU would still doubt, you would still accuse her, because even if you don't like feeling ... (read in full...)
Why is it easier texting than talking face to face?
Q. why is it easier texting and communicating via social media/email etc than talking face to face with some people? could be anyone someone you have recently met, or someone you already know. things are awkward face to face, or their maybe sile...
A. 7 September 2014: Because most people don't really consider the fact that the person at the other end is another human being. You don't HAVE to pay attention to anything but the written word and how YOU interpret it, where as in person you are also aware of the ... (read in full...)
Should I Be Annoyed With My Boyfriends Mum?
Q. I am a bit annoyed with my boyfriends mum. My boyfriends brother had a kid some months ago and his mum has that kids photo on her phone as a wallpaper instead of mine. I had my baby but she has not changed the photo from being of that other kid. ...
A. 7 September 2014: She could have Donald Duck as her wallpaper and it wouldn't be your business.
I'm sorry you are making such a huge issue out of something that really should be NO issue.
You want your MIL to be proudly displaying your child's photo? Then have... (read in full...)
He insists on keeping letters from ex's
Q. I recently found out that my bf still keeps letters from his exes. It makes me uncomfortable because I throw away things my exes give me. Of course I understand that perhaps some people are more sentimental. Yet the irony in this is that he claim...
A. 7 September 2014: I'm with Cerberus.
You are making this about you. It's NOT about you. He isn't keeping them to HURT YOU. He might not know exactly WHY he is keeping them, but THEY are HIS to keep or toss.
Him keeping them doesn't mean he cares LESS about... (read in full...)
He wants to meet me but he is still married!
Q. the answer to the question why stay is because , part of me believed in him. Part is sooo scared to find out the truth. he is in the military and he lives separately from his wife because of the constant arguments. He left the city where he used to ...
A. 7 September 2014: I think you know what's up, but you are HOPING he isn't lying because YOU want to meet him, despite him being married.
The thing is... him being MISERABLE in his marriage doesn't make him ANY LESS married. And it doesn't make meeting up any less... (read in full...)
Suddenly my best friend of several years has forgotten our friendship now that she has her 1st Bf. How do I deal with this?
Q. I have been best friends with my best friend for over 6/7 years, however in the past year she has got her first proper boyfriend and since then she's totally forgotten about me. I used to see her all the time and always meet up with her and go ...
A. 7 September 2014: She shouldn't have to PROVE to you that she is a friend. Apparently her weekends are off limits so.. if you want to talk to her and still have some sort of friendship then it won't happen on weekends.
I had a friend who would disappear EVERY ti... (read in full...)
How Do I End Our Relationship?
Q. Hello everyone, So I've been talking to this girl I met for about three months now and I've come to the conclusion things aren't going to really work out between us, there's a lot of reasons but mainly we're just at different points in our life. Th...
A. 7 September 2014: You can't control how she reacts, but you can make the break up less emotional, if you know her well enough.
I say, the sooner you break up the better, don't drag it out.
And be honest, tell her that you feel bad, but that you just don't feel ... (read in full...)
What are the best options to get through these issues with my partner's 28 year old daughter?
Q. My partner's 28 year old daughter has never accepted me into her father's life. She pretends I don't exist. At first I would have done almost anything to get her to talk to me. Now 9 years on I don't care, but now she has decided to pop back int...
A. 7 September 2014: For a 28 (or even 21) year old it's kind of ridiculous that she thinks by ignoring you and being rude to you will get her parents back together. If she was 4-10 y/o I can see it.
So my advice is to talk to your partner, and ask for his input on... (read in full...)
What are the best options to get through these issues with my partner's 28 year old daughter?
Q. My partner's 28 year old daughter has never accepted me into her father's life. She pretends I don't exist. At first I would have done almost anything to get her to talk to me. Now 9 years on I don't care, but now she has decided to pop back int...
A. 6 September 2014: Well we can hope she will have to grace and good manners to behave, though that may not happen.
So what can you do? The week she is there make plans with friend and family, that way father and daughter can spend time together and you won't ha... (read in full...)
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