Is my husband of 20 years getting ready to have another affair?
Q. my husband has contacted an old flame on facebook said he has been very happy with me, but after 20 years things are not what they used to be. He told this person he has been searching for her for 20 years and has never been so happy to see anyo...
A. 5 October 2014: He's got you second guessing yourself now. Calling the woman HE reached out to crazy, makes him seem absolutely innocent. He was "just" being nice (according to him) and she is nuts...... Funny enough SHE was the crazy one, but she blocked him?
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How long does it take to forgive cheating and rebuild trust?
Q. My bf cheated twice and he has slowly made changes since then and im on guard but sometimes I feel like he is quick to jump on me about things I do wrong yet I had so much patiences towards him and his wrong doing. Am I wrong for feeling like im not ...
A. 2 October 2014: You are not over it. Once you don't feel like throwing it in his face, you have forgiven it. What people forget is, you CAN forgive (it takes time, with him having done it TWICE, no wonder!) but you will NEVER forget. It might be that you can NEVER ... (read in full...)
Living with my husband's family is putting stress on our marriage!
Q. Hi Aunties,My relationship with my DH went from us being happy and ignorning all of the conflict around us, to him and I arguing about his parents. We live with his parents and sisters so we can save money for a house of our own. His father holds ...
A. 2 October 2014: If you parents live close enough for you to go to school from there, then move "home" for a while.
And whenever you two can afford to move out, you both move out from under your parents.
You don't HAVE to live there, it's a choice you and y... (read in full...)
Am I kidding myself being with a guy with depression?
Q. I met a guy on the internet. He is sweet, funny and we get on really well. He did tell me he suffered from depression and because I have supported a fair few people with depression I thought I would try. So I spent the night at his. I take life...
A. 1 October 2014: You know, when a person has a depression (and does NOTHING to get help) it spreads like ripples in water. First the people CLOSE to him will start to suffer (not from depression but from dealing with a depressed person) then people around them will ... (read in full...)
Doesnt he like me? Is he ignoring me? Does he hate me or think that I am boring?
Q. There is a guy I see on a class once a week. We taled a little bit once, then ten days ago I added him on fb and he accepted my friend request. He liked two of my photos and I one of his. Last week I started two times chatt conversation online w...
A. 1 October 2014: If you don't feel like asking him in front of all the other girls, you could do it over FB. But IF you are interested why NOT ask him in front of them? IF he has a problem with that, then he really isn't for you, is he?... (read in full...)
I still love her but she's with someone else
Q. Hello, I've been wondering wether or not ask someone about this for a while, so I'll just go straight into it. I've had feeling a for a girl for many years now, after finally plucking up the courage to tell her how I felt, she unfortunately di...
A. 1 October 2014: She likes you as a friend, YOU like her as more - which means you don't have a regular friendship, but one of "worship". YOU "worship" her. And now that she is unattainable for you, you think the feelings you have is LOVE.
Even IF she didn't H... (read in full...)
Doesnt he like me? Is he ignoring me? Does he hate me or think that I am boring?
Q. There is a guy I see on a class once a week. We taled a little bit once, then ten days ago I added him on fb and he accepted my friend request. He liked two of my photos and I one of his. Last week I started two times chatt conversation online w...
A. 1 October 2014: I'd say spend more time with him OFF FB and out of school. Right now you are analyzing the crap out of EVERYTHING he does, and it leave you anxious ans worried, when there is no need to all that.
He leaves when you talk to another guy, not beca... (read in full...)
I'm ashamed and embarrassed of the way my family live and I feel that my B/f will judge me based on this
Q. A new Cindrella story!!!! Any advice, please? I've been dating a man for some time,who is much older than me.After many years of hard work,he managed to have fame and money too through his talent.he's a musician.He's not extravagantly ri...
A. 1 October 2014: You write..
"The real problem is that my house is old,small. My mother is ashamed of the house."
That is NOT the real problem. The real problem is YOU are ashamed. You want him to think your background is as classy as you are. The size of the ... (read in full...)
Is my friend insinuating that her husband likes me?
Q. I posted a general question here before regarding a sticky situation which has now become even stickier. I need advice! I feel like my close friend is indirectly setting me up with her husband, or at the very least seems fine with him potentially ...
A. 1 October 2014: This is the time to back away. UNLESS you want to end up in the drama your FRIEND is trying to set up.
To me (I don't know your friend, so I can be wrong) but it sounds like she is trying to toss YOU under the husband so he won't pay so much att... (read in full...)
So I like this guy, but I have a boyfriend!
Q. So, I like this guy. A lot. And I think he might like me back! But the thing is, that I have a boyfriend already, and we are kind of growing apart. I never see him anymore, and I think we both just want space... Should I tell him that it isn't ...
A. 1 October 2014: NEVER be a boy-friend jumper! You know the girl who can't handle being single but you can't have a lasting relationship, because there is ALWAYS a nicer, hotter, sweeter, whatever boy out there?
If you feel like you and your BF are dunzo, then END... (read in full...)
Can I call the police because my boyfriend is posting horrible things about me on social media?
Q. My ex boyfriend is posting horrible things about me on facebook, can I call the police? I'm not sure if it's harassment or not because he has posted it on his timeline, not in a private message to me. Everyone on his friends list can...
A. 1 October 2014: You can contact Facebook and they CAN (not saying they WILL) remove said posts.. Unless he THREATEN your life, I don't think the Police can or will do anything about Facebook. They will more likely roll their eyes and ask you to stop wasting their ... (read in full...)
I'm mad about a girl who almost never replies to my messages!
Q. Went on a date with an amazing girl, first date went OK, she wanted to see me again, but two months later and at least two rain checks, she says she's not interested in seeing me again. Never did get to see her again. Almost a year later, iv b...
A. 1 October 2014: I think you HAVE to accept that she isn't interested. Trying every few months to catch her attention is silly.SHE isn't interested and YOU are wasting your time on this one.
Let her go.
How would you feel if some girl you had NO interest in k... (read in full...)
I want my stepdad to walk me down the aisle!
Q. Dear aunts and uncles I am getting married next year and I should be getting excited but instead I'm feeling anxious about it all, the bottom line is who should walk me down the aisle My folks split when I was 2 my father was violent to my...
A. 1 October 2014: Honestly, in my book, YOUR step-dad DESERVE this honor. The fact that he is even being graceful about this just speaks volumes about his love for you.
I would TELL your Dad, THIS is how it's going to be, if you can't accept that, then please, ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about my new boyfriend going traveling with his sister!
Q. I've been dating this lovely man for two months now and we're both very keen on each other and make time to see one another at least twice a week. He's 39 and I'm 36 and he's been single for two years. He's very close with his sister who is si...
A. 1 October 2014: Ok, first off.. THIS is not your ex who's sister broke you up. This is a new guy and new sister. So leave the past in the past.
Secondly, You have been together 2 months. 4 months when he goes on vacation with his sister. WAY too soon to to get u... (read in full...)
Do I ask my boyfriend if he wants more time to himself? Or wants out?
Q. Im been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Lately he has started staying at his house more and more. Im hardly seeing him. Do i ask him out right - "do you want time on your own" or "if you would like to finish ower relationship?" ...
A. 30 September 2014:
Yea, a relationship where one person has to walk on eggshells is not good or healthy. But neither is one where EVERYTHING turns into an argument... However, IF he refuses to speak, HOW can anything get fixed?
I think this is the beginning of... (read in full...)
Are there major differences to how I touch a guy who is uncut versus cut? have never been with an uncut guy
Q. I've been on a few dates with this guy, who I am pretty interested in, and as we've went along, we've started to get a little hotter and heavier with every interaction. Well, I've wanted to maybe progress the makeout sessions to a handjob, but I fo...
A. 30 September 2014: REad the book "tickle his Pickle"
It has a LOT of good advice for women who aren't sure how to do it "right". Very useful tool to have.
http://www.drsadie.com/books/tickle-his-pickle
Also ASK him how he likes it. Make him show you or gui... (read in full...)
Six months together but he's not ready for sex? Is he worth waiting for? Or should I move on?
Q. I have been friends with a guy in my class for about six months. He has made it obvious that he found me attractive from Day 1. We became friends and started hanging out. During this time, he has always initiated affection (hugs, kisses, etc), yet ...
A. 30 September 2014: I quote you here:
"yet he says we will never be more than friends."
WHY aren't you hearing what he is saying? He SAYS you two will NEVER be more then friends. So why do you think SEX is the next step? You think ( I presume) that IF you two have... (read in full...)
Questions about crushes
Q. Hi again I'm back with another question that's been bugging me. How often do girls crush? So like they are with their friends and about ten different guys enter the conversation does that mean they like them all and just exactly how easy is it to ...
A. 30 September 2014: I don't think there is any "official studies or date on teen girl crushes".
Many times girls will crush on the UTTERLY UNAVAILABLE guys, because it's EASIER living this little fantasy life (crush) where some guy is the "perfect" man then dealing ... (read in full...)
Do I ask my boyfriend if he wants more time to himself? Or wants out?
Q. Im been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Lately he has started staying at his house more and more. Im hardly seeing him. Do i ask him out right - "do you want time on your own" or "if you would like to finish ower relationship?" ...
A. 30 September 2014: I agree with the two gentlemen here.
YOU have to decide if this is OK or not. And what YOU want. If you WANT more time with him, let him know. A relationship consists of TWO adults so decisions like this are not just HIS to make and YOU to accom... (read in full...)
3 wishes: want him to treat me better, be more passionate, and erase his tattoo. Too much to ask for??
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He's wonderful man. We are both 25 and he's going to proposed me and give me that hint ( asking me about the engage ring that I like and accidentally told me that he's going to marry me next year). ...
A. 30 September 2014: Him removing the tattoo will not magically erase the problems you two have. And YOU TWO DO have problems.
Have you even ASKED him what the tattoo means? Or if he is willing to have it removed?
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I am dating a guy 5 years younger than me and am afraid his friends are laughing behind our backs
Q. Recently I have started seeing a guy who is five years younger then me, he is 19, and I have just turned 24. I have known him a while, as my friend is in a relationship with his older brother, and things started up in the last few months. He i...
A. 30 September 2014: Best way to deal with it? Have a sense of humor about it.
If they ask if you are going to "baby-sit" tell then, no this cougar is going on the prowl...
Sooner or later it won't be so funny for them.
If you two are a good fit who cares what ... (read in full...)
I haven't told him about the baby for fear of rejection
Q. my baby is two weeks old. in all honesty, i had a lot of doubts and had actually considered adoption because i was so unsure about being a mother. everything changed the moment i met him and I'm happier than I've ever been. he's so perfect. i had ...
A. 30 September 2014: He can DENY the child all he wants, but unless YOU agree to it, he can not relinquishing all parental rights. I would advice you to NOT do that. NOW if you at some point met a guy who WANTS to be your husband and your child's father (adopt) THEN ... (read in full...)
Did I overreact to my boyfriend and his question?
Q. Did I over react? My boyfriend asked a girl to show him a slut drop (this is a dance move according to wikipedia) , which she did in front of me. I think this was inappropriate of him to ask he said he didn't think anymore of it other than he was ...
A. 30 September 2014: Since I had no idea Slut drop was a dance move I had to google it.... (I have heard it used in the other term - which is giving a drunk chick a ride home and drop her off as far from her house as possible -a truly scumbag move)
I think him aski... (read in full...)
I would like to reconnect with my ex. Is it significan that he never changed his passwords when we brokeup?
Q. hi...i wanna know about my ex...we had broken about 2years but i still love my ex and i wanna get him back... i don't know his mind but he never changed all of the pass the accounts password even when we were apart...he blocked my acc but he never...
A. 30 September 2014: You know he hasn't changed them because you "let yourself" in on his account using these passwords?
That is not right. That is invasion of privacy.
And no, not everyone are smart enough to change their passwords on a regular basis. Some stic... (read in full...)
Will this man leave me alone now?
Q. Dear Cupid My brother in law recently tried match making me with a single friend of his! This guy started messaging me and things began to flow. He started off pleasant enough but the messages soon started to turn very flirtatious! He kn...
A. 30 September 2014: I think the guy was HOPING you were on the easy side. I don't think he was looking for a relationship. After all he pulled a "booty call" on you.
And the conversation turned "flirtatious" really quick, so he didn't REALLY bother getting to KNOW ... (read in full...)
How can this guy just hang out with me and not feel what we have?
Q. I'm a goner. Someone please help! I started seeing Mr X in June. We met online thru mutual friends (not dating site) at first he was very flirtatious and we talked a lot. It was a good flow. We went out and had a great time. No more then kissin...
A. 30 September 2014: This is the most common mistakes women make.
3 weeks in you want to know where you stand? You have barely scraped the surface of a person after 3 weeks. He did the typical guy defensive move... He told you he wasn't looking for a GF, let's be... (read in full...)
My partner is acting like a single man..
Q. I am just trying to come to terms with my partner of 10 years affair and although he said he loves me and he just did it for some excitement I am finding it difficult to get close to him again And although I thought I would try not to spy on him ...
A. 30 September 2014: No, don't e-mail his friends.
TALK to your guy and don't let him give you the run around.
Or DECIDE for yourself if you are happy with things as they are or not. If you are not (and it sounds that way) IDENTIFY what it is you are unhappy with... (read in full...)
Is my husband of 20 years getting ready to have another affair?
Q. my husband has contacted an old flame on facebook said he has been very happy with me, but after 20 years things are not what they used to be. He told this person he has been searching for her for 20 years and has never been so happy to see anyo...
A. 30 September 2014: I would ask him. Or you can sit back and give him enough rope to "hang" himself first.
Is he just reaching out to feel a bit of the glory-days - a blast from the past or because he wants to reconnection in an emotional and physical way? That is ... (read in full...)
Could the abuse I suffered as a child explain my same-sex attraction?
Q. I'm 24 years old. As a child and teen, I experienced sexual abuse growing up in Saudi Arabia. My mother is full Saudi and my father is an American military man. I was born in the U.S. and am an american citizen, but moved to Saudi when I was one and ...
A. 30 September 2014: Could it be?
I think it can. I think women makes you feel safe and loved, where as men have failed you in that department. But it might have been part of who you are already, something you didn't pay attention to, because you were in a self-des... (read in full...)
Attended his farewell party. Should I tell this guy that I don't want to hook up with him again?
Q. I hooked up with a dude acquaintance/friend at his goodbye party. My question is, he let me know he's coming back to town for a visit this coming weekend and I don't really want things to go down that path again. Is that something I shou...
A. 30 September 2014: Since you two just casually hooked up I don't think you OWE him an explanation, but it might clarify things. On the other hand if he isn't looking to hook up with YOU again either, it might be a little awkward.
I would just go and if he gets "ha... (read in full...)
Is he stringing me along? Or is his mother encouraging him to make contact?
Q. Two years ago, my first bf and I were in contact and somewhat talking in good terms as friends. I attended his brother's funeral to show my respect to his family and himself since we were in a relationship together for close to 5 years and I have ...
A. 30 September 2014: He is playing the "amnesia victim" here. He can't remember? Oh, yes he can't he is just hoping YOU have forgotten all about it.
I'm sorry a GROWN man getting his MOM to do his leg work to try and you to talk to him again, it's low. But it worked d... (read in full...)
I feel like guys don't want to talk to me unless I dumb myself down
Q. I can't keep a guy's interest after the first night, will someone ever stay around long enough? I meet a guy out in a pub or maybe a friend of a friend and I can hold their interest for the night but after a string of promises that I will get a te...
A. 29 September 2014: Well, most guys don't go to the pub/bar/club looking for lasting love. They look to have fun with their mates and maybe some fun with a pretty girl too.
My suggestion? Don't go home with a guy after a visit to the pub. Don't look for him on FB ei... (read in full...)
Hardened intuition- trust or not??
Q. My long distance boyfriend (we are in our late 40s) insists that he is fully committed to me, is exclusive and has plans for us to retire together In 10 years... He was married for a year when he was 19 then played the field as a partying bachelor. ...
A. 29 September 2014: This one is easy.
Go with your gut.
IF you have EXPRESSED more than once that you are not really comfortable listening to his "golden oldie days" and ex-gf's and he KEEPS YAMMERING on and on about them and keep them ALL in his life, he ISN't g... (read in full...)
After we married I found out she'd been a call girl
Q. A year and half ago i happen to know a girl through her relative. She was living in Singapore and i was living in UK. But we both were from Nepal(asian country). She was there since she was 8 or 9 living with her parents and two siblings. Her ...
A. 29 September 2014: Seems like you bought the cat in the bag. She SHOULD have told you BEFORE the vows. YES, it being an escort IS HER past and not ALL who she is, but it's A HUGE part of who she WAS. NOT being honest about that with you, is deceit. My guess is she ... (read in full...)
No second date after 3-4 weeks of texting and talking...should I give up?
Q. Last month, I met this guy online and we hit it off really well. I gave him my number, and we have been texting every day since … We went on one date, 3 weeks ago and it went great! All kinds of sparks, and he was very romantic and attentiv...
A. 29 September 2014: I think this is a case of a lonely guy who can't "multi-task", with that, I mean HE WANTS company, someone to talk to and confide in, but his MAIN concern is his health and HIS future.
I don't know what surgery he is going in for and when, bu... (read in full...)
What makes a guy lose interest early on?
Q. Another men disappearing question..for the guys. What makes you lose interest in a woman before you have even gotten started?? I spent a little time with someone recently and liked him. He asked me out before and I did turn him down once but...
A. 29 September 2014: Well, I think it's pretty clear why he stopped chasing you. You gave off - "I'm so not interested vibes" right and left. That he decided it wasn't in HIs best interest to keep pursuing you. It would be a waste of HIS time.
Let him go.
And my ... (read in full...)
I haven't told him about the baby for fear of rejection
Q. my baby is two weeks old. in all honesty, i had a lot of doubts and had actually considered adoption because i was so unsure about being a mother. everything changed the moment i met him and I'm happier than I've ever been. he's so perfect. i had ...
A. 29 September 2014: Even if he was a huge asshole to you, I think he deserves to know that he fathered a child. And I think YOU have the right to expect financial support and HE has the right (if he chooses to) to get to know his son.
As long as you STICK to your ... (read in full...)
Sex with Guy at work. Do I try to dodge her questions or tell her the truth, and lose her as a friend?
Q. So a few weeks ago I had sex with a guy that I work with, it was just a one time thing as we are just friends and I was leaving the job and we both wanted to have sex with each other. However now I feel really guilty as one of my close friends real...
A. 29 September 2014: I would fess up. Even if that means I lose her as my friend, because as things stand now.. YOU are not friends. She doesn't trust you any further then she can toss you.
Yes, she knows what went down.
Yes, you SHOULD have considered your ... (read in full...)
I know he's a player but my gut says he really likes me
Q. ok so here goes.. I met this guy in march just after i broke up with my ex and we hit it off straight away! its like we just had this little spark as soon as we met each other. I knew he was a player from the beginning and had commitment issues b...
A. 29 September 2014: Yes, you are in denial.
When a GUY says:" I'm NOT wanting to commit, I don't WANT anything SERIOUS, I don't want titles or a GF". Then he is being honest and serious.
When you first started out sleeping with him and whatnot, you KNEW it was ... (read in full...)
3 wishes: want him to treat me better, be more passionate, and erase his tattoo. Too much to ask for??
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He's wonderful man. We are both 25 and he's going to proposed me and give me that hint ( asking me about the engage ring that I like and accidentally told me that he's going to marry me next year). ...
A. 29 September 2014: 1. Make him want and treat me again like he used to be
You can MAKe anyone be who they are NOT. He isn't the guy he used to be and maybe HE doesn't think YOU are the girl he used to love.
2. Convince him to erase his tattoo(its crucial for me).... (read in full...)
Can this be fixed? Broke up. Reconnected for 1 night. But says we're done as he can't trust me.
Q. I need advice. I split with my boyfriend of a year a couple of months ago and flitted between getting back together and then not doing so. (I was going through a big depressive episode a and he was finding me difficult.) I also kissed someone whil...
A. 29 September 2014: I agree with WiseOwlE.
YOU HAVE to put yourself and your health first. Which means you NEED to sort out YOUR problems, before jumping into or back into the dating.
IT IS nice to have someone there to support you when you are down, but if the... (read in full...)
Trying hard to conceive, and horribly jealous of those who can
Q. I've never been a jealous person, but up until now I have turned into a seething, jealous , bitter hag. My husband and I hit the one year mark of trying to concieve this week. It is so hard. We have both undergone initial tests (all fine, except a ...
A. 29 September 2014: It's not a rational jealousy (but then again when is jealousy really rational?).
I would do three things.
1. Go revisit your doctor. Consider talking to a fertility specialist.
2. Get a ovulation kit or a Fertility Monitor so you know WHEN... (read in full...)
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