Trying hard to conceive, and horribly jealous of those who can
Q. I've never been a jealous person, but up until now I have turned into a seething, jealous , bitter hag. My husband and I hit the one year mark of trying to concieve this week. It is so hard. We have both undergone initial tests (all fine, except a ...
A. 29 September 2014: It's not a rational jealousy (but then again when is jealousy really rational?).
I would do three things.
1. Go revisit your doctor. Consider talking to a fertility specialist.
2. Get a ovulation kit or a Fertility Monitor so you know WHEN... (read in full...)
I don't know how to get past this, and I'm not willing to stay in this relationship if he wants to keep her in his life.
Q. My fiance and I are together since our late teens, and before I met him a girl he wasn't even dating gave him oral sex. She is certainly not a pretty sight and I don't mean to be bitchy. He said he never felt anything for her, he just agreed to let ...
A. 29 September 2014: Well I think him running into her and going to her b-day was the perfect opportunity for you two to talk some boundaries of what is OK and what is NOT OK in your relationship.
If former sex partners are a NO-NO and you BOTH agree, then that is ... (read in full...)
I used to travel every year til I met him but he won't even get a passport
Q. I am engaged and been with my fiance now for almost 3 years. We have not left the UK once because he does not have a passport. I ask him to get one all the time because I want to go on holiday with him. The only time we go Awa is to a festival...
A. 29 September 2014: Then go on holiday with friends? I mean if he doesn't want to go, why sit at home?
Though this kind of caught my eye, you write:
"He saves £1000 per game for travel, accommodation and spending money when we could somewhere all inclusive for bo... (read in full...)
My older boyfriend said horrible things so I would call him! Do I end the relationship?
Q. My boyfriend is lovely sometimes. He is so loving, caring and has a good sense of humour, but he says horrible things sometimes and takes things too far. He really took it too far over the last couple of days. He was angry with me because I haven'...
A. 28 September 2014: Why are you wasting your time on this old geezer who act like he is 12? Seriously?
Now he thinks that is fun, but do you? Have you told him that you find his attempt of humor falls flat and it's a turn OFF for you.
Personally, though... I'd fi... (read in full...)
My (platonic) date to a wedding had to cancel. Should I invite the girl I've just started dating?
Q. I have a wedding to go to this upcoming weekend with a plus one, and as I've never had to go to a wedding before, so I'm not sure about proper etiquette about these things. I haven't been seeing anyone steadily and I've been in medical grad sch...
A. 28 September 2014: I would honestly ask the bride/groom if they rather you come solo or bring another date. Now why would I ask that? It's etiquette. Because catering can be expensive, if you go solo without letting them know, they STILL have to PAY for the food your ... (read in full...)
Is this rare that I love a set of feet? I'm fixated about my Aunt's feet.
Q. I love a set a feet. I have never heard of a person loving a set of feet. My question is I love my aunt's feet. Is this rare to love feet? Has anyone ever heard of a person really fixated on a particular part of the anatomy such as feet? What c...
A. 28 September 2014: Foot fetish is not exactly common, but not strange or unheard of either.
My advice is look elsewhere for a pair of attractive feet. And mostly don't date a woman for her feet only, find a whole package. And DO tell her at some point in the cour... (read in full...)
Why people assume that this much older man is my husband?
Q. Why people assume that this much older guy is my husband?? I belong to one club. One member who is 24 years older than me which makes him only 3 years younger than my father drives me there sometimes as we live very close to each other. His daughter...
A. 28 September 2014: Why do people assume this?
Because it's easier to make an assumption then ask? Even if it's none of their business.
IT IS more common that the husband is older than the wife, then the other way around. The fact that he drives you there, some ... (read in full...)
My LDR has admitted to ongoing cheating. Do I fight for us or sit back while he leaves me for the other girl?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years just told me he cheated on me...by text message. He met this girl, got her number, has been hanging out with her, going out in groups, hanging at her house, and having sex with her. He told me and seemed to think that since ...
A. 28 September 2014: You HAVE to draw the line at what YOU are comfortable with and if that is, MONOGAMY, then he can't DATE other girls. However, he doesn't really care what you want, because he wants what he wants..
What is there to fight over? LDR's are hard eno... (read in full...)
Why does she keep sending mixed messages?
Q. I have fallen in love with a women 6 hours from me. She has told me how much she loves me and when I asked her to move here with me in my home, she said she cannot due to her girls. She said she cannot have what she wants right now. Then she goes...
A. 28 September 2014: I agree with Cindy too, this lady is playing you.
She has a man living with her, and she and kids hate him? Um, doesn't THAT strike you as odd? My guess is this is ONE unhappy housewife who is using YOU for her fantasy and entertainment. She want... (read in full...)
I'm afraid or ever get in a relationship with a woman again? I suck and don't deserve one.
Q. I'm a shitty person and an asshole. I can't treat a girl right and even though I would want a good, committed relationship, I would just fail and hurt her. When I was 17 and a senior in high school, I met a just newly turned 15 year old sophomo...
A. 28 September 2014: Eh, you were 17, she was 15. YOU BOTH had a LOT to learn about life and relationships.
You took her words for the gospel when you two broke up, but do you REALLY think it was all your fault? Seriously? The girl had another guy lined up for her ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my boss and don't want to regret not telling her
Q. I'm 39 and my boss (owner) is 44. I have been at my job for 5 yrs and I have had a crush on her ever since, she has not dated anyone in the time I have been there, it breaks my heart knowing she goes home by herself and eats dinner or watches tv by ...
A. 27 September 2014: Have you thought about asking her out, before declaring your feelings for her?... (read in full...)
Does my friend want to have sex with me?
Q. I have a woman friend I've only known for about a year. She's unhappily married I am in the process of divorce. We seem to hit it off and meet as part of a small group of friends. Another friend noticed how we seem to have some attraction for each ...
A. 27 September 2014: I have to agree with WiseOwlE, I don't really think you care if it is wrong.
At your age you should know what is right and what is wrong. And that sleeping WITH her would be wrong. For you and for her.
You want a rebound and she seems easy/a... (read in full...)
I told her I had a crush and now I don't know if she hates me
Q. so, I have had this crush on one of my female friends,who i will refer 2 as SN, for months now, and i had only told 1 person im a bi female, my best friend. SN is one of my best friends 2 other best friends.So anyway, i got sick of keeping it from ...
A. 27 September 2014: Here is the thing about crushes...
No one OWES you to you feel the same in return. And when you "declare" your love for someone you stand the chance of losing them as friend, being resented for telling them or just making them REALLY uncomfor... (read in full...)
After cheating, does he really want our relationship to work?
Q. Hi everyone, just a quick question. I want your views on cheating. Not a one night stand, a full on affair over a period of weeks. The affair was called off before I found out, apparently they mutually agreed that this was not fair and could n...
A. 27 September 2014: I think it's a combination of realizing that he actually didn't WANT to lose you and not wanting YOU to realize that maybe he isn't AS good of a guy as you thought he was. Or did he END it because SHE wanted more? And HE didn't want that. Because, ... (read in full...)
Do I ask him about the condoms in his trash?
Q. I feel like a complete idiot for even asking this, but would you ask your boyfriend why he had a couple of used condoms in his rubbish bin when you have been away for a few days and you don't even use condoms?! I went away for a five day mini br...
A. 27 September 2014: Sounds a little iffy to me as well. Don't know many dudes who put on a condom to wank.
I think you should ask him. Tell him you had missed his and showed up at his place and found those in the trash and THAT is why you left, because you needed t... (read in full...)
I lied with a fake ID and fake photo. Now he knows the truth he's blocked me. What can I do?
Q. I love a guy bt I sent him fake photos and used to speak to him using a fake id. we are in a long distance relationshp for 6 months. He is the son of my friend and her neighbour.. He knows my sister because my sister lives same place as my friend...
A. 27 September 2014: All you can DO is learn from this. When you LIE to people the way you did. Pretending to BE someone else is not OK if you are trying to get to know someone.
BE who you are.
The guy didn't reject YOU, he rejected your lies. And I don't blame hi... (read in full...)
What is appropriate? What type of support would be suitable to offer to a friend who has been diagnosed with oral cancer?
Q. Someone i know has recently been diagnosed with oral cancer, can you offer advice?. This is difficult for me to talk about. A man i know was diagnosed with oral cancer three weeks ago. The tumour is near his jaw. I am friends with this man, but ...
A. 27 September 2014: No he isn't upset (unless you promised to BE there) YOU are a friend NOT the GF.
Now you might LIKE him more than as a friend but for now YOU are A FRIEND.
Calling his family? I think that is uncalled for as you haven't been introduced to th... (read in full...)
Old flame returns! What to say or do? He wants to be friends but he doesn't want his wife to get hurt??
Q. I was contacted by my first love on facebook. He said he was happily married on facebook as am I; Our relationship was 33 years ago. We dated as teens and were in love till he went away to school he said we should date others and didn't want t...
A. 27 September 2014: I'd ignore it. I would NOt accept the "friends-request". You would be some dirty secret since he won't tell his wife about you and who wants to be that?
If he has only nice intentions why can't his wife know?
My husband has his high-school swee... (read in full...)
Old flame returns! What to say or do? He wants to be friends but he doesn't want his wife to get hurt??
Q. I was contacted by my first love on facebook. He said he was happily married on facebook as am I; Our relationship was 33 years ago. We dated as teens and were in love till he went away to school he said we should date others and didn't want t...
A. 27 September 2014: I'd ignore it. I would NOt accept the "friends-request". You would be some dirty secret since he won't tell his wife about you and who wants to be that?
If he has only nice intentions why can't his wife know?
My husband has his high-school swee... (read in full...)
Recently saw my Mum, when she was younger, in a commercial film, where she was topless. It has grossed me out. How do I get over this?
Q. I'm grossed out after knowing my Mum did a cameo topless scene in a film? Recently, I saw my Mum topless in an old movie. It was a cameo appearance but it shocked the hell out of me and disgusted me. I don't know how to deal to with it. ...
A. 27 September 2014: I grew up with nude and topless beaches so really, it is not a big deal for me..
Your mom was in a movie YAY - she was topless in said movie, OK.
Personally, I don't see the big deal. Now if it was porn I can see the shock and horror, but topl... (read in full...)
Please help me! Is my fiancé abusing me?
Q. So my fiancé thinks that its okay to look at girls who are way skinnier than me and then gets mad when a guy looks at me in a good way. He consistantly will do this right in front of me then tells me that im an attention whore and wants me to wear...
A. 27 September 2014: I have to agree at 17 you are far to young to even consider marriage. But more over the fact that you aren't sure he is treating you wrong/right means you reallllllly aren't ready.
How is it EVER OK for a guy to call is GF a whore (even if he us... (read in full...)
What "red flags" am I missing here and how do I stop them without being an jerk?
Q. I have only had a few girlfriends in my life and the ones I have dump me all the time with no reason other than "I just want to be friends" or "it's not working out" or "I don't want a boyfriend". They say these things after we're already dating or ...
A. 26 September 2014: Just get a Fleshlight... that is all you seem to really want.... (read in full...)
What should I do about my secret obsession?
Q. I can't get this girl out of my head. I've known her years and we talk now and then. I have a girlfriend who I really like but I know isn't 'the one'. I think about this other girl constantly and replay our conversations over in my head. I don't ...
A. 26 September 2014: Not very fair to your GF is it?
I mean how would you feel if the roles were reversed and she PINED after another dude that she kept in orbit as a "friend"?
End it with your GF. Set her free so SHE can find a guy who WANTS her and ONLY her. No... (read in full...)
I'm feeling uneasy about sending risque photos of myself. How do I tell him I don't want to do that anymore?
Q. I've been sexting with this guy for a little less than 2 months. It's not only sexting because we talk about our day and other stuff non-sex related on a daily basis. Lately,(and not because of anything he's done), I'm worrying about the pictures...
A. 26 September 2014: Well, if you already sent some there is no getting those back. They are now HIS to do with whatever he pleases.
Considering that, WHY not tell him the truth. We are VIRTUAL strangers and I would LIKE to continue our chats but I don't want to send ... (read in full...)
Its only been 3 days but I'm worried I'm not going to last on my job because of inadequate training
Q. I started a new job on Wednesday, this is my 3rd day and despite me knowing and telling myself it's only my 3rd day and things may get better, I can't shake this horrible feeling of not fitting in away. I trained at a previous organisation tha...
A. 26 September 2014: Take notes, ask questions and observe. The people who have more experience will without doubt want to help you succeed. Because if you "SUCK" you will drag them down too.
And work on your social skills, you may not have much in common, but try ... (read in full...)
I have a girlfriend but want the woman I am infatuated with at work!
Q. Ok ladies AND gents. This is a long one but please bare (bear?) with me. I have put myself in such a terrible situation and even though I know this I do not stop my actions probably due to my selfish, pig, insecurities and attitude. I don't k...
A. 26 September 2014: If you have a GF and WANT to TRY it with the co-worker then for CRYING out loud END it with your GF FIRST.
Once you are FIRMLY single, then ASK to lady out on a date. Now she MIGHT shoot you down. She might have moved on from her initial infatuat... (read in full...)
Am I obligated to spell out that it's over? We haven't spoken in a month
Q. We just stopped talking to each other after an almost five year relationship. Literally. I suspected him of cheating after I found out he was going on a trip with a female co-worker and even if it was purely innocent, he never told me and this was a ...
A. 26 September 2014: Are you obligated? No. But is it common decency to SPELL it out? yes.
Think of it as a "closure" for you. Letting go of the dead weight.
I'm pretty sure he knows what's up, and that he probably sees himself as single, but if he is avoiding you,... (read in full...)
How to I talk to my parents and explain that their comments are hurtful?
Q. Hi everybody. My issue I'm having is with my elderly parents. They are amazing people, I would say the kindest people I've ever met. They would give you every last penny they had if they thought it would make you happy. They are fantastic parent...
A. 26 September 2014: Honestly, I think this IS very normal yet so VERY annoying. My oldest (14) had her hair dyed purple. And my Dad gave me a long lecture about how that was corrupting her... make her some kind of teen rebel. Except she is an outstanding daughter and ... (read in full...)
Do I send the sexy bank teller a message? He gave me his cell phone number
Q. Hello Everyone, Every Friday after work I go to the local/closest bank to my job to deposit my check. I've been going there since a few months before the summer up until this day. There is this guy working there(teller) who I think is cute. W...
A. 26 September 2014: Well, he COULD have told your friend he had a GF, to be polite (in case she thought he was available) but he could also HAVE a GF.
So that is the FIRST thing I would clear up with this guy, whether he has a GF or not. Once you actually talk out... (read in full...)
Why was my sister friend so rude to me and why are women so mean to each other?
Q. A few months ago my younger sister ( who lives in another state) got married, smallish amount of people around 60, at the end of the night there were buses that took us from the venue to the car park in the town where we all had parked car...
A. 26 September 2014: Why are some women like this? Because of their OWN insecurities.
And I agree with eyeswideopen, some people are just not very classy.
Could be she read your body language wrong or you read hers wrong who knows. I would just chalk this up to... (read in full...)
I want to date its been 13 years but I don't want to be hurt!
Q. Dear cupid, I am a single mature woman my children are grown I want a relationship but I been through so much with men that did not deserve me til I don't know whether I'm going or coming .My son thinks I should leave life alone because he have ...
A. 26 September 2014: I think you are going to have a hard time dating if you can't "take" hurt.
Dating (specially at our age) really seems to be hit & miss, which means the FIRST guy you might date might not be a long term fella for you, neither the second. Know wha... (read in full...)
My 9 years older than me boyfriend wants to settle down have a baby and I'm not ready yet. How do I tell him?
Q. My boyfriend really wants us to start trying for a baby within the next few months but I don't feel ready for a child yet, even though I adore my step daughter and love spending time with her. It's just such a commitment, and I don't think I am ...
A. 26 September 2014: You write:
" when I try to explain to him that I'm only 24 and I don't know if right now I want those things, he gets upset."
That is outright manipulation or emotional blackmail. He gets upset because he can't press a button and BAM! you wan... (read in full...)
The girl I'm dating lost weight and now I don't find her as attractive!
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I am writing to ask your advice on a difficult situation. I have recently begun a new relationship and we have been going out for about 2 months. When I first started seeing this girl, she was quite chubby and curvaceous, ...
A. 26 September 2014: How much weight can she have lost in 2 months? 10 lbs?
If that little bit of weight loss is a turn off for you then YES, by ALL mean end it with her, BUT for GOODNESS sake have some manners and DO not TELL her I'm ending it because you lost wei... (read in full...)
My cheating married lover has grown cold
Q. I got involved with a married man and quickly felt like we had incredibly chemistry. He kept telling me that he feels so connected to me. We met twice , had sex. That part was understood. But now the chase is over. After the second time, he seems ...
A. 26 September 2014: You know, I fully agree with YouWish.
It seems EASIER for people to "hate" on the OW/OM than the MARRIED CHEATING BASTARD, but I don't.
I DO feel a sense of disdain that ANYONE (single or not) thinks it's OK to get involved emotionally and ... (read in full...)
My bf's dad doesn't treat his son right and I don't know how to handle their conflicts
Q. I have a problem with my bf's dad. I've been with my bf for about 3 yrs now and I've always heard him bash on his dad. It took me at least a yr to understand their relationship because my bf was too embarrassed to share it with me. Anyways, my bf's ...
A. 26 September 2014: EDIT:
Last line should have said:
You BF cannot fix it either.... (read in full...)
My bf's dad doesn't treat his son right and I don't know how to handle their conflicts
Q. I have a problem with my bf's dad. I've been with my bf for about 3 yrs now and I've always heard him bash on his dad. It took me at least a yr to understand their relationship because my bf was too embarrassed to share it with me. Anyways, my bf's ...
A. 26 September 2014: Honestly, I'd avoid the Dad. You can't change the Dad and obviously you don't have to stand by and watch him be this nasty man either.
I would explain to your BF how hard it is for you to see his dad belittle him and this is why you rather n... (read in full...)
If it's FWB why does he care who I date?
Q. Hey everyone, I have been in a sexual relationship with a colleague of mine for almost a year now. Prior to anything sexual, he made it clear that he did not want any emotions or attachments to form once we had sex. He also stated that we w...
A. 26 September 2014: I absolutely agree with Cindy on all counts.
1. He wants to have the GFE when he is with you. When he is not in the mood for the GFE, you mean nothing to him.
And 2.
Over and over and over here on DC we get female poster (mainly) who AGRE... (read in full...)
I feel like I can't compete with my boyfriend's threesome! Should I tell him?
Q. Hi everyone, I have gotten myself into a really, really stupid situation here. My boyfriend and I have been in a very passionate and loving relationship for about two months and I'll just skip the part where I tell you all how perfect everythi...
A. 25 September 2014: OP
If being in a 3-some was so awesome, why would he settle for dating ONe girl? Maybe because YOU are enough? Maybe because it actually IS a better experience with one person?
I have never partaken in 3-somes, but I have quite a few friend who... (read in full...)
Is it normal to express interest in other people as a married couple?
Q. Is it normal to express interest in other people as a married couple? My husband, who has always been faithful to me recently confessed that he 'liked' another woman he and I both knew several years ago. He had always denied it, but recently he ...
A. 25 September 2014: I think it's normal to notice and even feel attractions for someone other then your spouse. Specially after many years together.
What I don't think is OK is acting on it. As in flirting or discussing the marriage with another person whom "you" ha... (read in full...)
Should I Tell My Friend About her Friend Quizzing Me?
Q. I recently went to an event to support a friend. While I was there I spoke with two of her friends there who were a couple. The wife started asking me multiple questions about my friend including her work schedule. I simply said I didn't know her ...
A. 25 September 2014: I "might" ask her how well she knows Mr. and Mrs X and if she asks you why you can tell her that the wife inquired to her work schedule and you found it a tad odd. I would tell her because SHE is my friend.
HOWEVER, If you do all that crap mig... (read in full...)
My fiance has lied to me and I've lost trust in her. Can this be fixed?
Q. My Fiancée and I have been together for over a decade and have had two kids together. Like most relationships, we've had our ups and downs. A lot brought on by me working away from home and perhaps not doing as much around the house when I get ...
A. 25 September 2014: I have to agree with Cindy, WHY would you WANT to fix this? I get it that you might want to do it for the kids, but seriously? She takes NO accountability for her actions and she really do NOT care how it affects you. YOU know she didn't just LOOK ... (read in full...)
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