How do I put this guy in his place? I need a good ultimatum line
Q. Hey Aunts So I have a crush on this guy for a while , back then he was mostly talking about his ex gf but the day his present gf came down (before that he referred her to me as an ex), he told me that they were just going to meet up and catch up....
A. 18 November 2014: The guy think he can "sweet talk" you into complying with his wishes (and that is for you to continue to be his F-buddy).
He tried to sound all smart and "mysterious" in hopes to hook you, AT LEAST til his GF decides what SHE wants. It makes yo... (read in full...)
Does a blow job require this in order to feel good?
Q. Guys when a girl gives you a blow job, does a girl have to deep throat for it to feel good for you. Answers from guys only please. ...
A. 18 November 2014: Deep throat is part of the porn ideals - like facials. For those FEMALES who CAN do it, and enjoy it (with out gagging) it's not something that comes overnight. It takes trust and well, PRACTICE.
Having a guy almost choke you on his penis is just ... (read in full...)
Why would he change his FB status? Could we be friends? I'm so confused!
Q. So almost seven months ago, around easter I broke up with my ex because our relationship had too many people involved trying to cause problems on top of us already having our own. He then randomly messaged me in august just saying sup? I tried to be ...
A. 18 November 2014: I think there are times where you can keep an ex in your life after a break up, but for the most part I don't think it's a good idea for either person. It's a constant reminder of what went wrong.
My guess is his "In a relationship status" ... (read in full...)
He doesn't seem to understand that I can't text at work! How can I make it sink it?
Q. Is there any way I can stop my man being so needy? I love him to bits and he is everything I want in a partner but he's very clingy and dependant on me which is really starting to annoy me. He texts me all day every day. At his job he can. At my job ...
A. 18 November 2014: That would drive me up the wall. I'm NOT a big texter, so maybe that's partly why it WOULD annoy me.
I agree with getting one of the AFK/AFP (away from keyboard - away from phone) app - and have a message put in for HIM saying = at work can't t... (read in full...)
Does my best friend like my boyfriend? What should I do?
Q. So i met my boyfriend through my best friend, they've now gone to uni together and are living in the same house. I was always hesistant to start a relationship with this guy even though i had strong feelings for him. My best friend 'used' to have ...
A. 18 November 2014: I think your "best friend" is jealous of you & him. IF she "fawned" all over this guy with NO result (as in he didn't like her in "that" way back) but he LIKES you that way and it irks her a little. I think that is why she likes to point out she ... (read in full...)
I feel he is still looking for other women whilst sleeping with me.
Q. I have been seeing a guy for just under 4 weeks. We met on Tinder and our dates have been wonderful. At the weekend I stayed at his and we slept together a lot on saturday and once on sunday before i left. We had a wonderful romantic time. He text ...
A. 18 November 2014: I have to agree you are WAY rushing things. Which might BE why you had a run in with 2 "bad relationships" because you JUMP in with both feet before you even know a guy.
MY advice TAKE the time getting to know him. Hold off on the sex a little w... (read in full...)
When it comes to sex she calls the shots
Q. My girlfriend Is controlling sexually she keeps rejecting me every time if try to have sex. It's destroying our relationship so much, I try to talk she won't We have sex 1time a month on her command. It is destroying my masculinity Help me flip...
A. 18 November 2014: First of all, not having sex whenever you want, isn't going to destroy your masculinity. It might "destroy" your libido and your level of "love" for this girl, but masculinity? no.
If she refuses to talk about it, I have to agree you have to consi... (read in full...)
Was he ever interested in me or was he just being nice and not wanting to reject me?
Q. Hi all. I work at a retail job which is just temporary until I get into my career field. There's a guy at my job who I have a big crush on (let's call him V). Usually I do nothing about situations where I have a crush on someone. But I kept reading ...
A. 17 November 2014: Don't forget what you were told were all hearsay. Most people enjoy the fact that others are interested and/or like them, nothing new in that.
Maybe you HAVE been talking more to G lately and that was noticed by V?
It's really hard to tell. An... (read in full...)
Should I keep talking to my online guy?
Q. Thank you for clicking. I'm sorry if this isn't very well-worded -- I'm not really sure how to begin this, hah. A few years ago, I met someone who is now near and dear to my heart, who I'll call John. John and I met online, which, I know is a...
A. 17 November 2014: I think if this "relationship" is making YOU feel even MORE anxious then it's NOT a good an healthy relationship. And you should FOCUS on your health more then this "pseudo BF".
You know a very smart man once said :"Only thing we have to fear is ... (read in full...)
Weird feeling during sex
Q. So when my boyfriend and I are having sex, I swear it feels like something is moving inside. I feel like my stomach or uterus or something is moving when there's thrusting. Yoy can hear it too. It sounds like a stomach gurgle kinda thing. I'm not ...
A. 17 November 2014: Do you mean it sounds like you are farting with your vagina?
It's called a "queef", when air pushed into the vagina during sex comes back out.
However, to avoid it being something more serious, why not go make an appointment with your GYN? H... (read in full...)
Why do people automatically assume I'm a bumb?
Q. Hi all, I'm somewhat of a professional gambler, and I was wondering why is it so socially unacceptable to be a gambler? To make things clear, I'm not a problem gambler, I've been doing it for a living for the better part of 10 years. I'm a poker ...
A. 17 November 2014: I think most people presume it's not a "reliable" income.
There is a chance that you lose. Lose a little or lose big. THAT chance is ALWAYS there.
Gambling doesn't give you and a family medical/dental coverage.
You can not buy a house ( le... (read in full...)
I told him its me or the weed ...
Q. my boyfriend stopped smoking weed and recently he talked about starting back. but me on the other hand hate it and don't want to be around it. What should I do? I told him to pick me or weed and he says its up to me.. help!...
A. 17 November 2014: I don't see why you even ask for advice on this. Because loving him dearly and living together seems to trump everything. But it doesn't to your BF. YOUR opinion doesn't matter when it comes to weed. And maybe it's because he did weed before you two ... (read in full...)
I am heatbroken there was no compromise or compassion!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 weeks. Things were going so well until yesterday evening. He invited me to a wedding and I gladly accepted the invitation (the bride and groom wanted to meet me too) The wedding was a sunrise one so it ...
A. 17 November 2014: I think this has nothing to do with lack of compromise or lack of compassion.
YOU two were at a wedding, a joyous occasion so he might HAVE been more hugging then usual with female friends, maybe he is always like that. My guess is when he LOVES... (read in full...)
I walked on egg shells around his wife and my relationship with my son have changed from good to bad! How can I show my son that I love his wife and children?
Q. My son and I have a close relationship until he got married. He's 33 years old and a wonderful son but now I felt like I walked on egg shells around his wife and my relationship with my son have changed from good to bad. I called him one day and I ...
A. 17 November 2014: I think you shot yourself in the foot when you started to talk smack to your DIL and hurt her feelings.
YOUR son MARRIED this girl, has CHILDREN with her and LIVES with her, so he feels he has to SIDE with her. Which means.. EVEN against you.
... (read in full...)
I had a feeling he was texting other girls, and he was! How do I approach this as it will reveal I went through his phone?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 15 months. Recently I haven't been feeling the same, like I still love him but I get the feeling he doesn't. Things have changed a little over the weekend and I don't like the way it's going. I had a feeling he was ...
A. 17 November 2014: Why not just end it with him? Tell him you are aware that he is STILL chatting up other chicks, and you are done with that and him? No need to explain you went through his phone.
Had you asked him if he was chatting to other girls he would wi... (read in full...)
Was he ever interested in me or was he just being nice and not wanting to reject me?
Q. Hi all. I work at a retail job which is just temporary until I get into my career field. There's a guy at my job who I have a big crush on (let's call him V). Usually I do nothing about situations where I have a crush on someone. But I kept reading ...
A. 17 November 2014: I would drop it. If V was REALLY interested he wouldn't have "conveniently" forgotten about the rain-check, nor would he have cancelled THAT late.
I would also AVOID involving other co-workers in my "crushes" and personal business. It's unprofes... (read in full...)
Stability vs. Excitment
Q. I find that we, humans, seem to have a nature of wanting things that we don't have sometimes to a point where we are hurting people along the way just to get it, because we don't know how to appreciate them when it is already in front of us. But ...
A. 17 November 2014: Being single and follow my dreams. Settling is misery in the making. In this day and age NO ONE HAS to settle.
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Should I report this, I don't want to create problems or trouble?
Q. Hi, can I ask a question please? I am currently working as a housing Assistant, my superior is a married man 2x my age, he comes across flirty sometimes and stares at me all the time, like really it has been noticed by others. The other day he ...
A. 17 November 2014: I agree with Ciar, I think before you consider reporting him (and YOU end up let go) you should tell him that in the future you would not like to slapped on the butt or elsewhere. And do it when no one else is around. Be professional and polite.
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Does my boyfriend think he's too old for me and is using my health issue as an excuse to end things?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 months is a director of a company where he entertains potential customers at his house and as I am his partner he says that he expects me to come and help him, 3 weeks ago I had a IBS episode during one of these evenings and I said ...
A. 17 November 2014: I think it's a case of a man who can't handle people who CAN get sick.
I wouldn't waste any more time on this guy. 3 months and he does that?
Good riddance, he sounds utterly callous.... (read in full...)
I need to end this affair
Q. I need the big push to end my 9yr affair with a single man. I'm wed. A bad scene to be sure. If I cared that much I would have left my marriage and If my lover cared that much he would have asked me to! no sex with husband great sex with lover! Help ...
A. 17 November 2014: I agree with Sage.
You know it's not the right thing to do. So seriously SHIT or get of the pot. Don't "talk" or mull it over, make a decision and STICK to it.... (read in full...)
If there's another woman she doesn't deserve this either
Q. I have been with the same guy for six years. In this entire time we have gone out two times as a couple. Most of the time it's just the mattress mambo and nothing else. I have spoken to him about building a more solid relationship together over the ...
A. 17 November 2014: I agree, you are WASTING your energy on this douche. I agree that YOU were the OW/F-buddy on the side the whole time.
CUT the creep out of your life 100%.
You are NOT the morality police that goes around informing other women of this creeps a... (read in full...)
Is it common for women to lose interest in anal play after childbirth?
Q. Ok for the ladies out there that have had a baby, how has this affected your enjoyment or preferences to anal sex? I'm just asking because my wife does not see in to anal sex at all since the birth of our first. She would ask for it at times and ...
A. 16 November 2014: I'd talk to her, but also respect her choice to no longer prefer it (if that is the case)
As for "no visible scars" well, you can't go bu that solely. EVERYTHING feels different after a baby. We mostly go back to "normal" after a while, but what... (read in full...)
How do I put this guy in his place? I need a good ultimatum line
Q. Hey Aunts So I have a crush on this guy for a while , back then he was mostly talking about his ex gf but the day his present gf came down (before that he referred her to me as an ex), he told me that they were just going to meet up and catch up....
A. 16 November 2014: I fully agree with YouWish's advice.
Ultimatums should be to YOURSELF not him. Having a crush on a guy doesn't mean he OWES you fidelity or anything else.
My guess is he enjoyed KNOWING that you "pined" after him, but he wasn't over his ex, you... (read in full...)
I've been supportive about my husband's cross dressing. So why has he resorted to tells lies to me now about his activities?
Q. Ok so I have known that my husband was a cross-dresser since before we got married. When he first told me about it, he started making craigslist posts to meet up with others to experiment... He never told me about it but I found the posts... He ...
A. 16 November 2014: One thing is being supportive of his cross dressing, I get that, but WHY stick around with a guy who NOT so secretly cheats or want to cheat on you?
The cheating has NOTHING to do with the cross dressing.
Now you have given him an out in th... (read in full...)
Can a man be happy with a slim girl when he really prefers BBW?
Q. My boyfriend is into pretty much only BBW / chubby porn, but won't just admit he fancies big girls. he says it gets him off but I just have a gut feeling he prefers big girls. None of his exes have been too chubby though and I am slim. Hi calls me ...
A. 15 November 2014: My husband "loves" redheads, I'm blond. He likes them curvy/chubby, I'm not. We have been together for 19 going on 20 years, married 17 - so OBVIOUSLY it can work.
And to be franks my husband isn't LOOKING like my ideal "fantasy" man either, ... (read in full...)
Do I believe him or not? My older married lover says he'll leave his wife when I finish college.
Q. My older, married lover tells me he will eventually leave his wife once I finish college. He has brought up the idea of having a baby together recently. Does this mean he is serious about our relationship and would having his baby be a good choice? ...
A. 15 November 2014: No having his baby would be ridiculous, specially while you are still IN college. And he is still married.
If he leaves his wife, how long do you think he will stick it out with you? Or do you presume that you are "better" then the "old" wife? Th... (read in full...)
A (small) betrayal or much ado about nothing?
Q. I told my husband in confidence that his best friend was getting a divorce. Before telling him I made him promise not to tell anyone until his best friend tells him himself. A few weeks later, he blurted it out. Now, as usual, he’s angry AT ME fo...
A. 14 November 2014: I don't think it was wrong that you told your husband. I do think your husband OVERACTED and I would ASK him how he would have preferred the situation to be handled so in the future you know what he would prefer.
I think your husband is being a ... (read in full...)
He did something I wouldn't have expected and now I don't feel the same
Q. Okay, well my boyfriend and I broke up 3 days ago. And we were barley talking but then last night he texts me and tells me he still loves me its just we can date anymore right now because something bad might happen go him or me. Obviously I wa...
A. 14 November 2014: That sounds like a RATHER elaborate story for him to cover up his cyber-sexcapades. FACTS are, honey, HE got online and did SEXUAL things for another girl, had feelings of guilt about it. When you pressed for information he gave you that long ... (read in full...)
Hurt by his ex, all he's ready for is a friendship
Q. About a month ago, I met an amazing guy. We hit it off right away and we started to spend every single day together, as well as I stayed over every night. He asked me to come over every day and stay every night. It felt amazing to be wanted. He ...
A. 14 November 2014: I'd stay away. Like eyeswideopen mentioned, it was ONLY a month you spend with him, why WASTE more time on a guy who isn't looking for a GF, but a friendly f-buddy?
Being "friends" would NOT make him change his mind, nor would you "suddenl... (read in full...)
His family think I'm a gold digger! Should I go on this trip with them?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for seven months now. I'm 22 and he is 38. I have met most of his family ( his dad,step mom, two of his sisters and a brother in law) all but one of his sisters were friendly to me but they all told him they don't think ...
A. 14 November 2014: I would stay home. This is someone's wedding and even IF you are not a gold digger, you being there can create drama that the BRIDE/GROOM may not like or appreciate. Personally, I would have THAT much respect for the couple about to get married. And ... (read in full...)
She's become cold and distant after we went looking for her birth father!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 5 months - she is 22 and me, 26. We are very happy and close ( I'm the first guy she has slept with ) and her family like me, which is a bonus. She was always quite a closed person but over time she opened up ...
A. 14 November 2014: Give her a little space. But remind her that you are there for her.
My guess is, she had a fantastic fantasy lined up about her dad and their reunion and when it didn't happen she was thoroughly bummed out, add her mom's fury and she is feeling ... (read in full...)
Communication is becoming impossible!
Q. She asks "Would you like a biscuit" - I answer "yes please, just one" - "but you normally have two" - "yes but I'm not hungry, just one would be nice" - "You don't like my biscuits ?" - "yes but I'm not hungry" - "I've spent all this time cooking ...
A. 14 November 2014: Something else is bothering her, MASSIVELY. But she think you should be able to READ her mind by now, so she is pulling these little passive-aggressive "arguments" to show her displeasure with your mind reading skills.
Did you miss a birthday... (read in full...)
This ONS seemed different ...
Q. DISCLAIMER: I came out of a long term relationship 8 months ago, have no desire for a relationship and am simply having a bit of fun before I get too old! And yes I'm always careful. One night stands.. Am I right in thinking that it's usua...
A. 14 November 2014: I think he kind of did a runner too, if he didn't leave any way for you to contact him or ask for your number.
What might be a little out of the ordinary this guy didn't TREAT you like a ONS (wham, ban, thank you Ma'am),but I wouldn't read mor... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mom wants to be my best friend
Q. Ok so I know this sounds like a good problem to have but my boyfriend's mother (my eventual MIL) wants to literally be my best friend. She comments on ALL of my photos, shared posts, statuses, EVERYTHING on Facebook. She even will comment on my ...
A. 14 November 2014: hide her feeds or... remove her from your Facebook page. My guess is, she is new to Facebook and enthusiastic about her son and you (which is a good thing).
Or set your privacy settings higher (on pictures for instance)
No need to be embarrasse... (read in full...)
Trying for a baby is ruining my marriage!
Q. My husband and I have been trying for a baby since our honeymoon one year ago...with no success. All hope is not lost at this stage, we've had tests done and the specialists are pretty confident we'll concieve if we keep trying, and that treatment ...
A. 14 November 2014: Go see your doctor again. Have her/him EXPLAIN how to use a ovulation calender and ovulation kit. And then RELAX (I know, I know easier said then done) in reality getting pregnant isn't always as easy as we think.
Some people seems to think al... (read in full...)
Is it possible to go back to getting to know someone slowly after being intimate?
Q. I have been dating a guy for 3-4 weeks, and we've had 6 or 7 dates. I met him online, things went a bit wrong before we even met because of big differences in life style that I pointed out. For example he is very well off and I earn a moderate ...
A. 13 November 2014: Just keep in mind that THIS guy is NOT the same guy(s) who betrayed you or mistreated you in the past. I know it's hard, but it's not "fair" to treat him as if he WERE one of those guys. Not fair on yourself either, because it KEEPS your mind rooted ... (read in full...)
Lost his boner when I got on top... reasonable excuse?
Q. My bf and I have been together for 4 years, yesterday was our anniversary, actually. Anyway, our sex life has been generally pretty good except for me riding him. I've NEVER had problems with it in past relationships but for some reason our bodie...
A. 12 November 2014: All you can really do, is check of "riding him" off the to do list.
My guess is he is NOT as turned on when he is not in control, or simply.. the lights were off and while it felt good, he simply got sleepy. I mean seriously... you did it 4 times ... (read in full...)
Herbal supplements for suppressing male libido?
Q. I'm 18 years old, straight, and have never had a girlfriend, this hasn't bothered me until recently when I've begun to notice that my sex drive has seemed to increase as of lately. Now I realize that for most men an increased/regular sex drive is a ...
A. 12 November 2014: My advice, EXERCISE!!
It will benefit you twofold, you will be FIT before going to basic and it will WEAR you out, plus you will get the benefit of looking fit and feeling better. Why do you think the military has a 2 HOUR morning PT? Not just to ... (read in full...)
My man won't put out but wants me to please him only!
Q. In need of some advice please! So I've been in a relationship and living with my bf for over 2 yrs. and we just had a baby (he did not want to have the baby) we didn't have much sex at the end of my pregnancy cause he said it's weird...it drove me...
A. 12 November 2014: Honestly I think there is more to it then him not wanting to hurt you.
You say he didn't WANT a child? So maybe he is SCARED to knock you up again?
5 Weeks is a VERY SHORT time to recover. I think just taking is a BIT more slow would be a good ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to go back to getting to know someone slowly after being intimate?
Q. I have been dating a guy for 3-4 weeks, and we've had 6 or 7 dates. I met him online, things went a bit wrong before we even met because of big differences in life style that I pointed out. For example he is very well off and I earn a moderate ...
A. 12 November 2014: You have some very strict rules you feel you MUST adhere to in order to avoid heart-ache?
You are a planner and less of a doer. Not the impulsive person who follows her heart and gut, but more of a if ABC is happening then DEF will happen o... (read in full...)
In love with my friend, do I lay it on the line and ask where I stand?
Q. ok so straight to the point , i have developed feelings for my friend he knows i like him but he hasnt done anything about it(the ball is in his court so to speak) hes been flirty but then reminds the moment we r friends and he shouldnt be as flirty ...
A. 12 November 2014: You say he KNOWS you like him, are you sure he knows to WHAT extend you like him? Have you told him already or just "dropped hints"?
Because IF he already know and have done nothing.... HE isn't into you to the extend of wanting more then friendsh... (read in full...)
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