How do I make carpooling less awkward?
Q. I’m looking for some advice on an awkward situation. Basically I’ve started carpooling with one of my colleagues from work. He is a really nice guy but he’s also really shy so the journeys just always descend into silences. We both run out of things ...
A. 13 September 2022: Bring a book or magazine. That way you don't have to talk the whole time.
Make sure you pay him for gas/petrol and you will be fine. You do NOT owe him entertainment for giving you a ride.
And If you feel so uncomfortable talk to him and tell ... (read in full...)
We want to live with the family member who took care of us when our parents couldnt
Q. When I was 6 years old and my sister was 8 years old, our parents were arrested (they were using drugs themselves, making drugs and selling drugs). My parents siblings couldn't take us in dye to different reasons and all four of my grandparents ...
A. 13 September 2022: Do you guys have a social worker? If so, TALK to Uncle Justin FIRST, tell him what you would prefer and if he ALSO rather keep the two of you, contact your case worker/social worker and perhaps a lawyer that deals in family court matters.
It mi... (read in full...)
We want to live with the family member who took care of us when our parents couldnt
Q. When I was 6 years old and my sister was 8 years old, our parents were arrested (they were using drugs themselves, making drugs and selling drugs). My parents siblings couldn't take us in dye to different reasons and all four of my grandparents ...
A. 13 September 2022: test
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Fell in love with fwb partner
Q. Hi so I know I did a stupid thing. I fell head over heels in love with my FWB and he kept giving me all kinds of signals that he likes me too. It was quite obvious to everyone that he was interested in me more than a friend. Before we became FWBs, ...
A. 9 September 2022: "Doesn't anyone here think there's the slightest possibility that something could work out between us? "
No.
"And the worst part is, even though we were best friends, now I feel like he never gave a shit about me. Maybe he didn't."
No, ... (read in full...)
Vacation repeat 1
Q. My partner of almost two years has as three and half year old son with his ex wife. They split up when he was one and are divorced. I’ve never met her and I have to go out when she drops off her son. I have a really good relationship with him. My ...
A. 9 September 2022: I already answered your previous post about this.
Here is my answer again,
"Wish him well, OP
What he wants is to have his cake (you) and eat it too (playing happy family with his ex).
This will not stop.
His "ex wife" doesn't know about you... (read in full...)
How do I deal with shame of video being exposed?
Q. I am getting legal advice on this but I also need some personal advice on how to manage a nightmare I have created with a really bad decision. On a dare and because of my own insane vanity, I auditioned for a pornographic movie. It was very ...
A. 9 September 2022: I would follow WiswOwlE's advice/
FOLLOW your lawyer's recommendations to the letter.
If he tells you to inform your school, well then you should and you should own your own actions. If he tells you NOT TO, then don't.
Personally? I think... (read in full...)
How do I repair insult to my friend?
Q. I messed up with a friend of mine who is gay and we got in a fight over something stupid and I called him a faggot and not in a joking way but an angry way. He got real quiet and said “there it is” and just left. I don’t blame him. Based on his ...
A. 7 September 2022: No, your GF shouldn't be the one to call him, no you shouldn't show up at his work either.
Your GF is not your mommy who runs around and puts out your fires. YOU need to do this.
His workplace should NOT be the place to do this either. THAT is ... (read in full...)
Is he an abuser?
Q. I've been dating a guy for a month now, and when we had sex last time, which was the first time with him, he bit me multiple times in multiple places (arms, shoulders, necks, breasts, thighs, legs) and next day I noticed he left so many bruises all ...
A. 6 September 2022: You are with a guy who doesn't give TWO FUCKS about you.
He bites you?! and so hard that you bruise and he is fekking PROUD?!! He is MAKING his territory on your body with BITE marks! Sick.
As for the pain during sex, honey - the reason it hu... (read in full...)
Partner going on holiday with his ex
Q. My partner of almost two years has as three and half year old son with his ex wife. They split up when he was one and are divorced. I’ve never met her and I have to go out when she drops off her son. I have a really good relationship with him. My ...
A. 6 September 2022: Wish him well, OP
What he wants is to have his cake (you) and eat it too (playing happy family with his ex).
This will not stop.
His "ex wife" doesn't know about you. You have to LEAVE when she drops off her son. You are his DIRTY little... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to wonder if we are right together.
Q. I've been in a relationship with my partner who I live with for 6 years however after working away for a while I find I'm beginning to wonder if we are right together. I met someone whilst I was away, nothing physical happened however have been ...
A. 6 September 2022: First off, CUT the contact with the other dude. Of course, the NEW dude seems a "better fit" because it's all new and shiny with him.
You can't figure out what it is you are not getting from your partner if you get it from someone else, nor can ... (read in full...)
I am annoyed of husbands new eating pattern
Q. Dear Cupid I have been with my husband for 7 years and we have our ups and downs. We go out bi weekly once and mostly eat home cooked meals. Not microwave food, actual home cooked meals and for last 6 months we started having salad for lunch a...
A. 6 September 2022: I do intermittent fasting too.
I basically "skip" breakfast and snacks. I eat at noon and dinner around 6 pm. It works for me. Since my hysterectomy, I'm constantly famished and it is easy to over eat, hence doing intermittent fasting. It has curv... (read in full...)
Am I looking for a,reason to leave?
Q. I've been in a relationship for 8 years with my partner but recently have been having doubts about our future. There has been changes over the last year or so with lack of affection/intimacy and I find myself thinking if I'd be better alone for a ...
A. 2 September 2022: You need to COMMUNICATE here.
Your needs aren't met anymore, so you need to TALK to him and figure out what is going on and how to fix this together.
DO NOT buy a house together if things aren't working for you.
It's not just you being scare... (read in full...)
Not dating is like being in prison
Q. hi my name is bill i havent dated in over 10 years cause i realy dont know how annymore see i have aw metal illness i been fighting depresson anxiety for the most of my life when i was young i belivei had it to cause i was so shy hand very hard time ...
A. 2 September 2022: Are you seeing someone? Like a counselor?
Maybe you should start there?
If you think you have depression or anxiety - it could be that you need help to overcome them, help that you can't give yourself.
I'd say seek out your doctor and get ... (read in full...)
Why does my GF make me do dares to get a kiss?
Q. My GF is the greatest and I would do anything for her and I am like so lucky she likes me back the same way. She does this weird thing though on kissing. If I ask her for a kiss, she tells me I have to earn it and makes me do some kind of dare ...
A. 2 September 2022: Well, I guess IF you like doing all this then OK.. Do you.
BUT I find this degrading.
Imagine YOU tell her to perform "tricks" for you to get affection from you?! Like a good little puppy.
Should you care? I think you DO care, or you woul... (read in full...)
My wife will not take the lead in the bedroom
Q. Hello all, My wife of 20 years and I are both pretty submissive in the bedroom. I tend to take the lead in most areas and have had the desire to be a follower in the bedroom for sometime now but not able to get her to take it seriously. Seri...
A. 2 September 2022: You have tons of sex, so there IS activity there.
She just doesn't WANT to take the lead in the bedroom. It would pretend for her and that IS NOT sexy.
Have you asked HER what she would want to explore?
No?
You have known this woman for... (read in full...)
He’s invited me to go travelling with him but what if it doesn't work out?
Q. Hi guys, hoping for some advice. I’ve been friends with a guy for a few years and do really like him deep down but I’m really shy so never had the guts to properly make a move so we've always just been good friends. I’m 99% sure he likes me too. One ...
A. 30 August 2022: Honestly?
I'd hold off on the dating if you want to travel with him around Asia for 6 months. You don't want to be left in a country where you don't speak the language because you two had a lover's tiff.
Backpacking for 6 months will give... (read in full...)
He broke up with me saying he can't please me sexually
Q. I’m 30(f) and the guy (39, m) I have been dating for the past 4 months pretty much broke up with me and asked if I’d be ok with being just friends. His reason was because he says he physically can’t sexually please me. I have never said anyth...
A. 30 August 2022: I think you should just let him go.
Either there is something medically "wrong" with him and thus he has ED, or he isn't SEXUALLY attracted to you, or he is really gay, or he has had a trauma of a sexual nature (abuse/rape).
If I were a betting... (read in full...)
Cancer diagnosis-husband angry with his family
Q. Hi all, I’ll try to keep this short. I’ve been ill for almost 2 years. I’ve seen numerous specialists, doctors… nobody could find what was wrong. I was just an XY patient to them, a number. They didn’t take my case seriously even though I nev...
A. 30 August 2022: First off, I'm sorry! I hope it's something that can be dealt with and that you come out well on the other end.
I understand both of you. Totally.
He ASKED them for advice help or recommendations - ALL things that are FREE and none that would ... (read in full...)
Why do my friend and I sometimes click, but other times it's awkward?
Q. Sorry this is not a romance question, but rather it's a friendship question. Why do my friend and I sometimes click, but other times we don't? For instance, we met up yesterday at the pub and had the best time together and clicked really well. We ...
A. 30 August 2022: I don't think it means you aren't compatible as friends it just means you two get along well when it's just you two but when more people are tossed in the mix it can feel and be awkward.
But that is what SOCIALIZING is all about.
You can't rea... (read in full...)
While on vacation I was happier away from my boyfriend
Q. My boyfriend of 7 years got drunk at my birthday party and started being very argumentative with myself and my friends. It was embarrassing quite frankly for me and I know my friends don't really like him. The next few days I left to go on holiday ...
A. 30 August 2022: Sounded like he started to fight ON purpose to ruin your holiday. Either because he wasn't going or because he didn't want YOU to go.
He sounds like an ass.
Wish him well and be done with this manipulative asshat.... (read in full...)
While on vacation I was happier away from my boyfriend
Q. My boyfriend of 7 years got drunk at my birthday party and started being very argumentative with myself and my friends. It was embarrassing quite frankly for me and I know my friends don't really like him. The next few days I left to go on holiday ...
A. 30 August 2022: test
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How can you get from the point of almost not wanting your guy touching you straight to the point of wanting sex like crazy?
Q. Hi all! I am in a situation and hopefully you can help me by giving me another perspective cause I am a bit at a loss. Here it goes: I've been with my gf for two years, I love her to bits and have never felt so good with anyone. Up until a while ag...
A. 26 August 2022: I think she FINALLY feels secure in the relationship. I think she WANTED to make really sure that you were going to stick around BEFORE having sex.
I think she feels that having sex is a big deal (and for many it is) and she decided to wait unt... (read in full...)
Confused and want him to talk
Q. So I've been seeing this guy for almost 6 months. He announced at his bday party to his friends that I'm his gf. The next day we hung out with his friends and we all had a good time. He was snuggled up to me and gently caressing me. I said hey ...
A. 26 August 2022: If I were you I would send him 1 (ONE) text saying, I wish you all the best but this isn't working out for me. I don't seem to be a priority in your life nor do you seem to want to spend time or even talk to me about what is going on in your life.
... (read in full...)
How do I convince GF pain I have during sex is no big deal?
Q. My girlfriend and I have gotten to the point where we are starting to be sexually active with each other. We are both very attracted to each other, but she made me wait for a while but that is okay because she is worth it. Our first two nights ...
A. 26 August 2022: Aww OP!
You are trying too hard here. I get that due to your genetic condition can easily dislocate joints (which sucks) you NEED to find positions that work for BOTH of you so you don't end up with swollen joints or constant pain.
I dislo... (read in full...)
Mamas boy
Q. How do you deal with a mammys boy? I’m at my wits end. My boyfriend lost his father last year, this was before I met him. He used to live with his ex he told me and things didn’t work out cause he said they were both too far away from family. ...
A. 23 August 2022: Oh, OP just run.
End this, there is NO change in sight.
He is living with his mom because it makes HIS life easier and his mom's life easier too. And to a point, there is nothing wrong in wanting to take care of a parent, but it almost seems ... (read in full...)
Husband cheats again
Q. Ok so i really need help and advice i dont know what to do i have been married for over 15yrs and i have 4 kids but the thing is i just found out last week that my husband just cheated on me for the third time in 8 yrs and i dont know what to do he ...
A. 23 August 2022: There isn't much advice I can give here.
You don't want the marriage to end, you say you love him and are fully dependent on him.
So there is only ONE choice really, and that is finding forgiveness through marriage/couples counseling or fa... (read in full...)
My 6 years younger boyfriend acts like a brat
Q. Hi my boyfriend is very entitled and acts like a brat! I'm 6 years older, and all he cares about is getting high and hanging with friends. We have been together 2 years and it's been mostly bad. He works part time. I work full time and have a ...
A. 20 August 2022: Why are you with him?
Change your locks, change your number, block, delete him on all apps and social media.
If he could "juju" you to hurt you why can't he juju some income or a good job for himself? He is full of crap.
Move on, OP
... (read in full...)
I declined cake when I wanted to accept it
Q. In my workplace a girl did her birthday yesterday and offered me cake i decline when i want to say yes and our boss birthday is today i was offered cake again but i still decline even though i was expecting the cake i wanted to say yes but i blurted ...
A. 18 August 2022: It's OK to say, on second thought yes I would like a piece of cake.
Or if you feel that would hurt your pride, no cake for you.
This is trivial, OP
It's a piece of cake. A kind offer, no more, no less.... (read in full...)
Is he losing interest or just comfortable?
Q. Hi, Wondering if someone would be able to help me with something. I am not sure if my boyfriend is just comfortable or if he is losing interest. It is something that I have been concerned with recently. I moved in with them a few ...
A. 18 August 2022: Oh honey he is totally taking you for granted.
Is this the same guy who went fishing and made you dog sit?
If so, why haven't you left yet? Break up with him, Go home, stay with family until you can find a place of your own.... (read in full...)
Now I think I'm wasting my time
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly five month. I met him through work. He came across really nice and I didn’t see any thing that put me off him, in fact I thought I’d landed on my feet. As time has gone, I’m seeing the real him. He’s ...
A. 18 August 2022: You already know he isn't the right one for you. End it and move on.
The "nice and caring man" you saw, in the beginning, was maybe part of who he is but also it might just be an act to hook a partner because his "real" personality is so off-putt... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't like me?
Q. I am going out on a date with a guy for a month now, but on the dating app to other girl he was saying he is great in bed, he has a huge dick, he is very good in bed, experienced and was flirting with her left and right, and said that he wants to ...
A. 18 August 2022: I think he is trying to sound like he isn't a man-whore to you because you are inexperienced.
If you aren't looking for something sexual and probably very CASUAL - I would move on to someone else.
... (read in full...)
What is he trying to tell?
Q. I am going out with this guy for a month now, but on the text message he asked me what I am doing and I told him am selecting an outfit because going out with my "friend". But then he texted back saying "wear something sexy haha". What is that ...
A. 18 August 2022: Kinda impossible to tell.
My guess (and that is all it is as I don't know him or you) is that he wanted you to say:" nah, this is a friend I don't dress sexy for friends that is for dates and serious partner only."
... (read in full...)
My step children interfere with my baby time
Q. I’ve been with my partner now for 5 years, she has 2 children from her previous marriage a boy that’s 10 and a girl that’s nearly 13. We are all very close. My partner and I had a baby of our own last year and he’s now 16 months old, he’s my ...
A. 18 August 2022: That does sound frustrating but the silver lining i that his half-siblings love and adore him.
Could you not take him for a walk (him in a stroller) to a park or something just the two of you?
School is starting up too for the two older ones. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is furious I didn't put him first
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for four months. One of my best friends was getting married this weekend and her wedding has being planned for over two years. My boyfriend wasn’t invited to the wedding but to the night event. On the morning ...
A. 18 August 2022: Dude, my dude
BREAK up with that little MAN-child! Why are you apologizing?!!
OF course, your long time friend's wedding is MORE important than he is! And then he went a RUINED a wedding party because he is an immature idiot!
DUMP HIM d... (read in full...)
Wife says I am loud and she doesn't like my tone of voice
Q. Hi Aunts! My wife and I frequently get into arguments which begin with her telling me that she doesn't like the tone or volume of my voice. Sometimes she tells me to stop barking at her. Usually when this happens I am not raising my voice at ...
A. 18 August 2022: Why not just TRY and lower your volume?
I mean it seems like an easy fix, you just don't wanna because ... "insert reasons".
Being loud quite often translates to aggression or anger. that might not be your intention but that can still be how... (read in full...)
Is my best customer grooming me for something or just nice in a weird way?
Q. Hi everyone my name is Trevor and hope that is like anonymus enough. I am a 17 year old male (he him his). I will be a high school senior. I am not homophobic and don’t hate anybody but definitely straight in my own preferences. This is about a ...
A. 13 August 2022: "Any thoughts?"
My first advice is this - TRUST your instincts. You have them for a reason.
Secondly? Put on a shirt when/if he shows up. If that makes you a little warmer for that 20-45 minutes, SO be it. It is also a clear sign that you do... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's ex is 46 years old and they keep in touch
Q. I’m dating this girl who’s previous relationship for one year was with a 46 year old (she’s 25). We are getting along great, should I be concerned that they still speak? He recently came to her town and booked hotel for 6 days. She declined the...
A. 12 August 2022: So not only did she have an affair with a married man, she still keep this man in her life?
I get that she is still young and still figuring out things. While legally a person is an "adult" at 18, most people are NOT actual adults until their mi... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's ex is 46 years old and they keep in touch
Q. I’m dating this girl who’s previous relationship for one year was with a 46 year old (she’s 25). We are getting along great, should I be concerned that they still speak? He recently came to her town and booked hotel for 6 days. She declined the...
A. 11 August 2022: What are you doing with this much younger lady yourself?
Seems like she has a type. Older and with money?
She keeps him around for a reason. What that reason is, I can not tell you.
You knew her when she was dating HIM but she wouldn't mee... (read in full...)
I'm Going To Attempt To Get My First Kiss Tomorrow. I Am A Bit Nervous Though. What Can I Do?
Q. So tomorrow I am going to attempt to get my first kiss ever with my girlfriend. I haven't kissed anyone and I am nervous to kiss her. We will be at a club with young people with special needs (like a youth club) and we're going to do Crazy Golf and ...
A. 10 August 2022: Maybe, you ought to consider ASKING her if she would like to be kissed.
Then go from there.... (read in full...)
Should I stay a member of the nippy nap club?
Q. I am a college freshman and I moved into my dormitory early to attend a special program related to my major before regular classes start. My dorm is a building with both girls and guys even on the same floor (but not the same rooms). At this point ...
A. 10 August 2022: Sounds like some weird controlling "guys" kind of power trip. How far can they push a guy? What can they control?
"if feels like it is something a dude would dream up."
No, it feels VERY much like something girls would dream up. Guys would d... (read in full...)
Wife wants to nude sunbathe in front of family
Q. advise - my brother and his wife moved in with my wife and i. my wife likes to sunbathe nude and wants to continue with them here....
A. 10 August 2022: That would be a No from me.
Now I get not liking tan lines or whatnot, but unless she is a swimsuit model or something like that (where people can SEE "ugly" tan lines) I don't see the necessity to sunbathe in the nude.
What is HER reasoning fo... (read in full...)
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