He is asking me for ideas on how to propose?
Q. I have a new partner (all started long distance) who I have been with on and off for 8 months - started in Feb - broke up on Mar 24 then he went home - came back in June - lived with me till mid Sept - then went home to get space and is back to me ...
A. 11 October 2022: The LEAST of your worries right now is HOW he should propose!!
Deal with your ex and the court case FIRST.
Secondly, a relationship that is OFF/ON is PROBABLY not going to work out long term, someone who "needs" breaks in a relationship is ... (read in full...)
He is asking me for ideas on how to propose?
Q. I have a new partner (all started long distance) who I have been with on and off for 8 months - started in Feb - broke up on Mar 24 then he went home - came back in June - lived with me till mid Sept - then went home to get space and is back to me ...
A. 11 October 2022: test
... (read in full...)
In a long distance relationship and I just found out that my gf is pregnant by another man!
Q. Hello I'm in a long distance relationship (like across the country) and today I learned from a friend of my girlfriend that she is pregnant by another man. I confronted my girlfriend and she admitted that she screwed up a few months ago and w...
A. 9 October 2022: So here is the million-dollar question.
Is cheating a DEAL-BREAKER or not?
And then ask yourself this:
Do you want to raise another man's child?
Do you want a partner who is unfaithful?
Do you want a partner who has unprotected s... (read in full...)
Can anyone please help me figure out what's going on with this guy?
Q. I'm 33 and single. I've known guy for the last 10 years from way back when we were studying. Although we were never friends, we knew people who were common to us. He was always very polite and civil and might I add, a good 10 years older. He added ...
A. 9 October 2022: You already KNEW he had acted creepy before and you thought, WHAT a great idea to reach out to his guy!! And then what? You realized he is still a creep.
SO what that he is still single?! There is probably a GOOD reason he is single.
You mad... (read in full...)
Friendship Woes
Q. Hello all, this isn’t necessarily a love/dating question, but a friendship dilemma in need of advice. I don’t know who to ask because I’ve only got a handful of people in my life and they’re mostly guys and don’t really have any solid advice. A...
A. 4 October 2022: It sucks to lose a good friend to distance or to a move. My best friend is 1,100 miles away and I DO miss her. We talk, we text, we send letters. I still miss her, but sometimes life throws you a curveball that can include a move across the ... (read in full...)
My husband has a crush on a younger woman
Q. Husband crushing on a younger female friend of ours. A few months ago I thought my husband was making inappropriate comments when under the influence of alcohol to our friend,also when her relationship was braking up my husband appeared way to ...
A. 4 October 2022: Maybe you and your husband need to take a wee break from this "circle of friends" a little?
And maybe you need to pull HER aside and tell her she is being inappropriate, that just because her marriage didn't work out it's not OK to hit on someone ... (read in full...)
An old friend who has a crush on me has resurfaced
Q. Hi, I recently turned 40 years old. I dated a guy (not a relationship) way back when I was a teen. We ultimately did not work, but while we were seeing each other we were kind of close. We would fall asleep on the phone together etc. ty...
A. 4 October 2022: Stalking you to "catch" you at your mom's house is kind of scary. Don't you think?
He isn't willing to accept the rejection. It's been DECADES!!
Yes you can keep blocking his accounts, yes you can tell him to stop showing up at your mom's house... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is unmotivated
Q. I am 32, I have been with my boyfriend for coming up to 3 years, he is 36. I have my own house/mortgage, he lives with his parents but had previously been living in NZ (Came back coz his mum is ill). Although we'd not been dating long he moved in...
A. 1 October 2022: Why are you still with him when the two of you are SO NOT compatible?
You are JUST a convenient place for him to crash. you "mommy" him by accepting that he doesn't contribute much to the household, he doesn't seem to want to DO anything with, ou... (read in full...)
My online African boyfriend keeps asking me for money
Q. Hello I met a man online. We talked for several months then he began asking me for money. He's from Africa, he said he's poor. I felt bad and sent him 20.00 for some food. Now there is always some issue. He needs for food, for transportation, ...
A. 1 October 2022: OP, have you been living under a rock?
This is an OBVIOUS "romance scam" He is MILKING you for money by making you feel BAD for him and thinking you are helping him out. You are, but not in the way you think.
BLOCK the dude. Stop sending mon... (read in full...)
Friendship Woes
Q. Hello all, this isn’t necessarily a love/dating question, but a friendship dilemma in need of advice. I don’t know who to ask because I’ve only got a handful of people in my life and they’re mostly guys and don’t really have any solid advice. A...
A. 1 October 2022: Opinions? Advice?
Just go change your number and give it to people YOU want to stay in contact with - ghost the rest - also make sure that the people you DO give the new number to, don't give it out without asking you first.
I would send her o... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is disgusted by my arousal
Q. My girlfriend of one year who is fifteen year old feel disgusted when i have a boner. I get boner when i am around her and when she touch me even though she said she is not ready for sex. Is it wrong to have boner as she always tell me and that i am ...
A. 1 October 2022: Sounds like your GF is VERY much still a CHILD who doesn't understand how the body works.
Date someone your own age..
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is unnecessarily blunt
Q. My boyfriend is so blunt to speak that he talk whatever he wants without thinking. It's so hurtful some time . No doubt he is loyalbut he has controlling behaviour like I want to do jobs he said ok u can do but at the same time he said there will be ...
A. 29 September 2022: So you hold yourself back from doing something you want to do because HE is insecure?
Don't.
He can either TRUST you or go fly a kite off a cliff~
If he can not or will not trust you, is he really someone you want to be with longterm?
... (read in full...)
My brother refuses to have anything to do with my former mistress
Q. My brother doesn’t like my life partner. We started out as an affair. We’ve put it behind us and are moving forward with our lives. It took us awhile and a lot of therapy to get to this place. But my brother is holding a grudge against my partner ...
A. 27 September 2022: "How do I handle this?"
By ACCEPTING that your brother can decide WHO he wants to be around, talk to, and socialize with. That is not up to you OR your partner to dictate that.
Actions - such as cheating, have consequences.
It seems like y... (read in full...)
I developed a crush on him but he wants to remain friends
Q. around 5 months ago i got talking to someone who i recognised, as he is a school friend of my siblings. i had never spoke to him before but just recognised him and started speaking to him, just outside a nightclub where we had both been I thought...
A. 27 September 2022: I think you should keep your "feelings for him" to yourself and just stop talking to him.
For whatever reason, he isn't into you as much as you are into him. He has figured out you are maybe crushing on him and he has pulled away.
Let this one ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I am barely on speaking terms with my parents but I am on good terms with my cousin?
Q. When my 1st cousin and I were 15 years old, she became pregnant and gave birth to a little girl. She claimed that I was the father but I was a virgin. Come to find out, her dad's best friend was molesting her since she was 12 years old. Due to fear ...
A. 24 September 2022: "Is it wrong that I am barely on speaking terms with my parents but I am on good terms with my cousin?"
No.
She was 15!! She was molested and raped. Got pregnant and had a child when SHE was still a child. Sure it was wrong to accuse you. Agai... (read in full...)
I'm a bored, married woman and I'm attracted to someone
Q. There is no justification for what I'm about to say so feel free to give me a piece of your mind . I'm a bored 38 year old married woman, mother to a 6 year old . I have an amazing husband and no problems in my marital life. The only problem is ...
A. 24 September 2022: " I know that nothing good can come off this!"
So you understand reality but you want to live some fantasy out because it would make YOU feel good, temporarily.
FIND a job, your kiddo is old enough for a school so you CAN do a part-time job if... (read in full...)
When is enough enough in regards to cheating
Q. A man I met once last summer got in touch with me a week ago. He wanted to meet for sex again, we are both married. He had got in touch earlier this summer and said about meeting up and I agreed then didn’t hear from him until now. He said it ...
A. 23 September 2022: This all sounds like a dysfunctional cluster fuck.
Why are you not single so you can fuck around as you please?
The "cheat partner" of yours does not OWE you exclusivity or fidelity.
If you are SO unhappy in your marriage and you think t... (read in full...)
How do I make my boyfriend calm down?
Q. This is about my boyfriend Cameron who is a good person but keeps annoying me. He said he understands I do not want to have sex and he said he will be a virgin with me and not put any pressure on me to have sex. He says the right things but his ...
A. 23 September 2022: " He says he understands but cannot control getting hard and wanting sex but that sounds questionable to me. I told him a boy only gets an erection if he is planning to have sex and hoping the girl will give in."
No, you are wrong.
YOU are... (read in full...)
Big question how to get over someone
Q. How do you get over someone? So I’m not even allowed to be sad as we were never official but for past 4yrs I’ve been sleeping with this guy (yes judge me) I was lonely and it became a regular thing dinner and drinks staying over one or two times...
A. 23 September 2022: Only 3 things will help you here.
Time & distance & reflection.
It wasn't a casual thing TO YOU. It lasted 4 years, that isn't CASUAL! So yeah it's not that strange you caught feelings, OP Nor was it wrong to WANT more from him.
However,... (read in full...)
Should I cut ties completely
Q. Not sure what I should do here. The quick synopsis is I met a girl where I worked years ago, maybe 5 or 6 years ago, I asked her out and we hung out a bunch. I asked her out and she said she wasn’t really ready and wanted to be friends. ( I’m used ...
A. 23 September 2022: While I get that it's LOVELY to have people to "get dating tips from" in "real time", YOU are an adult, in your 30's, you got to TRY and figure this out yourself. Because the END result is something YOU have to handle, the relationship or rejection ... (read in full...)
Why texting every once in awhile
Q. My ex-fwb got distant after I confessed that I had strong feelings for him. He said he didn’t and does not want anything serious. I said that’s fine. I accepted it and didn’t push him to start anything with me. I started moving on with my life and ...
A. 23 September 2022: Honey, you are in your 30's, not a teenager.
Block his number. You don't need to pretend to be friends or even be friendly with him.
You had a casual relationship involving sex, he is texting on occasion to keep you sweet JUST in case he isn't... (read in full...)
Should I continue this FWB?
Q. I dated this guy for a couple months 5 years ago...I really liked him but he had alot of stuff going on at home so he broke it off, about a year ago we matched again on this dating site and we have been seeing eachother ever since. He recently told ...
A. 20 September 2022: Personally, I think FWB is the dumbest concept EVER for an adult. If someone is a friend and then you add sex to the mix, that friendship is done for. Most people can not go back to "just" being friends.
1. Someone WILL catch feelings.
2. So... (read in full...)
The sex used to be incredible but now I have lost interest. Can I ever get it back?
Q. I had an affair with a married man. He left his wife and now we are married. We have been married for 2 years. The problem is that I feel I need to keep being a mistress to this man. It feels like if I get too real or drop the ball sexually, h...
A. 20 September 2022: "Can I ever get it back?"
You never really had it in the first place.
THAT is reality. You were PRETENDING, PERFORMING, and AUDITIONING for his undivided attention and now that you got it, you think you can bait and switch and just be a "regul... (read in full...)
Do I just let him go?
Q. Hi everyone, The reason I am asking this question here is because I honestly don't have anyone to talk to and I'm very upset and don't know what exactly I should do next. Please don't be harsh, I would really appreciate some kind advice. I have p...
A. 20 September 2022: Sorry, OP
This is what I can glean from your post. It is ONLY me guessing, OK?
The guy took advantage of you when you were in danger and need a safe place to be. He didn't care that you were in a vulnerable place, he cared about getting hi... (read in full...)
Why did my girlfriend buy sexy clothes
Q. Im dating my ex who I broke up from for one year break. Things are going great. One concern is that she has ordered sexy clothes, with mask, gloves. As if it’s a fancy dress full costume for party. I only know this because I got a notification from ...
A. 19 September 2022: See, easy peasy.
Communication really is KEY in a healthy relationship.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cant stay hard
Q. Hi, new here so thanks in advance. Been with BF 15mths and he reckons to love me.kind , generous but proper sex does not happen and why am I asking cos really I'm sure the problem is Stella Artois!! However he hardly snogs me now and and I rarely ...
A. 19 September 2022: I doubt you are "so hideous" - I doubt it's even about YOU.
He doesn't want to go see a doctor, many men don't when it comes to ED. Quite often it is a medical reason, sometimes even one that can be helped.
And yeah, if he drinks a lot of ... (read in full...)
Friends never reach out
Q. This is probably a dumb question, but we have some friends whom we've know for about 10 years. The thing is, they never reach out to us. We are the ones who always initiate. When we do go out to dinner or something they say "oooh, so great to see ...
A. 19 September 2022: Some people are just like that. If you have known them for 10 years and they never reach out it might have become a "habit" that YOU always initiate.
Maybe next time you go out you can mention that NEXT time they should pick a time, day, and plac... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my wife's increasing quirks?
Q. I am a 49 year old man who has been with my wife for 30 years, married for 21. She is a couple of years older than I am. My problem is that over the years she has developed an ever increasing set of quirks. I might even call some of her behaviors ...
A. 19 September 2022: As someone who has OCD, this doesn't sound like OCD. It sounds like someone who is worried about the future. It makes me think more of Mild Alzheimer's Disease. But of course, I'm not diagnosing her here. The whole buying stuff and then having to ... (read in full...)
My partner is going to join his ex on holiday
Q. My partner of almost two years has as three and half year old son with his ex wife. They split up when he was one and are divorced. I’ve never met her and I have to go out when she drops off her son. I have a really good relationship with him. My ...
A. 16 September 2022: This is the 4th post you have made about this, so I will presume you don't even bother reading the advise you have already been given.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Why did my girlfriend buy sexy clothes
Q. Im dating my ex who I broke up from for one year break. Things are going great. One concern is that she has ordered sexy clothes, with mask, gloves. As if it’s a fancy dress full costume for party. I only know this because I got a notification from ...
A. 16 September 2022: Ask her?
Would that not make the most sense?
You say things are going great but you can't even ASK her about something that may be totally innocent.
Is there an upcoming Halloween party in the works? Or dress up party? ... (read in full...)
Should I stick it out or just quit?
Q. So, I started this job at the start of Summer. I left my other job of a few years because this one paid a significant amount more than the previous one. The owners live in other states. However they got into this business three years ago. The ...
A. 13 September 2022: Personally? Find a new job first, THEN quit. I would HATE using savings if it's not a desperate need. A hard-working person such as yourself will probably have an "easier time" finding a new job or even contact your old company and see if they have ... (read in full...)
How do I make carpooling less awkward?
Q. I’m looking for some advice on an awkward situation. Basically I’ve started carpooling with one of my colleagues from work. He is a really nice guy but he’s also really shy so the journeys just always descend into silences. We both run out of things ...
A. 13 September 2022: Bring a book or magazine. That way you don't have to talk the whole time.
Make sure you pay him for gas/petrol and you will be fine. You do NOT owe him entertainment for giving you a ride.
And If you feel so uncomfortable talk to him and tell ... (read in full...)
We want to live with the family member who took care of us when our parents couldnt
Q. When I was 6 years old and my sister was 8 years old, our parents were arrested (they were using drugs themselves, making drugs and selling drugs). My parents siblings couldn't take us in dye to different reasons and all four of my grandparents ...
A. 13 September 2022: Do you guys have a social worker? If so, TALK to Uncle Justin FIRST, tell him what you would prefer and if he ALSO rather keep the two of you, contact your case worker/social worker and perhaps a lawyer that deals in family court matters.
It mi... (read in full...)
We want to live with the family member who took care of us when our parents couldnt
Q. When I was 6 years old and my sister was 8 years old, our parents were arrested (they were using drugs themselves, making drugs and selling drugs). My parents siblings couldn't take us in dye to different reasons and all four of my grandparents ...
A. 13 September 2022: test
... (read in full...)
Fell in love with fwb partner
Q. Hi so I know I did a stupid thing. I fell head over heels in love with my FWB and he kept giving me all kinds of signals that he likes me too. It was quite obvious to everyone that he was interested in me more than a friend. Before we became FWBs, ...
A. 9 September 2022: "Doesn't anyone here think there's the slightest possibility that something could work out between us? "
No.
"And the worst part is, even though we were best friends, now I feel like he never gave a shit about me. Maybe he didn't."
No, ... (read in full...)
Vacation repeat 1
Q. My partner of almost two years has as three and half year old son with his ex wife. They split up when he was one and are divorced. I’ve never met her and I have to go out when she drops off her son. I have a really good relationship with him. My ...
A. 9 September 2022: I already answered your previous post about this.
Here is my answer again,
"Wish him well, OP
What he wants is to have his cake (you) and eat it too (playing happy family with his ex).
This will not stop.
His "ex wife" doesn't know about you... (read in full...)
How do I deal with shame of video being exposed?
Q. I am getting legal advice on this but I also need some personal advice on how to manage a nightmare I have created with a really bad decision. On a dare and because of my own insane vanity, I auditioned for a pornographic movie. It was very ...
A. 9 September 2022: I would follow WiswOwlE's advice/
FOLLOW your lawyer's recommendations to the letter.
If he tells you to inform your school, well then you should and you should own your own actions. If he tells you NOT TO, then don't.
Personally? I think... (read in full...)
How do I repair insult to my friend?
Q. I messed up with a friend of mine who is gay and we got in a fight over something stupid and I called him a faggot and not in a joking way but an angry way. He got real quiet and said “there it is” and just left. I don’t blame him. Based on his ...
A. 7 September 2022: No, your GF shouldn't be the one to call him, no you shouldn't show up at his work either.
Your GF is not your mommy who runs around and puts out your fires. YOU need to do this.
His workplace should NOT be the place to do this either. THAT is ... (read in full...)
Is he an abuser?
Q. I've been dating a guy for a month now, and when we had sex last time, which was the first time with him, he bit me multiple times in multiple places (arms, shoulders, necks, breasts, thighs, legs) and next day I noticed he left so many bruises all ...
A. 6 September 2022: You are with a guy who doesn't give TWO FUCKS about you.
He bites you?! and so hard that you bruise and he is fekking PROUD?!! He is MAKING his territory on your body with BITE marks! Sick.
As for the pain during sex, honey - the reason it hu... (read in full...)
Partner going on holiday with his ex
Q. My partner of almost two years has as three and half year old son with his ex wife. They split up when he was one and are divorced. I’ve never met her and I have to go out when she drops off her son. I have a really good relationship with him. My ...
A. 6 September 2022: Wish him well, OP
What he wants is to have his cake (you) and eat it too (playing happy family with his ex).
This will not stop.
His "ex wife" doesn't know about you. You have to LEAVE when she drops off her son. You are his DIRTY little... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to wonder if we are right together.
Q. I've been in a relationship with my partner who I live with for 6 years however after working away for a while I find I'm beginning to wonder if we are right together. I met someone whilst I was away, nothing physical happened however have been ...
A. 6 September 2022: First off, CUT the contact with the other dude. Of course, the NEW dude seems a "better fit" because it's all new and shiny with him.
You can't figure out what it is you are not getting from your partner if you get it from someone else, nor can ... (read in full...)
I am annoyed of husbands new eating pattern
Q. Dear Cupid I have been with my husband for 7 years and we have our ups and downs. We go out bi weekly once and mostly eat home cooked meals. Not microwave food, actual home cooked meals and for last 6 months we started having salad for lunch a...
A. 6 September 2022: I do intermittent fasting too.
I basically "skip" breakfast and snacks. I eat at noon and dinner around 6 pm. It works for me. Since my hysterectomy, I'm constantly famished and it is easy to over eat, hence doing intermittent fasting. It has curv... (read in full...)
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