This new guy told me about his 'crazy' former FWB
Q. Hello, I've been talking to this man for months and we both like each other's. However, he never talked about taking the relationship to the next level, although he spends hours with me talking non stop, watch a movie together, and I do feel the...
A. 10 June 2022: Yep, I'm with WiseOwle
You hinted at a relationship (or he PRESUMED you did) and he told you this cautionary tale of an ex-FWB who because "crazy" and wanted to date.
Having a crazy ex can happen, I would only really worry if they are "A... (read in full...)
My brother threatens
Q. When i visit and stay at my mums house shes 75 to spend time with her, my brother whos 50, who lives there starts arguments about anything and calls me names and just bullies me. he threatens me and says to get out the house and he will throw me ...
A. 10 June 2022: I would look into contacting Ageuk.org.uk and reporting this.
It's called ELDER ABUSE.
https://www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/health-wellbeing/relationships-family/protection-from-abuse/
Or Adult Social Care at your local council.
t... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to refuse to meet him at a hotel?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, Ive been with this guy for 2 months now. Since we met, we always saw each other at my place. Since he doesn't live alone, it was convenient for both of us because of privacy. 7 days ago, we got into a heated argument that mad...
A. 8 June 2022: Talk in a public place, not a private AirBnB or hotel room.
Also, if he finds you SO prideful why does he want to try and work it out?
Can you elaborate on the topic you fought over at 3 am? Because I think THAT is a vital part of the issu... (read in full...)
Can't get out of this relationship with a married man
Q. Please don’t reiterate how stupid I was to not see the signs, not know the obvious - I did see some signs, some uneasy feelings, but I chose to ignore them. I was able to find an excuse for everything. And now I can’t get out. We met two year...
A. 8 June 2022: How were you silly?
You didn't KNOW he was married! But in all seriousness, unprotected sex? You already have 2 kids! You don't live with the guy and have been seeing him for 2 years. Unprotected sex is NOT a smart thing unless you are PLANNING... (read in full...)
My friend's boyfriend makes me uncomfortable
Q. So this isn’t exactly a huge problem but it’s making me uncomfortable and I’m not sure how to deal with it…. There is something about my friends boyfriend that make me uncomfortable- I can’t put my finger on it. Now he’s never said or done any...
A. 8 June 2022: I wouldn't bring up that you don't like. I would, however, ask her why she always feels the need to invite him and that you feel she doesn't want to do anything with you unless he is there too and you miss the days when the two of you (occasionally) ... (read in full...)
Since having sex I've barely heard from him
Q. I am very confused. Something like this happened to me for a first time. I dated a guy for about one month and then we met on Sunday evening for dinner and then ended having sex at his place. As tomorrow was Monday and we live in about an hour ...
A. 8 June 2022: I would move on.
|Either he is playing some "wait and see" game or he isn't as keen on you as you had hoped or he thinks you aren't as keen as you went home after sex. It's hard to guess.
You can't read his mind, he can't read yours. You have ... (read in full...)
How to deal with my nephews.
Q. I need some advice please about my nephews. I have 2 nephews (my husbands brothers kids) aged 10 and 14 and both have no manners and don’t socialize. They are just always engrossed in their phones or iPads etc…. They ignore you when you spe...
A. 6 June 2022: What do you do?
Stop hosting gatherings at your house IF these kids are going to be invited.
If you HAVE TO host it in your house LOCK the doors to rooms you don't want the "brats" in. It might take a bit of effort but yeah, that is probably... (read in full...)
My wifes affair with my best friend
Q. Yesterday was D-day for me. I'm so broken. My wife has been sexting for 2 months w/my best friend (who is married) and they arranged to meet twice in a parking lot to have sex in the last month. They started using Instagram msg discretely to ...
A. 6 June 2022: Talk to a lawyer, talk to your priest.
Only YOU can decide if you WANT to keep her in your life. And IF you do, how to move forward.
If you don't want to stay with her, maybe SHE needs to move out and you file for primary costudy.
So o... (read in full...)
Shes pregnant with my husbands baby
Q. I left my husband May 28th. He confessed to having an affair with a co-worker for the past 7 months.She's now pregnant with his baby. I think I am still in shock. There's just so much to wrap my head around. My husband is 46 we've been married ...
A. 6 June 2022: I understand how you feel.
I think it would be a dealbreaker for me too. Both the cheating but a baby? A baby USUALLY means unprotected sex, so yeah, total dealbreaker for me too.
That also means YOU should get an STI panel done. Just to be... (read in full...)
I want a baby. I am 13
Q. Hi um I'm 13 about to be 14 . I want a baby so bad .because I don't have to worry about other pp not loving me cause my child will always be there for me and love me cause I will be there mommy. And I want to make sure my child does not go thru any ...
A. 5 June 2022: I have to agree with FA,
There IS no hurry for you to become a mother. You are not financially independent, you are not fully grown or matured as a human being. You still have a LOT to learn.
I don't judge that you want a baby to feel loved. E... (read in full...)
Husband nitpicks my English
Q. Dear cupid I come from a country that was colonized by British some 100 years ago, so growing up we use a lot of British words without even knowing the literal meaning of it and English is not my primary language. My husband of 5 years is fro...
A. 5 June 2022: Does he speak anything but English?
If not, tell him to shove it.
Or if he does (and you speak the same language too) nitpick him until he understands how annoying it is.
Now. IF he is nitpicking to help you sound better or articulate you... (read in full...)
Husband missed daughters bdsy because he went drinking
Q. Hi there. Asking for advice on this situation. It was my daughter's 6th birthday on Wednesday and we were meant to have a small party but my husband missed it. The reason? He and my dad went on a bar crawl and ended up coming home so drunk he ...
A. 5 June 2022: Well, your dad and your husband better make it up to you and most particularly to your daughter ASAP!... (read in full...)
I don't want to be the girl who dates a married man
Q. Hello there. I've had problems on dating sites, people wanting me only for sex or ghosting me. Guys send me explicit messages or they ghost me. But then, about six months ago, I met this guy via OKCupid who seemed to be everything I wanted; he was...
A. 5 June 2022: He is married. FULL STOP.
Doesn't matter WHY he married the guy OR that he is married to a guy.
He waited 6 months to tell you. He WANTED to make sure you were hooked. He started to "trickle truth" you. That he is just using the guy (which w... (read in full...)
Missing the Adam I knew before he transitioned to Anna.
Q. There is a younger guy at our office who is really cute and one of the nicest people ever and very popular with us girls as far as gossip and talking about how boyish handsome he is and flirting with him. I admit I have flirted with him and asked ...
A. 5 June 2022: You answered your own question in one sentence.
" I know that is so dumb and selfish"
If Adam/Anna had been the LEAST bit interested in you, He (at the time) would have made a move on you. He didn't even flirt back when you tried. He chose ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him? I am not so sure if he truly loves me or not.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend/fiance' for almost 5 years. Things started off amazingly great and he was super loving and attentive. He took me to lots of nice places and bought me some nice gifts. My family and I also gave him nice gifts and took him ...
A. 5 June 2022: I have to agree with FA.
I don't see his actions as someone who doesn't love you. NEITHER of you makes each other your priority. Your priority is YOU, your family, your job - then him. His are HIMSELF, then you.
The thing is you two are bad ... (read in full...)
I am wondering if my husband is gay
Q. Hello guys. Been married for 10 years now. Have a 4-year-old son. Recently found out my husband had bought gifts for another guy and I'm wondering if he's gay based on that alone. The gifts were ostentatious ones; some expensive shirts from a hi...
A. 3 June 2022: Firstly, separate your finances.
How can he think GIVING someone $5,000 without ASKING you first is OK? (unless you two have so much money that 5,000 is a drop in the ocean).
Ethnicity has nothing to do with this whatsoever, I'm not sure why... (read in full...)
I don't love my husband like I used to
Q. Hi! I posted on DC some time back... I actually posted twice and I got a lot of advice. This is my first post: ________________________ .... so i've been married for over 7 years and I must say I love my husband very much. We've had our u...
A. 3 June 2022: I also remember your posts.
I have to ask this,
Why do you think: "And if I leave him, I would probably ruin his life. " ? If you stay you will end up resenting him. You already do a little right now, if you feel obligated to stay you will re... (read in full...)
Think I can't deal with this anymore but I also feel like a bad person if I leave someone with depression.
Q. Hi everyone I'm just looking for advice. about 6 months ago I started dating a girl who is severely depressed. She takes medication so sometimes its not so bad. We get along well, although I feel like the connection isn't as deep as it c...
A. 2 June 2022: I absolutely agree that YOU are not responsible for her mental health.
This seems like a bit of a one-sided relationship where you put in a lot of effort to spend time together. She WON'T meet you halfways. When you weren't able to text she got ... (read in full...)
Should I ask him to stop driving by?
Q. Met a seemingly nice, older man at my church [60s]. He offered to help me with some yard work. He never accepted pay for it, but would make comments like, "I have a lot of women friends and I love to help them." I kept getting the feeling he was ...
A. 2 June 2022: I don't think you asking him to stop driving by your house will make him stop driving by.
He seems odd, for sure.
Is he still a member of your church? If so talk to your decon, priest, or pastor - it might be better coming from a man.
Keep a... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to get along with one of his friends so badly and we just don't click.
Q. Hi all, I am looking for some advice regarding my boyfriend and his friends, one of his friends in particular. Boyfriend and I have been dating just under three years now and I have met some of his friends and for the most part, I get on real...
A. 2 June 2022:
"You just need to speak to her and ask questions."
Just tell your BF that he can't make "Fetch" happen.
Sammy isn't interested in getting to know you. Maybe SHE is annoyed that she is "expected" to be friendly with any of the guy's new GFs? ... (read in full...)
Maybe she wants a penpal?
Q. I went to EDC a couple weekends ago with my brother and ended up chatting with a girl during a set, she's about 6-7 years younger than me. We hit it off and I got her Instagram so I could potentially send her a message at some point in the future. A ...
A. 2 June 2022: I don't think most women would want to meet up with a guy and then proceed to tell him she has a BF. I don't think THAT would make any women feel safer. Maybe that is just my opinion.
She might not POST about her BF on Instagram. It might be a new... (read in full...)
We broke up still have feelings for each other but now she wont meet?
Q. I broke up with my gf after 7 years. We took a break and now she has confessed she still has feelings for me. I admitted the same and she said she wants to speak about us possibly getting back together. I said we need a catch up. However she has ...
A. 30 May 2022: Ah OP,
She just wanted to know that you still wanted her.
I am also curious as to why you broke up. Usually, people break up for a reason, a GOOD reason. That reason is still valid now.
Maybe she hasn't found a "replacement" as fast as... (read in full...)
How on earth could I not be aware of this cheating
Q. hello there. I'm a mom to 5-year-old twins. I went away for a week for the first time since the pandemic on business; got a new job in the IRS, a career change for sure, but I'm qualified for that sort of thing. However, I came back and found...
A. 29 May 2022: Your kids are 5 years old, they can't DECIDE where they want to live. Call a lawyer and go get your kids.
Your husband can't just take them and move in with someone else. That is ridiculous.
"Apparently the neighbor told me our daughters wanted... (read in full...)
Older boyfriend seems insecure because I am younger. Is he sabotaging our relationship?
Q. I have a problem. My partner is 15 years older than I am. I am not boasting but I am a very attractive, vivacious and in shape woman. I have had some issues with anxiety in the past but now with the proper medications and therapy, I have come a ...
A. 29 May 2022: You know how much work it took for you to "change" yourself, to find a happier and healthier you. And that is great! Many people can't or give up because it's hard work.
This is WHO he is. He isn't going to change. And he doesn't LIKE change e... (read in full...)
Is this something that he is going to regret when he gets older or is it okay for him to skip his prom like this?
Q. Four years ago, my oldest son and his friends went to his prom and they had a great time. My youngest son's prom is next week and he is refusing to go. Instead, him and his friends are skipping prom together and are going bowling (about 1...
A. 28 May 2022: Yes, it's OK.
I will wager they will have a MUCH better time than the rest of the kids that went to the Prom.
My oldest skipped Porm, she doesn't care. My middle went to prom and had fun but more fun at the impromptu after-party some... (read in full...)
I have fallen for a man
Q. WHEN I tell my girlfriend I don’t love her, she says I just don’t try hard enough. The truth is I have fallen for another guy. I am 34 and live with my girlfriend, who is 31. We have a son and a daughter. We share a home but don’t have a sex...
A. 27 May 2022: Is she your wife or GF?
I think you need to pay more attention when you do these creative writing tasks....
"I am 34 and live with my girlfriend, who is 31."
"My wife hasn't really been interested in sex. "
... (read in full...)
I need to talk to husband about a possible affair hes having
Q. Hello. I am a woman who's been married for 22 years to my husband. We have a grown-up daughter, who moved to Ohio with her boyfriend. She currently works in construction, earns a good living. It's my husband who's the big issue here. For...
A. 27 May 2022: Put a voice-activated recorder in his car. See what turns up.
I would not confront him until you have something more solid, if at all.
I would gather information, call a lawyer and learn what your options are.
I don't think anyone expec... (read in full...)
Disappointed in friends behavior
Q. This is my fault to a certain level but I feel disappointed in my friend and her boyfriend. A friend of mine (let’s call her Kate) last month did me a big favor (not financial). In order to thank her I told her I’d take out to dinner and ...
A. 27 May 2022: Thank goodness for your BF having manners and knows how to act!
your friend is an idiot and her Bf is gross.
While it MIGHT have been a good idea to have let her know (when she invited her BF to join) that he was welcome but you wouldn't be ... (read in full...)
I seen my ex's new partner cheating. Do I tell her?
Q. So I've never done anything like this before. I find myself in an unbelievable situation, and I'm really looking for an unbiased point of view from people who don't know me. So, basically I was with my ex partner for as long as I can remember. I ...
A. 26 May 2022: If you have proof (such as a picture) I would just make an anonymous email and mail it to her.
If you don't have concrete proof, I would do nothing. Because it's just your word. She might think you are lying (if she is in denial), she will thi... (read in full...)
Am I making too much of this
Q. Hi. Just seeking thoughts as to whether Im overreacting to my current working situation. A week into my new job I have just found out that my boss,35,33 at the time, was charged and went to court because he was caught hiding in the cubicle of the ...
A. 26 May 2022: Yeah, I get you. That is some grade A creepy shit to do! And he was 33 - so a WHOLE grown-ass man at the time, one who KNEW better but didn't ACT better.
I would feel uncomfortable using the restroom at work. Not because I think he might peep but... (read in full...)
Is 10 years too big of an age gap?
Q. Is ten years a big age gap in a relationship. I am 34 and my bf is 24. Sometimes he worries what we'll look like together in the future. As it stands I don't look my age but I am extremely aware of my actual age. We get asked for id all the time and ...
A. 26 May 2022: While I'm personally not a big fan of age gaps (more than 5-6 years), I don't think it matters too much once the YOUNGEST has reached 25-27. Let me explain why. Most people have formed their personality, set some goals, begun a career, and are aware ... (read in full...)
How to set boundaries with my mom
Q. I have been having a hard time with my mom over the last 7 years, basically ever since politics became particularly divisive. Over time, I have wanted to engage less and less around politics with her because I find it hard to know what she really ...
A. 25 May 2022: Have a chat with her.
Tell her that you can respect the difference in opinion politically but it is not how you want to spend the holiday as you know it will end with a fight and you DO NOT want to fight on your holiday, so you hope SHE can resp... (read in full...)
I don't want to be an old dad
Q. MY wife is 33 and desperate for a baby but I’m 52 and don’t want to be an old dad. Is there any way around this? We’ve been married for three years and while she’s at a great age to have a baby, I’d be better as a grandad than a dad. When we ...
A. 24 May 2022: I think you need to sit down and talk.
Having kids versus NOT having kids is a dealbreaker for most people.
If you DO NOT want kids, SHE is not the right partner for you.
She went INTO the marriage KNOWING you didn't want kids. But sh... (read in full...)
How do I get the love of my life back?
Q. We met one summer in his town and instantly fell in love.... we had a really passionate relationship, he was an amazing provider and lover and everything I could ever dream of. He asked me to move to his town and I did so for him, leaving my job ...
A. 24 May 2022: What do you do?
YOU unfollow and block him, you LEAVE him alone. From your post, it seems like the two of you are toxic together. You two had a summer fling that turned just sour, yet you both dragged it out and dragged it on and on and on.
Y... (read in full...)
Fell in love with a F boy now I want to move on but don't know how?
Q. Hello guys! I feel so guilty and stuck in something so messed up I had to talk to somebody but I didn’t know how to so I came here. I fell in love with a f boy so hard I don’t know what to do. We were in the same school but I had to move but now ...
A. 22 May 2022: Agree with FA.
It's a crush, it will end. ... (read in full...)
I am hot tempered and sarcastic. Normal?
Q. I have noticed a thing about me and my family we are hot tempered and easily angry/sarcastic and i am too. i always have mood swings from dull to angry to happy and to sometimes sad. i don't know if it is normal because i feel normal and i wou...
A. 22 May 2022: Sounds like you need to learn a little self-control.
You ask if it is normal, yeah it kind of is. You are getting a surge of hormones that you are unfamiliar with and can't yet control so well.
So practice some self-control and self "modifi... (read in full...)
My husband wants to recreate our first date
Q. Hello. Don't know how to explain this one. Been with my American husband since 1998, we met at a burger bar near me. I'm Canadian, he's American, he was here in 1998 for work, had been in Canada for 2 years at the time. He's a US cit...
A. 22 May 2022: I'd keep that outfit for LATER (as in after the date at the hotel) but tell him you'd pick your own outfit.
If you don't want to run around on a supposedly romantic date feeling out of place and uncomfortable, then pick a cute dress instead.... (read in full...)
I sent an email to boyfriend that he was not supposed to see
Q. Please help! I'm 33F and my bf is 27 and in the navy. He's been deployed since Feb, and it's been super hard. After managing to keep it together for the most part, I lost it last week. All my suspicion and worry compounded and I sent him an emai...
A. 22 May 2022: I have to agree, who sends themselves email like that?
I get a journal but email?
Come on.
You might have WANTED him to hear how you feel but you didn't want the possible negative outcome if he didn't like it.
However, OP - the shit ... (read in full...)
Falling for my mothers boyfriend- but I knew him first!
Q. Advice desperately needed please!! I used to work with a lovely guy for several years we always got on well, we had some chemistry (nothing sexual just banter) he was seeing someone, I was single and I had a huge crush on him and my colleagu...
A. 21 May 2022: That sounds painful, OP
I'm glad you realize that YOU missed "that boat" a long time ago. He is with your mom. That is who he chose to date.
I would avoid spending time with the two of them as much as possible, at least until this "crush" die... (read in full...)
Best friend distancing herself from me for no apparent reason?
Q. I've been best friends with this girl for 5-6 years. We've been extremely close like sisters up until recently. Just the last two years, she started making these shady comments occasionally which she never used to do (comments about my body and ...
A. 21 May 2022: She is dropping your friendship (for whatever reason) but instead of telling you, she is hoping you will catch the hint. So far you haven't.
Honestly? If she was a good friend and had to cancel coming to visit, she would have rescheduled another ... (read in full...)
Friend keeps going after the same men as me constantly!
Q. I have this "friend" and we have been quite close for 2 years now. It seems as though every time I start dating someone, or if I fancy a man, my friend has to either try to sabotage it by telling him bad things about me, or will try to seduce hi...
A. 21 May 2022: Well, It is ALSO the guy's fault if he engages with her in kind, as in if she sends "pictures" and he praises said pictures or send her some back. She can't MAKE them give her a response, that is the GUY's choice to do or not do.
But someone ... (read in full...)
Friend keeps going after the same men as me constantly!
Q. I have this "friend" and we have been quite close for 2 years now. It seems as though every time I start dating someone, or if I fancy a man, my friend has to either try to sabotage it by telling him bad things about me, or will try to seduce hi...
A. 14 May 2022: You call that a friend?!!
"I don't understand why she has to sabotage me when I have a decent man in my life."
OP, she isn't your friend. Pretending to be supportive is not what a friend does. Nor do a friend go after men you are getting to k... (read in full...)
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