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When is enough enough in regards to cheating

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Question - (21 September 2022) 4 Answers - (Newest, 26 September 2022)
A female age 51-59, *ustering writes:

A man I met once last summer got in touch with me a week ago. He wanted to meet for sex again, we are both married. He had got in touch earlier this summer and said about meeting up and I agreed then didn’t hear from him until now.

He said it was a work thing and had shit to deal with. This sounded like a excuse and lie and told him he could of told me he was busy or couldn’t meet up. He apologise and I was going to see him but part of me didn’t want to. Partly because I’m married even thou it didn’t stop me before but also because of him ignoring me and getting in touch when it suited him. I know we were just using each other but one text to say he can’t see me instead of nothing. He told me he met another woman in the summer when I asked him if he as seen anyone else, and I realise that’s why he didn’t meet me in the summer because he had another body to use. He said what did it matter. I don’t know why but I wondered what she had that I didn’t but as he is married he wants to try different women out and I was no one to him no doubt like all the rest.

My plan was to meet him at a hotel but to get him back and make him realise he can’t just think he can pick up where he’s left off and think he will use me again when there isn’t another woman available and when it suits him, I’m going to stand him up. He as paid for the hotel and thinks I will be there but I will have the last laugh.

I know it sounds childish and at my age and shouldn’t be playing games nir cheating but men like this need to be taught a lesson in my eyes and not treat women like trash.

I cheated on my husband because we have had problems and he as cheated on me. I think it was to get him back and I still think he could be cheating on me so don’t know if I will carry on doing it to him but when is enough enough.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2022):

Thanks for you somewhat amusing question?

Don't feel bad about doing what your husband is doing. But at this point you two should have a duel Mea Culpa metting. Face it you're both open for new Fuck Buddies. That's far better than you sitting at home crying. It's petty to be mad at your FB, so what if he found a new one. Ideally he wouldn't but there's no rings of commitment. Dazzle him, make believe you're a call girl and he's a good tipper. Work on the big tip. And do Home Games.

Been there. Married in New Joursey

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (24 September 2022):

Fatherly Advice agony auntI see that the filters are offically off.


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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (23 September 2022):

kenny agony auntYour right, I have to agree with you this is puerile and very childish at your age.

You are both in the wrong here, you are married, he is married, and you both committed infidelity and cheated on your partners.

Having problems in a marriage is not a free ticket to go and mess around with someone else.

The guy you were messing around with never wanted you anymore and met someone else, now you are the scorned woman wanting revenge.

I think he has moved on, so in all honesty I don't think he would even meet you anyway.

Drop these revengeful feelings and move on, and decide whether you want to continue being married or not. Seems to me like the trust barrier has been well and truly broken, maybe time to call it a day.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (23 September 2022):

Honeypie agony auntThis all sounds like a dysfunctional cluster fuck.

Why are you not single so you can fuck around as you please?

The "cheat partner" of yours does not OWE you exclusivity or fidelity.

If you are SO unhappy in your marriage and you think the solution is to CHEAT? then I think your marriage is beyond repair it's already stone dead. Get a divorce and live the life you really want.

And when you are a divorcee stick to screwing SINGLE men. Less drama.

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