Is he done with me? He doesn't say so but his behaviour does.
Q. I met this amazing guy a few months ago. I wasn't interested in him at first, but he had been noticing me. He had feelings for me and he'd been analyzing his feelings for about 3 months before he finally told me about them. He told me he was ...
A. 19 July 2023: I would still BLOCK, delete and remove ALL access (to him and from him to you).
What he said made no sense because it was just words... He was trying out what combinations of words you might fall for. That is all.
And apparently, you ... (read in full...)
Is he done with me? He doesn't say so but his behaviour does.
Q. I met this amazing guy a few months ago. I wasn't interested in him at first, but he had been noticing me. He had feelings for me and he'd been analyzing his feelings for about 3 months before he finally told me about them. He told me he was ...
A. 18 July 2023: "Should I move on even without closure?"
You don't need him for closure, OP
He wasn't the one for you. That is your closure.
Getting closure is a unicorn of sorts. Even if he was man enough to tell you the "real" reason, it wouldn't auto... (read in full...)
How would I even broach the topic of attempting to rekindle something with someone who once hurt me?
Q. Hi there - I have a situation who I don’t know who else to speak to about it. 3 years ago I was in a relationship with someone who I genuinely fell in love with. He had a lot of maturing to do and couldn’t quite seem to get to the point of saying he ...
A. 17 July 2023: Hmm, I think you need to just wish him well.
He was 28 at the time when he CHOSE to go to lunch with a girl he KNEW had a crush on him. OLD enough to know better.
You don't HAVE to have had MANY relationships to understand that IF your partner ... (read in full...)
I seem to keep friends at arm's length. Is this ok?
Q. Hello cupids, This is more of a friendship question. but really keen to get your wisdom and advice! I have always had very good friendships during my life but have definitely noticed a pattern where I prefer to stick to having a couple of very...
A. 14 July 2023: Sounds like you are more of an introvert, you get "drained" from having company, not energized.
I'm the same with most people. I have two "best" friends who never feel drained, I could spend hours and hours with them and see them again the next... (read in full...)
I told my friend she was my forever crush girl
Q. I told my friend through text she is my forever girl crush (I am also a girl) and she didn’t say anything. She usually responds to my text within an hour or less. I have explained it means someone you admire etc. is she uncomfortable did I freak her ...
A. 14 July 2023: "is she uncomfortable did I freak her out?"
Probably.
I think if she had ASKED if you had any such crushes and who they were, sharing it would be just fine, but yeah it's kind of uncomfortable for some to be "named" a crush, especially if th... (read in full...)
I told my friend she was my forever crush girl
Q. I told my friend through text she is my forever girl crush (I am also a girl) and she didn’t say anything. She usually responds to my text within an hour or less. I have explained it means someone you admire etc. is she uncomfortable did I freak her ...
A. 14 July 2023: test... (read in full...)
He's a millionaire but says money is tight. Is he testing me?
Q. I’ve been divorced for 2 years. Separated in 2019. I haven’t dated in many years. Now it’s online dating which is daunting and sometimes intimidating. I’m aware this question is ignorant and judgmental. Please go easy on me. I met another divorcee ...
A. 11 July 2023: " Is he testing me?"
Could be. But it's a bad way to test someone because there are plenty of "dates" you can go on that don't COST money.
Perhaps the REAL reason is he is either STILL married, he is seeing someone else OR he is living far be... (read in full...)
Dealing with a narcisstic man
Q. Has anyone ever dealt with a narcissistic man in a relationship? I am living with a guy who never says he is wrong. No matter what he does, it’s my fault, my mistake, my actions that has caused an argument or a disagreement. He’s always adding o...
A. 8 July 2023: Why are you living with this guy?
If he is just a roommate, find another place OR kick him out if the place is yours.
He sounds like a clown.... (read in full...)
He uses my secrets against me
Q. How do you deal with a bf who uses your secrets against you? We've been together about 2 years. Whenever he argues which is quite abit he decides to throw things on my face. For example I ruined all my relationships and I can't keep a man, I'm ...
A. 8 July 2023: Seems like you have an abusive asshat as a BF, how about you dump him and find someone who will love and support you, not just tear you down.... (read in full...)
Coworker questioning my virginity and sexuality
Q. Please help me address/respond to a nosy coworker. In the past I went to her about questions regarding guys/dating and that I told a guy something about me and I think it freaked him out. It was about my weight and how heavy I used to be-but she ...
A. 8 July 2023: I absolutely second mystiquek
" I would look her straight in the eye and tell her that its none of her business and if she doesn't stop it then you will report her."
STOP sharing private details with people you don't know well enough to t... (read in full...)
How to deal with a boyfriend who always asks for money?
Q. How to deal with a boyfriend who always asks for money? We've been together 2 years now and in this time he always asks for money. His latest request is his rent for $1500.00. He is always out of work. Some excuse. I need to focus on my own ...
A. 4 July 2023: Tell him no.
It's a full sentence.
You say: "He is good other than these money issues."
Do you know the LEADING issue for most divorces?
Money.
If he is your age group (so in his 30s) and he STILL doesn't know how to be financially... (read in full...)
I don't want to act jealous
Q. My FWB let his ex wife watch his cats while he was away. He has 4. I wasn't available. She stayed at his home 3 weeks while he was away, and I'm fine with that. She left pieces of clothing and incidentals in his home. She wants to pick them up she ...
A. 3 July 2023: "Should I be OK with this?"
You are the FWB so yeah, you should be OK with it.
The thing is YOU are not. That is why you wrote this post.
Sounds to me that you want more than you be an FWB. Are you being honest with yourself here?... (read in full...)
What should I expect?
Q. Theoretical question. Say I meet a nice woman, and she eventually tells me that she wants to engage in sexual activity. Ok, cool, but, I don’t have much experience with sex, and I just want to know what should be expected of if I do the missionary ...
A. 3 July 2023: Take your time on foreplay - she will NEED it to fully enjoy herself. Pick up her cues when she likes things and when she doesn't.
And USE condoms, be safe.
I will say this though casual sex partners are more interested in getting off than... (read in full...)
Friend got birth control and lied
Q. My friend Lex I just found out rode her bike to what's basically an abortion clinic and got birth control. She told her parents she was with me and I almost got in trouble for lying for her when I knew nothing about it. Luckily I was at work like I ...
A. 3 July 2023: "So what's wrong with my friend?"
Nothing.
She just REALLY doesn't want to get pregnant anytime soon. Also, "abortion clinics" don't hand out birth control - family planning does. But I supposed that is beside the point.
Should you tell... (read in full...)
My fiance sent photos of herself in underwear to a guy because she wanted to feel hawt
Q. hi all I am in a difficult situation. I have been with my GF for 3 years, we have been engaged for 1. We have a great relationship and planning wedding for the next 6 months. I noticed she was acting strangely a few weeks ago, more attached to...
A. 1 July 2023: "I have forgiven her again for this, but now she seems to want to spend less time together, wanting own space."
I think you need to get your ring back and end this relationship.
She thinks you are a moron. You already forgave cheating once an... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's 10 year old daughter is coming between us
Q. Hi I am with my bf he’s frum Dublin I feel like she is trying to keep him away frum me she is only 10 I feel like I’m in the middle between me and his daughter she’s kinda annoying I just want to be with him not his kids. I don’t know what to do ...
A. 1 July 2023: She should be his priority, #1, not you. Sorry.
And she is 10, so yeah probably annoying.
If you can't handle him having a kiddo, date someone WITHOUT kids.... (read in full...)
Does he want more than friendship or am I imagining it?
Q. ? ? ?Hi, I need some advice to see what’s happening. I e been working in my current company for 12 years and there this one guy in particular who managed this particular branch and is based about 90 minutes away from us. I used to deal...
A. 1 July 2023: "Do I address the issue and speak to him or ignore it and see what he does?"
If you THINK he could be interested in you, WHY are you having one-on-one lunches with him?
If you see him as a friend only, I wouldn't bring it up.
However, how do... (read in full...)
Friend is annoyed that I can’t increase my budget for her daughters birthday gift!
Q. ? It was my friends daughters 7th birthday and I bought her a present of a particular tv cartoon character that she loves. The present cost me £25. Just to note- I asked her mum what she would like and her mum told me to get her this. W...
A. 29 June 2023: This is not a friend, this is a greedy entitled person.
Stop trying to be her friend. Don't worry about the gift, you GOT the kid what SHE said you should buy, it's NOT up to you to go return it and buy something fancier.
And the kid is 7! Sh... (read in full...)
Disruptive family at gym!
Q. ? ? ? ? ?Last year my friend and I joined the gym. We would attended classes as well as use the equipment. About 2 months after we joined a family of 5 also joined (we think they are mothers and daughters and niece and aunt) and ...
A. 29 June 2023: Do they come in consistently at the same time?
If so switch up when you go.
Also, if they mess around in a class TALK to the instructor after the class so you have SOMEONE who can back you up when talking to staff.
Nothing is going to c... (read in full...)
Is he done with me? He doesn't say so but his behaviour does.
Q. I met this amazing guy a few months ago. I wasn't interested in him at first, but he had been noticing me. He had feelings for me and he'd been analyzing his feelings for about 3 months before he finally told me about them. He told me he was ...
A. 29 June 2023: If I were you I would stop chasing him (because that is what you are doing right now).
Secondly, I think you were a bit over-dramatic with this "friend" and the "incident". I think she asked a STUPID and HURTFUL question but I think YOU took it ... (read in full...)
When am I supposed to say "I don't want to have sex"
Q. I'm not ready to have sex and I just plain don't want to. I get: "What's the point you said your an athiest" "Don't you at least do oral," at least?! Like it's the least I can do?! "Why bother your not a Virginia anyway" "You should of said tha...
A. 28 June 2023:
""Don't you at least do oral," at least?! Like it's the least I can do?!"
Say: "No." - (It is a complete sentence.)
""Why bother your not a Virginia anyway"" ( I'm guessing virgin was meant?)
Tell him: "It's not ABOUT "preserving" my... (read in full...)
Think my husband hates being a father. It's affecting our relationship
Q. I feel as though my "Don" husband hates being a father and regrets it. Our son "Johnny" is 4. We are both early 30s. Don makes snide jokes all the time about his intelligence, his abilities, etc. He doesn't really enjoy spending time with him and ...
A. 26 June 2023: "Is this relationship over?"
Yes, If you want your son to grow up not being bullied by his own father.
If he calls his son dumb when he can hear it and the interactions between them are often negative, it DOES affect him, plus he will SEE how ... (read in full...)
Should I move on or Stay with my mama boy fiance?
Q. I have been with my fiance since we were 16 years old we are now 31. we have 2 kids together and in April he proposed. As much as I love him and he really is the love of my life. I feel I have always bent over backwards for him. We had one ...
A. 25 June 2023: OP,
Why do you guys HAVE to live with either his mom or your parents?
I mean, I get it's nice to have "built in childcare" but have you two ever lived by yourselves with the kids? Your MIL and parents can still look after the kids if needed b... (read in full...)
No one will let me move on after placing my daughter for adoption
Q. I had a baby two years ago, my senior year in High School. It was in the middle of the pandemic, so I was home schooled anyway (because of the pandemic) and my parents were really pressuring me to keep the baby. The father was in my class, but he ...
A. 24 June 2023: Some people don't understand and some don't WANT to understand.
The thing is YOU and your BF made the choice you both felt was right for you two, you were young and didn't want to be parents. Giving your child up for adoption is not a bad thing, i... (read in full...)
Should I feel bad about ignoring him?
Q. ?Hi Cupid readers I would like some advice on a guy that I like at my local gym. I have asked for his help with the gym equipment and from there I have built up the courage to talk to him. Our first proper conversation I was surprised with h...
A. 22 June 2023: "Am I doing the right thing by not paying him any attention and putting no effort with him."
Yes, and stop feeling bad.
He SAID he wasn't interested so no need to feel bad. If he was interested and the "timing" was bad, he would have made ... (read in full...)
I've pushed boundaries and gone too far in creating an unhealthy friendship with a coworker who is also an indirect boss.
Q. I believe I have pushed boundaries and gone too far in creating an unhealthy friendship with a coworker who is also an indirect boss. I felt a connection as we are similar in age and for my career aspirations because I would like to be in a similar ...
A. 21 June 2023: Look elsewhere for a new job, it's not a good environment for either of you.
Or talk to her AFTER work and let her know that you feel you two need to stick to a totally professional work relationship. Maybe do it over email so there is a paper tr... (read in full...)
I’m jealous my best friend is in a new relationship
Q. Dear readers, I was dating but decided to take a break and be single. My best friend has been single longer than me and recently got a new boyfriend. I am honestly feeling somewhat jealous! I thought we were going to be single together and it ...
A. 21 June 2023: "Am I crazy for being jealous? "
In short, YES.
BE happy that she has found someone who has the potential for being her LIFE mate!
"I thought we were going to be single together and it made me feel comforted knowing I wasn’t single on my ow... (read in full...)
11 years with a non romantic man
Q. I have been with my SO for 11 years. We have two beautiful girls together. My problem is that he is not romantic. He doesn't put in effort into our relationship. There is never a night where he plans something, I have to plan any and everything w...
A. 21 June 2023: Relationships aren't 50/50 ever.
Some days one person is 10 or 20% and then the other (IF they are a good partner) pulls the rest of the load. However, that is not realistic if only ONE person is the one ALWAYS pulling the majority of the load. Bu... (read in full...)
Can I take my cat to my sister in laws house whilst I’m away?
Q. I need some advice please. I’m not sure if anyone can help as it’s not a relationship question. I have a 13 year old cat which I adopted 4 years ago. When I went on holiday 2 years ago, for 2 weeks, I left her at a recommended Cattery. Unfort...
A. 13 June 2023: Yes, I think your your cat will be OK AS LONG as your SIL do NOT let your cat outside.
If you are still unsure look to "kennel" your cat. contact your Vet and see of they recommend anyone closer by. But... that option will cost you.
... (read in full...)
Friends with an former fantasist lover? Bad idea
Q. Dear Cupid, Around a year ago, I made a new friend. We spent a lot of time together but it was for me purely platonic, never sexual or romantic though I enjoyed our friendship. Over time I suspected he might harbor deeper feelings but always assum...
A. 13 June 2023: OK OP, you need to wish him well and cut ties 100%
You were looking for a friend, HE wasn't. So you were already on different pages and in different books.
"he constantly jokes about killing me"
He said WHAT NOW? bTHAT isn't a joke, that... (read in full...)
Does he see us s friends?
Q. I have being friends with a guy for the past 4 years. He’s 26 and I’m 31. We originally worked together as flight attendants and on our first trip, we just hit it off. It was like we’d known each other for years. We messaged a lot, have good banter, ...
A. 13 June 2023: I think he sees you as a friend he occasionally has sex with.
But that is just MY guess.
I think if he saw you as more, he would have brought it up a long time ago.
If you are not OK with having casual sex with him, then keep up the talking... (read in full...)
Images of him with my friend haunt me
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for around seven months now and I am totally in love with him. After we first met and had been ‘talking’ for a few months I completely freaked out and started ignoring him for around two or three weeks. During ...
A. 15 May 2023: I think you need to dump them both.
Mostly though, the friend.
What kind of friend MOVES in on her BFF's maybe BF/maybe ex within 2 weeks? And without checking with you to see what's going on? I can tell you what kind of friend.. a SHITT... (read in full...)
Family drama first
Q. I am feeling torn. I have some family drama that I am doing my best to stay out of. Long story short, my eldest sister and my brother in law moved to my mom’s home due for convenience and allegedly it was only going to be a short period. I don’t ...
A. 15 May 2023: Urgh, that is a tough one.
How is your relationship with your sister? Because maybe you need to have a chat with her and tell her that SHE and her HUBBY need to give themselves a 3 months notice - find jobs (ANY JOBS) and move out. Because ... (read in full...)
Ex is happy and seems to be rubbing it in my face
Q. So this is really bugging me. I no longer like the guy to me he’s now unattractive and so arrogant but he treated me really badly and now he gets to be happy and it’s like he’s rubbing it in, how do you just be ok? So I was seeing this guy ...
A. 12 May 2023: He sounds like cancer you need to excise from your life - PRONTO.
" He then messaged me to tell me well he’s got this girl now and he’d chosen an ugly girl over me and how did that make me feel."
Wow, just wow. What kind of man would say this? ... (read in full...)
Is my sister hitting on my boyfriend?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a year. My older sister has been a source of drama for our relationship since the beginning. At first she use to be flirtatious with him when I wasn't around,always trying to impress him and get his ...
A. 11 May 2023: Stop listening to your sister when it comes to your BF.
You already know she is (perhaps) jealous of your
relationship and she wants to break you up, which means she will say and do anything to do it.
And ask your BF to minimize all contact... (read in full...)
Dumped by text
Q. BROKEN HEARTED OAP My partner of 4 years has just dumped me by text. He is a builder and we have had an up and down relationship. He has done work for me and I have paid him for it. Mates rate, which I thought was only fair. Unfortun...
A. 11 May 2023: OP, you can do better.
If he is expecting YOU (his partner) to give him jobs and pay him but he doesn't do a good job then he is delusional.
Why can he go on holiday for 6 weeks but you can not go away for 3?
Block his number, then delete ... (read in full...)
Is she or is she not pregnant?
Q. i have long distance relationship with 22 years old Ukrainian girl , we chat every week when i have my weekend. and we liked each other, and we planned for our meeting and she asked me to make her mother quickly suddenly, she disappeared from 19 ...
A. 11 May 2023: Pregnancy or not aside...
Do you really see the two of you having a future together?
She is 22, and you are in your mid 30's. Do you only know her over chat? So you have never met in person?
Now to the pregnant/not pregnant.
She says sh... (read in full...)
Widower’s dilemma
Q. My wife passed away three years ago and the loss helped me get closer to her family, particularly her sister, who herself is divorced. We’ve started hanging out together socially and we seem to get on really well, with similar tastes and ...
A. 8 May 2023: You know this isn't what SHE is looking for. And it wouldn't be great overall with the family, so your best bet would be to cut down the amount of time you spend with her.
The more you FOCUS on her, the harder it's going to be for you to find som... (read in full...)
Does former FWB want more this time?
Q. Hey there! So I used to be friends with benefits with this guy about a year ago but then I started to catch feelings for him and somehow we drifted apart. Now, months later, we ran into each and started keeping in touch again. He is still very ...
A. 8 May 2023: You need to USE your WORDS, OP
Tell, him:" hey, I'm very attracted to you and I really enjoy spending time with you, but I'm not looking to restart a FWB with YOU or anyone else."
If he then tells you he wants to DATE you properly and be ... (read in full...)
Infatuated with friend's girlfriend
Q. Hi just looking for some advice. I've become infatuated with my mate's girlfriend. I literally can't stop thinking about her. It should make me feel like a piece of shit and a terrible friend but in all honesty; he treats her like dirt and she ...
A. 8 May 2023: I have to agree with WiseOwlE,
Seems like you have outgrown your friend. And maybe it's time to distance yourself from him. He isn't a good person and yes, I do think people will judge you on the company you keep. Which means they think YOU are ... (read in full...)
Her family thinks I did something wrong
Q. Good morning Shortly, i had pretty neighbour and we liked each other, then we had sex for fun Suddenly we found out that she is pregnant and later we found that they was twin! We was happy and she introduced me to her family. Later when she wa...
A. 8 May 2023: Bogus post
Mods might wanna remove it.... (read in full...)
Rude charity worker tried to make me feel guilty. Am I at fault?
Q. So for around 2 years I’ve been donating regularly to an animal shelter. The lady that worked there was lovely- she often came to pick items up from my home (I don’t drive) and we’d have a nice chat. On occasions when I wasn’t home I’d leave the ...
A. 5 May 2023: Are you at fault?
No. Just block her.
You found a shelter where staff taking in the donations were actually grateful, she wasn't.
Don't feel guilty. Her ATTITUDE is why there are no more donations from you.
NO ONE in their right mind ca... (read in full...)
Love bombed
Q. Dear agony aunts and uncles. I think I got lovebombed. I met a 57 yr old man and we started dating. I wasn’t too keen on anything serious bc I as just out of a messy breakup. The new bf wanted to go on this big excursion for his birthday. I wanted a ...
A. 1 May 2023: Block him.
You weren't looking for anything serious and HE isn't serious nor does he care about you, whatsoever.
Why waste more time on someone who doesn't treat you nicely or with an ounce of respect?
What exactly does he have to offer?
... (read in full...)
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