I believe my husband has sick fantasies about my daughter. She trusts him. What should I do?
Q. I found a spare phone in my husband's truck and saved to his favorites was "Stepdaughter fucks step dad".. I have a beautiful 18 year old daughter that lives with us . I'm leaving him because to me, that is unacceptable and I will never look at him ...
A. 26 October 2018: I'm glad she is with you, mad or not... it's better than the alternative.
Thanks for the update as well.
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When discussing sexual history, do handjobs count as sex?
Q. When discussing sexual history should people you didn't have sex with but gave handjobs to count? I know to count oral and vaginal ( I never had anal.) but do handjobs you've given typically go into that count?...
A. 21 October 2018: Why on Earth is there a need to share ALL the details of what you have and have not done? Sexually?
Most people KNOW that their partner has or has NOT have previous sexual partner and hopefully.. they will know that their partners are STD free... (read in full...)
Strange things keep happening after my one-night stand!
Q. Hi everyone I split up with my partner but we carried on living together until he found somewhere to live I went out and slept with someone it was just a one night stand I woke up and told him I had a boyfriend even though we had split up just cos i ...
A. 20 October 2018: I can see how you might think the "visitations" COULD be a result of that ONS... but how likely is that?
Does the guy you slept with know your address? Your full name?
And let's say for shits and grins it WAS him/friends of his... why would... (read in full...)
Should I fly 4,000 miles to go see my ex? Would it be cheating?
Q. So... we’ve broken up for 5 years after an incident and subsequently I moved home to my home country. Contact was lost eventually as we were sick of crying over the phone. Recently, I thought I saw him whilst on vacation and sent him a text. He...
A. 20 October 2018: If you want to make the relationship you have with your current BF/partner work and make it a long term relationship, then no don't go see him.
If you feel your current relationship is somewhat DULL, then it's UP to you to work on that. Visiting... (read in full...)
Should I reply or ignore?
Q. i think i am asking for advice due to a few things one is my age. OK so just over a year ago i was online dating and i went on a date with a guy we had a fab date or so i thought. The next day he said i was too ' out there ' im thinking he thought ...
A. 18 October 2018: EDIT
Sorry...
It should have read...
"However, I wouldn't bet on him contacting you after this."
And little side note, I agree with WiseOwlE when someone says. I'm looking to start a family it might NOT be the actual truth. Many a "smart"... (read in full...)
I kissed other men while we were broken up, now back together did I cheat on him?
Q. My boyfriend and I had split up for week, his decision and I was gutted but said I would respect his decision. I went out with a friend for a night out and i kissed two men. I love my boyfriend and I was upset with it all. We have now got back tog...
A. 18 October 2018: I am with N91,
Relationships that takes breaks or NEED breaks are not viable long term.
Relationships that DO work is when you can TALK about this, compromise, trust and respect each other.
If you felt so inferior to his exes, is that someth... (read in full...)
Should I reply or ignore?
Q. i think i am asking for advice due to a few things one is my age. OK so just over a year ago i was online dating and i went on a date with a guy we had a fab date or so i thought. The next day he said i was too ' out there ' im thinking he thought ...
A. 18 October 2018: I would just tell him who you are. However, I would bet on him contacting you after this.
I wouldn't make excuses for the last date, you don't owe him that.
IF he, however, still wants to go on a date (knowing who you are) DO NOT drink. AT AL... (read in full...)
He asked me out as a joke but I said yes ... how do I face my friends?
Q. My crush asked me out as a joke and I said yes. I was sick the day after and I wasn’t at school. My friends texted me about it. Apparently he had told most of my friends. Now I have to go back to school. I don’t really like him a lot. I just ...
A. 18 October 2018: Yep the ladies are right, you didn't DO anything wrong in saying yes.
You just got lucky you got sick.
What do you do when you get back to school? HOLD your head up high and IGNORE the idiot. If your friends ask.. just say, HEY we all make mist... (read in full...)
I have an anal sex question and can't find answers
Q. Hi, Okay this probably sounds stupid. But please give me some serious answers... I would appreciate it. Yesterday my husband and I had anal sex and he came inside. Today, more than 24 hours later, we had anal and vaginal sex both. Can th...
A. 17 October 2018: 1. You two should NEVER go from having ANAL to vaginal. That is a sure way for YOU to get a bacterial infection in your vagina which can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease where BV bacteria infect the uterus or fallopian tubes.
Something YOU DO n... (read in full...)
I don't feel like chasing him do I just let things ride and see what happens?
Q. Hi I need some advice there's this guy I met last month at a party he seemed to be interested but he never gave me his number he said we should hang out sometime and gave me a spot where he will be however since we have mutual friends I ended up ...
A. 17 October 2018: Pull back.
He actually talked about hanging out with you and then when plans were made he asked another female to join you two? To me that means he is probably TRYING to convey to you that he is looking to be friends (nothing more) with you. Hen... (read in full...)
I believe my husband has sick fantasies about my daughter. She trusts him. What should I do?
Q. I found a spare phone in my husband's truck and saved to his favorites was "Stepdaughter fucks step dad".. I have a beautiful 18 year old daughter that lives with us . I'm leaving him because to me, that is unacceptable and I will never look at him ...
A. 17 October 2018: Well, she IS 18. So you can't MAKE her move with you. but I probably would mention that he has NO parental rights over her.
Does she know WHY you are moving out?
... (read in full...)
Should I give my ex money back for a trip that he won't be taking with my family?
Q. Hey guys. Since my last post I've taken your advice and no longer visit my exs social media accounts. I am actually in the process of moving on and have even met someone else :) I'm just writing because it's coming to the time where I sign ...
A. 17 October 2018: Has he ASKED for the money?
If not, I'd wouldn't pay it back. If he asked for it then yes, IF your parents can get a refund.
Stuff happens. ... (read in full...)
Am I expecting too much from this man?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend since May. The relationship has moved rather fast and he's moved in with me already. We've had our first few big fights and a few times I've asked him to move back out but he didn't due to no where to go and within a ...
A. 17 October 2018: I think you two moved in together WAY too fast. You didn't really know him and he didn't know you.
The GOOD thing about living together is that you get to see who the other person is, and whether you are actually compatible long term.
You BOT... (read in full...)
How can I keep away from my awful co-worker when I am forced to work with him?
Q. I just started a new job a few weeks ago. Everyone has been nice to me so far... except one person. You see, when I met him I thought he was cool. He teased me a little and tried to make me laugh (it worked). But then it was like a switch flipped. ...
A. 17 October 2018: 1. Don't CRY in front of him. EVER.
If he is a TOTAL ass who likes to get new people in trouble and treat them like shit, DO NOT give him ammo to do so.. and CRYING is just that. That way he will know JUST how easy it is to push your buttons.... (read in full...)
What do you make of my boyfriend's long-distance female friend?
Q. My bf has had a female friend for 5 years. At first I was uneasy about the whole thing but as I learned more about her and took my insecurities for working, I became cool with the whole thing. One evening when she messages, he said "oh she was aski...
A. 17 October 2018: Maybe she is busy OR she was hoping the friendship would lead to move, with him having a GF... that hope got dashed. When he ACTUALLY told you she said hi to you and you said hi back - SHE realized the YOU know about her and see her as no threat, ... (read in full...)
I feel like our relationship has been killed by moving in together.
Q. HI I have been dating a guy for 6 months, he had to find new accommodation quickly and I stepped in and said that he could move in with me, (1 and half months ago) However I am now beginning to feel really frustrated, miserable and angry ...
A. 17 October 2018: Yes, you ask him to move out.
It's not the end of it per se, but you BOTH got a taste of what living with each other is and it wasn't good.
And no, OP it's NOT "normal" that when people move in together they start fighting.
It might be mor... (read in full...)
Regret kissing a girl I didn't find attractive that turned out to be an alcoholic on a date whilst drunk and now she wants more.
Q. Hi to everyone, I have gotten myself into an awkward situation with a girl I went on a date with last night. To elaborate I met this girl very briefly about 3 weeks ago at a club, she took a photo that I wanted so we exchanged details and she ...
A. 16 October 2018: Well, the option to "ghost" her was just that.. an option. After all you don't REALLY know her all that well and if she acts like this with you, I doubt she will be hurt by being ghosted, she will easily pick up another guy to get drunk with.
... (read in full...)
Struggling to get over ex and finding it hard to look at dating again!
Q. Hi all, I guess this is a slightly multi-layered problem. Firstly I am single as of close to year ago. I mention this as I feel it potentially explains certain things as of yet mentioned. It was a strange breakup that never really had clos...
A. 16 October 2018: Just keep moving forward, OP.
Don't look back, unless it is to NOT repeat the same mistakes.... (read in full...)
I've been with him for 15 years. Am I stupid?
Q. Am I being dumb? I have been with my partner for 15 years We have 2 children together. His mum is constantly on the phone texting call and bitching about me. I have recently started a new Job, but that's more for her to bitch about me. I n...
A. 16 October 2018: Are you being stupid?
Only you can tell. I think, you "think" you are stuck with him because you have kids with him.
I GET why he wanted the bed to himself with pins in. Sharing a bed when you are supposed to NOT move is hard. It would be hard... (read in full...)
Regret kissing a girl I didn't find attractive that turned out to be an alcoholic on a date whilst drunk and now she wants more.
Q. Hi to everyone, I have gotten myself into an awkward situation with a girl I went on a date with last night. To elaborate I met this girl very briefly about 3 weeks ago at a club, she took a photo that I wanted so we exchanged details and she ...
A. 16 October 2018: Jesus, do you not know how to say no?
If you drove 1 1/2 to meet up, could you not have used the "excuse" that you didn't want to drink because you would have to drive home? WHO GIVES an ACTUAL fuck that she was goading you? Aren't you a little t... (read in full...)
Should I be upset that my FWB partner is having sex with others and lied about it
Q. I have been having sex with a friend but he said he having been with anyone else but I caught him with another woman should I be angry or not because we are not dating? please help me because im mad as hell....
A. 16 October 2018: Why?
You have a FWB, NOT a relationship, there is no verbal agreement of exclusivity, right?
If you want a exclusive F-buddy or relationship don't settle for a FWB. He doesn't OWE you exclusivity, you don't owe him that either. However, THAT is... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is thinking about working with a woman I don't like! What should I do?
Q. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I'm at the end of my rope. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years and I love him with all my heart but I have always struggled with trust issues due to my boyfriend's career. He works at a gym a...
A. 15 October 2018: I'm absolutely with the rest of the aunts.
You are being ridiculous. IT IS NOT your job to tell your partner where or who he can work with. He is a GROWN man. And apparently a grown man with the patience of a saint. Because if MY husband told me.... (read in full...)
Why can't I develop strong feelings for guys?
Q. I'm struggling to understand why I can't seem to develop strong feelings for guys. I have crushes, but they're always for the guys I can't have. The minute I get into a relationship or feel myself going into one I immediately go off them and run ...
A. 15 October 2018: You can't FORCE feelings, OP
And you can't FORCE being ready or mature enough for wanting to date and be in a relationship.
I was a slow poke when it came to the dating game, I had lots of male friends and just didn't SEE the point in dating.... (read in full...)
Is it cheating if my boyfriend stood and talked to a naked woman for 5 minutes?
Q. Grrr. Me and my boyfriend of 10 months have been arguing a lot lately. We've hit a rough patch. To make matters worse he broke his hand so he's out of work and can't drive right now. I moved him into my home about 2months ago. So now he's ...
A. 15 October 2018: Just kick him out, OP
That way he can go LIVE there and see her all the time.
While I would say this, HER CHOOSING to not wear clothes is OUT of his control. She is in her "home" (rental" and can walk around in the nude ALL she wants. YOU bf ca... (read in full...)
He loves me, wants me for his wife.. but also wants sex with other women. Please help!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over two years; we're in our thirties and met on a dating site. We've been having a great time together and at this point we're discussing a path to marriage and children, but I'm having trouble ...
A. 15 October 2018: He is so full of shit his eyes must be all brown!
While it IS true that MANY men AND women still would want to have sex with other people besides their partner - it's not like there isn't the ability to CONTROL themselves.
I know MANY people... (read in full...)
He said he'd break up with his girlfriend to date me but I just want to be friends
Q. Hi, I've just transferred to a new university starting second year where everybody already knows each other. I befriended a girl on my course and she introduced me to her friendship group on the course which has been lovely. I've particularly got...
A. 15 October 2018: If he wants to break up with his girl back home that is HIS choice.
YOU have ALREADY made SURE he knows you are not interested in dating him.
However, what can you learn from this? Well, if a guy has a GF (no matter where she is) don't flirt.... (read in full...)
Is he just not interested? being a jerk? Did I screw things up?
Q. Hi, I have been single for twenty years and dating for ten, long years. I dated on and off, because of the bad experiences. I have dated a lot of men, who have commitment issues, some with intimate issues, not being truthful with what they really ...
A. 15 October 2018: Could be that life is in the way, still.
If so, I'd just back off and do your own thing.
Can also be that your saying you are lonely made him run a mile as he is afraid you might be clingy.
It's really impossible to tell.
However, it's o... (read in full...)
Have I just been used?
Q. I was seeing someone up until a few months ago, we weren’t together very long but I really started to care for him. Anyway he’d not long got out a relationship before we met, moved out and started his new life so wanted to take things slowly, he ...
A. 14 October 2018: I have to agree, I don't think he USED you either.
You already KNEW he wasn't ready to date seriously, he was recently out of another relationship AND he ENDED it with you. Saying he wasn't ready.
So WHEN he did contact you 5 weeks later, you... (read in full...)
How do meet someone who would want to settle down with me?
Q. I'm a 23 year old trans male. So I've been single for well over five years now. I dated 1 girl in school and another in college. The first girl broke my heart (original I know.) So it kind of messed up my second relationship because of confi...
A. 13 October 2018: People treat you like a novelty, because in a way.. you are one. For some you are just not like other dudes. And for others it's a matter of not understanding your choices and your lifestyle. It just doesn't compute to them. And it's NOT your job ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 5 years is no longer sure he wants to be with me. I think he is going through some sort of life crisis
Q. Hi everyone. This is pretty long so just bear with me please. I (25F) and my boyfriend (30M) have been together for 5 years. We have lived together for all of that. Before dating, we were very good online gaming buddies for another 5 years. I m...
A. 13 October 2018: Maybe what you need to do is give him some time and space to figure out what he wants in life.
Otherwise you might spend more time just waiting for your lives together to start.
As for all the plans... it's talk, OP Nothing set in stone. It's a... (read in full...)
I'm willing to leave my husband but my married lover isn't saying anything about leaving his wife
Q. Iv been having an affair for a couple of years now and decided to end my marriage. I'm living with a friend but my married lover is still staying put. I said it was my problem about leaving my husband but he said he was still worried for me. He ...
A. 13 October 2018: No, he isn't waiting to see what you do. He just doesn't WANT to leave his family and marriage. Not even for you.
Keep working on your future as if he isn't a part of it. Because part from the sex and spending time, he really isn't.
Finish ... (read in full...)
It seems like boyfriend's love is fading not sure why
Q. Hi I’m sorry if this is long. I’ve been with my new bf for 4 months. Everything was perfect. He told me he loves me from the bottom of his heart he went on holiday for two weeks and we spoke lots on the phone and video called each other. When...
A. 13 October 2018: I would dial it back, OP
PUT in as MUCH effort as he does. See if he picks up the slack. Which means I would find a suitable excuse for not coming over for the weekend. Catch up on stuff you need done.
As for his kids not wanting to meet ... (read in full...)
Long distance relationship started out so good but now so bad. Do I end things?
Q. so I am in a long distance relationship for 7 months now. He is from Texas and I'm from Ireland. We met on his first night here, and we just chatted for the whole night and we made plans for the next day and the next and it was on the second day he ...
A. 13 October 2018: This is the most probable outcome of a LDR. Not only that but this was like a "blitz whirlwind romance" with you two. The whole "I love you" after a few dates... it's UNREALISTIC, it FANTASY. This was a bottle-rocket romance. All bang and woooo and ... (read in full...)
Engagement called off due to past relationship how do I fix things?
Q. I was engaged to a wonderful guy.He is a virgin and have very high Morales and values.However, i lied to him about my past relationship and virginity. Engagement called off due to videos and pictures of sexual activity and intimate ones,ta...
A. 12 October 2018: You can't convince them because they SAW the evidence of your lies.
YOU made a choice to have sex with your ex, you made the choice to FILM it too.
You shouldn't have lied.
I would however, consider suing the pants of your ex for sending t... (read in full...)
What should I do to guard my heart and not be a fool?
Q. Hello, everyone. I’m a 21 year old homosexual male. About three weeks ago, my toxic, 2 year relationship ended with my ex. Throughout the entire duration of our relationship, he emotionally cheated, meaning that he would inbox other guys on social ...
A. 12 October 2018: Have some standards.
- For how you LET others treat you and for HOW you treat others.
- For what you believe you WANT in a relationship and what you don't.
THEN stick to it.
You said your (now) ex, keep "inboxing other people. And it h... (read in full...)
Are my expectations too high for my long distance boyfriend?
Q. Our LDR has been rocky the past few months. He's neglecting abd taking for granted our relationship. Today is my birthday. I spent the entire morning in Urgent Care because I had extremely bad stomach and back pains in the middle of the night, a...
A. 12 October 2018: Well, there you go.
MAYBE it has been rocky lately, not because the novelty has worn off but because he feels YOU are pulling away.
And yes, he DOES sound rather immature, which (my guess) is why he has been fine with an LDR. That way he REAL... (read in full...)
Is he flirting or am I reading too much into his actions?
Q. I recently transferred into a different team at work and started working very closely with the guy who recommended me for the role. I REALLY like him as as a person and we get along great. Sometimes have suspicion that he 'likes' me, but then I t...
A. 12 October 2018: Sorry, OP
I don't wrap up my answers in cotton, I tell it as I see it. Take from it what you will.
I (like WiseOwlE mentions) have also seen SO many questions asking about office romance gone wrong on DC, more time than I can count, so maybe ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend found the engagement ring box and thinks I'm cheating
Q. More than a year ago I bought an expensive emerald engagement ring to give to my live-in girlfriend intending to propose. I never quite found the right time because of some personal problems in her family and then later on we had big fight and I re...
A. 11 October 2018: EDIT:
Should have been...
No, I wouldn't give her the ring either. Sorry for the confusion.
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend found the engagement ring box and thinks I'm cheating
Q. More than a year ago I bought an expensive emerald engagement ring to give to my live-in girlfriend intending to propose. I never quite found the right time because of some personal problems in her family and then later on we had big fight and I re...
A. 11 October 2018: No, I would give her the ring either. You bought that ring SPECIFICALLY to propose with.
What you DO need to do is to figure out, IS this relationship salvageable? What needs done to fix stuff and then HAVE that conversation and PUT in the work... (read in full...)
I am quick to accept blame and that allows people to manipulate me
Q. I have come here before and I have gotten some great insight in my love problems and found the main issue is “blaming” myself if anything goes down. This blaming comes in work - in friends - in relationship sexual and non sexual .. the moment ...
A. 11 October 2018: I think has more to do with you ability to deal with conflict rather than low confidence, but confidence pay a part in it.
You don't like confrontations. You don't have the confidence to STAND by your choice, action or words.
So it's a bit... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is hurtful and tells me I cant take a joke!
Q. I don't even know how to start. My boyfriend and I continuingly get into arguments. I think perhaps we are coming to understand that we are two people who don't understand eachother, or perhaps he doesn't understand me. I've come from a divorced ...
A. 11 October 2018: I think he is the wrong guy for you.
While maybe you are a little to oversensitive, THAT is who you are. He SURELY doesn't HAVE to tell everyone that you failed your drivers test, just so he can have a joke at your expense?
Yes, he wants... (read in full...)
Is he flirting or am I reading too much into his actions?
Q. I recently transferred into a different team at work and started working very closely with the guy who recommended me for the role. I REALLY like him as as a person and we get along great. Sometimes have suspicion that he 'likes' me, but then I t...
A. 11 October 2018: I think he IS flirty but I think you need to use that big brain of yours and realize that romance in the work place isn't a smart move. What happened last time you mixed work and romance? hmm?
To quote you:" The last time I fell for a guy at work ... (read in full...)
Are my expectations too high for my long distance boyfriend?
Q. Our LDR has been rocky the past few months. He's neglecting abd taking for granted our relationship. Today is my birthday. I spent the entire morning in Urgent Care because I had extremely bad stomach and back pains in the middle of the night, a...
A. 11 October 2018:
I agree with Auntie BimBim, it's time to rethink this relationship.
For one, a LDR is RARELY a good idea. The complications from the LACK of spending time together, the lack of intimacy (not necessarily sex), the problem with communicatio... (read in full...)
My girlfriend found the engagement ring box and thinks I'm cheating
Q. More than a year ago I bought an expensive emerald engagement ring to give to my live-in girlfriend intending to propose. I never quite found the right time because of some personal problems in her family and then later on we had big fight and I re...
A. 8 October 2018: If she thinks you are cheating, this is NOT the time to propose.
There is a lack of trust here and I have to ask why.
I don't see a logic leap from an empty box from a jeweler to cheating.
So I would definitely NOT propose if there are tru... (read in full...)
Struggling to get over ex and finding it hard to look at dating again!
Q. Hi all, I guess this is a slightly multi-layered problem. Firstly I am single as of close to year ago. I mention this as I feel it potentially explains certain things as of yet mentioned. It was a strange breakup that never really had clos...
A. 3 October 2018: Try not to "force" yourself to dating. Spend time with your friends, do go on little dates here and there but TRY to not see them as "marriage or long term dating prospects".
And lastly, I would say my goodbyes to your ex. Wish her well and then... (read in full...)
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