The girls I want to date end up dating other guys!
Q. Hi everyone! This isn't such a serious situation, just looking for some advice and guidance. I met a girl a few weeks ago, we exchanged numbers and she went back to her city 2 hours away. We chatted every day, she flirted a lot and we had a g...
A. 12 November 2018: While I get that she could just have TOLD you that she met someone else, she really doesn't OWE you an explanation for talking to you, then not talking so much to you.
Someone living two hours away that you BRIEFLY met and then chatted with mig... (read in full...)
I like a guy but another girl might steal him.
Q. I like this uy named Jonah but im not sure how to go about it because we only talk in school and this one girl Aliyah may steal him but I feel like me and him have a connection...
A. 12 November 2018: You can't STEAL another person.
THAT is not how things work!
If she "gets" him before you do, it's because SHE made a move or HE liked HER better.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is perfect, but I want an open relationship.
Q. Hi people. I met my current girlfriend a little over two years ago and I was not the social type back then. I never really went out a lot and hanging out with friends was pretty much 'indoor'. After I met her I became very outgoing. We went t...
A. 12 November 2018: You aren't missing a DAMNED thing.
Having sex with more people doesn't make your life better. All it does is pollute what you have, raises the chance of STD's and break your GF's heart all over again.
If you want an open relationship HOW... (read in full...)
I'm not in lov with him but scared of his reaction if I tell him.
Q. How do you break up with someone your not in love with without hurting them?I think my new boyfriend is obsessed with me and something just doesn't feel right. About a year ago I had a hurtful breakup with my ex boyfriend of 3 years who I deep...
A. 12 November 2018: The sooner you end it the better.
Tell him that you have realized he is far more invested than you are and that you don't want to waste his time, you just don't see this going to continue as a long term relationship. That maybe you jumped into a r... (read in full...)
Should I apologize before the concert or just leave it alone?
Q. When we were dating, I had given my ex a Louis Vuitton necklace. After we broke up, I knew he would just throw it away, so I asked for it back and he said he would mail it. A week later, it hadn’t come in the mail, so I texted him and asked if he ...
A. 11 November 2018: I agree you need to LEAVE him alone!
If he wants to TOSS a gift you gave him out... then that is NONE of your business. WHAT so ever! You GAVE it to him, it's HIS now.
So if he doesn't return it (and I doubt he would) then SUCK it up, Buttercup... (read in full...)
She seems open but what if she is telling me lies?
Q. Been single now for about 5 months after a long term relationship, and met someone a few weeks ago that i hit it off with, it happend very randomly and out of the blue. being careful, or at least trying to be ive had my guard up. but it feels right ...
A. 11 November 2018: I wouldn't bring up the parked truck, you have no idea what that is about. Could be a neighbor had friends over and asked to use her driveway or she had some family stop by to check on her since she was ill.
So for now... forget about the truck.
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Should I be strong and not burden people with my problems?
Q. I'm really upset but wondering if I have every right to be or if my boyfriend was spot on and I need to get a grip. I have two children with my ex, we were together 8 years but then he cheated with his now wife. They got married within months of...
A. 11 November 2018: Well, I think you should grow a spine too and simply block her.
You don't HAVE to take abuse over text from her. "running" to your ex hoping he will do what? reprimand her? spank her? Tell her to not use bad words to you? You see what I'm getting ... (read in full...)
My head is everywhere and I can't make a decision.
Q. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 16 months and he left to go Australia in Feb this year, I knew from the start that that was his plans and I was fine with it and both decided to keep things the same way knowing with it being a long distance ...
A. 11 November 2018: OP, honey...
You two have spend HALF your relationship in a LDR, while you "think" you can plan for all kind of things, you can't plan for change.
He "promised" he would move back to the UK, to you after a year, but that was BEFORE he got to... (read in full...)
I cheated, fell pregnant, boyfriend left, I believe its his baby.
Q. I cheated on my boyfriend and I found out I was pregnant in a month time. When I told my boyfriend about it he told me to give birth but after he will have a DNA test. I had to tell him the truth that I cheated on him.he then said he is not ...
A. 10 November 2018: You "conscience" or "feelings" is no way to PROVE he is the dad.
DO the DNA test when the baby is born, if it's his, then it's his. HE CAN NOT refute DNA test.... (read in full...)
I love him but I feel sad and ignored.
Q. Hello everyone, I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months, but things have been rocky lately. Here's a little background info: i'm 27 and he's 36 years old, and has 4 kids. I do not have any kids of my own. Things were good in the beginn...
A. 10 November 2018: OP, he is ONLY with you for the sex these days. He doesn't WANT to invest emotionally in you, he doesn't take you out probably because he doesn't have the money, child-support for 4 kids is NOT a grab in the pocket...
He pays attention to you duri... (read in full...)
Is what this 15 year old girl wears okay around a father who drinks?
Q. Is it ok for a 15 year old girl to walk around the house in her bra around her father...and he drinks heavy so his judgement could be possible inpaired .what should I do? how should I handle this while staying with them....?...
A. 8 November 2018: I have teenage daughters who DO occasionally run around in shorts and a sports-bra in the house and yes, around my husband. In summer our house got as hot as Hades. No one cares.
There is in no way anything sexual undertones about it.
In the ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend wants to be reimbursed for gifts she gave me.
Q. I have recently broke up with my girlfriend after nine months together, a couple of weeks before we separated she bought me a present but now we're not together she's asking me to give her back the money she spent on that present, I don't think ...
A. 8 November 2018: I agree with the majority here,
GIVE her back the item. Not the money. Why would you even WANT to keep this thing?
Give it back and it will be UP TO HER to get it returned/refunded. And then you cut contact.
Let's say the present was a tr... (read in full...)
My sex obsessed friend makes me feel uncomfortable.
Q. I have a best friend who is obsessed with sex. He talks about sex endlessly. He details everything he does with every guy (he’s gay). Every week there is someone new, every week the sex was amazing and without really checking I’m interested he will ...
A. 7 November 2018: Honestly, OP
What do you get out of this "friendship"? Someone who doesn't respect your boundaries and go chasing after YOUR other friends for casual sex. So... in short someone using you to an extend.
I had a female friend who LOVED to relish ... (read in full...)
She loves me but has a LDR boyfriend.
Q. A girl has a boyfriend but she loves me. Her boyfriend lives far than Im living close to me. We had sex several times and we both promise to get married but she is yet break up with him? I need some advice.....
A. 7 November 2018: If she claims to love you, why hasn't she dropped the other guy?
Are you prepared to marry a cheater? Because THAT is what she is.
And do you think a ring on her finger will STOP her from cheating on YOU on the future?
You can either give h... (read in full...)
I'm vegetarian, he's not. How can we compromise better?
Q. I've been vegetarian for 4 years, since before I met my boyfriend. He's a big meat eater, and I honestly don't mind what he eats. I've never tried to convert him. We've found some common ground - we cook a couple of great vegetarian dishes together ...
A. 7 November 2018: Cook (if you can) one big portion of curry without the chicken, divide it up into meals and freeze. That way you can just heat YOUR veggie curry and add veggies. And he can COOK and eat his chicken curry.
Whether or not carrots and chicken ... (read in full...)
Why does my husband look up the category of ex girlfriend in porn?
Q. My husband occasionally uses my laptop. And sometimes watches porn on it, which is fine as long as our sex life is ok. I always delete the porn off my browser history as i sometimes need to bring my laptop into work. Anyway, apart from looking up ...
A. 7 November 2018: No idea, why not simply ask him?
Or accept that he somehow think that it's "hot or taboo" and has no real importance in YOUR relationship.
Him looking up " bbw redhead " doesn't mean he wants to be with his "bigger redheaded ex-GF". I might ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend celebrates Christmas with his ex and family and I am not even invited
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. He is early 50 and I’m 30. He has 2 kids that are early twenties. They live and study abroad and from time to time are back in town. The problem is that he celebrated Christmas at ...
A. 7 November 2018: I think you should decide if this is OK with you or not.
For me, personally... to be TREATED by my partner/BF as if I were a MERE mistress or dirty secret would be a total dealbreaker. Now I GET that he is civil with his ex (and that is nice) an... (read in full...)
Does this mean he likes me, or am I friend zoned?
Q. Might be a bit young, but I’m a freshman who likes a sophomore. Now last year he started giving me hugs when ever I’m about to leave, same this year. (Extra information: Our school is small, so I see him often the the hallways or after school.) I’m ...
A. 7 November 2018: Hugging is NOT really any indication. I hug ALL my friends, always have. Nothing REMOTELY romantic about it.
So are you "friend-zoned"? I don't know. But since he hasn't asked you out or try and actually spend time and get to KNOW you (by talking)... (read in full...)
Should I confess I'm gay, would it get him in trouble?
Q. I've been online friends with another guy who lives in the UAE that I am 90 percent sure has feelings for me, and while I feel the same way I am unsure if he would get into any type of trouble if I were to confess my feelings for him and he were to ...
A. 7 November 2018: You do know that being gay in the UAE is illegal, right? Same as having sex with a woman/man out side of marriage.
Secondly, if you are under 18, you need to be careful. And if HE is under 18, ditto. If he is older than you... then you REALLY n... (read in full...)
My boyfriend spends all day on a dating app.
Q. I don't know what to do as my b I yfriend is on a dating app day and night there's no photo of him and details just it shows his location home and work. I don't know what to do I just don't get if he's looking for me on there OE someone else. I see ...
A. 7 November 2018: You aren't "the one" for him, he is still LOOKING. He will date you until he finds "better" (not necessarily better but what HE thinks is better for him).
In order for YOU to see him online on the dating app, you must be online the app too,righ... (read in full...)
We are on a break but working on our relationship ... he doesn't understand how his actions affected me.
Q. 7 months ago, my ex and I broke up, mutually. Our relationship was long-term. A few days after our breakup I accidentally read a conversation in his facebook account between him and a female friend. The conversation was very intimate, and almost ...
A. 7 November 2018: I don't think you can "make" him understand how HIS actions made YOU feel. If he doesn't "get" it already he never will.
Secondly, stop having sex and being intimate. If you aren't "together-together" then keep sex out of the picture. you are BOTH... (read in full...)
I stood by him even while he lied and said he was single now he doesn't want me
Q. Hello to all. I do need help I need some advice or at least someone who does not judge me or listen to me. I met an Iraqi man four years ago. He arrived to the USA as a refugee. We met in person one night I was out with some girlfriends and he was ...
A. 6 November 2018: Cut him off.
For several reasons. 1. he IS still married until the divorce is final and BY THE BY... while a Muslim woman can ASK for divorce HE (the husband) can DENY her the divorce. She doesn't HAVE the "right" to divorce him. ONLY he has that... (read in full...)
How do I make my intentions known without coming across as creepy?
Q. Hi this may seem trivial but I have not long gotten out of a long term relationship nearly 10 years. But I have no idea how to express interest in another woman it's been that long. There is one I am really interested in but 130 miles sepertes us. M...
A. 6 November 2018: Maybe start by joining some social groups. If you are into hiking or photography or theater or dance or whatnot.
Get out there and SOCIALIZE with people you don't know. Men and women. Then it will COME back to you.
I wouldn't pursue a women w... (read in full...)
Why do I attract abusive men? My current bf said that I deserve disrespect because I'm not glamorous!
Q. My boyfriend said I don't deserve to be talked at with respect because I'm not glam. Why do I attract abusive men both my last two boyfriend's have been that way. Verbally and physically....
A. 6 November 2018: My guess would be (like CMMP) suggested that you are attracted to a "type", unfortunately THAT "type" is men who have abusive behaviors. Now they might also have a lot of OTHER things in common (which are probably the things you fall for, such as ... (read in full...)
We have fun and the sex is amazing but then why doesn't he fall for me?
Q. Hey all. I feel like a spoilt brat here, like Verruca Salt when she can't get what she wants. I've completely fallen for a co worker. He works in another office and lives 80 miles away. He lives alone (divorced with a son) as I live with parents ...
A. 6 November 2018: Unless you WANT a casual no strings sexual fling with this guy... it's time to pull out.
He is being honest, he isn't WANTING a relationship, that isn't about you - at all. He is at a stage where he has been through some break up and probably... (read in full...)
We got together for just sex things blossomed but I messed it up.
Q. I need advice on how I can either get over or fix something I started 7 months ago. . 5 years ago I drank in my local bar with my sister that night I noticed this older man eyes set on me all night which made me very uncomfortable at first. ...
A. 5 November 2018: I think this is a "case" of you wanting what you now can't have.
When you COULD "get" him, you didn't want him (for obvious reasons) but now that he has had enough of your immaturity, you suddenly WANT him.
I'm not saying you are childish, OP... (read in full...)
I don't understand why she did this to me
Q. I know part of the answer. She's selfish. Has some severe mental health issues but so do I, so I'm trying not to hold it against her. Been scouring all over the internet to understand. Narcissist? Bipolar? Just trying to make sense of all this. ...
A. 5 November 2018: Good for you to GIVE yourself closure on this woman and relationship!
Learn to take things slow next time. ANYONE (be it male or female) who tries and RUSH a relationship, future, dream, love - are not really thinking of the other person and whet... (read in full...)
He can't say I love you to me but we keep breaking up and getting back together. I don't know what to do
Q. Okay, this is going to be long and I apologize in advance - I’ll try to summarize as much as possible. Two years ago (August 2016) I started my masters program in a big city. I was on dating apps for fun, mostly, not looking for anything serious...
A. 5 November 2018: Honestly?
While I know that relationships takes work, commitment, compromises, honesty, truth, openness - there is always such a thing as not a good fit.
You have been trying to fit a square peg in a round hole for a VERY long time, first your... (read in full...)
What do I say to her to prove I’m genuinely sorry?
Q. I’m here for advice and I’m looking for advice and don’t know what to do. I came across a female on a dating app who I really liked and we share things in common. there’s were going great until I said to her you’re ignoring me and now she is giving ...
A. 4 November 2018: I agree with WiseOwlE
You are on a dating site NOT to make friends/mates but to look for a suitable partner.
Now you can do the whole, sorry if I offended you thing, but in the bigger picture what's the point?
Who says she is making a big... (read in full...)
I don't understand why she did this to me
Q. I know part of the answer. She's selfish. Has some severe mental health issues but so do I, so I'm trying not to hold it against her. Been scouring all over the internet to understand. Narcissist? Bipolar? Just trying to make sense of all this. ...
A. 3 November 2018: You know she is bad for you, you know she doesn't care as deeply as she claimed (having been hurt/abused in the past doesn't give her an excuse to go around hurting other people, that's absurd).
Yet, you STILL keep in contact, you STILL hope tha... (read in full...)
My husband seems to think I am a bank, smokes weed all day and chats with other women!
Q. Hello My husband isnt working and I am providing for our family. He is unable to work do to his new arrival to my country. During hid time here, he tells me his friends back home need an apartment to rent and they need to open up their ow...
A. 2 November 2018: Make sure he has NO access to your money. If he is here on a visa (tourist or work visa) You have until it runs out to decide when you are going to realize you made a HUGE mistake in marrying this guy.
He isn't in the States because he LOVES yo... (read in full...)
I'm hurt, confused, angry and betrayed.
Q. So Last night I texted my gf and asked her how it started and she said that they met at a mutual friends house and he went up to her and they started talking about regulsr shit at first. Eventually they started chatting over what...
A. 2 November 2018: She (your mom) probably thought in a roundabout way that she was protecting everyone by not telling and trying to stay OUT of your business.
She DID do the right thing in telling your GF to fess up.
Being mad at your mom for your ex-gf's act... (read in full...)
I saw a strange number on my husband's phone, called it and a woman answered. Should I confront him about it?
Q. Hi, I'm needing help on what to do next in my situation . OK, so I checked his phone. But I had to. He's been acting strange lately. I saw a phone number that called him this morning. And the call lasted 23 minutes so he had a conversation...
A. 2 November 2018: Is it just ONE phone call? Or is that number someone he has called on a regular basis?
Could she be family? Family that he rarely contacts?
I do agree with WiseOwlE that I would call the number and introduce yourself and ask how she knows yo... (read in full...)
Am I being used by someone who doesn’t care about my feelings?
Q. I’ll try not to make this long and keep it brief as I can, I’m on a dating site app and joined it because I’m single. met some nice people and made friends a long the way. I messaged this female who I liked and we started talking to each other. we ...
A. 2 November 2018: Is all you do is talk to her online?
Haven't you asked her out or to meet her?
Maybe she is looking for someone to BE WITH not to correspond with online.
And if someone backs off, take it as a sign of disinterest and then move on. Don't wast... (read in full...)
I am devastated that my ex has cut me out of her life. I thought we were still friends
Q. My ex girlfriend doesn't speak to me anymore and it still haunts me. Her and I were the best of friends before we ever got together. We did everything together and were in a relationship for roughly three years when we split up. We are both women, ...
A. 2 November 2018: It's pretty simple OP, you need to respect that SHE doesn't WANT to be friends with you.
Maybe you should try and separate romance and friendships in the future, so you don't lose a friend AND a lover.
For some hanging on to the past (like y... (read in full...)
Do I warn others hes a serious fantasist
Q. So just over a year ago i met a man on a dating site and we decided to make a go of it. Everything was great for the first couple of month then he sectioned himself. He had told me prior to meeting his mental health issues. So we kind of had a break ...
A. 2 November 2018: No, OP it's really not your job to POLICE dating sites and call out men YOU were (pardon if this is rude) silly enough, to go out with ans waste your time on.
Not all women would "play along" to keep dating a man... I mean really, Nancy Drew... ... (read in full...)
Boyfriends drunken night may be the end of us but I want to make things work. How?
Q. Dear cupid Me and my bf of three years had a bad fight tonight and he is not talking to me, i stay in his house. He is terribly druck after fight , fell in the bathroom, refused to take my help asked me to get out. I did leave him there, didn't kn...
A. 31 October 2018: If he is in his 30's like you and can go out without getting THIS drunk, then he has issues with alcohol and that isn't likely to change - whether you give him space or not.
ONLY he can make that choice to seek help and get totally sober.
... (read in full...)
Is he just a liar toying with me?
Q. Here's the deal. I met a guy down here in texas because he we was here for work. Long story short we hung out all the time and he added me and my best friend on fb. After he left he told her that he really likes me, not to let me lose interest and ...
A. 31 October 2018: CUT him off.
He is toying with you, and he IS preventing you from going out there and finding a guy who will treat you right, with respect and care. Not just put you on a shelf and dust you off when it SUITS him.
Wanna bet he has a girl back ... (read in full...)
My married lover doesn't want me to go on trips by myself. Why doesn't he trust me?
Q. My married lover travels with his wife up to 3-5 times a year. The longest he is away is a month at a time. It's very difficult for me, even though I've chosen to place myself in this role. I feel resentful and left behind. They are natural ...
A. 31 October 2018: No, he has ABSOLUTELY no reason to try and TELL you what you can and can not do. You aren't OWNED by him or MARRIED to him or even DATING him.
YOU are his mistress, his dirty little secret on the side.
I think it's more important to hea... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from LDR boyfriend in 3 days
Q. Hi ive been dealing with many stuff and been hurt many times to. but my point is october 28 was my last messge with my ldr boyfreind its been 3 days now and he hasn't respond to my messege at all i text hime 2 times saying hey i hope you are ok i ...
A. 31 October 2018: Don't text/message/call him for a week. See if he picks up the slack and IF he doesn't... well, then you know that your next move is to BLOCK him and DELETE him and then move on.
LDR rarely work out, OP For the simply reason that it's really n... (read in full...)
I'm unable to move on after being rejected by the girl I love
Q. In my current state I feel lonely, depressed and unable to get over recent rejection with the *only* person I've had feelings for so far. To give more insight, I'm 15 years old and far from being attractive. In fact, I've not been favoured once by...
A. 31 October 2018: OP, none of us has a crystal ball and can see the future.
Tying all your hopes and dreams of a relationship up in a girl who has already rejected you, will NOT change the outcome.
I get that you REALLY like her, and that she likes you (as a ... (read in full...)
I'm hurt, confused, angry and betrayed.
Q. So Last night I texted my gf and asked her how it started and she said that they met at a mutual friends house and he went up to her and they started talking about regulsr shit at first. Eventually they started chatting over what...
A. 28 October 2018: Break up, OP
You can't trust her to NOT cheat again. What you had together is now "tainted" by her cheating. That is why you keep having these dreams of her cheating. That is your subconscious telling you that you are MAD over it.
And I agree, ... (read in full...)
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