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30 October 2010: I have tried to keep my relationship problems away from this site as I do not want my advice to be assosiated to my own questions. However I have now learned an important lesson that I want to share with the rest of you, in the hopes that you will ...
What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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I did everything he wanted and he still broke up with me
Q. Okay I started dating this guys five years ago, in the beggining he didnt want a relationship but after we became intimate,and i threatened to walk away if i dint get a title, he said lets be official. In the beggining my weight bothered him. I was ...
A. 24 May 2010: Give it TIME. Time heals everything! I promise, you will be fine, just give it time.... (read in full...)
A very complicated mess with my wife, the girl I lost my virginity to, my best friend and now the boy I have found out is my son......
Q. When I was in school I was on the swim team. We had an away meet which was the regional meet so the school put us up in a hotel. This wasn't chapperoned very well and I went to the room of some girls from a school that was from a rival school in ...
A. 19 May 2010: Dear poster, did you read up on paternity fraud? Your dear brother in law can, if you are prooved to be this young mans father, sue you for a lot of money. You can also sue your sister in law for this. I suggest you contact a lawyer and get some ... (read in full...)
A very complicated mess with my wife, the girl I lost my virginity to, my best friend and now the boy I have found out is my son......
Q. When I was in school I was on the swim team. We had an away meet which was the regional meet so the school put us up in a hotel. This wasn't chapperoned very well and I went to the room of some girls from a school that was from a rival school in ...
A. 14 May 2010: This is called paternity fraud and the OP is not a sperm donor. He's been robbed of the chance to be a father to this boy, and his brother-in-law has been robbed as well, both of his money and of his son. Laws concerning paternity fraud vary from ... (read in full...)
Hes went through my friends but won't go out with me!
Q. Ok. Sorry its long, but its very complicated. So there is a guy i have liked for about 4 years now (since i first met him), lets call him a. He is really nice, kind, considerate, funny, all of that. Firstly he went out with one me my friends. ...
A. 13 May 2010: "I think the whole what guy thing was his mates as none of them like me (im not 'fit' and im not popular), but yeah. "
That proves he is happy to throw you under the bus. We don't choose who we fall for, but we can choose whom to love, and I wo... (read in full...)
He wants me to abort the other man's baby but then he wants me to accept his stealing son! I don't think these conditions are fair....
Q. My husband and I have separated due to financial issues, his disrespectful stealing son, and his disrespectful self. Anyway I became pregnant, he want to reconcile but cant see himself raising another mans baby. So in other words he want me to ...
A. 13 May 2010: Keep your child, and find a man who will accept raising two kids that arent his. I understand where your man is coming from. He want thinsg tog o back to the way they used to be, and things cant go back to what they used to be when there is a new ... (read in full...)
A very complicated mess with my wife, the girl I lost my virginity to, my best friend and now the boy I have found out is my son......
Q. When I was in school I was on the swim team. We had an away meet which was the regional meet so the school put us up in a hotel. This wasn't chapperoned very well and I went to the room of some girls from a school that was from a rival school in ...
A. 13 May 2010: She begged you not to tell, that doesnt pin you down in any way. You have no obligation to do as she says. She has lied and deceived you and your brother-in-law. A part of it is your own fault, for not using protection. But she should have told YOU ... (read in full...)
Should I stop being friends with him after all that has happened?
Q. I am 14 , and really in love with this guy , he is 16 . I added him on facebook , he was a friend of a friend , and she said he was really sweet and i should get to know him. So i did , but eventually all my friends got involved with him and they ...
A. 13 May 2010: He's using you for sex and doesnt care at all about you, he's a womanizer and plays mind-games. Got back together with this girl just so HE could dump HER. Didnt wanna be with her in the first place because she didnt give him sex... Excuse me but ... (read in full...)
Finding latex gloves and using them
Q. Hi.. Is it worth getting latex gloves for when fingering my partner's genitals and where are the best place to get them?...
A. 13 May 2010: Q, it might be a fetish thing? ... (read in full...)
Hes went through my friends but won't go out with me!
Q. Ok. Sorry its long, but its very complicated. So there is a guy i have liked for about 4 years now (since i first met him), lets call him a. He is really nice, kind, considerate, funny, all of that. Firstly he went out with one me my friends. ...
A. 13 May 2010: Move on. You are 13-15 years old and life has barely begun, so don't waste your time thinking you love a guy you barely know. And yes I say barely know, because how close can you honestly be with this bloke? He talks you down behind your back, as ... (read in full...)
Finding latex gloves and using them
Q. Hi.. Is it worth getting latex gloves for when fingering my partner's genitals and where are the best place to get them?...
A. 13 May 2010: I believe you can buy those at the pharmacy. But why you'd want them for that use I don't understand? I don't think it'll be worth it...? If you wash your hands before going down to business, have your nails cut and not sharp, then everything should ... (read in full...)
We used to like each other now but how do I get him to leave me alone now?
Q. There is this guy I have been trying to get over because of his past he is a cheater I written many post about him and they all told me the same thing basically for the whole of 2009 we have liked each other and said we didnt for fear of rejection ...
A. 13 May 2010: Ignore him and he will soon get bored and move on.... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of these funny little feelings atm whilst we are trying to re build our trust ?
Q. Well.. I lost trust in my boyfriend a few months ago, i didnt have belief in what he said, through social events and thing like.. and we broke up. A few months later we spoke about everything and we sorted out alot of things and we got back toge...
A. 13 May 2010: Try and push them to the back of your mind and give him time to prove to you he is being truthful. If you react immedeately to these "feelings" you will stir up old issues and not be able to move on. You've talked this out right, so the discussion ... (read in full...)
What is considered small?
Q. Hey well i have alot of ?'s sorry bout it bein long, i turned 15 on march 13th. My bra size is a B cup most the time. But some times i fit into a C cup depanding on what type and where i get it. Does this seem small? Every one always says it d...
A. 13 May 2010: Your boobs might still be growing. But heres a few facts about boobs and bra's Id like to share with you:
-Your breats get bigger when you are close to having your period/when you are on your period.
-One breats is commonly larger than the ... (read in full...)
My period is a bit late -- is it just stress?
Q. My period is 2 days late and I have not had any symptoms that it will come (I usually feel some cramps a week before it starts). I've been having protected sex with my boyfriend and there have been no accidents with the condom. I am not on the ...
A. 13 May 2010: Stress is well known to have many serious effects on the body. The stress can delay your period, give you mid-cycle bleedings, or make the period go away all together. You are by all likelihood not pregnant. But, a missing period can be a symptom of ... (read in full...)
Should I give him up or wait until his family holiday is over?
Q. iv been seeing a guy for little while now and he wants me exclusive but he has a girlfriend of 1 yr who he only sees once a fortnight and said hes just waiting till hes been on holiday with the kids with her as he promised them .i really like him as ...
A. 13 May 2010: Let him go and let him finish whatever business he has first. You dont need his mess on your doorstep. Once he's single you can date him again and test out a relationship.
By the way though, he comes off as a sneaky person if the only reason h... (read in full...)
What's his deal? Should I just move on?
Q. So I'm in this relationship, 11 months near the end of this one. Some things are wonderful and them some things just make me want to tear my hair out and smother him with a pillow. I love my boyfriend to death and I try to show him when I can that ...
A. 13 May 2010: "she was sending him nude pictures...not that I saw the pictures because he changed his password for his pictures...but I could tell what they were by how they were talking."
Sorry to be harsh, but a good girlfriend does not sneak around her bf's... (read in full...)
Should I let him go and be a man or will he be happier with only one woman: ME?
Q. Hi I need the guidance of a few red blooded males. I love my man very much, we have a lot in common, he is very smart and manly, and very attractive. He has acheived a very respectable amount in his life, not only money wise, but experience wise. ...
A. 13 May 2010: Not a guy, but how can I avoid answering....
I think you are overthinking things. If he wants to marry you don't play shrink on him and tell him that what he really wants is to hump around. Who are you to tell him how he feels and what he wants. M... (read in full...)
The girl who advertised on-line for casual sex is using my sister's photo!
Q. A few weeks ago, I responded to an online ad for casual sex. I'm 27 and single, and I was planning to use protection, so I didn't think it was that big of a deal. I chatted online with the girl who placed it a few times, and she seemed really cool, ...
A. 13 May 2010: Talk to your sister, then possibly contact a lawyer.... (read in full...)
I did everything he wanted and he still broke up with me
Q. Okay I started dating this guys five years ago, in the beggining he didnt want a relationship but after we became intimate,and i threatened to walk away if i dint get a title, he said lets be official. In the beggining my weight bothered him. I was ...
A. 13 May 2010: This man does NOT love you. Why do you think he asked you if you've lost weight, AFTER YOU BROKE UP?? Its because he wants to know if you look better so he can have sex with you. Because he feels great about himself knowing that if he can't find ... (read in full...)
Did my wife have gay tendencies?
Q. I have been with my wife for about 2 years total and one year married. I love my wife more then life itself, and we have a baby on the way. However, a past relationship she had with one of her friends (who is a girl) has always vexed me. Just befo...
A. 11 May 2010: If they didn't kiss or have any sexual contact they weren't in a relationship. Friends get jalous when their friend spends less time with them as well. If your wife gets upset when you joke about her being a lesbian I think you should stop joking ... (read in full...)
Itchy skin problems! My doc thinks it's allergies...but I'm not sure. Any input?
Q. I am having a problem. It started when I just got to America in January. Frequently, I experience itchy skin in the cold and sometimes when I am on my own and not in the cold. I also have a lot of pimples on my forehead until i started using a good ...
A. 11 May 2010: Pimples and itchy skin doesn't have to come from the same cause. Always listen to your doctor first. But in my experience, the itchyness sounds a bit like dry skin. During winter the air is dryer and if you have dry skin you will get patches of ... (read in full...)
Is this guy a player or what?
Q. hello, its been a while now that iv been texting a guy who is 6 years older than me. when he first txt he wanted to know if im single. today i found out that he has a girlfriend and a baby boy. he always ask me out but iv refused till now. should i ...
A. 11 May 2010: Player and a cheater as well. He already has a girlfriend, why would you want to be his number 2?... (read in full...)
My teacher won't mark my work!! What should I do?
Q. I did all my work. I went to hand it in and my teacher opened the door she said no. She then shut the door in my face. What am I gonna do?? if she doesnt mark it I've failed:(2 years in college(not university):( I dont know what I have done...
A. 11 May 2010: Talk to another teacher or councellor and tell them what is going on. If one teacher wont accept your work you should be entitled to having another teacher grade your work.... (read in full...)
After six years being around him just isn't the same anymore!
Q. Hi Im 23 years old and ive been with my partner 6 years we have a 14month old son and we got a morgage a year ago, im so confused i really dont no if i love him anymore i havent let him near me for about 3months now i just dont feel attracted to ...
A. 11 May 2010: When did you start feeling this way towards him? If it started in the time after the baby was born you could be having the baby blues. Perhaps ask him his true feelings if you worry he is only with you because of the house, and have a proper ... (read in full...)
What will happen after no sex for 8 months?
Q. if a woman doesnt have sex for 8 months will her vagina tear the first time she does ...
A. 11 May 2010: Well, "tear" might not be the right word. Even virgins vagina's don't "tear" open. I believe what will happen varies from woman to woman. Some might not notice a difference at all, while some again get very tight.... (read in full...)
Can anyone help me to figure out my feelings for my teacher?
Q. Hey, I will try and keep this short. I don't know how to describe my feelings about this teacher (married with 2 kids, late 30s/early 40s). I have known him for about 5 years and he has taught me for 2 of those years. He always smiles at me and ...
A. 11 May 2010: You respect and admire him.... (read in full...)
I had a dream my bf cheated on me!
Q. I had a dream my boyfriend cheated on me.? He had sex with some girl in a closet, then some where else too but he wouldn't confess that. Then he was telling me all of this like he didn't care, like this was nothing. I woke up with my heart poundin...
A. 11 May 2010: I think you are scared you can't trust your boyfriend, scared that he will hurt you. Perhaps you have good reason to be scared, but perhaps you are worrying over nothing. Best to not tell him about that dream or he might think you don't trust him.... (read in full...)
Are these signals mixed?
Q. Me and my bf are both 16. We've been going out for 5 months. I'm confused about what he thinks about us 'doing stuff.' He's touched me everywhere but with the exception of a couple of times sticks to the outside of my pants when rubbing me 'down ...
A. 11 May 2010: Doing stuff in his mind equates to baby making. I think he means to say "no babies, no STD's and no intercourse yet!" However he sees touching as a no problem thing to do, and probably also thinks kissing is fine, but he won't get naked in bed with ... (read in full...)
My bf took me off his Top Friends list on Facebook!! Why would he do that?
Q. My boyfriend has a top friend list on his face book for 15 people and i was in it. Today for some reason he took me out of it! We see each other everyday and he is so loving and kind. And when i got home from his house i noticed he replaced me with ...
A. 11 May 2010: Because he doesn't care as much about a silly application on facebook and thought "no biggie". Don't get offended over this.... (read in full...)
I did everything he wanted and he still broke up with me
Q. Okay I started dating this guys five years ago, in the beggining he didnt want a relationship but after we became intimate,and i threatened to walk away if i dint get a title, he said lets be official. In the beggining my weight bothered him. I was ...
A. 11 May 2010: Stop talking to this man. He is confused, and honestly even if HE think you two have a future together, do YOU think you have a future together? Is he the best thing in your life, like he sometimes claimed you were?
This man didn't respect ... (read in full...)
Is it okay for my biological mom to date my brother?
Q. I was adopted as a baby and about a year ago met my bio Mum for the first time. Got on with her great and really glad I've met her. But a couple of weeks ago she told me she's dating my big brother and I'm really not happy about it. I'm only related ...
A. 11 May 2010: There is little you can do about that and it isn't your business. Yes to you it is akward, but like you said it's ok with them. If they care for each other then it's up to them to decide if they want to be together. You can't decide whom everyone ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend flirts with my cousin!
Q. Me and my boyfriend went on a small vacation to see my cousin, the weekend was expected to be really nice as i dont see my cousin very often (My cousin is female) When we got there all was pretty normal but after a while my boyfriend began tickling ...
A. 11 May 2010: She either didn't get that he was flirting, or she thought it was harmless and somehow thought you were cool with it. If not she sounds like a bad friend. In either case, even if she let the flirting happen, it is your boyfriends job as a good ... (read in full...)
I'm hot so how come I never get asked out?
Q. Im not ugly i swear everytime at school all the guys always say like DAMN when i pass by or LOTS of other things i never flirt with NOBODY though i dnt like to do tht cuz then they will call u hoe or somthin but the thing is that guys always check ...
A. 11 May 2010: Guy's are rude and can be immature. There's proper men out there though, so hang in there! I think you might be starting to get the "problem" pretty girls have: we don't get guys thats are into US, and not our bodies/faces! Guys look at you and ... (read in full...)
How big a deal is your partner's past?
Q. how big of a deal is your significant other's sexual past? she recently revealed that it is many more men than she said at the beginning of our relationship, and she hinted that there may have been 2 at once. this new information makes mor...
A. 11 May 2010: Could this cloud be imaginary on your part, or has things really changed? First off would be a good thing for you to think about how you oersonally feel about this. Do you feel hurt that she didn't reveal the real number right away? Did you really ... (read in full...)
How can we come to a decision on where to live?
Q. My boyfriend and I met in Costa Rica 4 years ago. I"m from the California and he is from Australia. We have lived in Costa Rica ever since. I go back to California about twice a year to visit. I have always struggled with being so far from my ...
A. 11 May 2010: I don't feel it is fair of him to not be willing to compromise. You should both give and come up with the second best solution for you both. Are there no places nearby your family that he'd be willing to settle for? A place not in a city perhaps but ... (read in full...)
How do I know if we have sex that he won't leave me the next day?
Q. Dear cupid, I met with this guy 6 years before, in a plane while i was 17. He is a pilot and I was just finishing my high school and about to start my university life and was heading to my allocated campus. I was with my dad and since we arriv...
A. 9 May 2010: I dont think you should give him so much credit for not using his strenght and raping you. In that respect every man should be praised for not raping women 24/7. A man can easily control his "needs" this way and NOT have sex. Just because he WANTS ... (read in full...)
Bisexual feelings interferring with committed relationship!
Q. ive been w/ my gf for 6 months. i really love her and seriously think she could be the one im w/ for life but about a week ago i realized im bi or at least bicuriuos. i told her and shes totally ok w/ it but since im in a commited relatioship i cant ...
A. 7 May 2010: The grass is not that often greener on the other side. I understand very well where you are coming from, I had the same "issue". I sometimes get the cravings to try on the other gender. Just to try it. But it hasn't been easy! Not sure how easy it ... (read in full...)
Comment I made has turned into a family argument and I'm expected to apologize!
Q. Hi guys, Back in march I wrote a post in here " back and forth online argument and I don't think I should apologise" Basically it was an argument between me and my cousin after I wrote on my facebook about children being messier than dogs...
A. 6 May 2010: Ah, now you see why we suggested you block her first... Show a zero tolerance attitude. As this as escalated to the next level, my advice is to rise above it. You sunk low and wrote hurtful things to your cousin. You should apologize for those ... (read in full...)
Madly in love with my music teacher but he's moving away!
Q. I'm sixteen years old and I am in love with my music teacher. I know many of you will think of me as an infatuated teenager but I'm seriously not. It's definately not a crush; I've had crushes before and they are nothing compared to the intense ...
A. 6 May 2010: This is a life experience, and not to be mean but I am happy you have learned it. I've met many people who didnt leanr this lesson, and made horrible decisions for themselves later on in life. What you have learned here is that you can only count on ... (read in full...)
Crazy mirror obsession?
Q. Well now I feel alot better bout my last question:) thanks you guys!!:D well now I need to learn how to be not self concious period.:) I've heardfrom everyone I care to much bout my appearence when I'm nervous or I know someones staring at me..:\ ...
A. 6 May 2010: Be confident! If you are confident you wont need to stare in the mirror to confirm how you look. If you are confident, you will look amazing even if you have mascara running down your face on a rainy day with your hair soaking wet. If you are ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my fear of kissing and touching? It is holding me back from getting into a relationship!
Q. Hey, heres the thing. I like this dude(I'll call him Fred). Well I think I do. I cant stop thinking about him. I dont really want to get into a relationship because I freak out about the whole kissing thing and the touching. I really dont know how ...
A. 6 May 2010: Tell Fred you like him, and if he likes you back, give him a brief kiss on the lips, take his hand, and go on a date together.
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I'd like to have reassurances that we're going to try for a baby at some point, and what to do if he doesn't really want children!
Q. I'm a little confused and need some help. I have been with my current partner for 4 years now. We have separated 4 times within the 4 years together so things haven't always run smoothly. Recently I have approached the 'baby' subject. I have me...
A. 6 May 2010: I think you are procastinating. You want children, and you've told him before. He said no. Then you think "well maybe later". Now you say hopefully in your mid 30-ties. You are already in your mid 30-ties.
No it is not easy to walk away! You have... (read in full...)
Husband doesn't want to work or do anything to help!
Q. Hi everyone i just have some problems in my marriage i've been with my husband 4yrs we have a 11month girl what happened we moved from PR 3yrs ago i was livin with his aunt when zhe found out i was pregnant she threw us out we had to live in a ...
A. 6 May 2010: Talking is fine. When you write down things you see them clearer yourself.
First question: do you see it best if you stay with your husband or not? I am all for respecting the committment, but I worry you are not in a position where you have the... (read in full...)
How do I know if we have sex that he won't leave me the next day?
Q. Dear cupid, I met with this guy 6 years before, in a plane while i was 17. He is a pilot and I was just finishing my high school and about to start my university life and was heading to my allocated campus. I was with my dad and since we arriv...
A. 6 May 2010: Red flags all around! This man just wants sex with you. He has little respect for you and I think he is a player! If a man respects you he will NOT nag! This man has been nagging and basically BULLYING you into a relationship with him. He is much ... (read in full...)
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