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30 October 2010: I have tried to keep my relationship problems away from this site as I do not want my advice to be assosiated to my own questions. However I have now learned an important lesson that I want to share with the rest of you, in the hopes that you will ...
What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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How long does it take for breast size to increase while on the pill?
Q. Hello all, I've been on Microgynon 30 contraceptive pill for just under a week now. I am 22 and this is the first time I've been on the pill. I went on it mainly to try and calm down my bad periods. But I am hoping I may increase my breast size a ...
A. 24 July 2011: I took Yasmin in my younger years, got pimples. Breasts stayed the same. Hair stayed the same. ... (read in full...)
How long does it take for breast size to increase while on the pill?
Q. Hello all, I've been on Microgynon 30 contraceptive pill for just under a week now. I am 22 and this is the first time I've been on the pill. I went on it mainly to try and calm down my bad periods. But I am hoping I may increase my breast size a ...
A. 20 July 2011: I use Microgynon and that's the only pill that I got that side effect with... Been on others and didn't experience any difference. It is too individual, some people react to one pill, another a different one.
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How long does it take for breast size to increase while on the pill?
Q. Hello all, I've been on Microgynon 30 contraceptive pill for just under a week now. I am 22 and this is the first time I've been on the pill. I went on it mainly to try and calm down my bad periods. But I am hoping I may increase my breast size a ...
A. 14 July 2011: A few months. Mine don't change a whole cup size they just swell up, so that some tops are too small, or some of the smaller bra's I sometimes can wear will be too small. I haven't payed much attention to how long it takes before I reach "full ... (read in full...)
Advice on how to have a relationship with my family that is emotionally safe for me?
Q. God I feel so pathetic writing this. I am a grown woman, in my early thirties! And I am writing a message like some emo teenager about how hurt I feel by the behaviour of my parents! I recently went through a divorce. I left an abusive partn...
A. 14 July 2011: I'm not sure you would call what your little sister gets as support. More than anything it sounds like they baby her, and to a higher degree than what it appears as to you I think they control her, and could possibly make her life miserable as well. ... (read in full...)
Would you date a girl with a moustache?
Q. Hi guys. I just want to know what u guys think of girls that have moustaches and if you can date one. Because i have a friend, a girl that has a moustache which makes her so self conscious and insecure about herself. Also what are the best ways to ...
A. 14 July 2011: Waxing it or picking it out hair by hair, or if she can afford it do a laser removal.
She could find a guy somewhere who would accept her as she is, but if she found a way to remove the mustache it would open up her options. Not to sound too shal... (read in full...)
Is it safe? Or am I getting paranoid about accidently getting pregnant?
Q. Ok, so two of the guys I've slept with can't figure out why I have to jump up and stop them before they put their fingers inside me after they just came and, long story short, got a little bit or even a lot of come on their hands. And if I was blow...
A. 13 July 2011: I think they might have tried to deliberately kept sperm alive outside the body then. I have a friend who studies medicine and I happened to mention this question to her, and she said the same as I did. It can survive minutes only. And only when ... (read in full...)
I am 24 and planning to lose my virginity to a prostitute. Any tips for a first-timer?
Q. Well I'm 24 and still a virgin and really tired of waiting. So I'm looking into losing my virginity to a prostitute in a few weeks. It's legal where I live and weekly STD testing are mandatory for prostitutes. I've given up on finding a girlfr...
A. 13 July 2011: It's not about you staying a virgin for a woman, it's more about a woman finding the act of paying for sex disgusting. Much like we would not advice any young woman to start selling her body for sex, or use sex only as a means to get her way with ... (read in full...)
He controls me and runs back to his ex, should I forget about him completely, or can I have both him and my happiness?
Q. Am I the one in the wrong? So, I dated this guy who was very, very controlling. I wasn't allowed to wear make up to school, low-cut shirts, or talk to other guys to cushion his extreme trust issues. We broke up nearly two months ago but for the ...
A. 13 July 2011: Hahahahah! You go girl! I love that you dyed your hair red and started claiming back your old life, right on the spot! After a break-up I also typically do something to signify entering a new "era" by dying or cutting my hair, so it's funny to read ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend caught me masturbating and said I was cheating!
Q. Hi everyone, So ive been dating this guy for 2yrs now, and i always ask him to take showers with me and his response everytime is no, then when i was in the shower i was masterbating when he caught me. When i got out of the shower he was so mad a...
A. 13 July 2011: If everything is in your name kick him out. ... (read in full...)
Can ex sex buddys be just friends?
Q. Hey everyone!! I have a question, so me and this guy have known each other for 3 years. We were friends, but we liked each other but then we lost contact. So I got a boyfriend and he got a girlfriend, but my relationship ended very quick. We were ...
A. 13 July 2011: It's just that the sex buddy relationship isn't definitely ended either. You can't say it has ended before you know you wont sleep with him again. It's not the type of relationship that has ended as long as you aren't physically in the middle of ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend caught me masturbating and said I was cheating!
Q. Hi everyone, So ive been dating this guy for 2yrs now, and i always ask him to take showers with me and his response everytime is no, then when i was in the shower i was masterbating when he caught me. When i got out of the shower he was so mad a...
A. 13 July 2011: You're done. Get this loser out of your life as soon as possible, he's just a negative influence on you. No friends, no privacy, no life of your own...? You know he's not good. ... (read in full...)
Kids today indeed!
Q. I made a joke the other day to my boyfriend, and while it was a little sarcastic and crass, it was true. Let me start this off by saying that this site is a wonderful thing, and I have recieved some very valuable advice from it. I've also been t...
A. 13 July 2011: You do have the chance to tell them you know. You're on here tackling one 13-year old at a time.
I've resorted to inform them about the use of condoms, so that they at least don't mess up and get pregnant on top of it all. Also, remember that whi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend caught me masturbating and said I was cheating!
Q. Hi everyone, So ive been dating this guy for 2yrs now, and i always ask him to take showers with me and his response everytime is no, then when i was in the shower i was masterbating when he caught me. When i got out of the shower he was so mad a...
A. 13 July 2011: Oh my, he's being pathetic. Please, leave him, he's not well. It is normal to masturbate, it is nowhere near cheating, and it is a special moment that you have, which he has NO right to attack you for.
What he is doing is shaming you for masturba... (read in full...)
Still in love with my ex, but she's getting married in August!
Q. This is a bit long and I apologize in advance for that. My ex girlfriend is getting married to a guy she's been with for two years now. She was my first love and although I've had other girlfriends after her, I still can't stop thinking about her. ...
A. 13 July 2011: Hi, I'm the second anon poster who said she might come back later on to add more. I was at work, so didn't log in on my account earlier.
Anyway... your last question was what would I do? I can picture your situation with ease, as it is one of m... (read in full...)
Have you ever dumped someone despite knowing how much they loved you?
Q. Who has dumped someone even if you knew how much they really loved you, and was how much they loved you the reason why?...
A. 13 July 2011: This really comes down what you mean by "true love". You can truly love someone, but still not get along. You can love someone to the point of hysteria, but still act poorly towards them.
I left a boyfriend once who I knew loved me, he was desp... (read in full...)
I thought it was normal to masturbate?
Q. so the other day i was playing never have i ever with my friends. we are all 15 and we are like the more popular girls in school. a few have them have had sex and everyone else has been fingered. anyways someone said "never have i ever mastraba...
A. 13 July 2011: They probably didn't want to look weird either, even you kept it to yourself. It's normal to masturbate, and it's normal to be embarrassed by it. ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I'll become addicted to the mindblowing sex!
Q. I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time the other day. It wasn't my first time altogether but it was my first in a few months. I'd only ever had sex with one other guy before but it wasn't all as great as I thought sex had been glammed up ...
A. 13 July 2011: It's tricky. But for now I'll say just go for it. Get addicted to it, and see how it goes. As long as your new found addiction doesn't get in the way of school or work or anything else, then enjoy. Just make sure you don't skip meals, you need a lot ... (read in full...)
Can ex sex buddys be just friends?
Q. Hey everyone!! I have a question, so me and this guy have known each other for 3 years. We were friends, but we liked each other but then we lost contact. So I got a boyfriend and he got a girlfriend, but my relationship ended very quick. We were ...
A. 13 July 2011: You're not friends, you are sex buddies. Appears like you always have been and will continue to be so.
Ex sex buddies can be just friends, sure, but he's not your ex sex buddy, he's still your sex buddy. You did say you'd have sex again.. and at t... (read in full...)
How can I get a girl to have sex with me in high school?
Q. first of all i mean no disrespect to any one who may read this so please do not take me as some horny teenager. to get down do it. this is my last year of high school and most of my friends by now have had sex all of them but me. and you want to ...
A. 13 July 2011: Why not take you as some horny teenager when your question is how to get a girl in high school to have sex with you? The question describes a horny teenager. If you aren't one, then why are you not looking for a girlfriend instead of a shag? Don't ... (read in full...)
Circumcised vs. uncircumcised
Q. Is there a difference between a circumcised and an uncircumcised penis when it comes to giving a handjob or a blowjob? I've only ever been with a circumcised man, and I was just wondering if there is anything I need to know should I encounter a man ...
A. 13 July 2011: The "eu natural" has foreskin, so move to work with. You don't need extra lubricant with them, you just move the foreskin up and down over the head of the penis vs with a "fixed" man you must add lubricant or spit or natural lubricant on your hand ... (read in full...)
Do I need to keep my opinions to myself or embrace my outspoken nature?
Q. lately people around me tend to think i am being a pain in the but or a jerk. i can not really figure out why this would be? i am one of the those people or at least i have become one of late who speaks there mind who doesn't take shit from any ...
A. 13 July 2011: It sounds like you never really tried to talk with her, but gave up. Your first challenge was to overcome your fear, and not run away. But you never got the point of having enough courage to talk to her first. Who knows what could have happened if ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I am an angel
Q. I am from Pakistan but moved to US one year ago. Just in matter of one month, I fell in love with a beautiful American girl who happened to be 8 years younger than me. She is very nice and always takes care of me like a prince. She's got me ...
A. 12 July 2011: Not all girls will be like her. It's an individual thing, not a thing dependent on nationality, or even upbringing.
First I'd think about why she thinks you can do nothing wrong. Is it because she is naive and inexperienced? Because that would me... (read in full...)
Girls: Have you ever been rejected?
Q. Girls have you ever approached a guy and had him reject you? I am not talking about being dumped. I am talking about when you first meet a guy, you put yourself out there and ask him out and he shoots you down. I have this theory. Most girls seem ...
A. 12 July 2011: Yepp, I have. I've also done the cheesy pick up lines, lol, they only work for people with a sense of humour.
Other times you try to be just nice and not flirty at all and still get shot down because the guy is stuck up and thinks you're all over... (read in full...)
Do I need to keep my opinions to myself or embrace my outspoken nature?
Q. lately people around me tend to think i am being a pain in the but or a jerk. i can not really figure out why this would be? i am one of the those people or at least i have become one of late who speaks there mind who doesn't take shit from any ...
A. 12 July 2011: I think you're right about the episode with the girl you couldn't get. I don't think this attitude you now show is you at all, it's just how you are when you are upset. You don't have to still have feelings for her to be upset about how the ... (read in full...)
I am 24 and planning to lose my virginity to a prostitute. Any tips for a first-timer?
Q. Well I'm 24 and still a virgin and really tired of waiting. So I'm looking into losing my virginity to a prostitute in a few weeks. It's legal where I live and weekly STD testing are mandatory for prostitutes. I've given up on finding a girlfr...
A. 12 July 2011: And my reply to that question was:
"First time advice for sex with a prostitute: let her do the work, you paid her after all, she knows what she's up to. Tell her you're a virgin and let her treat you right, she's no first timer, she'll know how... (read in full...)
It started out so great, but now I'm crying and wondering if he's going to break up with me
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 months now, my best friend and his best friend are dating, and they hooked us up because they thought we were a lot alike. He was great to me in th beginning and even drew me a yellow rose because he knows its my ...
A. 12 July 2011: It hurts, but this is the end Im afraid. If he doesn't know what he wants he doesn't deserve you! Remember that, you deserve BETTER. Ok? You might not think you do, but you do. You deserve someone who doesn't make you scared they will leave you, and ... (read in full...)
Alone and pregnant???
Q. I've been seeing someone for around 2 weeks now and there is a chance i may be pregnant already, however we have used contraception each time and i am going to take a home pregnancy test tomorrow to be sure, i need to get a chance to tell him that ...
A. 12 July 2011: There's no need to tell him about your fears. You take the test, on your own, you're a big girl you can handle it. Then if you actually are pregnant you have a talk with him about it. What do you expect him to do, watch you pee on the stick? It's a ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says I am a bad lover. What can I do?
Q. I am a relatively inexperienced guy when it comes to sex. I have watched a lot of porn. I have read a lot about it both in books and on the Internet. I have friends in alternative lifestyles who exposed me to a lot of things in conversations - ...
A. 11 July 2011: Hey, sorry for jumping in late on this question. I need to tell you though, you're not a bad lover. She is. Really. Don't believe me? You should. She's a bad lover, she's bad in bed, in fact she's horrible. Sex is between two people, but she treats ... (read in full...)
I am 24 and planning to lose my virginity to a prostitute. Any tips for a first-timer?
Q. Well I'm 24 and still a virgin and really tired of waiting. So I'm looking into losing my virginity to a prostitute in a few weeks. It's legal where I live and weekly STD testing are mandatory for prostitutes. I've given up on finding a girlfr...
A. 11 July 2011: Ok, come on, I didn't in any way verbally attack you. You're being defensive for no reason, besides I did give you the answers to your question. Only, not the answer you wanted to hear. If you only wanted one particular answer, like I said, why blow ... (read in full...)
Do I need to keep my opinions to myself or embrace my outspoken nature?
Q. lately people around me tend to think i am being a pain in the but or a jerk. i can not really figure out why this would be? i am one of the those people or at least i have become one of late who speaks there mind who doesn't take shit from any ...
A. 11 July 2011: Your new attitude is tiresome, that's why. It's annoying. We don't always want to hear lectures, nor are we dead interested in your opinions. It's also ignorant to believe you are so intelligent that everyone should shut their yaps and listen to ... (read in full...)
Wouldn't it be lovely if an STD/STI protocol operated? How does one confirm if a new partner does not have an STD or a STI?
Q. So,I just got out a long term relationship. So long that we were both virgins before we met and never had to worry about stds/stis. My question is, when I'm ready to get back into the dating world, how does sex work, in terms of, do most couples get ...
A. 11 July 2011: You wear condoms until the new partner and yourself have been tested.
Get yourself tested just for shows sake, even if you personally know you are clean. Do this when your new partner also does it, so you do it together as a sign of respect ... (read in full...)
Should I let my boyfriend finger me?
Q. My boyfriend wants to finger me should i let him? Im not realy sure what i want i do want him too, but i no there can be concequences. He is the same age as me. ...
A. 11 July 2011: Do you want to be fingered? That's really all there is to it. If you want it, go ahead. If you aren't sure, or don't think you want it, then say no. No more reason needed. ... (read in full...)
I need to stand my ground this time and not take her walking all over me, but I still love her! What should I do?
Q. First off my name is James, yesterday me and my girlfriend and her daughter went out to go eat. To celebrate our anniversary. We've been together for about 16 months. Lately i've been feeling unappreciated. I feel like i do everything in this ...
A. 11 July 2011: You've let her do this to you for 16 months now, and then you think suddenly reacting to it, when you've not reacted to it at all before, will make her change? You've taught her that this is acceptable behaviour! I will say that yes, her actions are ... (read in full...)
I am 24 and planning to lose my virginity to a prostitute. Any tips for a first-timer?
Q. Well I'm 24 and still a virgin and really tired of waiting. So I'm looking into losing my virginity to a prostitute in a few weeks. It's legal where I live and weekly STD testing are mandatory for prostitutes. I've given up on finding a girlfr...
A. 10 July 2011: I don't really understand how losing your virginity to a prostitute has anything to do with never getting a girlfriend or getting a kiss. If you pay for it it doesn't make it "real", with emotions and desire and the whole package. They really don't ... (read in full...)
My gf's vagina seems "loose"; does this mean she is not a virgin?
Q. I have a girlfriend who i love very much..she told me that she was a virgin (she never lie to me + i've known her long ago) but last time when i fingered her, my finger was loose as if she had had sex several times and feels no pain...could it be ...
A. 10 July 2011: Could it be because you are fingering her perhaps? ... (read in full...)
Do my positives outweigh the negatives? And am I date-able? And what can I do to improve?
Q. This is a silly question maybe. I am 21 years old in uni never had a proper relationship (had a very brief one once, but...). Been looking at myself and thinking about what I have or don't have... So looking at bad, the only thing is, a big th...
A. 10 July 2011: Oooh, I love evaluations when you're publicly allowed to do them without being pinned down as judgmental. I also pride myself with being a people knower, after decades of observing human interaction. I'll see if I can hit the nail on the head with ... (read in full...)
Love at first sight
Q. You can't have a committed love at first sight. If you say lust at first sight,i can understand that. There is a possibility also that what begins as lust can become love. It is a fanciful illusion to love somebody at first sight. You have to know ...
A. 10 July 2011: Maybe some people met in another life? It comes down to what you believe in, but no stranger than believing in gods. ... (read in full...)
Do relationships ever come out of FWB relationships?
Q. hi all do relationships ever come out of fuck buddys just wondering as me and this man are having sex and im really starting to fall for him i don,t want to tell him cos i don,t want to scare him off thanks everyone...
A. 10 July 2011: They ever so rarely turn into relationship, but to my experience they are never good relationships. A relationship can not last if it is built on sex. Which is why you should wait with having sex in a relationship, until the relationship is ready ... (read in full...)
Can I get herpes from being fingered?
Q. Yesterday I got fingered for the first time by my boyfriend and it hurt when we tried the first couple of times but then it was fine. He washed his hands before and after and his nails were cut so everything was clean.This morning though I was a ...
A. 10 July 2011: You need to educate yourself on STI's. Google them, find a teen magazine that talks about it, or your school nurse, or read a book on it.
No, you don't get herpes from being fingered. And if it hurt when he fingered you it can take time before t... (read in full...)
How is it that love doesn't find everyone?
Q. How is it that anyone can find love, but love doesnt find everyone? If theres someone 4 everyone, why is it that some never find anyone?...
A. 10 July 2011: Who hasn't been found yet? I don't know of anyone who hasn't experienced love in their life, and if they don't have it in their life at the moment it is their choice to be without it. More lifestory is needed here in order to see what's actually ... (read in full...)
Should I just let it drop and text him tonight and pretend this silly argument never happened?
Q. Heya :) So basically, I want to know if I'm in the wrong with my boyfriend. We're both 16 and have been together 10months. Things are good between us. I don't really have any girly friends to hang around with because I can't stand the bitchi...
A. 10 July 2011: You were rude to him in the text. You called him being nice "lovey dovey", which is offensive. You also added "for once" which implies he usually isn't, and it also implies you aren't appreciating it. It just makes it sound like you want to be angry ... (read in full...)
Is this pain normal? I am turned on, so it's not dryness!
Q. im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m I lost my virginity to my boyfriend 2 and a half weeks ago, it hurt a lot at first but the pain then subsided. I was very very tight, i was extremely wet and everything, and my boyfriend was gentle with me. ...
A. 10 July 2011: It wont be painful everytime you have sex, but you've just had sex three times. On average it probably only hurts the first two times, but it's just an average because for some women it doesn't hurt at all, while for some the pain lasts longer. The ... (read in full...)
Can I get an IUD fitted regardless of being 19, childless and still a virgin?
Q. I'm 19 and thinking about contraception for the first time. Having done a fair amount of research on all types available, the (non-hormonal) IUD sounds the most appealing. I'm wondering if I could have one fitted though - am I too young? Some ...
A. 10 July 2011: You can. They typically don't do it, but if you have good enough reasons or want it badly enough then maybe.
You still need to talk to your doctor about this, and why you want contraception in the first place. If you aren't having sex you don'... (read in full...)
Is it safe? Or am I getting paranoid about accidently getting pregnant?
Q. Ok, so two of the guys I've slept with can't figure out why I have to jump up and stop them before they put their fingers inside me after they just came and, long story short, got a little bit or even a lot of come on their hands. And if I was blow...
A. 1 July 2011: If he hasn't been getting sperm on his hands his hands wont be able to make you pregnant... Thats what I don't understand here. If you use a condom, then how would the sperm end up on his fingers? I've had sex in my life, but never ended up in that ... (read in full...)
Is it safe? Or am I getting paranoid about accidently getting pregnant?
Q. Ok, so two of the guys I've slept with can't figure out why I have to jump up and stop them before they put their fingers inside me after they just came and, long story short, got a little bit or even a lot of come on their hands. And if I was blow...
A. 29 June 2011: This is overly paranoid. What are you afraid of? Your uterus carries the eggs, not your hands. Sperm on your hands, or on the hands of your partner, is harmless.
It might be you have a phobia against getting sperm in contact with hands?
However... (read in full...)
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