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writes:HiMy abusive bf dumped me a week ago and im still struggling to move on. I havent contacted him from the day he dumped me.I had work the whole work, hence i didnt have much time to mope on, but since its friday and i have no plans for the weekend and i dont hv any friends either. How do i avoid not calling him on the weekend. Im kind of scared that i might again start begging him to take me back. I really dont want to do that, i never had much control on me when it came to my ex. I always give in to my impulse, How do i engage myself on weekends so i wont hv time to think and mope and call him and get humiliated by himPlease help me
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reader, Hollyhock  +, writes (18 May 2013):
Diatraction is the key. And getting out and about will be a good distraction. Also, being physically busy will help lift your spirits far better than staying at home.So, if you don't have a ready made circle of friends you need to (a) find some new friends and (b) find activities that will interest you and keep you busy. Look up volunteering activities on the Internet, there may be some volunteering activities close to where you live that you can do at the weekend. This will get you out of the house and help you meet new people.Look into things like organised dancing classes - both men and women go to these and you will also meet lots of people at those.You could also look at weekend working, in a bar or a theatre - you could make friends there.Evening classes are also a good way to make friends while doing something that interests you and takes your mind off your lost love.In the short term, i.e. this weekend, take yourself out somewhere lovely for the day in the car or on the bus or train. See if there are any activities taking place near you and go to them, Go to visit relatives or a distant friend.But most importantly of all, don't call him. You now have the opportunity to create a wonderful and interesting and happy life for yourself.I really do hope that you have a good weekend and continue to be strong.X
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (17 May 2013):
Time to find some new friends or start doing things to put yourself in some social circles. Even find a new hobby, visit relatives and generally do something than putting your body and mind gradually in a bad place. There are lots of things you can learn to do online, like online video games, tv shows, all good things you can use to distract yourself and give you the time you need to move on.
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