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Should I stay with my alcoholic boyfriend or leave?

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Question - (21 March 2008) 6 Answers - (Newest, 23 March 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

i have got a alcholic boyfreind i have been with for 3 years had a kid with him with is 18 months old what shall i do should i stay with him or shall i leave him cause he is drinking more than what he did when i first got with him

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008):

I have been in your situation and I had to get out because my self-esteem was becoming eroded and I was so unhappy. My ex refused to stop drinking and he would become nasty when he was drunk. Also, when alcoholics feel the compulsion to drink nothing will get in the way of that, not you and not your baby. You have to consider how your boyfriend's behavior will affect your child... because now it is not just you that is being negatively affected but also your baby. I can't tell you what to do, but I would suggest telling him you are leaving and you won't go back until he has completed a year of sobriety.He very well may never become sober but you have to love and take care of yourself. Good luck to you.

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A male reader, Uncle Trev United Kingdom +, writes (22 March 2008):

There is simply no future here unless he is willing to change.

Don't expect any change here as if he is not willing to stop for you and the little one there is not many more important reasons out there to give him the incentive.

He quite frankly needs to hit bottom before the incentive will be there.

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A female reader, hannah76 United Kingdom +, writes (21 March 2008):

hannah76 agony auntDrinking at an increased rate only goes one way........Downhill.

Health, happiness, violence, money, assets, mates(?) are all risks. I don't know your feelings or love for this guy, but be warned. I personally couldn't stay too long with an excessive drinker. Sorry. H.

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A female reader, thatgothgirl20 United States +, writes (21 March 2008):

thatgothgirl20 agony auntDoes his drinking cause him to get violent or do stupid things when he drinks?

Does he let it affect his work, or his time that he spends with you and the baby?

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A female reader, Harbbey3000 Nigeria +, writes (21 March 2008):

well,d decision 2 leave is entirely urs,love can change anything and anyone,so if u love him stick 2 him and pray.

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A female reader, Lo lo United Kingdom +, writes (21 March 2008):

You cant deal with a baby and a bf that drinks like that. If he gets violent then leave him. Dont put you and your baby in danger. You know whats best for you so ackt on it. Please please dont stay with him if he carries on drinking.he has to change.

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