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writes:My boyfriend is a bad pot head and sometimes he is the sweetest ever and other times he flips out on me for no reason. I have told him its over a few times but he always ends up coming round my house. Often in tears. So I feel bad and give him a second chance but I don't know whether I am being stupid taking him back all the time? Reply to this Question |
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reader, starfairy +, writes (19 October 2008):
 This sounds exactly like my ex. He was heavy into cocaine, which he gave up shortly before we'd gotten together. But he replaced coke with smoking weed, he would smoke between 1 and 3 joints a night that I knew of, he always said he would give it up soon blah blah blah...He lost motivation, would flip out at me totally randomly over stupid things like washing up liquid etc (don't ask lol)...He seemed to see himself totally differently in his head to the way he actually was.
He's a waster, still is a waster, and from what I've learned from the relationship, always will be a waster.
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reader, sunshine80  +, writes (19 October 2008):
I have been in a similar situation. My ex boyfriend smoked pot regularly and it wasn't till after a year of being together did he tell me that he smoked pot. I was devastated, I thought well if he really loved me he could stop. The truth is he won't. I didn't cause his addiction, I can't cure it, nor can I change it. He's 31 years old, didn't go to college, is in a dead end job, and lacks ambition and drive. He is a recluse, prefers to be with his family members who all get high with him, and has no friends outside his family. I have cried, begged and pleaded for him to stop, but he says I have to accept him and his addiction if I want to be with him. I have chosen to move on as difficult as it has been. An addict will unfortunately always be an addict. I would say you are better off with someone who wants to be with you in full consciuos awareness and who is willing to communicate with you with an open mind and heart.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Stop taking him back.
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reader, LittleTwoLegs +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Do you smoke pot yourself? Just wondering.
Me, I never smoke(d) pot, but I dated a few guys who did. While their company was enjoyable enough and I learned a little on how to be in a relationship...these guys are all deadbeats and a waste of time. I still speak with them every now and then over the internet (I live about 1000 miles away from them now), and none of them went on to get a degree or eve partially care about a future beyond making money to support the habits, and of course music and video games.
After the last pothead I dated I decided that I wouldn't date any more again--they are just a waste of time after a while, and don't appease anything other than temporary/superficial needs. Can you honestly take this guy seriously? I'd say not. Since those times I've had to deal with a lot less bullshit and a lot more quality in interaction. There is better quality out there for you hon, so don't settle for anything less!
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reader, PianoPunkGuy  +, writes (7 April 2008):
I'm currently in a realitionship where drugs where a very big issue for over 3 years, and let me tell you...
If he really has a problem with drugs, well... there's nothing you can do about it, only he can quit and change his life. And if you persist taking him back you are not doing him a favor, and in the process he will drag you down into his problems. Besides, from what I can tell you are taking him back just out of pity, and thats not good for you.
Drugs cloud your mind and make you hurt the people you love, be carefull. do you really love him that much to go down that road with him?
Yeah sure, some will say that you could stand by him and help him thru, but do you really love him or is it just pity?
Take care, you might go down into his hole.
Take care
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