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What is more pleasurable?

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Question - (1 July 2011) 20 Answers - (Newest, 2 July 2011)
A male United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Just out of curiosity what is more pleasurable vaginal or anal sex for both the guy and the girl?

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (2 July 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony auntyes it can be pleasurable and yes it can hurt

start small with maybe your smallest finger.... use lots of lube...

some men really like anal penetration and some do not... it's not a sign of being gay or bi and it's not a sign of anything other than a personal preference.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2011):

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Puting dildos in your anus can be pleasurable? Does that hurt?

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A male reader, Yos Netherlands +, writes (2 July 2011):

Yos agony aunt"I would do that what possible enjoyment can come from that."

It's 100% ok not to want to try something. But don't judge others on something you have no experience of.

This is true of all things in life, not only sex.

Stay safe!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2011):

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Thanx for the answers guys

I never wanted to do anal I don't like the thought of it.

And you no way you really think I would do that what possible enjoyment can come from that.

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A male reader, Yos Netherlands +, writes (2 July 2011):

Yos agony auntAs a guy I can tell you the large majority of women I have had sex with preferred vaginal, but not all. A couple said it was equal, and a couple even preferred anal (albeit when very turned on, and with vaginal stimulation too). And yes they were telling the truth.

For a guy the tightness is a bit of a myth in my opinion. It's 95% mental and has more to do with trust, power, and being dirty or naughty etc.

I also think it has a subconscious connection to being much more likely to get pregnant. But that's just a random theory I have.

Lastly, since you are curious and a guy, may I suggest you use a penis-sized dildo on yourself to experience what it is like to be on the receiving end. I think any guy who wants to 'give' anal should know what it's like to 'receive' it. You'll be much more considerate, and also would never dream of pushing it on someone who doesn't want it. You'll also realize it can feel great, if done at the right time and in the right way.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2011):

I don't get the most pleasure out of sticking my penis in any orifice, regardless of where it is located.

What I get the most pleasure out of is seeing and feeling my partner getting maximal pleasure, and receiving the same from her.

Now, I may just be like a highly trained dog that likes to eat cheese (which in my case would be having my own orgasm), wagging my tail and doing what I'm expected to do (perform oral sex well), then getting the cheese (my orgasm) as a reward for my performance (her successful orgasm), but if so, I'm still a very happy dog...wagging my tail...

Bark!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2011):

To a man, they're fairly similar sensations, though anal can feel a bit 'nasty' if you don't do it right. Get it spot on though and it can prove a huge turn-on from the 'taboo'/porn association...

My g/f has _massive_ orgasms from anal though we only practice it occasionally. The skin between the anus and vaginal canal is very thin, and the angle of penetration is perfect for anterior fornix stimulation (google it), which is normally (literally) out of reach for vaginal sex.

For the woman it can hurt - so do it slowly and gently and be prepared to pull out as many times as she needs to feel secure.l

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A female reader, k_c100 United Kingdom +, writes (2 July 2011):

k_c100 agony auntMy 28 year old boyfriend has told me he prefers vaginal, he has no interest in anal at all. There's another male opinion for you!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2011):

My girlfriend had had anal sex with one person before me - her asshole (pun intended) of an ex who bullied her into doing whatever he wanted in bed, whenever he wanted it. Needless to say, she didn't enjoy it.

Then one time last year we were having normal (vaginal) sex but somehow ended up "playing in the back yard"... I was very paranoid about hurting her so took things slowly and gently, and by the end she'd come so much she squirted everywhere. She said it was the best sex of any kind she'd ever had.

Her theory is that I was hitting her deep spot but from the opposite direction. There is nothing in the anus that by itself could cause a woman to orgasm. I googled it and found accounts from other women reporting the same thing - even some who wouldn't normally climax through intercourse had done so from anal penetration.

I wouldn't recommend it on a regular basis, but when/if you do gentlemen, be very considerate and LISTEN to your partner.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (1 July 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony auntI just asked my bf for you ...

38 yr old male likes both prefers vaginal

there's ONE data point...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2011):

Ok i think everyone should speak for themselves! Lol. Thats more of a personal opinion. Im a woman and for me i would have anal sex over vaginal sex ANY day! Vaginal sex is a bit painful for me. Dont get me wrong anal can hurt if you dont put it in slowly but once its in you can be as rough as youd like its great! My bf prefers vag tho. So i do it for him...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2011):

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I expected to find most women not likeing it

I don't watch porn I find it digusting I get no pleasure from it so my head isnot messed up I just wanted to know.

Hopefuly some guys will anwner

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A female reader, Tbosse South Africa +, writes (1 July 2011):

Tbosse agony auntVaginal sex is the best!

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A female reader, lost.dreamer Canada +, writes (1 July 2011):

I don't enjoy pain, life is painful enough, I don't understand why some guys like to take something pleasurable and make it painful, some guys can get in enough trouble by hurting their girls unintentionally, why put a strike against yourself intentionally.

Just a thought...

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A female reader, celtic_tiger United Kingdom +, writes (1 July 2011):

celtic_tiger agony auntCan I ask if you have been watching porn?

99.9999999% of women prefer vaginal sex - that is what it is designed for.

The anus was not designed for sex, it is functional to expell waste, and therefor is not equipped to cope with having something shoved in it. The vagina produces its own lubrication to make sex fun, exciting and enjoyable.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2011):

I don't know about men but for women i'd say vaginal. Anal sex, in my opinion, is usually done because they guy wants it. It isn't a nice experience and can be extremely painful.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (1 July 2011):

person12345 agony auntSeeing as the majority of women not only don't find anal sex pleasurable but downright painful and uncomfortable... Do I need to say more on that?

Apparently one of the main reasons some men want anal sex (according to several men's magazines and hearing from quite a few men about this) is not curiosity or because it's tighter but that he enjoys knowing the woman is uncomfortable with it. Of course not all men feel that way, but for many anal sex fans the discomfort/pain is the main attraction.

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A female reader, sammy1986 United Kingdom +, writes (1 July 2011):

i find vaginal sex much much more pleasurable than anal as this can be uncomfortable men usually like anal as it is more tight for them

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A female reader, k_c100 United Kingdom +, writes (1 July 2011):

k_c100 agony auntWell I am female and vaginal sex is far more pleasurable for me, anal sex I have found to be painful and uncomfortable, even with lots of lube.

I dont think I can speak on a guy's behalf of what they would find more pleasurable - I'm sure for some guys they like anal, some will like vaginal and some will like both.

Everyone is different and likes different things, it is all about trying out different things in the bedroom and seeing what works best for you. But be warned, often with girls they might not like anal much because it is a weird sensastion for us girls and only a certain few women enjoy it.

I hope this helps and good luck!

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (1 July 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony auntah now my day is complete...

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