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writes:I'm very sore after having sex with my boyfriend and I don't know how to tell him. Not just in my private parts, but all over my body. My upper and lower back hurts so much! I'm 26 years old and he's 48 years old. He's a heavy and muscularly type of guy. I haven't had a lot of sexual experience before him and I don't know if this is normal or not. During sex, sometimes I said ouch because it hurts and he stopped and asked if I'm okay. I don't want him to feel bad, so I tell him " to just keep going" Yesterday we doing it (doggie-style) for the first time and things got kind of rough, by mistake he banged my head against the wall, I got drooled on and he snatched my back with his fingernail. We have sex about 4 days a week and we do it twice that day. I don't want to look like a big baby by asking him to be more gentle, but I also feel like I'm being banged to death. How do tell him what's wrong without hurt my boyfriend's feelings? Reply to this Question
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (28 July 2011):
 Why don't you tell him it's your turn to show him what you like, and then show him? Take control from start to finish, and tell him he has to let you do all the work.
Use gentle soft touches and caress him to the point where he is begging for it. Then ride him with the pace and pressure that works best for your pleasure.
Then the next time you can use that experience to remind him to slow down and touch you more gently by saying something like, "not so hard, do it like I showed you".
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reader, tasha013 +, writes (28 July 2011):
tasha013 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to thank everyone that answered my question! Great advice! I gonna stand up for myself and let him know what's on my mind.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (27 July 2011):
 Better said to free yoself from pain.otherwise self would turn out a nightmare other than pleasure filled fun.goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2011): Why don't you tell him? It's not being a baby about it.
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reader, Margot56  +, writes (27 July 2011):
 A relationship involves respect and caring between two people..so realize that you do have a say in how he's making love to you. Tell him to go easy and get his ardor under control, because you are getting physically hurt, here. It sounds like he gets a bit too wrapped up in his own pleasure with little thought for you.There is no reason for that to happen, he should be wanting to pleasure you.
There is nothing wrong with making your needs known. Speak up and he should respect that. Tell him exactly how you like having sex with him. If he's a good guy who cares, he will want to make the changes in order to make your lovemaking more enjoyable for you. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2011): If your arm was broken, and your boyfriend kept hitting it by accident without knowing it was broken, would you be a "big baby" then? I don't have much experiance with sex, but if something hurts, say something. Your boyfriend cares about you, but doesn't know i somethigs wrong unkess you Say something.
Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2011): If your arm was broken, and your boyfriend ke
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reader, goalstopper +, writes (27 July 2011):
just tell him. He might appreciate your honesty and thats how you know he really loves you.
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