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Is it rude for two people to have sex while you're in the room?

Q.   Does anybody else think it rude for two friends to have sex whilst your in the room! It made me uncomfortable, but, I perhaps I'm taking life too seriously or something. How would other people react? Btw it was a group if us sleeping at a mate...

A.   25 April 2010: I find it repulsive. I would be pissed and I would have given them a piece of my mind. They could have gone outside or just waited until another night. I am 20 and I have never done it with someone else in the room and I have never been in the room ... (read in full...)

Sex with him still hurts

Q.   i have been with my boyfriend for nearly 14 months, and we have sex often.. just one problem, it still hurts me if he goes in to far. he wasn't my first, but it feels like he is. he is on the bigger side. but i would have thought i would have go ...

A.   25 April 2010: He is hitting your cervix. You can control this in all positions. In missionary move your legs down farther. In doggy tilt your butt down. A cervix is usually between 6-8 inches in so just move around so he cant hit it. Its completely normal but it ... (read in full...)

What can I do to really turn my boyfriend on?

Q.   hi, i was wondering.... what can i do to turn my bf on?? is there any peticular thing that turns a guy on?? thanks x...

A.   27 January 2010: Everything is individual to a guy. Most like compliments just like girls do but what is sexually arousing varies. Its as wide as sexy hair, eyes, lips, boobs, lower back , tummy, butt, legs, feet, toes, get the point. Why not ask your boyfriend what ... (read in full...)

Hubby wants sex all the time!

Q.   I wanted to ask a question, my husband and I have been together for 15 years. I love him and he loves me but we've had some problems in our realtionship lately. Nothing that we can't work out together, but since the problems started, he seems to...

A.   25 January 2010: Well if he is anything like my ex it might be because you guys are having problems. My ex and i still see each other and he still loves me but I just dont feel the same and my ex still tries and some times succeeds at having sex with me and when I ... (read in full...)

I've got itchy balls.

Q.   what does it mean if my balls itch but theres no spots there is it herpes?...

A.   25 January 2010: Well you can go get tested for STDs. There also lots of other causes like if you shave the stubble irritating the balls or if you dont wash well enough or often enough there could be dead skin build up which can cause itching, you could also sweat ... (read in full...)

10 min and he still hadn't cum.

Q.   i had sex with a guy am dating and he was pretty big and he took soo long to c'um so i got soo tired am gave up..he wanted to go second round.. but i was soo weak that i was in the mood to go another round.. we got kissing he was tryna make me ...

A.   25 January 2010: No its not your fault his actions were very rude and he seemed selfish. However most guys take more than 10 minutes. My ex and i usually went for at least an hour and a quicky to us was 30 minutes so there is nothing wrong with him either he is just ... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and want to know..why do I want to have a baby?

Q.   I am fifteen(10th grade) and I want to be pregnant. Plz don't say I'm stupid cuz I'm not going to become pregnant I just want to know why I feel this way. My bf and I are very serious, like engaged serious, we are sexually active and everything and ...

A.   25 January 2010: Because you are 15 and your hormones are crazy and telling you your fertile. Its normal I was the same way as you and even now at 20 I want a baby but I am so busy with school and work that I barely have time for my dogs yet alone a baby. The thing ... (read in full...)

Wondering if my periods are normal

Q.   I'm 13 and I've been a woman for a little over a year now, but my periods aren't regular and sometimes I miss 3 or 4 at a time and then a heavy one in the middle of the month that lasted bout a week for the flow to finally stop, and then last month ...

A.   24 January 2010: Yeah it is normal your body is trying to figure everything out but if it really concerns you you can talk to your mom and doctor about the benefits of getting on the pill for a little bit to help regulate when you get your period, help with ... (read in full...)

I'm 18 she is 14 we need some legal advise

Q.   i am turning 18 soon. my girlfriend is 14. we live in pennsylvania. we have been dating for a month. i was told i can be arrested for sexual harassment and be a registered sex offender for dating a minor, even so much as kissing her. is there a way ...

A.   22 December 2009: The information is correct. However there is nothing you can do until she is 16 then her parents can let you guys get married. If her parents really are comfortable then you dont have too much to worry about. Just leave the more intimate stuff, like ... (read in full...)

I'm from Montana, and dating my fifth cousin. Does anyone know if this is illegal?

Q.   i'm from montana and i found out i'm going out with my fifth cousin, is it illegal for us to be going out? or would everything be ok...

A.   12 September 2009: That is legal its considered distant family and there is nothing legally wrong with it in the USA.... (read in full...)

How to prevent pregnancy?

Q.   I am in a relationship and we have had our first baby together. I'm on the pill but I still don't want to get pregnant again. My partner doesn't enjoy sex with a condom so what other ways can prevent pregnancy??...

A.   10 September 2009: The IUD is a good form and the shot and the implant in the arm.... (read in full...)

Stress causing boyfriend to smoke and I don't like it!

Q.   My boyfriend has recently taken up the habit of smoking. I know that he's under a lot of stress in college. His mother and nearly entire family smokes, so he's pretty used to the concept. Here’s the big points: I have a breathing disability. Ciga...

A.   9 September 2009: I went through the same thing with my ex. I have hay fever and cig smoke causes ear infections and tonsillitis in me and he kept doing it and we lived together. It took me ending up in the hospital not responding to antibiotics for him to stop. He ... (read in full...)

Am I actually squirting?

Q.   Hello all I have been searching about squirting during sex. I played with myself with a toy. When I felt that pressure like I had to pee I was told to push with my muscles. So I did well needless to say warm liquid came out and even though it didnt ...

A.   9 September 2009: Yeah that is squirting and it sounds like you are describing it as not that good. I squirt and to be honest its not the best cum ever. Its OK it relieves a little pressure but i prefer to not squirt. If it wasn't mind blowing that's normal.... (read in full...)

She says her sides hurt right after sex

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years now. and all 3 years we have been having sex. Just recently she started complaining that right after we're done having sex her sides hurt really bad... Can anyone maybe enlighten me on why that can ...

A.   8 September 2009: She could be tightening her stomach during sex. I used to do the same thing and when I would feel the pain I would take a breath and relax because I never felt it until it hurt.... (read in full...)

My mom is taking me to get a pregnancy test, I'm scared, don't want to raise a baby, please help?

Q.   I'm 14 and could be pregnant, i had sex with my ex 3 month ago and have missed every period, my mum has only found this out today, so she is taking me for a preggy test but the thing is im to scared incase i amm. im not sure how to bring a baby up ...

A.   7 September 2009: First off why did you wait so long? If you are pregnant you are having a baby you need to decide if you are keeping it or adopting it out. You are too far along for an abortion. Now you know not to wait.... (read in full...)

I want to talk after sex, he doesn't!

Q.   when i have sex with my boyfriend i love it but when we get done he is always tired and it seems like he never wants to talk after we do and i love to talk after im a romantic girl that likes to talk about it after its over. he is always tired i ...

A.   5 September 2009: You should look up what happens to the brain after sex. A chemical is released that relaxes a person and often makes then sleep. He really is tired from that chemical and it has nothing to do with you. Google it and do some research and be glad he ... (read in full...)

Met my real sister on facebook but am feeling scared to meet up in real life!

Q.   Hey I’m 14 and I’ve just found my biological sister on facebook and she’s really nice and kind and she acts like she really cares about me and she’s just said she loves me even though we only met on facebook a few days ago. Let me start from the...

A.   4 September 2009: I just went through this a year and a half ago. I had a half sister and brother I had never met and my dad didn't know where they were and I found them through myspace. I was nervous to meet them. My brother was nice and my sister definitely had the ... (read in full...)

I like the way he smells when hes dirty

Q.   My boyfriend of 6 months is very athletic. He plays sports, goes to the gym and works out everyday. Some days he showers three times and uses body spray after each shower. I don't want him to think I am weird, but I like the way he smells when he ...

A.   4 September 2009: Tell him you LOVE his natural smell and it makes you so hot. He will be so excited and want to please you he wont put on that stuff again. Guys will do anything to make you hot and its a simple as get all sweaty in the fun way he wont think twice.... (read in full...)

He changed his pet name for me -- am I overthinking this?

Q.   I know that this question is ridiculous -- I'm embarrassed to ask my friends because I understand how silly it sounds. But the guy I've been dating for a little while has suddenly stopped calling me "sexy" and now calls me "baby" exclusively. We ...

A.   3 September 2009: The term baby, at least to me is more affectionate. He loves you and the pet name should mean more to you.... (read in full...)

I've been away at college for two weeks, but I think I've made the wrong choice.

Q.   Hey okay so this isn't a relationship problem persay more of just asking for advice in general. So I am away at college its my freshman year the college im attending is 14 hours away from home I know its only the second week and I need to give it ...

A.   3 September 2009: I am starting in my third year. I lived with my now ex while going to school and I prefer to go to class and leave as soon as class is over. I haven't made friends with anyone on campus and I prefer it that way. I am happy with my life without ... (read in full...)

How do I punish my son for what he did?

Q.   Our 3 year old is very intelligent. He can write his name, sing the alphabet and ride a bike without training wheels. He is an excellent talker and even uses big words to describe things in detail. HOWEVER, he is mean to our dog. I keep ...

A.   1 September 2009: OK this is normal. I was just like your son super smart and mean to pets. Now I am the biggest animal lover you would meet. I think taking the dog away would be wrong this dog is so great its sadly the perfect learning tool because it doesn't ... (read in full...)

Could I be pregnant? What is this bleeding?

Q.   Okay I'm on Birth Control. About a week ago I missed 2 pills. so when I went to take it on that morning I had to take 3 pills so I wouldn't skip the other ones. the next day I woke up and was bleeding. my period pills don't come until another week ...

A.   1 September 2009: You need to contact your birth control provider now. It says if you miss a pill DO NOT take the ones you missed just resume taking them as normal. You have overdosed your hormones and you need to contact your birth control provider and go in have a ... (read in full...)

If you take a bath with your girlfriend or boyfriend, what part of their body should you view first?

Q.   If you have the chance to take a bath with your girlfriend or boyfriend, when she/he get nude, what part of her/his body do you view first? ...

A.   31 August 2009: Well since you are a boy start with her face then a quick look up and down and back to the face. It will make her feel beautiful and special that you are not fixated on her sexual parts. Make sure you do admire her but starting with nonsexual things ... (read in full...)

Could I be pregnant, if we had unprotected sex?

Q.   Ok so if been on birth control pills for about a year now. Like two weeks ago I stop taking them because of risks and stuff. Four days later after I stoped taking the pills me and my boyfriend had sex without a condom and he ejaculated inside of me. ...

A.   31 August 2009: Yeah you could. The pill is such an ineffective birth control method because if you miss one pill you can get pregnant. ... (read in full...)

I don't like it shaved!

Q.   I am what I think is a straight male. I however, cannot get aroused over a shaved pussy. There is nothing more repulsive than to see a five oclock shadow, stubble or worse, pimples! Now that ALL women shave and as I believe, we as a society are ...

A.   30 August 2009: I think you are just old fashion and having a hard time coping. I am actually shocked that women in your age group do shave. Try talking to the woman you are with and tell her its sexy hairy and see if she will do it for you. You are also at the age ... (read in full...)

I lied about losing my virginity to a girl I met over the Internet, and when we meet she wants to have sex with me! What should I do?

Q.   So I am dating this girl that i met online...yes i know a long distance relationship blah blah blah. She told me she has a sexual past and just so she wouldn't think I was a loser I told her I wasn't a virgin. I really love her and we have been ...

A.   29 August 2009: When you get there talk to her face to face and be honest. Tell her your virginity is something you were embarrassed about. I am sure she will love it. You know guys aren't the only ones that love a virgin. Just be honest face to face.... (read in full...)

Only 14-25 year olds answer, please: I'm unsure about what to expect when it comes to handjobs and giving head.

Q.   hello, i am a 14 year old girl going into eight grade. this is the grade where girls start to give hand jobs. I am just unsure of what i should do if this comes upon me, and how it will come upon me. will he most likely ask me to do it, or will...

A.   29 August 2009: I am 20 and all I can say is wait. It was so magical that we were each others first. I was young I was 15 but I knew I was with the right person. If you are with the right person then you can talk to them and they will tell you what they like and ... (read in full...)

Size and ability to maintain erections

Q.   I have a question, what make a man's penis "small"? and should a man blame his girl friend or wife for loosing his erections or not being able to get one when he's with her? If he looses his erections with his "hot" wife, is it possible that he is ...

A.   29 August 2009: An average is 6 inches. I think if a man loses an erection it is his fault. Whether it is medical or in his head it is still him and he needs to deal with that whether it is going to a doctor or addressing the issues that make him not comfortable ... (read in full...)

Can you stop taking the pill, then start again when you know when you are next having sex?

Q.   Hello, I have a very simple question. I am on the Pill (Yaz) and have been for the last 4 months. I will only be seeing my boyfriend in 4 months (december) and was wondering if I could like , pause on the pill and then start re taking it again....

A.   27 August 2009: You can stop for a little bit but to be safe I would use it the month before he came. I think it takes like two weeks to work but I could be wrong on that number so start a month before.... (read in full...)

Do you think there's a chance my baby will survive?

Q.   I found out I was about two months pregnant, about 2 two weeks ago. I went to the hospital two days ago because was having a cramp on my left side for ten minutes straight and had a light to medium brown discharge. They told me that I will miscarry ...

A.   27 August 2009: I think you need to go to an OBGYN immediately. This story doesn't sound right because if you were destined to miscarry the doctors would have caused an early labor/ abortion to terminate the pregnancy because it is safer to do it in the hospital ... (read in full...)

Is the vagina usually always warm or only when turned on?

Q.   Pls is the virgina always warm in temperature or is it only when the lady is sexualy excited or wet....

A.   26 August 2009: Its always warm. ... (read in full...)

After b/f found out I'd been sexually abused, he no longer wanted to have sex

Q.   soo, im 18 years old and my boyfriend and i are ready to have sex. the thing is when i was younger i was sexually abused. ive have years of therapy and ive come to terms with what happened to me. ive accepted it and im ok, and even with what ...

A.   26 August 2009: Your boyfriend needs help. He feels like if he does to you what hurt you you will only think of the bad that happened and you will view him as a monster. He needs to find a way to get into contact with woman who have been abused and men of girls who ... (read in full...)

Am I being "hoeish?

Q.   0k.. I just started high school and i want an boyfriend but its too many Boys trying to talk to me at once. I am currently talking to 3 boys and i wanted to know if i am being "HOEISH" because i dont know who i want?...

A.   26 August 2009: You would be hoeish if you were sleeping with all of them. This is completely normal at your age as long as you are not having sex. You are talking to different boys learning what you like and don't like. It will help you know when you have met the ... (read in full...)

23 year old son wants to meet with a girl he met online. Is it safe?

Q.   Our 23 year old son lives with us, and he's in university doing a 4-year business course - it got delayed for financial reasons. He's doing well academically. However, he told us yesterday he wants to meet this girl he met online - he got talk...

A.   23 August 2009: I understand your fear. You should let them meet, hes going to do it any way. However you should make sure they meet in a public place: movies, restaurant, mall. You also have to make it very clear that she is not allowed to know where you live. ... (read in full...)

Is wanting t be friends with ther gay men a betrayal of my boyfriend?

Q.   I am in what feels like an impossible situation. I have been in a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend for five years. I never really had many friends but of late have started making them. I am gay and would like to have some gay friends as w...

A.   23 August 2009: You are in a hard position that many couples face only its harder for you. Everyone likes to be around others like them and in a heterosexual relationship this works because you hang around people of the same gender so there is no fear of being ... (read in full...)

I'm afraid that once he sees my stretchmarks he won't want me anymore

Q.   My bf and i know each other for 2 yrs and been dating for 8 months.Im ready for sex but im ashamed of my body.I have stretch marks everywhere arms stomach breast and hips.I got them when my body started to develope. I feel really ashamed bcuz when ...

A.   19 June 2009: I am the same way and you know what my man loves me just how I am. Doesn't want me to change one bit. Touches and kisses me all over all because he loves me. Your man will be the same way because he loves you. He chose you over all those flawless ... (read in full...)

I'm pregant and want an abortion, but I'm scared to tell my boyfriend

Q.   Im 19 years old and took a pregnancy test and it was positive. im not ready to have this child nor would my boyfriend but i just found out 2 days ago and not sure when or how to bring it up let alone tell him. what should i do? I am scared that i...

A.   30 May 2009: I think that if he loves you and he is not ready to have a baby he wont break up with you over this information. The only way he will end things is if he finds abortion wrong and you still get one, which sadly I would agree with him. I realize it is ... (read in full...)

Could having an orgasm help my period start?

Q.   Hi, im 14 and havent had my period yet! idk if theres something wrong with me but all my friends have it. Im not under developed. Ok but i was wondering if maybe an ogasm could have had an effect on me getting my period or not?? i need answers! ...

A.   28 May 2009: Orgasms have to do with vaginal wall contraction, while your period has to do with ovulation of the ovaries. Orgasm will not help that. As far as everyone else s post they are right enjoy that you don't have you period and don't actually stress ... (read in full...)

Girls, would you be attracted to an average looking guy with a nice body?

Q.   I recently signed up to my local gym, and im looking forward to working out and getting "ripped", i dont want huge muscles but i want to be defined and have a flat chest/stomach, and strong arms. My question is to all the girls and i want a com...

A.   28 May 2009: If i have to judge someone on looks I tend to like the guys with a little weight but toned arms. I like someone it is comfy to cuddle with but I know could defend me with his arms if he had to. However I am the kind of person that judges on perso... (read in full...)

Do you like it when a guy kisses you all over?

Q.   Girls and ladies only! Do you like it when a guy kisses you all over? And where? ie. cheeks, lips, neck, ear, part of chest. I do it all over, so is this creepy or just passionate coz i alter the pace from very soft to all over :P please tell me...

A.   26 May 2009: I love it. It shows affection and appreciation for the body. It is great!!!... (read in full...)

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