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I don't like it shaved!

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Question - (30 August 2009) 13 Answers - (Newest, 31 August 2009)
A male United States age 51-59, *gw1968 writes:

I am what I think is a straight male. I however, cannot get aroused over a shaved pussy. There is nothing more repulsive than to see a five oclock shadow, stubble or worse, pimples! Now that ALL women shave and as I believe, we as a society are heading to a hairless lifestyle, am completely loosing interest in females. I don't get excited about men but what am i?? asexual?? gay???

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009):

Wow... not that your dilemia is funny... but this was a surprising question to me... I must be really old or totally out of it... because I didn't know ALL women shaved. Of course I had heard of it but I didn't know it was the norm.

Just for the record, I don't shave other than trimming up for a bathing suit. AND I never even gave this issue a thought... I think I will do a survey with my girl-friends because I really find it amazing and doubtful that shaving is the norm unless you are only looking at women in a much younger age bracket.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009):

when yoou find a woman, ask her to stop shaving. problem solved.

i only shave to accomodate men. id preffer not to to be honest.

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A male reader, bgw1968 United States +, writes (30 August 2009):

bgw1968 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Hey thanks to all who posted to my dilemma. I just wanted to add to it that i do not currently have a mate and haven't for about 5 years. I know it is a preference but, its not 50-50 half the women shave half don't. its like 99% shave the rest are retired. So my chances of meeting a women who doesn't shave is slim to none and i think slim just took the last bus out of town.

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A male reader, Beingblack United Kingdom +, writes (30 August 2009):

Beingblack agony auntPeople like what they like, there is no real right or wrong about personal tastes.

As an older man, I have no particular preference. I have been told that many women shave, while many others trim, and the rest stay natural. A preference to one or another does not make you gay. It's just your preference.

Having said that, do you honestly have emotional connections with the women you have sex with? When I am about to have sex with a woman, it's because I find her incredibly attractive in both mind as well as body. A small detail like a pubic hairstyle would not increase or decrease my pleasure. I'm there with the woman because I find HER and all the things about HER attractive. The look and feel of a smooth pubis compared to a hairy one should not matter at all to either partner, IF their relationship is based on something deeper than just sex and looks.

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A male reader, JSBach United Kingdom +, writes (30 August 2009):

It's definitely your age. Remember the first dirty magazines you saw as a boy? All the women in them had nice hairy bushes, and in all probability the first women you slept with were hairy too. It's what you're used to.

There's a story which may or may not be true about John Ruskin, the nineteenth century art critic. He was brought up on classical images of women with no pubic hair. On his wedding night he was horrified to find out that women actually have hair down there. The marriage was never consumated and was eventually annulled.

I just hope that young people growing up with porn these days don't have a similar disappointment when they get to see what normal people look like naked.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009):

My take on it is that my preferences were formed in the 70s, when shaving was practically unheard of. So I'm completely with you -- I don't like it at all, either. I have no idea how you get around the problem, though.

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (30 August 2009):

Fatherly Advice agony auntIt is not unusual for a man, or woman, at your age to have a declining interest in sex. If you read here regularly you will see it happens everywhere. You may feel that this lack of desire is an indication of a change in sexual orientation, but it really is a sign of decreased hormonal activity in your body due to age. As we age we tend to resist change, we know what we like and we know we don't have to change our likes to fit every new style. For you to strongly express a dislike of shaved women is just you saying what you like. I have never really understood the attraction to it myself. Now if we could only find some women who don't like shaved faces on men. . . .

FA

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A female reader, SugarCookie United States +, writes (30 August 2009):

I think you are just old fashion and having a hard time coping. I am actually shocked that women in your age group do shave. Try talking to the woman you are with and tell her its sexy hairy and see if she will do it for you. You are also at the age where you are losing your sex drive.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009):

No, you want a woman who looks like a woman and not a 10-year-old girl. Perfectly healthy mindset to have if you ask me. I'm a female and I shave, but not because guys like it...I just find it less annoying and more hygienic to shave it all off every couple of weeks, keeps it nice and short.

I'm pretty sure most women you date would not have a problem ditching the razor, the bumps, and the itchy ingrown hair issues if they discovered you prefer things to be natural down there. Talk to your lady and let her know what you like!

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A male reader, Chuckmate Australia +, writes (30 August 2009):

i like it hairy too! and you just have to tell your partner bout it,what turns you on,be open to her, so women will do anything to make their man happy all the time,even it take that they don't shave they will do it, I am open bout it to my lady and she finds weird and funny,I take care of her,tream it keep it clean. it's fun when you open bout it, it's not bout being gay or what!

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A female reader, Felisha Marie United States +, writes (30 August 2009):

Felisha Marie agony auntWell, you're definately not straight because you're questioning it. I think you're too uptight really? How's your sex life, if I may ask? Loosen up and enjoy the pleasure more, be more appreciative of a women's...or man's body!

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A female reader, califnan United States +, writes (30 August 2009):

califnan agony auntI guess I haven't been out there in a while.. Do all women really shave? Maybe they do it to accomodate men? It is a great idea that you have posted this to give your views as a man .. But personally I don't know that there would be any fulfillment outside of marriage anyway .. Now if you were married, instead of practicing - you could tell your wife your wishes.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009):

Honey, dont worry!

I know MANY guys that dislike a shaved area for women and themselves.

Most of teh guys I've dated hated the "baby look" (completly shaved).

However, I do belive that a mid term is appropiate, and so do they. Most of my male freinds dislike the baby look, but also are repulsed by a amazon forest down there.

Perhaps you are then encountering a moment in your life where you would like to experiment new paths or even explore your sexuality in waysyou had not before.

Just because you are repulsed by "down there shaved" does not mean you are gay, it simply means you'd prefer a more hairy woman.

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