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writes: My boyfriend recently split up with me. Things weren't good between us we always argued and I was feeling a little insecure because believe it or not I loved him so much. As things got so bad I turned to texting another male, suppose I liked the attention, but then my ex found out I regret everything that's happened. I love my ex an I want him back. I've still been seeing him and things are good when we're together; we do have so much love for each other but when we aren't together it's like he's just not bothered about me. He says he wants me to show him I love him and that he can trust me but how can I do that if he'll hardly spend any time with me? Should it be that he only see's me when it's convenient for him?
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (9 March 2005):
 Well, it could be that he is only seeing you when it is convenient for him. Does he reassure you when you are together about how he feels for you? It is all very well him testing you but you said you were also feeling insecure, so does he make you feel more secure when you spend time together?You need to discuss these issues with him. Explain how you can't really show him you are trustworthy and that you think the world of him if he doesn't spend much time with you. Perhaps ask him what he thinks the future may hold for the pair of you. Also explain to him why you were texting someone else in the first place. We all do these things for a reason whether right or wrong. Let him know how insecure you were feeling and that you still feel that way now.Ask him whether you are back together now. You are both still seeing each other after all. Surely this type of committment means that he also shouldn't be seeing someone else? You need to let him know that when you are apart it feels as if he isn't too concerned. The most important thing here is to achieve knowledge of where exactly you stand and you can only do this with conversation.Good luck.
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