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writes:I like a certain guy and he likes me in a certain way too. Earlier he used to have those serious looks whenever we met. But nowadays, he is quite sweet and charming with a hidden smile in the corner of his lips when he is not smiling. Otherwise I have seen him mirroring my reflex facial expressions. He does not do everything like a puppet. But a quick smile of mine, my relaxing the eyebrow at the sight of him or mostly any unusual and sudden expression. But he does mirror them for a sec involuntarily and turns away or looks down may be when he realises he did that. This a very recent and fascinating development. Its very cute to see him as I am seeing this for the first time in my life.Does that mean he is attracted to me? Subconsciously, I mean.Does it gaurantee that he likes me? I have read about deliberate mirroring for flirting. But this is not IT.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't disagree with you. May bedeep inside I want you to say that he has taken into me that he has started mimicking my emotions nonconsciously. And may be everything is in myhead, only there.
Yet, its amusing and its the first time I'm seeing this happen with a guy who is not so close to me. Whenever we meet I have noticed that we can't help but smile at each other. He has been looking at my lips too. Ahhh I wish I wish! But no preening, alpha male signs have been shown. But not all men need do such stuff.
If my eyes and my mind are fooling me then eyes aren't the windows of your soul and silent romance has never existed in this world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): I think you're missing the point here.
So I'll say it simply, it is not a solid indication of interest in you romantically.
I think you're looking for interest in him, so you're finding lots of little signs and making assumptions. You read somewhere that mirroring is a sign of interest and now you're looking for it in him and trying to gauge from that whether he likes you or not. When you can't because the only proof that someone is interested is when they kiss you, they tell you or they ask you out.
Everything else can be anything else.
If you look hard enough for something with an idea in your head, such as your mirroring one, then you'll see that even if it doesn't exist. You want it to be true so you'll mistake it for something which it's not. Like walking in your house in the dark, you're scared there might be a paranormal presence so you hear the door creak and it frightens you, even though it's only the wind nonetheless you assume it could be a ghost and you run to the light switch. You're assumption is what frightens you and perhaps your assumption of mirroring equaling interest is making you think he is interested.
He might or might not be interested but mirroring is not a good indication and frankly if you really want to know then just ask and stop beating around the bush trying to read signs and codes you read somewhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): Hey we have something in common!
I have actually had a guy who I'm very attracted to do this to me as well!
He has actually sat six feet opposite me and mirrored every move I made, if I stroked my face, so did he, if I touched my knee so did he. This went on for half an hour!
I actually thought he was doing it on purpose after a while as to me it was really obvious, so I made certain moves just to see if he did them next and gues what, YES HE DID!
I do know that this guy is attracted to me because he has shown lots of other body language signs over a good long time now.
You need to put lots of things together on this to come up with a good idea. These signs put together are called 'clusters'.
Try googling 'Body language signs of male attraction' they are pretty much the same in their descriptions, and once you read them and watch this certain guy for a while, you will have a good idea!
Of course it is always better to wait until a guy tells you outright to know for sure as well as watching him with other women and getting to know him as well as you can, as some guys do this deliberately to gain your attention and to give you the impression that they fancy you!
(especially experienced players)
Good luck in your observations.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks.
He is not a friend of mine. And all this happens before we start a conversation and not during or following one. And this has happened more than twice when we are away from a crowd only.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): PM is right, you can get that with female friends too. You become connected closely and you can finish each other sentences. Use the same slang to describe things. Mirror each others body language, posture and facial expressions. Think the same thing at the same time. Even your menstrual cycles can synchronize (not with this guy obviously hehe) All these are signs of a strong familiarity and perhaps a bond.
That's all it guarantees, it doesn't mean he is or is not attracted to you but on it's own it's not definitive proof.
Do you have any friends or know anyone that picks up accents easily? It's the same as that. I have a friend and he can spend the night in the company of English people and have a slight English accent at the end of the night.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (13 November 2010):
 When you mirror someones facial expression, it means you are listening and taking it in what has been said and on a rapour with you. I'ts to re-enforce back to you what has been said by facial expression rather than words. A good listener will do this. Have you noticed sometimes when you talk to people, they can't look you in the eyes for too long before they are looking elsewhere away from your gaze. He sounds like he's trying to get to know you better. Good Luck!
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reader, PM  +, writes (13 November 2010):
 This is something that most people don't even notice, so you can pat yourself on the back for being very observant.
Mirroring of facial movements and body language is something that happens unconsciously over time as rapport or connection is built up between people. It's an interesting thing to see when you look around in a coffee shop because the people who like each other will sit in the same way, have similar expressions on their faces and will generally be doing very similar things.
In general, mirroring is a good sign of rapport and comfort between people. It doesn't necessarily mean that he's attracted to you, but it's a sign that there's a good possibility.
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