Marriage or master's degree, which should come first?
Q. Please advice me, I am 25 male, handsome, working as economic analyst, but want to have my master within 2 0r 3 years, but same time want to marry....should i do master first and then marry or i should marry and then go for masters.... i...
A. 4 February 2011: Masters Degree...no if and's or but's about it!... (read in full...)
Horrific noises during sex are really embarrassing me!
Q. So, I'm in a new relationship and he's the biggest I've ever been with. He likes to eat me out, or go down on me or whatever, but whenever he does, my vagina makes this farting noise. It's completely embaressing for me, and completely takes me out ...
A. 4 February 2011: Lol. yes I was embarrased as well but men love it! so forget about it forreal.... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with me for wanting to work things out with my abusive boyfriend?
Q. My bf of 2 years has become more emotionally abusive lately. Everytime i try more to be nice to him, he pulls off more, but still i couldnt hate him at all. I know i shouldnt take this abuse anymore but i couldnt leave him either. I really wan...
A. 4 February 2011: No you are not crazy. But you need to stand up for yourself period. Stand your ground, you will feel so much better after and he will be shocked and will respect you more. When he gets abusive via text, phone or in person say something like "do ... (read in full...)
We love each other but lately we're arguing all the time
Q. Ok so I've been dating this guy for almost 3 years now. About a year ago, we started talking about getting married...but he recently told me he wants to wait until he's done with school and has a job (we are both mid-twenties, I graduate in April, ...
A. 4 February 2011: Yes. No one likes something rubbed in their face especially when it is hard to apologize to begin with. No, do not leave him. But if he does leave you please please please handle it like a lady. Cry when you get off the phone. If he breaks up ... (read in full...)
So what comes next? I don't want to jump right into sex so do we start using our hands next?
Q. Alright. I'm 24 and I've been dating a guy (26) for a little over a month. I like where things are going with him but am a little uncomfortable with the idea of sleeping with him just yet... it hasn't been proposed but let's face it, it's on his m...
A. 4 February 2011: Do not do all that. Just wait until you are ready to have sex to let him touch you inside your pants. You will be looked at like a tease. Just don't let it get that far until you are ready for that. You night as well have sex if you are going to ... (read in full...)
Why do I get soft halfway through sex?
Q. What could it be if halfway through sex I go soft? It will get hard again if given time, but I'm not sure why it does it at all? ...
A. 4 February 2011: It may be your health. How is your diet? Your arteries may be clogged. This is worth seeing a doctor about. Start eating healthy and do a colon cleanse. That may help, but definitely go see about it.... (read in full...)
We love each other but lately we're arguing all the time
Q. Ok so I've been dating this guy for almost 3 years now. About a year ago, we started talking about getting married...but he recently told me he wants to wait until he's done with school and has a job (we are both mid-twenties, I graduate in April, ...
A. 4 February 2011: I know how you feel. My boyfriend use to do this and it hurt and stressed me out to the fullest! Now is not a good time to talk to him about it. I advise you to chill out. He is probably stressed and needs you to understand. Back off and let him ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I feel anything real for him?
Q. Can you actually fall in love with someone online? I have been talking to a man with whom i went to school and have been chatting for about 3 months. He says he thinks of me as the one that got away and that he wants to rekindle a friendship with ...
A. 4 February 2011: You can develop feeling for someone that way. But it is important to be with him in person asap so you won't be dissapointed. Also, people and easily hide behind their words. Why don't you guys talk on the phone?... (read in full...)
Having a casual drink with my ex tonight, however I have other intentions!
Q. Hi, i am so nervous i feel sick.. i am meeting my ex tonight for 'a drink' We were only only togther for 3 months but it was very intense and moved quite quickly. thing is he wasn't ready after a painful break up but we ignored it and got very inv...
A. 4 February 2011: Be just that. His friend. Do NOT talk about getting back together if you want to be with him. That will push him away. Be fun and have a nice time. Do not put any pressure on him. This will take time. Just look beautiful and enjoy yourself, ... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to feel resentment toward his child, I need help to handle this situation!
Q. Ok - Here is the situation... I have known my husband since I was 15, we made out one night at a bar when I was 19 and I never heard from him again until I was 25. I was a super mess, my Fiance at the time had cheated on me and sent me the pictures ...
A. 3 February 2011: You are the one with everything she has nothing. You should have put your foot down in the begining and said what you would and would not do in a nice but stern way. She has no respect for you. I would have to agree with your husband about trying ... (read in full...)
Is 'no contact' the right way to get her back?
Q. basically,my and ex and i broke up around 4 and a half months ago.it came out of nowhere,we were very much in love we talked in dept about our future,she told me she never met anyne like me and etc.the break up was down to silly arguments because of ...
A. 3 February 2011: Yes. Stick to your guns and do not contact her at all. When she contacts you just be fun and nice. Do not bring up the relationship at all. ... (read in full...)
He hasn't replied to my second text of the morning
Q. Hi all, i need advice really, about something thats worryin me a little....... On new years eve I met a guy and had a one night stand with him. He was amazing. I really fell for him but was too shy to ask for his number, the next day he left, and I ...
A. 2 February 2011: Just be patient. Then when he responds you take at least 20 minutes to respond. He is not obligated to respond to you right away.... (read in full...)
He works so much I feel like a single parent
Q. The roads are treacherous and icy today, the kids are home from school. My husband, although having the option (from his boss) to work from home, got up before the crack of dawn and spent over two hours to get to his office in a commute that ...
A. 2 February 2011: Wow. I have never been married but I can imagine to an extent. It seems as if you have exhausted all of your resources. Maybe go for a trial separation before divorce. Sometimes it takes a person not having the other person to realize. You know ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hasn't tried to reach me in 2 days! How long should I wait before contacting him?
Q. Hi my bf of 1.5 years is acting out weird lately. Always finding excuses not to call me or hang out with me. He is acting like real jerk, heavely fliting with other girls and stuff. I started to think he lost interest in me, so i stopped cal...
A. 2 February 2011: Call him on the sixth day. HE may need space. Sounds like you are smothering him a bit. So just be patient and wait for his call. Hopefully he calls you before the sixth day. IF not, there is a problem.... (read in full...)
I feel like e-mailing my ex after months of no contact...
Q. How do you convince yourself to just leave your ex in the past? It's been months since we last spoke and we don't have anything to do with each other anymore. I wouldn't say I'm over him, but I'm doing fine without him. Now I suddenly feel like ...
A. 2 February 2011: Just wait for him to email you. Judging by your post I can see you have tried to contact him in the past, sometimes with no response. The ball is in his court.... (read in full...)
I have just found out that my ex was seeing another woman in the months before he left me, how do I deal with this?
Q. I'm not sure why I am writing this but, somehow I feel if I write about what I am feeling right now it will help. My ex fiance left me after 7 yrs. together basically for someone else. When he first ended it with me he told me after a huge argument ...
A. 1 February 2011: He met her and started seeing her while seein you. It happens every single day. Yes it was wrong and he decieved you but I do not believe he intended to hurt you. I think he got himself in a terrible situation and was completely confused about ... (read in full...)
Is it okay for a FWB, to flirt with your friends, should I discuss it??
Q. Do you think it's okay for a fuck buddy to flirt with your friends? Also, should you talk to him about it?...
A. 1 February 2011: He can do whatever he wants. You are not seeing him on a romantic level. FWB is a disrespectful situation and I hope you never enter into a situation as this again. Not trying to be mean but it is belittling to allow this arrangement.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend lied to me about her ex!
Q. What should i do....my girlfriend lied to me about her x not being at her bday party?....lets call the girl b and the k....b was having a surprice party that her mom was throwing her and the mom had happen to invite her x....so after the party she ...
A. 29 January 2011: Why weren't you at the party? Forgive her, she lied because she did not want to hurt you or make you worry for nothing. Just make it clear to her never to lie to you again or you will leave.... (read in full...)
How do I become "just friends" with him if I have already fallen head over heels with him?
Q. Ok, here goes: A year ago I started dating a married man. In that time, we have "gotten caught" 4 times, (but not in the compromising position you are probably thinking) He left his facebook up, she hired a private investigator, text messages, etc. ...
A. 29 January 2011: You have no reason to be his friend. The best thing to do is to leave that family alone. Think about her. She had to hire a private investigator. Just move on with your life and change your numbers. Do not even say goodbye. He does not deserve ... (read in full...)
Men are such an enigma. What would you call this relationship?
Q. Its simple. I really adore this guy whom I kept meeting at work. Though not co workers we are in a formal set up. In years we have become warmer. He is aware of my problems n tells me Im around when required. I liked him and we kept in touch. Then ...
A. 29 January 2011: I agree with the anonomyous woman at the top. Do not share your problems with a man at first. That is probably why he does not contact you first. If you want to get to know him then stop what you are doing and become more positive. Next time you ... (read in full...)
Can I get pregnant if he came but I didn't?
Q. Is it possible that I can get pregnant if my boyfriend came in me but I never came? And I start around the 5th of every month?...
A. 29 January 2011: You having an orgasm has nothing to do with you getting pregnant. You should keep track of when you ovulate because those are your most fertile days.... (read in full...)
Why did she say I was the first but then tell the doctor differently?
Q. hey , well I am in a great relationship with my girlfriend had ups and downs but we talk about our problems which I thin maes us strong. I am the kind of guy who believes in plain speain and no lies as I hate liars. Anyways my girlfriend and I have ...
A. 29 January 2011: She should have never voluntarily lied to you. That is absolutely nothing to play with. She was very wrong and you need to let her know that and be serious about it because she is playing with your life. In the future handle a situation like my ... (read in full...)
How would I suggest we have a FWB relationship? And is it a good idea?
Q. Okay so, me and this guy "D" were dating for about a week before I found out he had been cheating on me with two girls. This happened around 6 months ago. ''D'' and I really haven't talked much since then until a couple days ago when I decided to a...
A. 29 January 2011: Completely terrible idea and even worse for you to suggest it. You will look like you have low self esteem and you will look easy. No man will ever respect you. I sure hope you decide against it.... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel as if I have a room mate and NOT a wife!
Q. Me and my wife have been married for 4 years and I have had lost my job and we had a baby and I have noticed that lately she has lost interest in sex, she has worked a lot more hours the last few months but here lately been saying I have a headache ...
A. 29 January 2011: Is she on birth control because that will KILL a womens sex drive. I mean KILL it completely.... (read in full...)
Shall I continue and pursue things with my love?
Q. hi everyone, i am female, in love. my last relationship was 3 years ago and it was awfully devastating as he left me after our wedding plans and everything was set, now i am inlove with a guy- who happened to be in an open relationship with a girl ...
A. 29 January 2011: Well, I think it would be wrong of him not to see you for a whole 2 weeks. I am confused, has he said there is no chance he will ever leave her? Is he saying her will never be exclusive with you? If he is agreeing to date you to see if you two ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to try and not love him?
Q. I've been having issues with my husband of 2years. I've been sleeping in another room for the last 3 nights. The maid had to work early today so i moved back into the bedroom i played on the computer for a bit being tired i went into our bed he just ...
A. 29 January 2011: How is he hurting you? Can you elaborate. I think what you are doing is a natural reaction. You are guarding your self and becoming to numb to to his actions.... (read in full...)
Sudden break-up?
Q. I met this guy at my job about four months ago. I decided to give it a try. He's about 6 years older than me so I thought everything would be ok as far as maturity and a relationship. We would always go places on the weekends and talk on the phone. ...
A. 29 January 2011: Here is my help. Do not say anything back at all! Do not even mention it to him. When you see him smile and say hi and keep it moving. Let his actions sit with him. One of two things will happen, he will miss you and contact you or he wont. If ... (read in full...)
Married 5 years, still virgins, help!
Q. This year I will celebrate my 5 year wedding anniversary. Unfortunately, my wife and I are still virgins. I love her with all of my heart. People that know us think we have the most wonderful, romantic relationship. Love letters every morning before ...
A. 29 January 2011: You two should go see a sex therapist or some sort of counselor about this issue for sure. Do you ever bring up the topic to her? Isn't that one of her marraige obligations in the biblical sense? She must feel very uncomfortable about sex. Is ... (read in full...)
Whats the appropriate age for sex?
Q. dear readers, i wanted to know when you people think is the appropriate age to have sex? i know you are supposed to when you and your partner feel ready, but is there a time that is t young? is 14 or 15 to young? what if you had been with your...
A. 29 January 2011: Wait until you are out of college. I say 25. I am not joking either. You will be much more wise then and even more choosy.... (read in full...)
Does this make him gay?
Q. My boy friend has a fantasie of me having both male and female sex organs, and he fantasizes' him preforming oral sex with the male organ, and also doing him from behind. Could this mean he is gay or bi and he's to embarrassed to say anything?? ...
A. 29 January 2011: Yes I would feel like he may be bi or completely gay and is trying to "appear" straight by having you as a girlfriend. Whatever you do, do not tell anyone about his comments because he is really trusting you with that information. ... (read in full...)
I had no feelings for him, so why do I feel like my world's come crashing down?
Q. I dumped my boyfriend because i didnt like him but only thought of him as a friend but why do i feel like my worlds come crashing down on me when i had no feelings for him?...
A. 29 January 2011: Because it is a change in your life. He may have immeadiately began to treat you differently after the breakup. You were use to him being there. But, do not go back to him because once you do, the old feelings will come back of you not liking him ... (read in full...)
Is this really just part of my cycle?
Q. hii.. just a lil question im just needing s few opinions from the outer world to compare with mums answer but ok ill jsut tell u lol.. its part of beeing a teenage girl -at 16- according to mum; whenever i go to the toilet i always find some sor...
A. 29 January 2011: It never stops. It is the vagina cleaning itself and it is designed to do that every day. This is why there is no need to douche or to clean the inside or the vagina. Only wash the labia majora. As long as the "white gloopy substance," which is ... (read in full...)
He had a girlfriend all along,yet he treated me like I was someone special...
Q. Ok so I met this guy at school about a month ago, December 2010. and he was really nice, he would open the door for me, and offer me a ride back home and he would text me all the time and call me. He was even willing to visit me in Vegas when I ...
A. 28 January 2011: His mother has issues. You may have dodged a bullet. Really, she makes no sense! Her reaction was crazy!... (read in full...)
Is she a loose girl? her type of manner is turning me off.
Q. hiya all, i have a liking for this girls who i'll call jane. jane says she likes me the same. thing's jane's always talking about other boys that wanna go out with her. it makes me uncomfortable and irked. why does she always do it everytime we ...
A. 28 January 2011: She does not know any better. It seems like she may be trying to make you jealous but it is actually making her look bad. You can definitely mention it in a non accusing way. If she does not stop then you can move on.... (read in full...)
Why doesn't she say I love you?
Q. The problem i used to have is that my girl friend will hardly say i luv u at the end of our talk on phone,even when i said dat she will hardly replied. She only does dat wen she is alone and i'm not comfortable with dat. I can't imagine dat, i've ...
A. 28 January 2011: Maybe she is just not comfortable with that yet. She may not be the type to say it everytime you guys get off the phone. Is it really neccessary for her to? ...Every single time? Let her come around in her own time to say it. How did you guys ... (read in full...)
Dating site guy turns out to be someone I already know!
Q. I am in a bit of a sticky situation. I recently signed up to an online dating site, having been single for too long. Now, I messaged a guy, as he was local, works in the same profession as me and looked nice. BUT I have just realised, I do...
A. 28 January 2011: How will he know it is you if he never saw you. Just delete your account... (read in full...)
Pregnant, cheated and guilt
Q. I've been with my boyfriend now for a year and a half. Awhile back I did something really stupid that I totally regret, I cheated on him one time with an ex of mine, which is so totally not me and I didn't mean for it to happen,and I realize how ...
A. 28 January 2011: I hope you did not tell her you cheated!!!??? That is no ones business but yours. IF you did, in the future I hope you never make that mistake again. Keep your darkest dirtiest secrets to yourself. People will hold it over your head and God ... (read in full...)
LDR trouble--she says she can't wait forever!
Q. hi im currantly involved in a long distance romance/love (as we are not in a LDR commitment) latley my girl has been really cold towards me and bitchy because of her frustrations that we cannot be togather all the time, im trying my hardest to ...
A. 28 January 2011: It sounds like she is trying to get you to put more effort in. She wants to show you her worth and what it would feel like not to have her. But, that is my opinion. She could be tired of you...but I really don't think that is what it is. Here is ... (read in full...)
Married lover wants me back into his life after everything he's put me through!
Q. I was dating a married man who never told me that he is a A pastor as well, we were so much in love I got pregnant with his child but then he begged me to Terminate the pregnancy as I was not planning to have a child With him I terminated ...
A. 27 January 2011: You got away. That is great. Stay away. Period. He is selfish. Find someone of your own...I beg you. You were strong enough to walk away. Please just stay away it will ruin your life. ... (read in full...)
He swore he'd never hurt me but I'm still insecure
Q. I need some advice about my boyfriend? Well, I was pretty much in bad relationships my entire life. When I was 16 until I was 22 I was in a relationshi with a guy who abused me physically and emotionally, he lied and cheated on me, and got me into ...
A. 27 January 2011: Relationships come and go. To love him is to risk being hurt again. But the more you stress out about it, the less you are able to enjoy your relationship. You must control your emotions before you run him off. That is enough to eventually ... (read in full...)
He had a girlfriend all along,yet he treated me like I was someone special...
Q. Ok so I met this guy at school about a month ago, December 2010. and he was really nice, he would open the door for me, and offer me a ride back home and he would text me all the time and call me. He was even willing to visit me in Vegas when I ...
A. 27 January 2011: This is what you do. Walk away. Tell him you really like him but you will not put yourself in that type of situation. Let him know to call you when he figures out what he wants. That is it.
I have been there and that is what I should have don... (read in full...)
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