He had a girlfriend all along,yet he treated me like I was someone special...
Q. Ok so I met this guy at school about a month ago, December 2010. and he was really nice, he would open the door for me, and offer me a ride back home and he would text me all the time and call me. He was even willing to visit me in Vegas when I ...
A. 28 January 2011: His mother has issues. You may have dodged a bullet. Really, she makes no sense! Her reaction was crazy!... (read in full...)
He had a girlfriend all along,yet he treated me like I was someone special...
Q. Ok so I met this guy at school about a month ago, December 2010. and he was really nice, he would open the door for me, and offer me a ride back home and he would text me all the time and call me. He was even willing to visit me in Vegas when I ...
A. 27 January 2011: This is what you do. Walk away. Tell him you really like him but you will not put yourself in that type of situation. Let him know to call you when he figures out what he wants. That is it.
I have been there and that is what I should have don... (read in full...)
I really wanna know where I went wrong so I don't make the same mistakes with others!!
Q. Some background info: I was married now I'm not. I am in my mid 20s. Anyway I went with my girlfriends to Florida and met this great guy. He was genuinely nice (trust me we did analyze him), wanted to know about me as a person and had long convers...
A. 27 January 2011: You can call him once more and leave a voice message. Tell him you wanted to say hi and see how he is doing. Tell him to give you a call back. If he doesn't then leave it alone.... (read in full...)
I need to know how I can fix my clinging-on-to-him without ignoring him...
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 11 months now and things were going great until I had Christmas break from college. I stayed with him and his family for a little more then a month. At first it was really fun and it felt like we were adults ...
A. 27 January 2011: This is what you do. No if ands or buts about it. Do not contact him first again!!!!! Let him contact you and you respond. This is how it should go. He text you..then you text him back ONE message only. He calls you...you answer. If you miss ... (read in full...)
In love with my straight friend, could we ever happen?
Q. Hi I am a gay man in love with my straight friend. I have always denied it to anyone because, We are both in relationships and never strayed but we are always flirting even his missus jokes about it. Nothing has ever happened between us but ...
A. 25 January 2011: Are you saying that the texting back and fourth already happened? Or is that what you think will happen if you tell him you like him? I am a bit confused.
Anyway, if that text convo already happened then forget about him on a romantic level. ... (read in full...)
How do you talk to men and build intimacy?
Q. So, my problem seems to be in how to talk to men. I don't know how to build intimacy. I always end up talking about politics or world issues, etc.... How do women talk to men, to make that connection? Any ideas/help would be appreciated....
A. 25 January 2011: It is always good to go back to the basics from our teenage years when we would ask questions like" what do you look for in a gf/wife, where do you see yourself in 5 years etc. You can even offer childhood positive experiences you have had and ask ... (read in full...)
Would this gesture of mine seem romantic or creepy?
Q. Hello, I would like to know if this would be cute or creepy. I this girl and I have been talking and we are really into each other I mean really. Anyways I am seeing her this Saturday and I am going to ask her to be my girlfriend. I want to make ...
A. 24 January 2011: It seems cute. But get her a bracelet instead. Save the ring for a proposal.... (read in full...)
He doesn't love/like me the way I love/like him...???
Q. my bf told me he doesnt love me the way i love him but then he explained and said to me that he meant to say he doesnt like me the way i like him. so whats the difference? doesnt that mean the same thing... like or love me. im confuse please help.....
A. 24 January 2011: Okay...this is what you do if you want to keep him. It is time to focus on other things. That does not mean you love him less. Start trying to read a book a week. Go into a private area away from him everyday for 1 1.5 hours or so. You will ... (read in full...)
Now I feel as if our whole relationship was a sham...
Q. Hi Jo I split up with my ex-boyfriend at Christmas 2009 after 2 1/2 years and have never really got over him as there was no official split as such - I thought (mistakenly it turns out) that we would work things out but he never responded to me so...
A. 23 January 2011: I know you are hurting. Did you contact him at all after the split? A part of me wants you to contact him to see how he is doing. But, a part of me also wants you to move on because I am scared you may be even more hurt. I feel so bad for you. ... (read in full...)
He doesn't love/like me the way I love/like him...???
Q. my bf told me he doesnt love me the way i love him but then he explained and said to me that he meant to say he doesnt like me the way i like him. so whats the difference? doesnt that mean the same thing... like or love me. im confuse please help.....
A. 23 January 2011: Did he say this as he was breaking up with you? It seems that he said love by a mistake. His feelings may not have grown into a true love for you. He changed it to like because he likes you but it seems you like him more.
If I had to guess, I... (read in full...)
She just up and left him out of the blue!1
Q. Hi all, Would like peoples views on the following. My friend is in a situation wher his girlfriend has left him out the blue for a friend of her's, myself and other friends of his think that she has just done it without giving it any thought as...
A. 22 January 2011: It sounds like she could have been cheating for a while and finally made up her mind to go with the other guy. It probably seems out of the blue to your friend but not necessarily to her. Who knows, the relationship may or may not work. If he ... (read in full...)
This guy runs a mile everytime I see him, what have I done?
Q. Hello everyone who takes the time to read this. Im sorry it will probably be long and maybe confuss you but Ill try to keep it short and simple. Ok i go to University and I share a Maisonette with 12 people (including me) we are seperated by 2 fla...
A. 21 January 2011: Maybe he was just being friendly asking you to go to the gym. Did you read too much into it? Also, he probably did not want to hold a conversation with you in the gym because he wanted to work out and exercise. But just ignore him, he does not seem ... (read in full...)
Teen mom?
Q. im in a 2 years relationship and we r great with my boyfriend...im graduating this year and we r planning to try for a baby:) whats the difficulitties of being ateen mom?...
A. 21 January 2011: Just do not do it. You will regret it. I know your relationship seems perfect now, but things change. Babies are cute yes and you will love him/her...but still wait. Let me tell you...a high school diploma is ABSOLUTELY nothing out here...an ... (read in full...)
She's the girl of my dreams -- how to proceed?
Q. What happens now? I'm pretty sure I have met the girl of my dreams. It's taken me a while to find her, and I am extremely happy with how things have been going so far. Spending time with her is amazing, we cuddle and talk and we have made...
A. 21 January 2011: Go with the flow. For me, I hate when new guys smother me. My advice will be to move slowly, don't pull out all your tricks at once. Call every other day for now. That way you can guage her interest and see how often she calls you. So, you can ... (read in full...)
Conflicted about asking a friend
Q. I really like one of my guys friends. I am not on the very slim side ,I hate that I am this way ,but I am. I not too fat though. Well I want to ask him out but I am worried that he will say no and then our friendship will be ruined. Also I dont want ...
A. 21 January 2011: Maybe try to spend more time with him. ... (read in full...)
Should I go for a sugar daddy?
Q. Hello everyone Ok i meet a guy online,the site was for ''sugar dadies and sugar babies'' lol so he contacted me and we had a coffee he is wonderful,rich,smart and very nice to be around with,he is 47,i am 19 yeah he can be my dad.lol he is willi...
A. 21 January 2011: Do not do it. Make your own money and do not depend on him. He obviously has issues. Who cares about his money.... (read in full...)
Does he like me or am I just a second option?
Q. Around March I received a friend request on facebook from this boy that was going to a college I had applied too. I didn't add him, just left it there and around july i finally added him because I was sure i was going to that college and I was bored ...
A. 21 January 2011: Some guys really do like the second girl and are scared, they don't really know her yet so instead of dumping the first girl, they will get to know the second girl to make sure the dumping will be worth it. But then..you have guys that are just ... (read in full...)
How can she survive on such little emotional sustenance?
Q. Sometimes, at night, when things are calm, I think about this girl who I spent the better part of last year thinking about, spending money on, and being emotionally tortured by. I distanced myself from her starting in October and now only communi...
A. 21 January 2011: Some people do not need an emotional connection. Especially depending on how they were raised, culture etc. ... (read in full...)
The date was good, but his f/b profile says I'm not a fit
Q. So I went on a date with this guy .. It was a set up from one of my clients . We all went out to dinner he was cute and very nice after dinner we stayed and had a drink and just talked . It was fun . He texted me we talked for a few days then we ...
A. 21 January 2011: I think you should just relax and have fun and stop googling him. Do not get caught up in that. Just let him pursue you. Go out and have fun. It does not seem like it has been that long so just be patient and whatever you do...do not let him ... (read in full...)
My husband hates me
Q. My husband and I have been married for less then a year. I love my husband very much, but lately I feel as tho he hates me. It hurts so bad the way he treats me. He calls me names, threatens divorce all the time and tells me he doesn't care about us ...
A. 21 January 2011: Back off. You tried giving more and that did not work. Something had to lead up to this. Does he think you smother him maybe? Anyway, you tried giving more, now try giving less. Focus more on you. Still be a wife to him but do less and do it ... (read in full...)
How long can a FWB situation last?
Q. I have been in a fwb situation for more than two years on and off. i was wondering how long can this situation last? ...
A. 21 January 2011: It will last as long as you allow it to last. It is hard to get out of a FWB situation if the guy does not respect you and only sees you as sex. It could progress but both parties have to want it. Why did you ask?... (read in full...)
I don't want him...doesn't he get it?
Q. My ex boyfriend who just continues to stalk me. He left me about two years ago to be with his baby's mother at the time (found out later on that the baby was was not his)he treated be really, really bad..he was verbally, mentally, emotionally and ...
A. 20 January 2011: I agree with the Aunt Honesty. You may be in danger if he still can't get the point. ... (read in full...)
I want to get married but don't want to force him to do so!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years now. We have lived together for 2 years. I want to get married and I am getting anxious. Every time we have talked about it, he always says he isn't ready to get married. I'm only 22 and he's 23, ...
A. 16 January 2011: You have so much time just be patient. He is not ready at all and there is nothing wrong with that. He is smart and you should be proud he is smart enough not to rush. Be thankful because if he does propose in the future you can be sure it is out ... (read in full...)
Do we need time away from each other to realize what we have?
Q. We have been married for 8 years now and were courting for almost 4 years before marriage. Everything was going great and we have had a very satisfying and fulfilling relationship. We understood each other perfectly and cared for each other. Until ...
A. 16 January 2011: Sure. Space does make a person realize what they have. When my boyfriend left me I realized what I had and did a lot of changing. It hurt that he was gone, but that had to happen for me to realize that.... (read in full...)
My friends say I never should have opened and read the email from my ex
Q. i was dating a guy which i fell in love with deeply who broke it off with me cause he was being deported back overseas the next day and was married with a kid, and he loves her husband, since then i have gotten over him after many tubs of ice cream ...
A. 16 January 2011: Let him back in your life if you love him. But, you must absolutely let him pursue you. Say you are open to starting over but you want to move slowly. Let him call most of the time and do not have sex with him until you establish a relationship. ... (read in full...)
My BF is an Insecure Odd Loner. How Do I understand him better?
Q. My bf frustrates me sometimes- I dont get him. We get along great, hes fun to be around and funny but he has a habit of joking 24/7.. it seems he can never be serious..even if I'm trying to be.I also have trouble knowing when he is serious - he ...
A. 16 January 2011: Just remember there is a lot of truth in jokes so when he says "I love my hedgehog," he probably really wants to say "I love you so much." He probably wants to be more serious but does not know how. My bf is like that as well, I told him it is ... (read in full...)
Husband cheated, I asked him to leave, but his parents live with us
Q. im constantly finding text messages from girls and my husband sending them to girls last night he got home at 3 am and he had a message telling her it was nice meeting you beutiful i cant wait to see you again sat. i dont have a girlfriend or ...
A. 15 January 2011: Are you renting an apartment? Is it in only your name? Can you cancel the lease and give his parents notice about moving out? Give them some time to find a place and you move. You are so so very young. Trust me you have so much time ahead of ... (read in full...)
What to do about a secretive, cheating husband?
Q. dear cupid for the past 2 years my husband has cheated on me with a 21 year old girl also other women call my home looking for my husband the 21 year old girl showed up at my house to see my husband i asked him if he knew her he said what if i do ...
A. 15 January 2011: I hope you have a savings account and a good job because that is your plan B. Leave him. He is not even hiding his cheating and he has zero respect for you. Look after yourself. Feel free to email me privately. Is your self esteem okay? Does ... (read in full...)
He asked me out but didn't pay for the date?
Q. A guy that I know is interested in me (we've kissed) asked me to hang out (alone for the first time, also this is the beginning of our "friendship"), but he never paid for me even though he treated it as a date (kissed me again)...is that normal? I ...
A. 15 January 2011: I do not feel a man should ask you on a date and not pay. If you do not like that either then do not date him. Men that are comfortable with that weird me out. I just feel men and women have certain roles and that is a mans role. Sometimes you ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm being ignored by my boyfriend...what do I do?
Q. I don't know why but I feel like I'm being ignored by my boyfriend most of the time, I mean if we are alone then everything is fine but as soon as anyone else is there he talks to them and I feel like he's just completely blanking me, its not as if ...
A. 15 January 2011: I think if you develpoed better social skills you would feel more comfortable. Are you shy? Try talking to people you don't know sometimes, a good way to meet friends. Just introduce yourself and mingle. "Work the room." Your boyfriend would ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my fiance with another girl and failed to use protection!
Q. i cheated on my fiancee of 6yr when she was pregnant. The worst i did was to bring the girl into our home and i slept with her without protetion. My fiancee got to know this through my skype on net. She confronted me with it, and i confess to her ...
A. 15 January 2011: All you can do is GET TESTED for one. You put her life at risk and possibly the life of your baby. Two...be very patient and earn her trust.... (read in full...)
I'm happy and in love with a married man!
Q. I have been married for 8 years and the last 3 years have been awful. My husband is on drugs and I have found several female numbers in his phone, on one occasion I caught him in my vehicle with a female. I have been with this man 14 years all ...
A. 15 January 2011: Why isn't he living with his wife? Does he also want the relationship to work between you two? Your husband is suffering from "don't know what you got til it's gone," syndrome. But this new man makes you happy. Very sticky situation. I say for ... (read in full...)
Feeling trapped about moving in together...
Q. Hi everyone My boyfriend and I are going to be moving in together for the first time at the end of this month. I was very excited at first, we've always talked and fantasized about it and it was actually me who got the ball rolling, but now...
A. 13 January 2011: I think you should wiat until you are ready and comfortable. I suppose you will always be a little nervous and scared. maybe talk to him about it.... (read in full...)
One minute I think he might be flirting a little bit and the next not at all and it just continues on in a little bit of a cycle... any thoughts?
Q. I've had a crush (thats the best term I suppose) on a guy that I've worked with for several months now and while workplace rules prevent anything the situation is about to change (so that we could date if we wanted) and I'm not sure what to make of ...
A. 13 January 2011: I say do not make any moves toward him at all. If he likes you he will come to you. If he seems to flirt just continue to be very nice to him, sweet as well. Be careful because you guys work together. you do not want to put yourself out there ... (read in full...)
I messed up because I was drunk and my boyfriend got the wrong idea and broke up with me
Q. this is too detailed.. but i think it's better so that the whole situation will be understood clearly.. We had been going out for 2 years and 10 months.. We saw each other almost everyday when he comes home from school and when my work for the day...
A. 13 January 2011: This is what you do. First, calm down. Do not contact him at all because he definitely needs time to cool off. Please do not beg, call repeatidly, or text long messages. You will be setting yourself up for failure. Mail him a nice card for his ... (read in full...)
I'm back in the love-state with him, but he has a girlfriend! What do I do?
Q. I'm a 20 year old girl and becoming crazy because of my heart racing and chaos in my mind. It's a long story but, in November 2010 i fell headlessly in love with this boy, he lives 20 minutes driving away from me, so i didn't saw him for a very ...
A. 12 January 2011: I would say if you want him then let him come to you do not pursue him. When he comes to you let him contact you most of the time, be nice and sweet and reply. Let him tell you he likes you first, let him take you out yada yada yada. After you ... (read in full...)
Stuck in a love triangle and needs help getting out of it!!! I don't know how to break up.
Q. I’ve got quite a dilemma. I’ve been in such a sticky situation this past year that I need all the help and advice I can get right now. Please give I am in such a tough situation that to get the best advice from everyone, I will have to give a ...
A. 12 January 2011: Definitely the father. No question. Just be honest and tell J over the phone that you have decided to make things work with the dad.... (read in full...)
He says he likes me but I think this is some kind of joke!
Q. im in a dilemma, i have been emailing a guy via facbook, i don't know anything about him apart from that he recently was in a relationship with a girl i went to high school with, they broke up around new years. i am really attracted to him although...
A. 12 January 2011: Why don't you give him your number and she if he calls.... (read in full...)
Feelings for my cousin are getting stronger, what do I do?
Q. I understand that we are cousins but that means nothing to me. I only played with her when we were little, and i don't remember a lot from back then. A decade and a half later I found a job that required me to move, and she lives in the area so I ...
A. 12 January 2011: Is she your blood cousin? Like, your mother or fathers sister or brothers child? I had a cousin come on to me and it completely freaked me out. I had just met him but it did not matter. It would be odd. I suggest you get your own place and stop ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend talking to my friend late ngt. Wondering was I cheated?
Q. I m in a relationship since last 4 yrs. We surely knew we are in love wit each other before saying it to each other. Tats 4 sure coz even my gf confirmed this. Before we committed, my gf used to talk late night from 12 am to 3.30am with a friend of ...
A. 12 January 2011: Wow. It sounds like you truly love her. She does not feel she is doing anything wrong. My bf feels he can't fully trust me because I am a flirt. It took me years to realize i was actually a serious flirt, I had to find that out on my own. It ... (read in full...)
Is this love or if not what is it?
Q. I have been with my current bf for 6yrs however within one of those yrs i had left em twice. I do love him dearly but im pretty sure im not no where close to being in love w/em like b4. I have confronted em on numberous occasions regarding issues ...
A. 12 January 2011: That is difficult. I suggest you pick up a part time job if you have someone that can sit with your daughter a few times a week. You should start to contribute so that he no longer has that upper hand.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to be a father figure for this other girl's child!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for five years and weve hit some rough spots every now and then. 2 years into our relationship he cheated on me with this girl he worked with. we ended up working through it and stayed together and since then he has ...
A. 12 January 2011: He sounds very young and immature and does not know the real work it takes to raise a child. He thinks it is fun and cute. It is not all fun and games. It is apparant he still has feelings for this girl now you need to figure out if you are going ... (read in full...)
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