Ladies and Men. How important is love to you...and is it worth fighting for?
Q. Ladies and men...have you ever fought for the one you loved even if they were in another relationship? If so, how did it turn out? I ask because I am currently in that situation. Some may think I am crazy, but would you really let the one you ...
A. 5 November 2010: In response to Anonymous. When I read your post I could not help but become confused, then smile and various other emotions. Wow, is all I can say. Your input was very well recieved. Thank you..I am going to always keep that quote and remind ... (read in full...)
He can't marry me because of his parents, and he won't even try to convince them.
Q. Dear Cupid I am in love with a guy younger to me by 3 years. We are together for 1 year. I am crazy about him and he says he feels the same way. So i brought about marriage few days ago and he says he cannot marry me since his parents wont acc...
A. 5 November 2010: Im sorry to hear you feel like that. Give yourself time to heal and then maybe in the future you can meet someone new. I do not think he is using you. Now that you say you are from India I guess maybe he does not really have a choice. I wish ... (read in full...)
OMG! I forgot how to date
Q. OMG! I forgot how to date Ok so I lost a good relationship. Now I want to start meeting guys. The thing is I think I forgot how to date. It scares me I a always looking at myself trying to see is this what guys like (hairstyles, certain attire, ...
A. 5 November 2010: That is hard. I would say get out and go to a number of things in your area. Google events in (whatever city you live in) and check it out. Be yourself, I suppose. ... (read in full...)
He already has a girlfriend - what is your opinion of me if I stay in this relationship?
Q. He says I'm all these great things, but I feel like I'm not good enough. Its definitely not a self esteem issue, its because he has a girlfriend, but he's having his cake and eating it too. And I'm allowing it. I think I've fallen in love with thi...
A. 5 November 2010: Do not give him an ultimatum just tell him to contact you once he has decided exactly what he wants to do weather it is to continue his relationship or be with you. And do not contact him for any reason!!... (read in full...)
I'm worried that this guy that I'm seeing is getting too attached too soon.
Q. In short, I'm worried that this guy that I'm seeing is getting too attached too soon. When we met, we spent a few weeks working closely together, during which time I deflected his advances, but we became firm friends. But when he left, I started ...
A. 4 November 2010: Absoulutely tell him the truth because there is no way you will get closer with him smothering you. He will be able to control it when you are honest. Just say it as nicely but as direct as possible.... (read in full...)
He can't marry me because of his parents, and he won't even try to convince them.
Q. Dear Cupid I am in love with a guy younger to me by 3 years. We are together for 1 year. I am crazy about him and he says he feels the same way. So i brought about marriage few days ago and he says he cannot marry me since his parents wont acc...
A. 4 November 2010: You may hurt worse in the future so maybe you should leave now. He is being honest. If you want to take a chance then stick around.... (read in full...)
Ladies and Men. How important is love to you...and is it worth fighting for?
Q. Ladies and men...have you ever fought for the one you loved even if they were in another relationship? If so, how did it turn out? I ask because I am currently in that situation. Some may think I am crazy, but would you really let the one you ...
A. 3 November 2010: Thanks guys all your answers were great. I think I am going to fight for him. Btw, I am not at his beck and call lol. But I thought about it and look at it like this: he is not married... Why would I walk away and allow him to get closer with ... (read in full...)
Ladies and Men. How important is love to you...and is it worth fighting for?
Q. Ladies and men...have you ever fought for the one you loved even if they were in another relationship? If so, how did it turn out? I ask because I am currently in that situation. Some may think I am crazy, but would you really let the one you ...
A. 3 November 2010: Thank you FI_THE_TREE! I appreciate your advice. Things are hard and it is nice to know I am not the only one. I do try to be there for him as much as possible. I am just scared he is going to get comfortable with the arrangement. I know at a ... (read in full...)
Help... I'm falling for my mum's boyfriend!!!
Q. I've got into a bit of a mess. Recently, i've been getting really close to my mum's boyfriend and I really like him a lot more than I should. My mum has been dating him for just over a year and he recently moved in but because she works away a...
A. 3 November 2010: Im not sure why you feel like that. I have never been put in a situation like that. I can tell you that it is not healthy and you have to let that go. Meet some guys your own age. He seems to be a nice guy and may be your stepdad one day. 31 ... (read in full...)
I think my ex may have borderline personality disorder...
Q. I would really like some help with this. I have just come out of a near 3 year relationship with my girlfriend who's jealousy, insecurity and mistrust of me destroyed our relationship. The 3 years have been an emotional roller coaster whereby my ...
A. 3 November 2010: If you love her why don't you find a relationship counselor and visit with her? As well as visit independently. That may help, you can be open and honest. It is all about reaching a mature level of communication and your ex has not reached that ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with me?? Am I weird?
Q. I've been going out with this guy.. hes soo sweet.. he thinks I am the girl for him, he says he loves me and i know he does:) we've had sex twice now and it was amazing.. i seem to be always horny and seem to be missing him all the time:( th...
A. 3 November 2010: I would say slow down and work toward that exclusive relationship between you give him too much. You may have high testosterone, I do, and I am more sexual than the average woman. Just learn how to control it and be cautious with whom you have sex ... (read in full...)
Ladies and Men. How important is love to you...and is it worth fighting for?
Q. Ladies and men...have you ever fought for the one you loved even if they were in another relationship? If so, how did it turn out? I ask because I am currently in that situation. Some may think I am crazy, but would you really let the one you ...
A. 3 November 2010: I understand where you are coming from EYESWIDEOPEN I wonder that myself. Thanks for your response.... (read in full...)
My life is a reflection of the movie "The Notebook"...I'm torn between my ex and my husband
Q. My ex and I had a child together and were together for 10 years. We divorced for stupid reasons and neither of us felt right about it but for some reason we went through with it anyhow. We were on again off again for 3 years until he finally married ...
A. 3 November 2010: That was a good response! I did not take into consideration that at the time you gave up on the one you loved. Love is very complicated.... (read in full...)
I would like to see her more often but I don't think she feels the same way...
Q. Hi. I am in a new relationship about 16 days. We met with each other from a social networking website. Our first date was great. Afterwards, the problems began. She was and is talking about freedom, her own personal space etc. and i told that it's ...
A. 2 November 2010: Okay, that is good, may have come off a little short or cold. The key is let her contact you but still be nice to her :)... (read in full...)
Cheating on my boyfriend with my next door neighbour and falling for him, how do I show how much I care?
Q. ok so i am in a relationship that i have been in for over 7 years now and i have been seeing someone on the side for about 3 months he is i guess you can say he is my booty call. he has a is in a relationship also with a woman for about a year now. ...
A. 1 November 2010: That is tough, you have already made yourself look untrusting. I guess find out if he likes you as well. Breaking dates with his girlfriend might show he likes you. Do you guys do anything besides sex? Watch movies, play games, meaningful ... (read in full...)
What does"I don't want to hurt you" mean?
Q. Ok so I really don't understand how stupid,yes stupid,guys can be. So about two days ago my boyfriend texts me saying "Hey,lets just be friends" my heart immediately sank and I texted him back asking why. His respong?... "I don't want to hurt you." ...
A. 1 November 2010: It is a way to let you down easy hun. We all go through heartbreak, it is a part of life. Does it really matter what it means? Focus on the major point, he ended your relationship. Try not to analyze anymore about this and enjoy your life, you ... (read in full...)
By the hair of my chinny chin chin...
Q. hi my question is a quick one, im dating a smart beautiful girl whos been great so far and i have nothing bad to say about her, theres just one thing that bugs me - every time im with her, she has a few hairs on her chin and i just dont have to ...
A. 1 November 2010: I grow a few hairs on my chin and it drives me insane! I tweeze them and would never leave them on my face. She may have a disorder called pcos, it causes different issues but is extremely common among women, one symptom is facial hair. She may be ... (read in full...)
Is she growing fed up of me?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship right now. I Love my girlfriend deeply and care about her very much and think about her all the time. I've sent letters to her, and she knows how much i feel for her. She was recently up here from mexico for two ...
A. 1 November 2010: Definitely back off. It is hard to tell someone they are smothering you. You have to pay attiention to the signs. Just let her contact you. After about a five days of letting her initiate contact then make it 50/50. She call you one day, you ... (read in full...)
Basically I'm in love with my best friend.
Q. Basically I'm in love with my best friend. And I need some help getting over it, because if i don't I'm in danger of sabotaging our friendship. I should say straight up that this guy is totally decent - I'm not trying to rant about how I've b...
A. 1 November 2010: If he knows how you feel that is great. Are you telling him about these random hookups you have? Are you appearing to be an emotionally healthy woman to him or are you wild and clingy? If you are the latter then work on becoming a better woman. ... (read in full...)
I would like to see her more often but I don't think she feels the same way...
Q. Hi. I am in a new relationship about 16 days. We met with each other from a social networking website. Our first date was great. Afterwards, the problems began. She was and is talking about freedom, her own personal space etc. and i told that it's ...
A. 31 October 2010: Im glad I could help. The good thing is she let you know she "couldnt breathe," instead of just cutting you off. So respect her wishes and some progress should be made.... (read in full...)
I would like to see her more often but I don't think she feels the same way...
Q. Hi. I am in a new relationship about 16 days. We met with each other from a social networking website. Our first date was great. Afterwards, the problems began. She was and is talking about freedom, her own personal space etc. and i told that it's ...
A. 31 October 2010: this is going to sound harsh and i'm sorry but it's true You are completely smothering her. I have been in her shoes and it feels terrible. The thing you need to do is stop contacting her, do not try to see her, let her come to you if she wants... (read in full...)
Sometimes it's clear for me to see how much he loves me but other times I feel like he doesn't care at all.
Q. I don't really know what to say about this situation so I'm just gonna vent and ask for advice. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 months. I've had my share of boyfriend and he's only the second one I've ever loved. He loves me too and I can ...
A. 31 October 2010: Men and women express their love differently. He cannot possibly be on all the time, showing you he loves you always. That is unnatural. Take his word for it and appreciate when he does show you. He has a life outside of you so when you feel he ... (read in full...)
Why do they only seem to want to be friends with me?
Q. Hi! My situation is wired because I'm 22 and I'm still virgin. I'm not ugly but always I have problem to have relationships. Some of the girls are curious to know me but after we pass some time everything changes and most of them want to be only be ...
A. 31 October 2010: How did you tell her you liked her? Are you making yourself too available? Coming on too strong? Some guys do too much too soon, sometimes you have to take things slow. Get to know a girl then later let her know you like her etc.... (read in full...)
He says he really likes me but doesn't want a girlfriend.
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a few months now (I have not been sleeping with him) ... He comes down basicully every night after work and college and we watch some t.v and chat. We do sleep in the same bed, although we are not having sex. He seems ...
A. 31 October 2010: He seems like a nice guy who has been honest. I do not agree with another poster, I do not think he is after sex. The only thing you can do is not have sex with him, if he asks why, just say you do not feel comfortable knowing you two arent ... (read in full...)
I feel that I do not want to offer a man anything else apart from sex as this is all that I feel that I require.
Q. Hello Readers, I would like to ask for some advice please and am very appreciative of advice I have had in the past. I have been in contact with a guy in Sydney for the last 2 years. To cut to the chase it started off as him being very interested ...
A. 31 October 2010: You got out of one abusive relationship and hopped into another. Your self esteem is still very low and you must do what it takes to fix that. You have to leave him alone, he senses you have low self esteem that is why he says those things. I ... (read in full...)
Anyone have any advice on how to better my sex life with my fiance?
Q. Okay, I'm new to this. My fiance and I have been together almost 2 years now. When we started out, we constantly on a regular daily basis would have sex. After about six months things started to calm down we would go from every day to 3-4 times a ...
A. 31 October 2010: Get a good book on connecting with your partner. I did last week and my boyfriend really appreciated it. I read some of it aloud and we followed the tips and the sex was great! Very romantic and passionate. Try that. It is fine not have sex for ... (read in full...)
He stopped talking to me after I told him I liked him and my friends didn't help!
Q. I was really good friends with a guy and I started to fall for him and I told him I liked him...my so called friends made it worse by annoying us about it and now he doesn't even talk to me anymore. I really want to talk to him but I don't know how ...
A. 31 October 2010: If you have his number just text him and apologize if you made him feel uncomfortable and on behalf of your friends.
As for you, in the future just be patient, wait for him to tell you he likes you or let it progress naturally, or show him you ... (read in full...)
Newly returned to the dating scene -- how to intoduce a "friend"
Q. i'm divorced and have been out of the dating scene for quite a while. i am 50 y.o. i have a girlfriend so do i introduce her as my girlfriend, or my lady friend? she introduced me as her man friend. im new to this since being divorced....
A. 31 October 2010: Significant other?... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if its stupid or foolish in a sense that I'm 'waiting' for another chance at 'us'.
Q. to make a long story short, i was in a relationship with this guy for about a year. in the beginning, i lied to him about my past, which really hurt him and tainted the relationship. we took a 'break' after that, and since then we've been in this ...
A. 31 October 2010: It is not stupid but from the way he sounded it seems like you pushed him further away. When you told him "flat out" you wanted to be in a relationship it sounded aggressive. Him not wanting to have sex anymore is good and bad. It is good because ... (read in full...)
Any tips on how I can start talking to him naturally?
Q. Hi, I have huge crush on a guy but the problem is i never see him on a night out so i never get the chance to get talkng to him. I met him briefly a few weeks ago and i got the impression he might like me too.We are from neighbouring towns and have ...
A. 31 October 2010: It is hard to give tips because I am not sure when you see him. But when you do you should say hi, how have you been etc. general conversation. Be happy and nice. But do not ask for his number please. Leave a good impression so he asks for ... (read in full...)
How to really ease into the relationship again?
Q. We were in a time of "space that he wanted". It has been 1 month now. He has talked tome briefly, he is taking it slow. I had plans already before all this happened and got a job and am moving next week. Last time I talked with him he was very ...
A. 31 October 2010: Hey. Are you moving closer to him? I think that you should not invite him anywhere or ask to see him. Rarely contact him beccause, after all, he wanted space. Give him exactly what he wanted. When he contacts him do not sound bitter, be happy ... (read in full...)
Do women view penis size as a sign of worthiness?
Q. A real quick question - Men are very sensitive about penis size, women not too bothered about it, which seems to suggest its a man made issue and often when you read answers about does size matter women will answer size doesn't matter - its how you ...
A. 31 October 2010: I prefer a big one. But one of my friends hates big ones and loves small ones! So all women are different.... (read in full...)
He asked me why I broke up with him. Should I tell him?
Q. I've been seeing a man for just 7 weeks. After spending more and more time with him, I realized that he makes rude comments, says condescending things, interrupts conversations to be self-promoting, and is generally more antagonizing than ...
A. 31 October 2010: Yes, in a nice way. It is constructive critisism. ... (read in full...)
How do I lose 30 pounds by March?
Q. Okay this is a REALLY stupid question but i felt like asking it anyways. I met this boy and I like him a lot. of course he has a girl friend. we have a lot in common and im just wondering if he likes me... see stupid huh? well his little brother ...
A. 31 October 2010: Maybe try being more active, that may help. He may like you. For now just try to get to know him as a friend if you can. ... (read in full...)
Should I just approach him and tell him I'm ready for more???
Q. I have been "talking" to this person for approximately a year an a half but are and have always been in a grey area. As time progressed, things have gotten a lot better in that he is no longer afraid of people seeing us together or thinking that we ...
A. 31 October 2010: I think you should leave it to him to come to you for more because you do not want to be put in a situation where you give him all the power. All I can say is start acting like you are worthy of a real relationship, show him you care and that you ... (read in full...)
He's jealous because of the sexual things I did with my ex!
Q. i have a question... my boyfriend of 3 years is jealous of the fact that i gave my ex boyfriend oral sex and he ejaculated in my mouth, and ive been with him for 3 years and he has not done it 2 me. first of all my ex boyfriend treated me like a ...
A. 31 October 2010: Go back to your ex... (read in full...)
I met Helen, who was seeing my friend John, while she took a break from Tim
Q. In March 2010, I met a lady(Helen,29) who worked as a waitress at a bar I frequent. During the following months we would talk and it seemed as if there was a strong connection and chemistry between us. Unfortunately, Helen was not available as she s...
A. 30 October 2010: If you want her then do what you must to get her. She is in an open relationship...... (read in full...)
Will he be more likely to contact me if I stop trying to contact him?
Q. I have broken up with my boyfriend,2 weeks ago.He hasn't contacted me although i did email him and text him but no response.Does the "No Contact" rule actually works? I read on a website that if you want your lover back then he has to miss you 1st ...
A. 30 October 2010: Yes give him space and let him contact you. When he does, do not come on strong or be rude, be nice and genuine, you will be starting from scratch... (read in full...)
Why won't he look at me anymore during sex?
Q. So heres another question about me and the bf... So we have rarely been having sex (my choice because he is being STUPID)... anyways... I noticed the last 2 times... he wont look at me (position willing) anymore. he used to make me look...
A. 30 October 2010: Maybe you being pregnant is causing that. If you want to get him back then you need to change, you need to give 100% because it is you that wants your relationship back. You cannot demand anything of him at this moment. Witholding from sex is ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to choose between her and I?
Q. Should I wait for him to choose? I was dating a guy for a while, we were first very good friends. Things were okay but then he felt I was nagging and complaining all the time, also, not supportive of his career. Because of those reasons he chose...
A. 30 October 2010: TO XANTHIC, I would definitely leave because he was still with her. And to him, that would be the worst thing I could do is leave him. It is hard to humble yourself and wait for him to decide, but I feel like by leaving I just may make the ... (read in full...)
He says he will call me right back and does not...smh...why do men do that?
Q. Why does he sometimes say "stay by the phone, imma call you right back," and does not??? I admit it is annoying. What should I do in that situation?...
A. 30 October 2010: Thanks for your responses..they were all good. I know he cares for me and we usually talk around an hour when we are on the phone. I think he just gets caught up in doing something else lol.
Thanks Freemer, I believe he is clueless about th... (read in full...)
I never thought I'd be in this situation caring when he's got a girlfriend!
Q. Hi everyone, I need some advice... I just recently divorced my husband of 2 years. Because of that and some other reasons I moved to another city to start my life all over. This is a city where I've had lived before and have some friends. The thi...
A. 30 October 2010: If you want him the best thing to do is limit the physical connection and get to know him as a friend, then emotionally. When you have embedded yourself in someones mind it goes a long way. She is not his wife, if you feel like years later you ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why he has stayed when he has no love in his heart for me.
Q. Hi I am in the strangest relationship i have ever been in. This man is married but please no telling me i am a home wrecker because that is not the case here, I have been in this relationship for many years this man doesn't love me but he knows i ...
A. 30 October 2010: He is selfish and knows he can get away with it. If it has been years its not going to change.... (read in full...)
My life is a reflection of the movie "The Notebook"...I'm torn between my ex and my husband
Q. My ex and I had a child together and were together for 10 years. We divorced for stupid reasons and neither of us felt right about it but for some reason we went through with it anyhow. We were on again off again for 3 years until he finally married ...
A. 30 October 2010: Make sure your ex is really on the same page as you. Make better more mature decisons in the future please.... (read in full...)
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