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writes:Himy bf of 1.5 years is acting out weird lately. Always finding excuses not to call me or hang out with me. He is acting like real jerk, heavely fliting with other girls and stuff. I started to think he lost interest in me, so i stopped calling him/messaging me for the past 2 days. He never contacted me once in these 2 days. For how many days i can wait before contacting him again. I really love him a lot and not talking to him kills me literally, but i know i need to do this before i lose my mind. Please advice, whether No Contact(NC) ever works? Reply to this Question
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reader, crummyscreenname  +, writes (2 February 2011):
DO NOT CALL HIM AT ALL. If you do, you'll be tempted to start asking him about what's wrong, about the relationship, does he still love you, etc. The question is: does he still want you. whether he calls you or not, you have your answer. If you give it a few weeks and just go on with your life, you'll probably find that he comes running back to you in about three weeks (unless he's found someone else). Then you'll be in a position to decide whether you're willing to negotiate with him... spend the time away from him looking fabulous, filling up your days, keeping VERY busy, having a great time, and flirting. Then when he does finally contact you, you won't seem needy and desperate, which is a huge turn off. One other thing though: don't be mean or bitchy or catty, or try to be dominant and in control, men pick up on that and they hate it. be sweet, friendly, pleasant- and completely fine without him.
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reader, SillyB +, writes (2 February 2011):
 Look at his actions - he's obviously not that keen on spending time with you. You might love him, but do his actions show that he loves you? Perhaps you should stand up for yourself and call him on his behavior. See what happens - perhaps he's depressed, perhaps he's found someone else he's interested in, perhaps he wants space...but you won't find out till you question him and get an honest answer. However, prepare yourself to let him go.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (2 February 2011):
Call him on the sixth day. HE may need space. Sounds like you are smothering him a bit. So just be patient and wait for his call. Hopefully he calls you before the sixth day. IF not, there is a problem.
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reader, BriBri +, writes (2 February 2011):
Right now this second.He shouldn't avoid you and yes if he is not calling you it is avoiding.You shouldn't take that stuff call him and tel him how you feel about this.He will understand.
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