My boyfriend wants to be a father figure for this other girl's child!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for five years and weve hit some rough spots every now and then. 2 years into our relationship he cheated on me with this girl he worked with. we ended up working through it and stayed together and since then he has ...
A. 12 January 2011: He sounds very young and immature and does not know the real work it takes to raise a child. He thinks it is fun and cute. It is not all fun and games. It is apparant he still has feelings for this girl now you need to figure out if you are going ... (read in full...)
Crazy love story can't let go
Q. Been through a crazy love story and seem not to be able to give up. Even friends and family hope it works out. I'm 25 and met this girl through her sister a couple yrs back she had a long distance relationship of 5 yrs and she is 2 yrs older than ...
A. 10 January 2011: I meant to say if she does contact you keep the conversation pleasant and do not bring up the past. You must move at her pace but do not give her all of you. If she says she will call you back wait for her to, do not call first etc.... (read in full...)
Crazy love story can't let go
Q. Been through a crazy love story and seem not to be able to give up. Even friends and family hope it works out. I'm 25 and met this girl through her sister a couple yrs back she had a long distance relationship of 5 yrs and she is 2 yrs older than ...
A. 9 January 2011: That is the problem. No woman wants to have a man wrapped completely around her finger. We want a strong man that can say NO. We respect that. The worse thing you could ever do is smother a woman. I have had that done to me and really it is an ... (read in full...)
We`re seperated and I seem to be the one trying to work things out
Q. I've been in a long term marriage and am now separated (6 months). The children are almost grown (youngest still has a year of H.S. to go) Over the years, my wife and I grew in different directions and didn't really communicate well. We even ...
A. 9 January 2011: Does she trust you? Did you two ever really develop a loving bond? Really? Ask yourself that question because it is a lot deeper than what people think and it takes time. I recommend this book I read about a year ago and still continue to ... (read in full...)
Crazy love story can't let go
Q. Been through a crazy love story and seem not to be able to give up. Even friends and family hope it works out. I'm 25 and met this girl through her sister a couple yrs back she had a long distance relationship of 5 yrs and she is 2 yrs older than ...
A. 9 January 2011: Hi. I am confused. Why is she still hiding you? You said some people found out she was cheating on her first BF? This is a small town you said, would that make people look at her in a negative light? Just from what you wrote I would say resp... (read in full...)
He can't dump her because she will have nothing, what about my feelings?
Q. Hi I met this guy few years ago and we were like the best friends ever and then we fell in love with each other but there's this problem he had something with this girl a time ago she was totally in love with him and he loved her too but things h...
A. 9 January 2011: All you need to focus on is him saying he is not dumping her. Absolutely forget the reasons why he is not leaving her...just know he is not leaving her. I have been in this situation all I can say is try hard not to be in this situation again.... (read in full...)
Should I go back to my boyfriend who cheated on me or move on?
Q. I'm 27 and my boyfriend (we've been together for 7 years) has cheated on me, he claims it was a one night stand and will never happen again, bearing in mind we have a 2 year old child, and I love him, but do you think that people who cheat will ...
A. 9 January 2011: Yes I think you should forgive him this time. Better now than if you were married to the guy. I think you should pull back some and make him work to get back in your good graces. That way, he will know that the behavior is unacceptable to you but ... (read in full...)
I question whether it's my place to intrude on someone else's relationship.
Q. My best friend is in a relationship with a guy who does not treat her very well. He is always making promises (dates, trips, engagement, etc.) and letting her down. He's taken vacations by himself (to Cancun during college spring break to "relax"), ...
A. 9 January 2011: I feel it is okay to voice your opinion. I do not think he is a bad guy, he sounds like he is inconsiderate because he is wrapped up in his own life. Nothing is wrong with that. What you could tell her is to talk to him about bettering their ... (read in full...)
All of these issues are pointing to me leaving, should I go?
Q. I have a boyfriend who I have 2 kids with. We dont have anyother kids between us. My boyfriend is a "street" hustler and just recently quit dealing. However he didn't save any money and is broke. He doesn't help me pay any bills (which are very ...
A. 9 January 2011: This is not good. My advice to you would be to leave him or help him get a real job, or show him how to get loans so he can go to school. If he is not willing to go to school for something then move on.... (read in full...)
How can I make him think about me as girlfriend material?
Q. Well, here's the thing: I'm seeing a guy to whom I'm really into, although I won't let him know that because I'm not very sure about the way he feels about me. I've to say that he's kind of "emotionally unavailable" I'm a bit "femme fatale" in terms ...
A. 9 January 2011: You messed up pretty bad by giving him oral. I will not sugar code that, do not ever ever ever do that again with a guy that you don't have an emotional connection with. I would absolutely not go so far as to say "I am looking for a boyfriend, ... (read in full...)
He said he is walking away having a relationship with me.
Q. I have dated this man for almost a year on and off. He is a Good, Hard-working man. He is a Ex-Marine. I have never dated someone that was so closed off not being able to express his feelings. Recently he told me in a message that he loved me and ...
A. 9 January 2011: I can relate to this very much. I too have left my partner many times, he told me if I ever leave again for me never ever to come back. My advice to you is to gain strength. I sent him a contract giving him my word that I will never up and leave ... (read in full...)
Did this affair end, and he just failed to mention it?
Q. a year ago i started an affair with my partners brother there was always chemistry between us but nothing ever come of it then at a friends party one night he grabbed me and kissed me and asked me too meet him which i never me and my partner was on ...
A. 9 January 2011: What did you say in the text messages? That may be helpful. And how long has it been since you sent them? He probably does not want to mess up his relationship with his brother. This is a tough one. All you can do at this moment is wait. He is ... (read in full...)
It's been 10 days after our date and my neighbor still hasn't called!
Q. I asked my neighbor out for drinks because I was noticing him looking at me and saying hi. I asked him out because he seemed shy and I was becoming impatient plus Xmas and new years were approaching. I didn't know if he was excited about the date ...
A. 9 January 2011: If you see him again be respectful and say hello, smile and keep it moving. He does not seem interested unfortunately. Did you come on too strong? That seems like an idea because you were too impatient to wait for him to ask you out, and then you ... (read in full...)
My fiance is keeps changing his mind on wanting a baby!
Q. Hi I am 18 years old and been with my fiancé for nearly 2 years everything was great. I have always wanted kids as u come from a very big family. In april 2010 we had spoke about having a baby and he agreed to doing so. So the following weekend i ...
A. 9 January 2011: I agree with the others. Just wait. You do not see now but in eight years or so you will be thanking God that you waited. Definitely go to school, get your masters etc., have money then have a child. Do not rush. Please please do not rush.... (read in full...)
Should I have responded or not?
Q. I broke up with an ex (dated for 3 months) because I caught her in a lie and because I found out she was using me. Anyways, I was very hurt and she knows she was wrong but never apologized. A friend of mine told me to just forget her and move on. ...
A. 9 January 2011: Did this happen today? It seems like she may feel that "she has you wrapped around her finger,". I am not 100% sure because I do not know her. But, there is absolutely nothing wrong with responding because she initiated it. You were being ... (read in full...)
Do nice girls really finish last?
Q. What do guys think of nice girls?? I was just in an emotionally abusive relationship and ppl told me that it was not worth it to be nice all the time? Do men find playing hard to get and bitches attractive?? I mean I believe in being honest and ...
A. 1 January 2011: It is best for you to stay nice. Stand up for yourself. Let someone know right away if you feel disrespected. You have to set boundaries immeadiately. And do not give too much too soon. You can be nice and still keep certain things private. A ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to go back to his place on a first date?
Q. Hi I met a guy and we are going on a date. If he asked me back to his house after the date should I go? Is this ok on a first date? I have no intention of sleeping with him this quickly, so there will not be any sex, but if he offers to contin...
A. 4 December 2010: Pick up the book WHY MEN MARRY BITCHES. You will get a better understanding then. I use to be very naive also, still kind of am. But that book helped me. Do not get turned off by the title.... (read in full...)
The distance created distance in our relationship.
Q. I have been dating this girl in Dubai for the last 4 years....I had a great job..and she was madly in love with me..I lost my job and had to leave Dubai..Once i got back to my home country we kept in touch..she kept calling and sending emails and ...
A. 3 December 2010: You two fell in love and you moved. Sometimes the distance kills relationship. She could not handle it. If I really loved someone I would definitely handle it but everyone is different. That is not to say she did not love you before she probably ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling more confident since we broke up. Do I contact her?
Q. Just about a month ago, she broke up with me, ending a two year long, healthy relationship for another guy. As unfair and broken as I felt, I was a bit too emotional to come out and tell her how badly she treated me, so instead I just ended things ...
A. 3 December 2010: I would not recommend you do that. If you want her back you can try to get her back but if you just want to put your emotional misery on her...dont. It is none of her business. Look at it this way..would you have wanted her to stay with you ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to go back to his place on a first date?
Q. Hi I met a guy and we are going on a date. If he asked me back to his house after the date should I go? Is this ok on a first date? I have no intention of sleeping with him this quickly, so there will not be any sex, but if he offers to contin...
A. 3 December 2010: ABSOLUTELY ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! WORK YOUR WAY UP TO THAT. JUST THANK HIM AND GO HOME. BE NICE AND GRATEFUL FOR THE DATE BUT DO NOT GO BACK TO HIS PLACE. SAY ANOTHER TIME. DO NOT MENTION SEX. JUST SAY YOU HAVE AN EARLY DAY OR SOMETHIN.... (read in full...)
I need a man's take on this, what are the most important characteristics of a good woman?
Q. What are the most important characteristics in a good woman, girlfrien and/or wife? I am really trying to become a better woman and would like a mans take. Thank you!!!!...
A. 30 November 2010: Thanks guys! These were fantastic responses! I really appreciat the thought behind each of them! I am not even exaggerating!! Best wishes... (read in full...)
Has this worked for you?
Q. If you love something set it free if it comes back its yours if not it was never meant to be! Is there any truth in this? Will my Scorpian man come back? ...
A. 27 November 2010: Elaborate and I will try to help... (read in full...)
So is this him saying he wants to be friends?
Q. Ok, so there's this guy I've been talking to a lot lately- we share core interests, enjoy talking, have some mutual friends, etc. We definitely flirt w/ each other, but whether or not he likes me as more than friends puzzles me-now more than ever. T...
A. 27 November 2010: He was letting you down nicely, and that was a good thing to do. Now, what you must do is never ever ever bring it up again. And be completely okay with him not feeling the same. Do not be mean, or rude, do not flirt, just continue being nice to ... (read in full...)
Doubting what I had in the first place
Q. Ok, so two months ago I split up with the girl of my dreams. This post will be a bit long, but I need to include a lot of detail. Thanks in advance for reading. I think I know why it happened now, but when I asked some people for help they just t...
A. 27 November 2010: You are right. It was very long. I did not finish it, however, I did read some. I will just tell you this, and you must always remember this...NO WOMAN WANTS A MAN THAT IS NOT CONFIDENT. Also, no woman wants a man that is "too into" her like ... (read in full...)
What if I don't make it through this?
Q. What if I can't get through this? This has been the most difficult break up I've ever been through. We were together for nearly 5 years and found out he was cheating on me. I ended it. He moved in with his mistress after I busted him and confronted ...
A. 27 November 2010: Hello. I am sorry to hear about this. I am unclear, are you trying to move on, are you hurting because he does not want you back, are you trying to get him back, or simply trying to move on? Can you elaborate please :) Thank You. Then I will try ... (read in full...)
Would anyone else see this as nosey?
Q. so i had to go with my parents to visit neighbors because they invited us..i am in my mid twenties and pretty much come to the conclusion i don't like them because most of them in the family are very stuck up and judgemental. We went to be nice more ...
A. 8 November 2010: No. I think you felt that way because you dont care for him much. Maybe he was trying to be smart, but the questions were normal. Next time, flip it on the person and bombard them with questions. You-"I work at a brokerage firm. Btw, what do you ... (read in full...)
Should I make a move, or is he no longer interested?
Q. I'm in a complicated situation. I recently met a man and started dating. All was going great - he was taking me out for dinner, coming over and cooking me dinner, going for moonlit walks. It was very early days but I was feeling really optimistic. ...
A. 6 November 2010: Ask him out... (read in full...)
I'm a 16 year old virgin and freaking out!
Q. Hey everyone. So this is a bit of an embaressing question, but hopefully you can give me some advice. I've just turned 16 and im still a virgin, but I'm really worried about having sex for the first time. I'm seeing this really lovely guy at the ...
A. 6 November 2010: I really think you should wait and stay a virgin as long as possible honey! But, it is your decision. Here are some tips:
1. Make sure you are in an exclusive relationship with him
2. Always, always use a condom
3. Be fresh and clean
4. D... (read in full...)
It hurts when he says he just wants to be with his ex
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a widow and have started a new relationship with this gentalmen that persued me for about a month before I finally gave in. He acts like he really really cares about me. He is generous ,kind, attentive, calls almost everynig...
A. 6 November 2010: Give him some time to heal. Be his friend and hang out. If you two progress naturally that is fine but it dont push it. He seems like a decent honest man so enjoy. She was his wife so he loves her. Later he may end up loving you but it will ... (read in full...)
Is masturbating just like having sex?
Q. i always press on my virginia tell i orgasm and it's feel cool but the thing is that i want to stay a virgin tell my wedding night and i think that this is like having sex ,i just cant stop it am still a young teen what can i do?? ...
A. 6 November 2010: Masturbating is perfectly normal and natural. If it were not meant for us to do, then it would not be innate. Definitely do it to stay a virgin if you want to.... (read in full...)
So I tried to call my ex last night
Q. Well she block me from calling her so I have not tryed to call her out for like 3 weeks because she has blocked me from calling her. So last night I called her not thinking it would but it did in it was calling her. So I hanged up the phone then ...
A. 6 November 2010: Do you two always play these games? Not trying to be smart, it is important to know because if you two always go to the extreme of blocking each other then maybe you guys have a chance. ... (read in full...)
So I tried to call my ex last night
Q. Well she block me from calling her so I have not tryed to call her out for like 3 weeks because she has blocked me from calling her. So last night I called her not thinking it would but it did in it was calling her. So I hanged up the phone then ...
A. 6 November 2010: You seem to be freaking her out. I think you should stop contacting her. She BLOCKED YOU. BLOCKED YOU. Let her be the one to conact you from now on. Why did you two break up? ... (read in full...)
How do I get to be drop dead sexy?
Q. How does a guy create the underlying feeling that he is sexy/attractive to women? By underlying, I mean the type of feeling that comes before thought. The type of feeling you have automatically whenever you perceive something, but haven't made a ...
A. 6 November 2010: Someone who is able to lead himself and not follow the crowds. Is a bit mysterous. Looks good, takes care of himself and is good in school and work. etc.... (read in full...)
I find myself in love with my wife's sister
Q. suddenlly i feel that i love my wife's sister who is already married and has 2 pretty girls, i do not know how come, but that feeling really squeezing my heart, i do not want any sexuality cz really i do love her, and if i have sexual feeling i will ...
A. 6 November 2010: That is amazing. What do you think bought on these feelings? What type of person is she etc. Does she treat her husband fantastic and have you witnessed it? How does your wife treat you? I want to help and I am also very interested in your ... (read in full...)
All work and no play leaves no time for me
Q. why do men like work too much and have their family to spend time with, im so tried of my boy friend working 5 days a week, going work early in the morning and coming back 1 am in the morning are sometime 2 am and all he do when hes off for the two ...
A. 6 November 2010: just be there for him make life easier. make him lunch or something... (read in full...)
Did he just want to sleep with me?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about a month and last weekend, we got together. Eveything seemed be going all fine. but since last friday I havent heard from him. I texted him and he txted me like a day later and then when I texted him back...I ...
A. 5 November 2010: Yes move on and then maybe he will find his way back. Can't say if he just wanted to sleep with you or not. For future reference, next time after sex...wait for him to contact you first and you be the nonchalant one. Never ever say "I have not ... (read in full...)
He says he cannot trust me. How can I show him that I am there for him?
Q. Some may be familiar with my situation, some may not. Long story short, was with my ex and we broke up said I nagged and complained. He got another girlfriend then he and I came back together. We are communicating again and both still care for ...
A. 5 November 2010: Thank you petina. Your response was great. I will do what you suggested.... (read in full...)
Should my Brother-in-law have helped me dress?
Q. I am 24, and my sister's husband took me to a hospital for a minor procedure that involved anesthesia. When I was done, he came in to see me. The nurse came in and said I could go, but needed to get dressed. She assumed he was my husband, and ...
A. 5 November 2010: Yea I can see why you would feel funny. But it seems like he was simply helping his family out and being repsectful. It was at a time when you couldnt help yourself.... (read in full...)
Ladies and Men. How important is love to you...and is it worth fighting for?
Q. Ladies and men...have you ever fought for the one you loved even if they were in another relationship? If so, how did it turn out? I ask because I am currently in that situation. Some may think I am crazy, but would you really let the one you ...
A. 5 November 2010: In response to Anonymous. When I read your post I could not help but become confused, then smile and various other emotions. Wow, is all I can say. Your input was very well recieved. Thank you..I am going to always keep that quote and remind ... (read in full...)
He can't marry me because of his parents, and he won't even try to convince them.
Q. Dear Cupid I am in love with a guy younger to me by 3 years. We are together for 1 year. I am crazy about him and he says he feels the same way. So i brought about marriage few days ago and he says he cannot marry me since his parents wont acc...
A. 5 November 2010: Im sorry to hear you feel like that. Give yourself time to heal and then maybe in the future you can meet someone new. I do not think he is using you. Now that you say you are from India I guess maybe he does not really have a choice. I wish ... (read in full...)
OMG! I forgot how to date
Q. OMG! I forgot how to date Ok so I lost a good relationship. Now I want to start meeting guys. The thing is I think I forgot how to date. It scares me I a always looking at myself trying to see is this what guys like (hairstyles, certain attire, ...
A. 5 November 2010: That is hard. I would say get out and go to a number of things in your area. Google events in (whatever city you live in) and check it out. Be yourself, I suppose. ... (read in full...)
He can't marry me because of his parents, and he won't even try to convince them.
Q. Dear Cupid I am in love with a guy younger to me by 3 years. We are together for 1 year. I am crazy about him and he says he feels the same way. So i brought about marriage few days ago and he says he cannot marry me since his parents wont acc...
A. 4 November 2010: You may hurt worse in the future so maybe you should leave now. He is being honest. If you want to take a chance then stick around.... (read in full...)
Ladies and Men. How important is love to you...and is it worth fighting for?
Q. Ladies and men...have you ever fought for the one you loved even if they were in another relationship? If so, how did it turn out? I ask because I am currently in that situation. Some may think I am crazy, but would you really let the one you ...
A. 3 November 2010: Thanks guys all your answers were great. I think I am going to fight for him. Btw, I am not at his beck and call lol. But I thought about it and look at it like this: he is not married... Why would I walk away and allow him to get closer with ... (read in full...)
Ladies and Men. How important is love to you...and is it worth fighting for?
Q. Ladies and men...have you ever fought for the one you loved even if they were in another relationship? If so, how did it turn out? I ask because I am currently in that situation. Some may think I am crazy, but would you really let the one you ...
A. 3 November 2010: Thank you FI_THE_TREE! I appreciate your advice. Things are hard and it is nice to know I am not the only one. I do try to be there for him as much as possible. I am just scared he is going to get comfortable with the arrangement. I know at a ... (read in full...)
Ladies and Men. How important is love to you...and is it worth fighting for?
Q. Ladies and men...have you ever fought for the one you loved even if they were in another relationship? If so, how did it turn out? I ask because I am currently in that situation. Some may think I am crazy, but would you really let the one you ...
A. 3 November 2010: I understand where you are coming from EYESWIDEOPEN I wonder that myself. Thanks for your response.... (read in full...)
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