Is anybody familiar with the idea of "peaking"?
Q. This is a sexual question. Is anybody familiar with the idea of "peaking"- building her level of arousal in steps. If so I would like some advice- I stimulate my girlfriends vagina, and then when she's close, I slow it down a bit, or tr...
A. 11 May 2009: The "Peaking" methord just isn't what some people want.
Stimulate you girlfriend slowly by touching her body all over and the concentrate touching her thighs then work up to her vagina and touch her softly and gentaly without touching her clit and... (read in full...)
How tall is too tall?
Q. So, uh, ladies... what height do you prefer on guys? What's gotta be the bare minimum height you like on a guy? And if there's such a thing as too tall, beyond what height would that be?...
A. 11 May 2009: There no minnimun height of a guy really.
Some people like shorter guys and other people want taller guys. We are all different and like different things.
I'm 5'5 and my boyfriend is 5'11 but i wouldn't really care if he was short because i lo... (read in full...)
Ever felt like you weren't good enough to be with your partner?
Q. Has anyone else ever felt like they weren't good enought to be with their partner? Sometimes when I am with him I feel like he is so far beyond the best person imaginable and I feel so inferior just being in his presence. He isn't doing this on ...
A. 11 May 2009: I used to feel like this. My boyfriend is so loving and understanding and i used to sit there at night and question myself why is he with someone like me? Its because he loves me for who i am.
Your boyfriend also loves you for who you are. 2 y... (read in full...)
Is it just my period? Or maybe something different?
Q. I've been having sex with my long-term boyfriend for about 7months now, and I've always been careful about taking the right precautons, but last tuesday I was due on my period; which i did, first thing as soon as I woke up and I've never experienced ...
A. 10 May 2009: If you are bleeding when your period is ment to be then the chances are it is your period. Your not pregnant because you wouldn't be bleeding if you were.
At a young as your body is changing all the time which will cause you to have light and heav... (read in full...)
Does he ever think about me? If I leave him alone would he contact me?
Q. i know the answer to this but i would just like to hear what any of you guys think. i broke up with someone just over a month ago, we were together for 6 months. i know this is a short time but i really fell for him and i assumed the feeling as ...
A. 10 May 2009: I'm really sorry but it doesn't sound like that relationship will work. But it doesn't mean you won't find that perfect somebody.
Cut all contact off with this guy. I know its hard but you have to, to move on with your life. Cry as much as you l... (read in full...)
Is karma really going to be a bitch to me for what I did?
Q. Exactly five months and two days ago my ex-boyfriend and I were caught having sex... by the girl he was dating while we were doing so. They had just celebrated their two-year anniversary a day prior to this incident. Anyway, at the time, I didn...
A. 10 May 2009: I would say that you are sorry for what you have done then cut off all contact with both of them.
If you think you have hurt these two enough then you don't want to cause anymore bother with them again.
Try and forget them and say to yourself thi... (read in full...)
Can you help me with some sex education about contraception?
Q. hey, i have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now and i love him loads, we have had sex without condoms and also with them. we started having sex 2 months into the relationship and have used a condom like 10 times, we seen to have sex after i have ...
A. 8 May 2009: Going on the pill has its risk.
I am 15 and went on the pill last year and i gained about 9 pounds in weight. I have terrible mood swings and get depressed all because of this pill. There are lots of different types of pills but they all seem to m... (read in full...)
Can someone text too much?
Q. I've recently started dating a girl. We've been on 3 dates in two weeks. Currently in the 4th week. Shes been busy this week. (Thats not a fob of story). In the first two weeks we would text a few times aday, a few days a week. Since we've ...
A. 7 May 2009: Most girls like it if you text them offen though, it shows you are intrested.
But don't text 24/7 because she could get annoyed..
Good luck though
Livia
xoxox... (read in full...)
My husband WANTS another man to make me pregnant!!!
Q. Me and my husband both want kids, but my husband does, albeit in a slightly odd way... he wants me to "use my feminine wiles and sleep with whoever I fancy to get pregnant!" He says that I should get pregnant by another guy - and said I should ac...
A. 7 May 2009: This man wants a child but not the responsibilites that come with it.
When something comes up he will just say the childs not mine. If he has to pay for it he will use the same excuse the child isn't mine.
This is so he can walk away from y... (read in full...)
Can someone text too much?
Q. I've recently started dating a girl. We've been on 3 dates in two weeks. Currently in the 4th week. Shes been busy this week. (Thats not a fob of story). In the first two weeks we would text a few times aday, a few days a week. Since we've ...
A. 7 May 2009: You can text to much but 5 a day isn't much at all.
I'm a bit of a text addict and send about 150 texts a day which is abit to much but my boyfriend has a job where he can text back.
If shes a teacher, she has a very busy job and little free ... (read in full...)
Seriously guilty over having cheated
Q. I love my fiancée very much. Last month I went out with some buddies and cheated on my girlfriend with not 1 but 2 girls I met at the bar. I was really drunk and started flirting with a girl thinking it would never amount to anything, next thing I ...
A. 7 May 2009: This will be on you mind the whole time if you don't tell her. There will be lots of shouting but if she thinks you are worth it things will settle down but she will never be able to fully trust you again. Don't start married life with a lie. ... (read in full...)
Serious stomach cramps!
Q. Hey I had a major problem yesterday and was wondering if anyone knew what it could be. Yesterday was the first day of my period for this month, and i got some pretty bad stomach cramps it started in the morning and i was thinking that's normal......
A. 7 May 2009: Its probs just period pain.
Some girls have such bad period pain that they phyically can't get out of bed when they are on.
I wouldn't worry about it but if you are really conserned about it, go see a doctor.
Good luck
Livia
xox... (read in full...)
We passed 100,000 questions published on DearCupid
Q. Today is another milestone in DearCupid history: Over 100,000 questions (100,020 as I write this) have been published! Wow. Thanks to the aunts, the moderators and everyone who shares their problem. As always any ideas on how to improve the s...
A. 7 May 2009: Wow :)
Well done to everyone who has given advice!... (read in full...)
Do guys date fat girls?
Q. would guys date fat girls. because i am short and fat and i just can,t get boyfriend they want thin,tall,cheeky girls not like me...
A. 5 May 2009: Not all guys think the tall skinny look is always attractive. Curvs are much sexier than a stick. :)
I'm short and Chubby :) but my boyfriend loves me for who i am and if you have confidence in yourself believe me it doesn't matter what you look... (read in full...)
Pregnant...but I don't know who the father is!
Q. I am in such a dilemma. Three months ago, I was at my boyfriend's house and he had to leave suddenly after a very secretive phone call he made to someone. My suspicion is that he was calling another girl, whom I know to be my ex-best friend. I think ...
A. 5 May 2009: Why were you having sex with different people being under 16? You bacically lowered yourself to your boyfriends level.
You need to go visit you family planning clinic. They will keep it confidential. You can either keep the baby but your life wil... (read in full...)
13, pregnant from first time and it was a dare
Q. Hey i have just turend 13 in december and just found out i am pregnant since I am really young and only just started my period in november i had sex in march and only slept with one lad a dont know what to do but i dont want an abortion but in a...
A. 5 May 2009: They only tell social services so you can have support and benifits so the child has a good quality of life. You won't be in trouble, i've had friends who have had children.
Go to the doctor who will keep it confidental and you can get a abortion... (read in full...)
His friends say mean things about me and my boyfriend laughs along with them!
Q. well... lets start simple.. im 13 and i recently got a boyfriend (about a month ago),,,and ill just add its not my first he is really sweet and has on his myspace that he loves me and that im his girlfriend and all of that kind of stuff. bu...
A. 1 May 2009: Your not going to like me for saying this but if he really loved you do you think he would laugh at mean comments about you.
Babe if i was you i would leave him. If he can't tell his friends where to stick the horrible comments about you then hes... (read in full...)
Will I always wonder - what could have been?
Q. Cutest story ever. A guy I knew freshman year of high school set me up with his best friend, a sophomore. We "dated" for a month. By "dated," I mean we talked on the phone and went to homecoming together. We never held hands, we never kissed, etc. ...
A. 1 May 2009: Long distance relationships do work. I'm in a long distance relationship and have been for over a year and believe me its not easy but if you love each other enough you will find a way to make it work. We are in the same situation as you two. Jobs.. ... (read in full...)
When he fingers me I feel like I want to pee?
Q. okay, this is a very embarrasing question,i dont have a very good relationship with either one of my parents and am embarresed to ask but ...im 16 and me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over a year.we have done some things ...
A. 30 April 2009: Yep Its normal :)
It means hes stimulating your g-spot which can give you an orgasm.
Next time hes doing it just relax and let it happen.
Some clear fluid might come out but that is only part of the orgasm.
Have fun :)
Livia
xxx... (read in full...)
I have higher sex drive!
Q. Recently told my boyfriend how i feel regarding our releatiionship. I have a higher sex drive than him and said we were lacking intamacy and passion, his reply was he has never been any good in that department. He's a good guy and i love him to ...
A. 30 April 2009: Well you have a choice.
You can leave your boyfriend and find someone who will have sex with you more often
or...
You can stay with your boyfriend and learn to have sex less, which is hard but if you really set your mind to its possible. Do ... (read in full...)
My little sister has just had her first period and my parents are out of town. Help!
Q. My sister, she is 11 and I think she just got her first ever period today because when she woke up she scared shit then I went to her room and I saw blood on the bed and on her pjs she was wearing, she won't talk to me and my parents are out of ...
A. 30 April 2009: Yeh :) I look back and laugh at my first period thinking i was going to die lol.
Glad you can laugh at it :P
Livia
xxx... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend told everyone I'm not a virgin anymore!
Q. what should i do?,my ex-boyfriend told to his friends that there something happen between us,that im not virgin anymore. my mother did not know about it..i made NAME in our place our family, so im afraid that if people in our place know about it...
A. 28 April 2009: Speak to him and tell him that what hes doing is pathetic and very immature. He's probs very upset and wants to get back at you because he still has feeling for you and wants you back. Boys have a funny way of showing their emotions like this. Just ... (read in full...)
Raped -- what can I do?
Q. I have a rather strange question. I am pretty sure I was raped. I question it becasue I don't think I can do much about it. I knew this guy since forever..he gave me a ride home, and next I know we are out in the woods and he parks the truck. Next, ...
A. 28 April 2009: You need to tell your mum about this. She will understand and support you through this.
Call the police and give a statement of what happened. They might need to take some swabs from you but this is only for evidence so they can convict him.
... (read in full...)
I need help please, what does he mean?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been togeather for over a month now and last night he said to me "we will see if this goes well between us because only god knows what is going to happen and some times i feel scared to say i want you forever but i'm happy ...
A. 28 April 2009: He really likes you!
Make him feel safe with you so he can let out his feeling that be wants to be with you.
If you feel the same then you can look into his eyes and tell him that you are his forever and ever.
Its so cute what your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
It's my Birthday today, so I can lie to my parents. Right?
Q. Today was my birthday and my parents went out of town and so this guy that my parents hate, went out to his friends old abdoned house out in the country to celebrate it and we kind of got drunk and we went into the house to have sex and in the ...
A. 28 April 2009: HAPPY BIRTHDAY :) My birthday is tomorrow :)Can't wait!
You don't have to tell your parents anything you don't want to. Your 19 and an adult now, but if your parents do find out they might be abit disapointed that you lied to them.
Are you... (read in full...)
I think my dad self-harms, what should I do?
Q. Okay, well I'm 18 and recently I caught a glimpse of my dads arms while he was playing with my younger sister and I saw self-harm marks. I know that they're self inflicted because I used to self-harm when I was younger and they look the same as ...
A. 28 April 2009: As his daughter you are ment to worry and look out for your dad as he did for you as a child.
I suggest you sit your dad down and calmly ask him if anything is wrong and mention you have seen marks on his arms. Explain that you are here to suppo... (read in full...)
Boyfriend had male sex 15 yrs ago. Will this affect our mariage?
Q. Hi! I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we are planning to get married and have a baby. We love each other. He's been recently unwell, he had a little secret that was tormenting him so he told me eventually that when he was 16 he had sex with...
A. 28 April 2009: Most boys around that age get curious and go through a phase of thinking they are gay. Its a commen around that age to experiment to find out who you really are.
My boyfriend is 17 and said to me a couple of months ago that he wanted to try havi... (read in full...)
13, pregnant from first time and it was a dare
Q. Hey i have just turend 13 in december and just found out i am pregnant since I am really young and only just started my period in november i had sex in march and only slept with one lad a dont know what to do but i dont want an abortion but in a...
A. 28 April 2009: Go to your local family planning clinic.
Ask your school nurse for details of where they are.
If you want a private abortion they cost about £450.... (read in full...)
How do I ask her to marry me?
Q. I'm in love with this girl--we're worlds apart (I'm more sheltered and grew up in a caring environment, she was abused as a kid and used to cut her wrists....) but I love her and she has admitted to loving me back. We've been taking a break, but we ...
A. 27 April 2009: There are different ways that you can ask her,do something unique and really make her believe that you love her and want to be with her for the rest of your life.
Do you guys have a special place where you used to go or which means somethin... (read in full...)
My little sister has just had her first period and my parents are out of town. Help!
Q. My sister, she is 11 and I think she just got her first ever period today because when she woke up she scared shit then I went to her room and I saw blood on the bed and on her pjs she was wearing, she won't talk to me and my parents are out of ...
A. 27 April 2009: You need to sit your little sister down and explain to her that it happens to every girl and theres nothing to be embarrested about.
Go to the shops and buy her some pads and tell her to put them in her knickers and change it every 4 hours. A... (read in full...)
I want to have a baby with him but he's just been sent to prison.
Q. Is 40+ too old to have your first child?? I am in love with a man who I recently got together with and we both would love to have a child but he suddenly got sent to prison and won't be out until I am in my forties!! I am so sad as I love him and w...
A. 27 April 2009: Having a baby at 40+ is possible but there is more of a chance of the child being deformed or disabled. It will also be harder to conceive than a woman in her 20's or 30's.
Having a baby is a big commitment from both the mother and father and havi... (read in full...)
I like older guys because guys my age are too immature
Q. Is it normal for a 14 year old girl to like older guys? Like all the boys my age are so imature!!! They get on my nerves! So I like some of my male teacher but the 1's i like, flirted with me 1st so I just do it back to them. The boys my age are so ...
A. 23 April 2009: Its fine for girls to like older boys!
Us girlies mature faster than boys. Personally i find boys my age way to immature for me.
I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 17 :)
Don't go off with Men in their 20-30 because they are at serious risk of bein... (read in full...)
How can I make my wife swallow?
Q. Ladies, I'm a married man of 2 years, and my wife is still not sure that she wants to swallow while performing oral sex. It creates a kind of vicious circle for me in a sense that I have a hard time "finishing" because the thought of her n...
A. 23 April 2009: Some girls just don't like swallowing cum. I hated it when i did and was almost sick.
You can't make your wife do anything she doesn't want to and your going to have to respect that and find something else to do.
Cum doesn't taste that nice ... (read in full...)
2 periods in the same month, could I be pregnant?
Q. i been tring to get pregnant this month i had 2 periods in the same month is the normal or could i be pregnant ...
A. 23 April 2009: I'm sorry to say but if you have your period you are not pregnant.
When you are pregnant the tissue linning in your womb builds up to support a baby in devloping inside of you but if your egg isn't fertilized then the tissue building up isn't us... (read in full...)
Told my teacher I love him. What should I do?
Q. Today in math class my friend and I was to lazy to get up and get are paper to our math teacher. Then the other was in there so we asked him to give it to her and he said no you guys are always mean to me. He said we need to be nice then he will. So ...
A. 23 April 2009: He wouldn't take it seriouly.
I tell my science teacher i love him all the time and so does everyone.
If you didn't say it in a serious way hes not going to think you like him like that.
Livia
xxx... (read in full...)
What is a "rainbow kiss?"
Q. I'm 13 my boyfriend is 16. We are both non virgins from other relationships. We have had sex and done everything. Finger, BJ, 69, toss off, lick out ect. We were keen to move onto a rainbow kiss he said, I don't know what a rainbow kiss is.. What is ...
A. 18 April 2009: Rainbow kissing is where you are on your period and your boyfriend licks the blood and you make him cum then you both kiss mixing the blood and cum together.
Not the nicest of things to do..... (read in full...)
Why would an older guy like a much younger girl?
Q. Why would an older guy like a much younger girl? I'm concrned for my younger sister who is a freshman at 14, dating a senior at 18. I told her no good will come of it, but she isn't listening. If someone could help me to understand why he was so ...
A. 16 April 2009: Just because hes 18 doesn't mean he just wants to use her.
When i was 14 my boyfriend was 18 and everyone said hes just with you for sex but hes the most caring boy you could ever meet and we are still together and in love.
Girls mature alot ... (read in full...)
Too scared to have sex!
Q. i'm 15 years old and im too scared to have sex. i had a boyfriend at this beginning of this year, and i'd done everything but sex. i started my periods when i was in year 5 and i have fully matured. when it came to having sex, he literally could not ...
A. 15 April 2009: You need to talk sex through with your boyfriend because you both weren't relaxed. If you were both completely confortable with it he would be able to "get it up" and would be able to fit inside you. If a baby can come out from there his penis will ... (read in full...)
Her mom found out we are sexually active and has threatened to press charges against me.
Q. I am 17 and my girlfriend is 15. Her mom found out we are sexually active and has threatened to press charges against me. I never forced her, but can I still get in trouble....
A. 15 April 2009: Yes you will be charged and be put in prison and your name on the sex offenders list meaning you won't be able to work with children, you will find it hard to get a job and when you do have children you will have check ups by someone from social ... (read in full...)
My mother in law is totally against me breastfeeding my daughter.
Q. My mother in law is totally against me breastfeeding my daughter. Since her birth she has told my husband that breastfed babies are not as smart as bottle fed babies, that our sex life will not be the same as long as I am breastfeeding, and the I ...
A. 15 April 2009: You need to tell this woman straight that this is your child and you will bring it up your way. Tell her to stick her stupid unwanted comment where the sun don't shine.
Really people like that do my nut in.
Research has proven breastfed ch... (read in full...)
B/f watches porn and doesn't care how I feel about it
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1 year now and the other day i found out he had been watching porn on my computer and lying to be about what he was doing. I was so incredibly hurt by this I cried non stop for days, it feels like im not good ...
A. 14 April 2009: Most boys look at porn for all different reasons.
Some are to find different things to try during sex or to just think about something while they are masterbating. This doesn't mean that he would rarther be with another woman. Your boyfriend love... (read in full...)
13, pregnant from first time and it was a dare
Q. Hey i have just turend 13 in december and just found out i am pregnant since I am really young and only just started my period in november i had sex in march and only slept with one lad a dont know what to do but i dont want an abortion but in a...
A. 14 April 2009: I'm not going to judge you as i know what its like to try to fit in. You need to learn to be yourself and don't pretend to be someone who you are not. I bet your a lovely person, try to find yourself. You were made to be individual.
Havin... (read in full...)
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