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writes:I'm in love with this girl--we're worlds apart (I'm more sheltered and grew up in a caring environment, she was abused as a kid and used to cut her wrists....) but I love her and she has admitted to loving me back. We've been taking a break, but we got back together and now I want to ask her to marry me. But I have no idea how to do this! She's definitely not as trusting because of what people have done to her as opposed to other girls.... What if she says no? Help please!!!
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reader, Sambuca_Dave  +, writes (27 April 2009):
 Ask her
Take her to a special place such as the place you had your first date or somewhere else that has happy memories for the two of you.
If that special place is a restaurant then have a meal there if its somewhere else then think of something romantic you can do there then pop the question.
If she says 'no' don't be disheartened by it chances are shes just not ready to settle down yet. Explain that you still love her and her saying 'no' hasn't changed your feelings for her.
Dave
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (27 April 2009):
 If she says no, just continue being her friend, or bf. Be patient. A lot of men aren't.
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (27 April 2009):
 There are different ways that you can ask her,do something unique and really make her believe that you love her and want to be with her for the rest of your life.
Do you guys have a special place where you used to go or which means something to both of you? You could take a picnic there and have lunch then propose to her.
Or you could do something simple like what my boyfriend did. He took me out for my birthday meal then when we went back to his car he told me to shut my eyes and put the ring on my finger!
Search on google proposal stories and get some ideas of what to do.
If she says no don't be taken back my it, just smile and explain to her that you love her and you will never let her down or leave her, if she still says no then just be paitent and be there for her and let her know whenever she is ready you will be to.
Hope all goes well :)
Tell me how it goes!!
Livia
xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): The fact you took a break is a warning sign.I think you need to wait and propose smaller things like going on a small holiday together first. She needs to learn to fully trust you.If you have already done that and it went well then propose living together for a few months and going from there. I think you really do need to wait a while though.good luckxxx
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