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writes:hey, i have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now and i love him loads, we have had sex without condoms and also with them. we started having sex 2 months into the relationship and have used a condom like 10 times, we seen to have sex after i have had my periods so that makes me a bit scared. we had sex on Saturday without a condom and went on for a bit my boyfriend came about half a hour before we started as i was playing about with him. as we were having sex he never felt any came or anything, but he usurly does not take ages. i am really worried as I'm only 13 years old and my boyfriend is 16. i don't want to get pregnant at this age as i want too have a great life and be with this boy forever. i have been told from close friends that i should go on the pill and i want too so i don't get pregnant but what if my mum/dad finds out? help me please. -Ox'
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (9 May 2009):
 Anonymous: Technically condoms don't protect against all STIs (I am splitting hairs here but I think it's important), you can still get pubic lice (although uncommon in the UK now as most sexually adventurous people shave down there), occasionally syphilis and herpes if the sores are present outside the protected area.
To our OP check out this article for STI information: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/sti-std-what-are-they-and-how-do.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): Always use condoms. THey prevent you from getting gonerhea,clymidea,aids.syphilis,herpes,hiv etc... so all sexually transmitted deseases.
You are way to young to be having sex especially with a sisteen year old! Sweetie I am not sure why you want to be having sex at such a young age. You should wait until you are older. Before you sleep with your boyfriend again ask yourself is is worth the risk of getting pregnant? Is it worth sleeping with him? Do I need to rush into sex? WHen I was younger but older the you asked myself those questions and most of the time the answer was no.
The pill. It prevents you from being pregnant but so does the patch, IUD etc... before you chose what method of centreception to use talk to your doctor, nurse, older sister or mom etc... but chose the person you feel more comfortable to talk to about this.
I wish you luck.
P.S. If you are ever a week or two late on your period buy a pregnancy test. If it comes back + take a few more.
XO
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): Girl.. you're not old enough for this. Onve you know how to deal with the consequences and know the risks and can very openly talk about it with your parents, that when you are ready. I suggest your stop this activity immediately and put it on hold for a few years! YOU WILL GET PREGNANT if you are not already.
the pull out method DOES NOT WORK. Trust me... that's how i got pregnant at 18. But taht was fine FOR ME.. i was engaged anyway so i just moved the wedding date up a little.
You are not mature enough to deal with this so if you're not pregnant, count your blessings and stop doing this.
As for right now, try to get your hands on a pregnancy test. It may be too early to tell, so wait a few weeks. about a month or a month and a half. If the test is positive.. show it to your mom. (you may not be able to find the words, so just showig her the test will be a good way to start the conversation).
You can find them at pharmecies, drug stores, grocery stored.. and you don't have to be a certain age but typically you ahve to ask someone to unlock the case, so you might be a little embarassed but you'll have to get through that.
Good luck, truely. Let us know when you get the result and for goodness sake.. STOP having sex. Please. You were clearly not ready for that step.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (8 May 2009):
 Sex is illegal in britain under the age of 16! Your boyfriend is officially a peadophile and could be ordered to sign the sex offenders register! This could prevent him from getting a job, being trusted, being near children.....you need to think how serious this is! If you respect him you would wait until you are 16 so that there is no chance of possibly ruining his life! And if he truly loves you then he would wait to give you chance to mature properly and let you live out your childhood!
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (8 May 2009):
 Going on the pill has its risk.
I am 15 and went on the pill last year and i gained about 9 pounds in weight. I have terrible mood swings and get depressed all because of this pill. There are lots of different types of pills but they all seem to make me like this. They arn't 100% safe either, so you will have to use condoms to be extra safe. If you go to your local family planning clinic they will give you the pill and they will keep it confidental which means they won't tell your parents.
Having sex with someone who is over sixteen is breaking the law. One you are underage and two he can have his name put on the sex offenders record for having sex with you. Having sex with someone 13 and under is classed as rape even if consent is given.
Be extra carefull when you have sex, if you get pregnant things will be much harder for the both of you. There are lots of methords of contreception, you can have the injection which you have every 8-12 weeks or the implant which lasts up to three years but you hardly ever have a period and it leaves a scar on your arm where it goes in.
Ask you school nurse where your nearest family planning clinic is. She won't tell anyone or think any different of you as that what she is there for. The people at the clinic keep everything confidental and will find the best option for you to take.
Good luck and keep safe babe :)
Livia
xoxox
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (8 May 2009):
What you are doing is very dangerous, if he came before having sex with you, there WILL be sperm in his pre-cum and you CAN get pregnant!
Look up your local brook advisory centre: http://www.brook.org.uk/content/Default.asp go and see them with your boyfriend, they will give you free condoms and lots of good advice about condoms, sex, STIs and all the other stuff you NEED to know about if you are going to have sex.
And if your parents find out you are on the pill... they won't be happy but it's better then having to tell them that they are going to be grandparents.
ALWAYS USE CONDOMS!!
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