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Do guys date fat girls?

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Question - (5 May 2009) 19 Answers - (Newest, 21 December 2010)
A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

would guys date fat girls. because i am short and fat and i just can,t get boyfriend they want thin,tall,cheeky girls not like me

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A female reader, nahalax United Arab Emirates +, writes (21 December 2010):

yes guys do date fat girls.iam a fat girl and ive never had a problem getting guys. i mean ya obviously highschools hottest guy didnt ask me out but he was my best friend and many decent guys did ask me out. iam not OBESE bt iam overweight but i dont seem to find it a big problem. i just try to dress as nicely as i can and always try to smell extraordinairy. also walking with confidence does help!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009):

There are exceptions to the norm, but generally speaking, attractive, physically fit people date each other.

Speaking only for myself, I am attracted to women that are slim to physically fit and who would be considered pretty, very cute etc. I am average build, meaning not skinny nor overweight. I am a good looking, 5'9" height guy that has always dated attractive, slightly shorter women.

I have never dated overweight women as I actually find the idea revolting in regards to being intimate with this person. I simply am not attracted to 'fat','obese','saggy parts of the body'. You get the picture.

To each their own; I suppose there are guys out there that prefer larger women. Or, that is the only type of women that he feels confident enough to date.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009):

I personally adore short, curvy girls, only it's quite

hard to meet them, as they don't tend to go out as much

as other girls, maybe because they feel more self conscious

in our size obsessed world, and many men I have spoken to secretly prefer bigger girls, but would feel too embarassed

to be seen with one because of the ridiculous predjudice against bigger girls in the media. If you were self confident and go out there being yourself, someone would definately be interested, me for one if I met you. Take care xx

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009):

Speaking as a man, I can tell you that I personally prefer a larger woman. Yes, I confess that thin girls are nice to look at (in a porn and non-porn sense), but having dated both sides of the cube, I can tell you that I've never encountered a more fulfilling relationship than those occasions I've been with big girls. I don't know if it's a psychological thing in trying to make up for the lack of 'physical beauty' by developing a much stronger emotional tie, or whether that's just the way it is, but I can say, with some degree of experience, that the fulfilment I feel in my relationships with larger women, while not tuning me off thin women (and I use this term losely - I don't go for stick thin anorexic types with more bone than skin - i.e. Victoria Beckham - I prefer to feel something when cuddling), I would never, at 33, consider dating a smaller woman, just on that basis.

On a purely 'man' note, I would also like to point out that the adult industry has, of late, been seeing more and more demand for bigger, natural girls - and I'm not just talking breast size - big women are really hitting the market in a large way.

I'm happy to discuss this with you, or anyone else, further - I can be contacted at liwolfbyte at wolfysworld.net.:)

Don't be hisheartened - guys are slowly coming around.

Wolfy.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009):

The best thing I EVER did was learn the term BBW. Big Beautiful Woman. Fat Acceptance Movement. Google up these terms immediately! Then join some BBW chat groups, chat to some BBW admirers, some BBWs themselves and you are well on your way to not only accepting the fact that you are fat, but actually looking at yourself and thinking "Wow! I'm beautiful!"

Ok so reality check - YES the majority of the population hate people who are fat. Let's not lie to ourselves, it's true. It's a crime to hate different races, religions and sexual orientations but it is absolutely ok to hate fat people. It is even ENCOURAGED. By the media, even by the government! They want to systematically wipe us out. Like genocide.

But here is the upside! There is a wave of revolution. There is a sweeping tide of people who are proud to be themselves. There are MILLIONS of men who not only like fat women but PREFER us. As in, they look at a thin woman and think she is gross - will not date her!

Some more bad news - a lot of these men admit that they are scared to even acknowledge how sexually attracted they are to fat girls because of how much ridicule they will get heaped upon them. Guys have actually told me this. I found it so cowardly and disgusting but hey...the truth hurts! And yes the majority will never be fat lovers - but you just have to look elsewhere - look in the right places. Start online.

Also? Clothes. Everywhere you shop all you can find is ugly sacks meant to hide your fat right? Me too! I HATE it. So I go online. I buy my clothes from a certain Plus Size store in the US called Torrid. It has sexy, tight fitting, low cut things that are fashionable and HOT. Yes of course if we are forced to dress like grandmothers guys won't want us! I dress sexy and show off my fat to my best advantage and LOVE it.

Now I only just realised you are an older woman - I thought you were a young teen looking for advice hehe so sorry! But it all still applies and here is some more great advice and experience from me - a LOT of the men who love BBWs also prefer older women! This sux for me but it is good for you! hehe Look for groups that cater for "Mature BBWs" you will find TONNES of guys who think you are gorgeous, and the more they tell you the more you will feel it :)

Just make sure that you don't make the mistake of being treated the same as any thin woman who is treated like cattle on the meat market - if they want you only for your fat body they are just as stupid as the guys who just want thin girls for their body!

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A female reader, Dee-Gee United Kingdom +, writes (6 May 2009):

It's hard being bigger girl because I feel exactly the same way as you. I'm tall so I kind of get away with being bigger more I'm a size 16/18 and I always feel so self concious about myself, it's harder for me though because I'm only 16 and I'm still at school and my body is still growing and developing. I try and be confident in front of people but all the time I just feel like everyone sees this fat, ugly girl and it really effects my confidence. Lots of people have told me I'm so pretty but I just see this horrible person staring back at me. I've never had a boyfriend before and I've never had my first proper kiss yet either I always feel embrassed when people ask you so do you have a boyfriend yet have you kissed anyone yet obviously I say yes because I'm embrassed but it really hurts me deep inside because I just constantly feel I'm never good enough for anyone. It is definetly hard when your bigger. X

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009):

I feel the exact same way, I'm not short but I'm fat about a size 16/18 and I totally hate the way I look. Nothing seems to work for me because I eat healthily and go to my local gym three times a week. I always get really embrassed though if someone asks me have you ever had a boyfriend have you ever been kissed and I just have to kind of laugh it of and say yeh so they dont laugh at me. I find it really hard though because I'm 16 and I'm still it school so I'm more self concious. Everyone tells me I'm really pretty but I just consider myself ugly because I'm much bigger than other girls. X

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009):

Definitely! I'm average height and slightly overweight, age 15. My bf says that the sexiest part of a woman is her curves, so if women are twigs, well... Where are the curves? Hahaha!

Not all guys judge your weight in whether they will or won't date you. I'm a freshman in high school, have been asked out about 9 separate times, 4 bfs, and I was asked to prom by a friend that is interested in me. (I'm not making a brag list--I have a point, I promise!) I dont think I'm pretty. Despite that, these guys like me, and it's because of my personality! I have decent confidence in my air (and I'll even say it to all the internet people! ;-) hahaha). Even though I don't feel comfortable with my body, love it. Cherish it. Be proud of it. That will take you farther than being a twig, I assure you!

I really hope this helped! Good luck good luck good luck!

-GG

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A male reader, andrew loves hali United States +, writes (6 May 2009):

andrew loves hali agony auntwell i dont care if your fat or skinny as long as you have a good personality, are fun to be around, and you can just be yourself thats all that really matters to me. but hey thats just me a lot of guys out there prbly disagree with me but oh well.

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A female reader, Tweetybird828 United States +, writes (5 May 2009):

well it depends....... If you go around thinking your ffat guys wont think otherwise.... you need to go around and be proud of who you are and yourbody... guys will like you for you and trust me you will have guys lining up...lol

XOXOXOXOXOXOXO,

Kayleigh

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009):

Personal preference does not make a person shallow. What makes a person shallow is if a person's appearance, person's wealth, person's prestige, person's network, person's assets are the only aspects s/he goes for.

A person that desires both a physical preference and a personality preference is not shallow. It is simply a personal preference.

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A male reader, the_phoenic United Kingdom +, writes (5 May 2009):

well the situation is a bit tricky

and to be honest with you i have seen many over weighted and fat girls who were very very sexy and atttractive and i loved to date them

,but we havent seen your physical apperacne so far darling

and therefor the answer is..

in general when you walk down the street

do you usualy see men following you and gazing at you/?

if so then no worreis for you,

and remeber that there are a big number of men who would love to date ONLY overweighted girls

all the best and good luck

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009):

Of course guys date bigger girls. My best friend is quite large and short. She has a boyfriend right now and this is not her first,2,3,4 or even 5th boyfriend. And we are 15. Maybe you just havn't found the right guy. Stay positive and confident because soon you are going to have such a hot boyfriend and then all the petite girls will be jealous.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009):

Any male answers? I need males opinions. Are guys that shallow and vain they want younger thinner women?

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A female reader, Olivia(Y). United Kingdom +, writes (5 May 2009):

Olivia(Y). agony auntNot all guys think the tall skinny look is always attractive. Curvs are much sexier than a stick. :)

I'm short and Chubby :) but my boyfriend loves me for who i am and if you have confidence in yourself believe me it doesn't matter what you look like as long as you have a personality people will love you for who you are.

Be proud of your curvs! Lots of skinny girls envy them.

Be bubbly and confident in yourself!

Good luck babe :)

Livia

xoxox

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009):

Appearance isnt everything, its your confidence that helps shine.

Personally I like larger women, their generally larger boobs, are like heaven to me and I consider myself to be lucky when I have the attraction of a larger women.

Its all about preference, but why don't you get out and socialise and soon enough someone will come along.

Dont be pesimistic about yourself, Im sure you are an attractive lady whatever size you are.

Keep hope.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009):

Absolutely! Some guys even prefer bigger women. Put an ad on a bbw type of web site.

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A female reader, kellyxxx United Kingdom +, writes (5 May 2009):

kellyxxx agony auntOf course, you just need to have confidence in the way you look as this shows to guys! And if you are unhappy with the way you look then only you has the power to change it! You could start eating healthily if you don't already, or create a more intense excersize routine! X

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009):

ye corse they do beauty in the eye of the beholder i'm quite fat a size 14/16 n ive got a boyfriend n he thinks im the most gorgeous person in the world

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