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It seemed like a perfect time for a kiss but she wasn't up for it. Why does she act like she is and then turn off?

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Question - (22 November 2012) 7 Answers - (Newest, 23 November 2012)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

A girl friend of mine asked me to go watch twilight. So i went along as I kind of got forced to. She was holding my hand in the film. Squeezing it and than putting both her hands on mine.

Anyway she enjoyed the evening. I'm near her road dropping her off and she wants to go to the beach. So i did only few mins away.

We talk she holds my hand again and when I go in for the kiss she looks away. She said she didn't think about it that far?

But she does like me she said. So whats the problem?

It could not of been a better moment to kiss.

It was NOT awkward at all, I can turn anything into a joke and I made her laugh so much after it went bk to normal.

After me getting rejected I switched off inside and wanted to call it a day. I said I'm tired and dropped her off. She gave me hug just before. She txt me after saying thanks for that night and being all nice about things like goin sleep because I have to get up early etc.

I am really confused. Oh and it's not first time. We do things all the time but first time I made a move..

She txt me again this morning. What for?

I haven't got time to play games. Life is too complicated to be dealing with extras.

Thanks for reading. Go ahead ladies rip me apart tell me what signs I've completely missed out on!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2012):

Maybe she just freaked out and lost her nerve?

Not everyone is brilliant in those sort of situations. Now she knows you want to kiss her maybe she will be more prepared next time. I don't think she is toying with you.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2012):

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Thank you for all your answers. I decided it's best to stay friends. I'm not madly in love with her or anything. I'll live. What is rather annoying though is her constant texts, although I have to admit she is polite. It's my fault I say yes to everything for no particular reason. I'll cut down on it,

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2012):

Hmm, she may be a nice girl, but she seems to want to play with your feelings, she gets you reeved up by holding your hand, squeezing it in the cinema, and then poof when you go in for the kiss its a NO NO NO..

I agree with you, life is to short for all the drama it seems she just like stringing you along..

I'd text her and say hey look I like very much, enough to want to kiss you . You give the vibe you like me too but seem putout when I do.. So I'm left wondering what gives?

I'm not a object that you can pick up and put down at your leisure and I sure ain't playing games.. If you want a lapdog buy yourself a poodle..

Until you can work out what you want I think we should keep our distance.

The reason I put the above as you need to get the upper ground here, she been pulling you about like some kinda rag doll in regard to your feeling..

I disagree with the post that say, she may be shy.. I'm shy, (not with me hubby but men generally) and I wouldn't prior to getting married put my hand in theirs or squeeze it etc if I didn't want them to know I liked them.. So she defo not shy, she playing and for the life of me, because I don't know her I can't possible tell you why..

Take care

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A female reader, oldbag United Kingdom +, writes (22 November 2012):

oldbag agony auntHi

You don't need to be ripped apart, she asked you to go to see the film,then to go to the beach. Thats like saying I want some more time with you and alone. I wouldn't have suggested the beach if a guy was just a friend,maybe a drink or food.

Think it's time to talk, face to face, find out whats what.See where you stand, friend OR potential boyfriend.

Do you ever ask her out or is it always her doing the asking?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2012):

She may just not be ready yet. Society is so used to planting that 1st kiss so early on in a relationship. Give her time and before you know it she will be giving you that "look" and you will know it's time. For now, just have fun and get to know her as much as possible. If she is flirting with you, then she is into you, but perhaps she is shy.

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A male reader, Yos Netherlands +, writes (22 November 2012):

Yos agony auntIt may have just been a bit much for her at that moment. Perhaps she's very shy about these things?

I'd give it one more shot and pick the moment.

But if she reacts the same, ask her directly 'would you like me to kiss you?'. Then you'll know. Not a romantic way to do it i know, but it's clear at least.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (22 November 2012):

Honeypie agony auntDoes she WANT to date you or are you her "friend" ?

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