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i live in Kent, UK, and enjoy sports etc. (God, i feel like im on a dating site!!!)
I am currently in a relationship, and am very happy, although the baby is not my current boyfriends.
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SITE NEWS: Had DearCupid changed your life in a positive way? I want to hear your stories...
Q. Has DearCupid changed your life in a positive way? If so, please let me know. Either post here (anon if you prefer) or send me a private mail. Sometimes when I'm coding at midnight or tinkering with an errant database, or wondering wh...
A. 6 March 2007: Andrew, this site rocks! it helped me not to feel so down coz i am helping others. All i can say is... Dude... u rock! all the best xxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because I told some friends, he and I were dating! Should I pursue him again?
Q. I really liked this guy for ages and about a month ago we hooked up and spent some time together a couple of times. One day i gave him a call and he was really cold and not that keen to chat so i just left it deleted his number and moved on. last ...
A. 6 March 2007: If i were you, honey, i would try to move on. This guy sounds like he wants a relationship when it suits him, not when it suits anyone else. You should not have to keep your feelings for eachother secret at all, and he should not lead you on like ... (read in full...)
Should I go ahead and get married despite the fact I might be in love with his friend!?
Q. iam a christian and have been going out with my boyfriend for a long time and we are now talking about marriage, but my problem is that i met this other guy whom i also like and we are just good friends but given time am sure it can develop into ...
A. 2 March 2007: please dont get married until you are 100000000000000000000000000000000000% sure that you are about to marry the right guy! otherwise, you will end up in an unhappy relationship, and it will get you down in the long run.
Take some time to work out ... (read in full...)
Does being fingered mean you're not a virgin anymore?
Q. Being fingured numerous times, does that mean a virginty has been taken?...
A. 2 March 2007: Loosing your virginity is when you have sex for the first time
Therefore, being fingered does not mean that you have lost your virginity.
xxx... (read in full...)
How can I lose weight off my face?
Q. weird question but is there anyway i can loose weight off of my face? its so sound and i want to define my jawline more...
A. 28 February 2007: SMILE... you use loads of muscles in your face from just smiling! Also, if you were looking for immediate results, try using a darker shade of blusher along your jawline... it will define it more!
As suggested before, general exercise will not only... (read in full...)
He doesn't trust condoms and I don't like taking medication including birth control pills. How can we combat this?
Q. when my boyfriend and i are messing around to the point of possible sex, it always ends because he doesn't trust condoms and im not on birth control. he has asked me before if id think about going on it, and i have thought about it, but the more i ...
A. 28 February 2007: You could try the coil, but that can give you pinful stomach cramps for the first few days. See you local family plnning clinic for advice. Whatever, even if you don't trust condoms 100%, make sure you still use them, they are usually effective and ... (read in full...)
Does anybody know something I can do in bed to really impress my boyfriend??
Q. Does anybody know something I can do in bed to really impress my boyfriend!! We have fantastic sex I just want to do something different that will really blow him away!! Any of you ladies or gents out there got any useful tips!! ...
A. 28 February 2007: If you havn't been on top yet, go on top...instead of uing your hands to steady yourself, clench, this will give you both a mind blowing orgasm.
Also, play games. Games like "Copy Cat" (where you do somthing to him, and he does exactly the same back... (read in full...)
Should I continue to see my girlfriend who's bi polar? We get on great but there's problems too.
Q. im 15 years old and going out with a bipolar girlfriend.I used to go out with another girl and she left me and went out with my bestfriend which i was devastated over and kinda got depressed over and my current girlfriend was with me all the way. ...
A. 28 February 2007: Oh my god honey! I can understand how difficult this must be for you at the moment. You are right... your girlfriend is not being very fair to you. But, you are also right in saying that she can't help it. Since you seem to possibly be the nicest 15 ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to be engaged after only 2 months!!?
Q. Is marriage (or engagment) too soon, if you've been in a relationship for only two months ? She is 19 and Hes's 27....
A. 28 February 2007: It depends on the relationship. I know someone who got married 3 weeks after meeting there partner (who did not speak a lot of English) And they are still happy together 10 years on... But i also know a couple on the other end of the scale... who ... (read in full...)
I need tips on how to quit smoking! Is 'cold turkey' the best way forward?
Q. Hello All; I've been a smoker for 15yrs and i need to quit asap. I love it but now i have this ugly raspy cough that erupts in the most inconvenient moments, let alone my discolored nails and palid skin. Should i cut down gradually or jus...
A. 27 February 2007: When you need to quit smoking, and there is no option about it, it is not about having the resolutions. Yes, i know it it hard, and i am proud of you for taking that first step... which is the most difficult!
Think about why you want to quit, and ... (read in full...)
What is the connection between the French Maid and Sex?
Q. I Was Just Wondering what The Connection Between The French Maid And Sex ? I Would Find It Really Helpful For A Quick Responce A I Wanna Giv My Boyfriend Somethin he Will Never Forget thank you x...
A. 27 February 2007: Personal fave! You go gal!
Just make sure your guy returns the favour! ;-)... (read in full...)
I'm 15! He's 18! Does he like me or want to have sex with me?
Q. write where to start , iv liked this boy well he is 18 now and im 15 anyway iv liked him for like years but he never really payed attention he new i liked him all this time, and only now i started ringing him and talking to him he was acting like he ...
A. 27 February 2007: I am 15 and dating a 19 year old. I can safely say that for me, he certainly didn't want sex. However, without meeting the man in question there is no way i can definately say this applies to you. I would give him the benifit of the doubt, and then ... (read in full...)
She broke up with me, I told her I loved her and she called me "Pathetic." What do I do now?
Q. My girl friend broke up with me and I have been trying to get her back. I tell her i cant live without her and i always remind her of how much i love her, she then calls me pathetic, what should i do now?...
A. 27 February 2007: I know it will be hard, but she is clearly not interested, and i think you need to move on. You are still young, and there are plenty oof lovely girls out there who would treat you better.
Was there a trust issue in the relationship? or were you ... (read in full...)
For the agony AUNTS - I like this girl but do you think she'll be put off by a little acne?
Q. Question for the girls: Do you care if a guy has a little bit of acne? I mean if a person always has a few pimples and when they go away briefly it looks like the skin is not smooth but a bit rough? Is it really the person's personality that...
A. 27 February 2007: Honey, i wouldn't care about acne. Firstly, any one who has a problem with people with acne needs to get a life... for me, acne is a sign that you are mature...and have at least started puberty! Secondly, you shouldn't worry about what other people ... (read in full...)
What type of special gift can I get my new little sister?
Q. I no this isnt the type of question on here but im stuck. im 22 and want 2 no what i can get my new baby sister as a special present that she can keep 4 the rest of her life? And e help would be great coz i want it 2 b special but not mind-blowingly ...
A. 27 February 2007: I know this sounds corney, but since your lil sis is a gal, maybe you should buy her a little teddy with "I Love You" written on it or somehting. Things like this can have great sentimental value right the way through her life, as you can't grow out ... (read in full...)
Married and have feelings for my married boss. What should I do!
Q. I am married and so as my boss. We worked in different states. However, I do communicate with him constantly through IM, emails, phone call ... etc. I only see him once every few months. Lately, I looked forward to see him in person, his phon...
A. 27 February 2007: You really can't hook up with anyone married. For a start, you have a family of your own. If you are looking elsewere for excitement, then maybe you need to have some honest conversations with your husband. Secondly, your boss also has family ... (read in full...)
I am quite depressed but hide it. I would love to swap my life with someone.
Q. I would like to swap lives with someone. I'm unhappy with the life I have, yet I know I should be happy because I've got my health, both parents still happily married, a university place at Manchester, and I'm going away travelling. Yet I have not...
A. 27 February 2007: Babes, you should not hide your feelings! Talk to someone. If you feel that you can't cry around your family, talk to someone seperate. Men are alowed to cry, and i personally think it makes Men bigger if they are not afraid to show what they feel. ... (read in full...)
I don't love my wife, but if we get divorced she can't stay in the country! This is all my fault. What can I do??
Q. First of all, let it be clear that I know I am the only one to blame for my situation and that most women will probably despise me. Nonetheless I want some advice on what I should do. Ok, well im married and live in the UK. My wife is foreign ...
A. 26 February 2007: Firstly, as a woman, i do not despise you for what you have done, and it is pointless to remain in a marriage where you are not happy, as this is bound to upset both of you even more. Did you love your wife when you married her? And was there an ... (read in full...)
How can I look more cool and with it? Any tips?
Q. I need help. I look crap. Every time I go out I always look like a real tool (I'm a guy by the way). I can't gel my hair properly, I have a crap dress sense. I look nerdy basically compared to the rest of my friends. Can anyone help, please?...
A. 26 February 2007: It depends on your hair colour, but usually a smart pair of jeans and a shirt (top 2/3 buttons undone and untucked) look good. The most important thing to looking 'with it' though is to find your own style and wear it like you love it. If you ooze ... (read in full...)
She says she suffers from "Winter Depression."
Q. Hey there, I have been going out with my girlfriend for a year. At the first 5 mounths we were crazy in love. But it seems sinse then she has started to change into this other person. she is less emotional and less touchy , lovey kind of thing...
A. 26 February 2007: It is a fairly common disorder from which my mum suffers. As AskEve suggests, a light box is really helpfull... but they can be expensive. If you take her for walks durin the day, and expose her to as much bright light as you can, she should start ... (read in full...)
I'm really confused, Am I gay, or Bi, or straight!?
Q. i am so confused right now and need some advise and have been awake since 8.00 yesterday thinking about it i was curios about some thoughts i had about men so i talked to one of my gay friends about it and he told me to try fantasizing about it i ...
A. 26 February 2007: I am not gay or bi, but i just wanted to say, you are still young and it is perfectly normal for you to fanatsize about the opposite sex!!! If you are really worried, try going out with a male, and see how you respond to it. Then, try going out with ... (read in full...)
She's 15. Should I wait or not?
Q. Hello to anyone that replies to this question I really need some advice. I'm 19 years old and my girlfriend is 15.We'be been going out for 6 months and recently talked about going all the way as it were. I want to know whether I should wait or not. ...
A. 23 February 2007: It is illegal for you to have sex with your gf until she is 16 anyway. The law is there for a reason... so girls like her don't get hurt. I am 15 years old and am pregnant, and trust me, you gf does NOT want to be in that situation!!!!!!!
be pati... (read in full...)
Are there any younger girls in the UK of the age of 20-22 who would have a relationship with an old man of 27?
Q. Dear Cupid. I am a 27 male who has never had any sexual relationships or girlfriends, probably due to a medical problem called hypogonadism. I am not getting any younger, and I am very depressed due to my situation. I am an undergraduate ma...
A. 23 February 2007: It sounds to me, since you keep on talking about the age of conscent, that you want a relationship purely for sexual reasons. If this is the case, you can see a prostitute. It may a little more expensive, but will save you being called a pervert. i ... (read in full...)
I need tips on how to quit smoking! Is 'cold turkey' the best way forward?
Q. Hello All; I've been a smoker for 15yrs and i need to quit asap. I love it but now i have this ugly raspy cough that erupts in the most inconvenient moments, let alone my discolored nails and palid skin. Should i cut down gradually or jus...
A. 23 February 2007: Cold Turkey can be very difficult to keep up to, but it depends on how quickly you need to quit. If you need to stop right away, like i did (Im pregnant) then you should try going cold turkey. If however, you have a bit longer, you are more likely ... (read in full...)
I am going to court soon for a rape assault on me. I am really scared, how do I cope?
Q. I am going to court for a rape assualt on me and i am really scared i need some advice because i feel like i want to run away or take an overdose becuase i would rather do this and wake up in hospital than going to court. i need advice n how to cope ...
A. 22 February 2007: I am so glad to hear that someone has finally had the courage to speak up! If you think of what you have been through, court should be a lot easier. I know how daunting the experience can be, as i went through with a court case a few months back, ... (read in full...)
My gf took an overdose when I went out w/ friends. Now she claims she's pregnant to keep me from going out!
Q. i have been with my girlfriend for about 6 months but i don't feel for her what i used to. we get on but she's making me feel claustrophobic, she's stopped seeing her friends and wants to spend all her time with me. last year she took an overdose ...
A. 22 February 2007: It sounds to me like your girlfriend is crying out for help. It takes a lot of courage to overdose, even if you dont intend to kill your self (I know, i did it for years).
Try talking to her, and, i know it is hard but pretend to believe that she ... (read in full...)
My son goes gambling during his school lunch break! He became livid when I tried to talk about it. Is professional help the best solution?
Q. At school recently one of my 16-year-old son's teachers phoned up saying she'd seen him go to gambling arcades during lunchbreak, frequently. She's already had to bring him back to school 3 times this week. I got a phone call off her this mo...
A. 22 February 2007: Most definately do not go for professional advice! He does not seem to want to change, and forcing him to wont help. I know this is hard to take but what he is doing is normal teenage behaviour! You need to say something like you dont mind him doing ... (read in full...)
Do I love her like I loved my ex?
Q. 4 Days Into Our R-Ship and i dont know what 2 buy her for v-day i'm 24 i'm dateing a 16 year old girl that goes to collage (i know 16 is young but who cares in the united kingdom u can sleep with a 16 year old girl) i really like her so much...
A. 22 February 2007: You can't say i love you just because you miss saying it! If you mean it, then good on you, and i hope it works out.
I am still concerned though, about the way you met. Do you think the courtcase could bring you apart in future realtionships? I hope... (read in full...)
I'm 17, he's 57 and married! Do you think he's using me or will he ever leave his wife?
Q. Am 17 and i have been going with a 57 year old married man for 6 months. We really love each other to bits, but i feel that he is never going to leave his wife for me! He says all the time that he wishes he doesnt have to leave me when hes going ...
A. 19 February 2007: I'm sorry babes, but your being used! You need to tell this creep that you don't want to be with him anymore... You are still young and can find everything you need in a relationship with someone younger. You need to think of what his wife would t... (read in full...)
Does this mean that I have had a miscarriage ?
Q. I am 3-4 months pregnant. My boyfriend and I were having sex and I felt a sharp pain. When I went to the bathroom I was heavily bleeding.... I looked up the signs of having a miscarriage and I'm not getting cramps or vomitting. Did I have a ...
A. 19 February 2007: It is very normal to feel some pain when havong sex during pregnancy. This is because your partner's seamen contains hormaones that can cause contractions. These contraction are known as Braxton Hicks contractions and should fade quickly. If you... (read in full...)
What exactly did he mean be saying he was "flattered" and do you think he likes me?
Q. i asked a man out and he said he is really flattered, and yes he is sure we will go for a drink when a certain situation is over in a couple of months could you please explain what flattered means and do you think that he likes me that way ? thanks...
A. 19 February 2007: I think you will have to take things slowly at first so that you both have time to work ou twhat you mean to eachother. You say something about a "Certain Situation". Could this situation lead to problems in the relationship later on? I don't th... (read in full...)
We are going to lose our virginity together and I need tips!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been "dating" for about 4 months and we were good friends before we started "dating". I love him, I really really do. I want to give him my virginity, he is also a virgin. My question is; i know sex will hurt and the best ...
A. 19 February 2007: You should do whatever you feel comfortable with. Go and look at the condoms together and decide which would best suit your needs.
Play some soothing music and make sure you get well into the foreplay as this will loosen you up and help relax you.... (read in full...)
I just want to be myself around him but I don't think he wants that!
Q. A friend of mine who I like as more than a friend seemed to like me back but said that he wanted to wait to sleep together. Before I met him I slept with one of his friends and he told me in the weekend that this puts him off wanting to sleep with ...
A. 19 February 2007: You should be your self, honey!! Ignore what he says... if he does not like you for who you are, then he is the one loosing out. If you like him, let him know that you like him but dont go out of your way to please him... he does not sound worth it! ... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can help her relax??
Q. Me and my gf have been going out for 4 months now offically but we've liked each other for years. We've been best friends most of our lives and are completely comfortable with each other and talking about personal thing. We are both virgins and ...
A. 19 February 2007: If you are both ready, then she'll know what to do. It would help to relax her if you spoke to her and take things slowly. Try a bit of nice music, candles and definately go for the foreplay as this will loosen her up and help with both of your ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, a virgin and I need to know--how do you give someone head and toss him off?
Q. Hey im 15 yeah and my boyfriend is 17 i hav been with my lad for 3 months or so and we both decided to have sex,and i am definatley ready i'm a virgin, but my bf isnt i have a cuple of qwestions, firstly, the problem is i havent properley started ...
A. 7 February 2007: Sweety, your way too young to be thinking of sex. I mean, i am your age and pregnant and i can telly you, you do not wnat to be in that position!!!!!! I know you will propably ingonre this advice as it seems like you have made up your mind, but is y... (read in full...)
Do I love her like I loved my ex?
Q. 4 Days Into Our R-Ship and i dont know what 2 buy her for v-day i'm 24 i'm dateing a 16 year old girl that goes to collage (i know 16 is young but who cares in the united kingdom u can sleep with a 16 year old girl) i really like her so much...
A. 7 February 2007: Woa! Do you really love her, or is this infatuation? How well did you knwo eachother before you started dating? I think you should stop comparing her to your ex... they are two different people and you are ceratin to love them in different ways!!! ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and a virgin. I want to save it for someone special but I feel pressured to do it now because of my friends! Please help.
Q. I am 16 an stil a virgin, i have been offered to have sex loads and loads but the more i get asked the harder it is to say no, i wanna know what its like NOW yet i wanna save it for my first true love whoever that may be. I feel so pressured seems ...
A. 6 February 2007: Love, i am 15 and 29 weeks pregnant. I think you should definately save your virginity to someone who you are not going to regret losing it to!!!
Don't feel pressured into sex, it is something you need to feel comforatble about doing, and you need... (read in full...)
I'm only 25 and I've got an erection problem, any advice ?
Q. Erection problems at 25... I have never had this problem before and it is quite embarrassing. I get really hard right before I am about to put it in but as I start intercourse it almost instantly goes slightly soft and shortly after goes all the ...
A. 6 February 2007: Stress is most pobably the cause of you inability to keep an erection. You should try to relax, and enjoy foreplay, and then take things slowly. Be aware that you are not alone, and that you partner is very unlikely to be put off. Next time you have ... (read in full...)
I confessed that I screened his calls, he know says hes going to beat me because of it!!!
Q. hi i confessed to my bf that i was able to screen his calls and that i noticed a particular number he kept ringing he got mad but told me he would tell me. But he came home and ignored me today, hes told me hes going to beat me because of it.... i...
A. 6 February 2007: You need to get out of the house ASAP.
Try talking to your partner with a family or friend present at a time when you have both had the chance to cool down a bit. You need to ensure your own safety at this point, and make sure he knows that he can'... (read in full...)
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