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writes:iam a christian and have been going out with my boyfriend for a long time and we are now talking about marriage, but my problem is that i met this other guy whom i also like and we are just good friends but given time am sure it can develop into something. Now am confused should i just go ahead and get married or should i wait to see whats going to happen with this friend. Am scared that i may get married to my boyfriend and discover that i have fallen inlove with this freind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2007): Don't get married to your boyfriend, you have to be 100 percent certain before entering a marriage otherwise you'll probably regret marrying him. If you do marry you boyfriend you might end up having an affair with his mate. Get out of this relationship now, before you walk down the aisle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2007): Honey, the grass will always be greener on the other side! Think you leave your fiancé and hook up with this guy, but he introduces you to an even hotter and more interesting friend of his. What then? Will you leave your new boyfriend for his friend and so on and so on? I know I’ve been there. If you’ve been blessed with a God fearing, law-abiding, loving man, well; isn’t that what you wanted to begin with? What does this new guy have that your fiancé doesn’t? Maybe your fiancé knows what he wants and should be with you just yet if you don’t know in your heart what you want. Marriage is a forever thing (at least we all try) and your vows are thru good & bad times, sickness and in health, thru cute guy friends that disrespect your man and flirt with you, and women that will disrespect YOU and flirt with him etc, etc, etc- Hey think about it & let us know.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (2 March 2007):
 Hi,
I agree with the others. Your a cristian right, so how can you take vows with a guy you are clearly not sure about. You should never marry someone you are not 1oo% in love with. To have doubts before you even start, well its not good is it. I really wonder why you would concider it in the first place.
What's the rush?
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reader, carrot sticks +, writes (2 March 2007):
i think you should w8 this person you have met may be the one and if you get married and find your self in this persons arms your in big dudu!you should see what the future holds for ya xxxxxxxx
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (2 March 2007):
 What's the rush to get married? If you're unsure, you need to back off. . . regardless of this other person. You obviously don't feel that committed to the boyfriend or you wouldn't even have second thoughts. Marriage is supposed to be a life time commitment, but as you probably are aware, 50% in the U.S. end in divorce. I don't know the stats for Malaysia.
Just make sure you're doing what's best for both of you before you make that commitment.
Good luck!
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (2 March 2007):
 The way I see it, you shouldnt get into a marriage if you have even a smidgen of doubt about it. Being a Christian you should realise that marriages shouldnt be taken lightly. But let me just point out to you that physical attraction towards other men will always be there as we're only human, but are you gonna be doubtful about how you feel about your current guy everytime you get that attraction? Bear in mind that to most people, the grass always seems greener on the other side, and we always want what we cant get! But once obtained, we crave for the old!! My advice to you is to suss out exactly what it is you feel for this other guy, and in the meantime, hold out on the marriage. You want to be really sure before you make any decisions, be it leaving your current guy, or getting married with him. Good luck.
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reader, mum2be +, writes (2 March 2007):
please dont get married until you are 100000000000000000000000000000000000% sure that you are about to marry the right guy! otherwise, you will end up in an unhappy relationship, and it will get you down in the long run.
Take some time to work out how you feel about both of these people and make you desicion then.
all the best
xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2007): Dont get married until your mind is 100% about it all. That isn't fair on you or your bf. Don't set a date and if the issue comes up then tell him you would like to wait to make sure everything is ok. You really do need to stay away from this friend and concentrate on your own relationship. You say you are a christian, then do the christian thing and don't cheat!
Take care
xx
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